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I would ask for details on how everything is split because that's a lot of money. I'm stingy and I want to know where my money is going
Get out of and then go where? The power dynamic would allow for him to evict her.
There isn't a compromise. She wants a baby. You do not want a baby. You both have good reasons for wanting what you want. Many women have babies in their 40s. Many women are done and do not want a baby in their 40s. Same with men. There is not an objective answer to the “right” thing to do.
The two of you are at an impasse. Couples therapy is the way forward. No one here can tell you what the “right” answer is for the two of you – it doesn't mean doing what she wants and it doesn't mean doing what you want. A couples therapist can help facilitate communication and understanding between the two of you to figure out what the choice will be.
I'm sorry that you are going through that but but lying about rape isnt just a red flag. Its absolutely disgusting. First of all, it destroys peoples lives when they are being accused of that and most importantly, no one believe real rape victims because of people like your wife.
I want to feel sympathy but the fact that you think that her cheating is worst than her lying about rape just feels…. wrong.
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Don't know what to tell ya, he's being VERY immature.
Who the hell dates a woman in her thirties and thinks you're gonna be her first orgasm? Does he think you will be saving yourself for 30y for him, before you even knew him? That's illogical and ego-centrical.
It is definitely not a good sign for the relationship.
Maybe it's time for you to online somewhere else.
Look, he did not just accidentally drop this info on you. He is testing you to see how you take this news. If you continue with him, in his mind, you have accepted this behavior. He will then push harder.
I online in a poor neighborhood with many vacant brick buildings from the 1800s made of very desirable handmade brick. Brick thieves will literally hand deconstruct a three story building in broad daylight over several weeks of work.
How do they get away with it? First they nibble on the corners to see if there’s any reaction. If no one stops them, they come back and start on the back wall. They tie a rope around the narrow vertical bits between the windows, attach the rope to a truck, and collapse the back wall. If no owner appears with cops or a shotgun, they get going on the sides. By day 4 or 5, they will be acting like they own the place and the entire building will be disappeared in a couple weeks.
This is what is happening to you. He’s gotten past the nibbling stage. Now he’s yanking at your structural supports to see if he owns you yet. Leave! Go talk to family and old friends. Find yourself again.
Revenge=Leave, Ghost Her, Bail Out Now, Disappear, Let Her Be Dead to You
Love this.
He doesn't want an open relationship but he wants to sleep with other people how does that work? Cause that kinda sounds like he just wants you to be okay with him sleeping with other people while you don't.
Either way you just need to tell him that this isn't what you want. You're not okay with him sleeping with anyone other than you and if that's what he wants then he's free to do so just not while you two are together. You're not insecure or crazy for wanting monogamy and he can't just change the terms of the relationship cause he wants too.
But from what you say it sounds like he may be checking out of the relationship already so I'm sorry to say but this may lead to a break up.
You do know that a good relationship would have your bf saying “this absolutely sucks but mistakes happen, let's make sure this gets fixed ASAP – how can I help?” Not belittling you, threatening to steal from you, and making you feel lesser and being so nasty?
For me, this kind of behaviour would be a deal breaker. My father pulls shit like this, and it's exhausting and only gets worse.
I don't see where your family is being the least bit unfair to him. He deserves every bit of disapproval they can find. Listen to them.
It’s not cheating in any way. You separated and online separately. You’re not almost separated you are fully separated. I do hope you both work things out but for now you need to get out of your head that she is “cheating” with or with out quotation marks
Why don't you let this poor women who you obviously don't love go??? Seriously. End things, get a divorce and move on.
It's so fucking obvious by the way you speak you do not love her or even want this to work. So why are you even posting here??
Great answer. If she's happy where she's at, then the most I can do is be proud of her for having come to that realization.
I'm very glad to read this. Huge bullet dodged!
Not a cheater. I happen to not see the world in black and white.
Also date someone that wants to take birth control…that shit is a nightmare though so Goodluck to any woman using it. I’m a raging bitch on that crap. Vasectomy is always an option…but just as shitty as birth control. Along with everything else y’all don’t agree on, why are you still together and then complaining on Reddit about it?? ?can’t make decisions for yourself??? You decided to stay with someone you aren’t compatible with but can’t decide to leave??? ???
What do I do?
I think your husband may need to hash this out in therapy, getting a 3rd party perspective from an audience that's very willing to listen will help him.
not interested in entertaining the “Why don’t you just do IVF/surrogacy/adopt?” suggestions.
You have a problem and these are potential solutions. Just making sure you had a good reason to not pursue those options. You don't even have to share the reasoning with me if you don't want to. It just struck me as odd that you are specifically “banning” these things from the conversation.
But yeah, ultimately if kids just are not going to happen for you two, he needs to find a way to come to terms with that, because you can't dodge your friends forever.
One of my best friends in college was a girl and I used to sleep over at her house all the time. My then girlfriend and now wife didn’t care because she knew I wouldn’t do anything sketchy.
Ummmm… Yeah, it's part of cuddling imo. Especially the fingers through hair part. I mean, if you don't like it or if you don't like her using her fingernails (as opposed to her fingertips) tell her, but I've had this in all of my relationships.
Huh? Dude.
Thank you.
You deserve better than him too. See if they can get you and the baby a place of your own.
I wholeheartedly agree. Reddit has a real “everyone has the right to complete privacy all the time and snooping is 100% wrong” vibe but if you have caught someone doing something shady, you have the right to investigate. And that trumps their right to privacy.
Do you spend enough quality time together? Are you speaking her love language enough? Still go on dates and do romantic couple things?
Why are you trying to string this girl along? Block her on everything and be done with it, for her sake.
He doesn't trust you. Doesn't that tell you the answer to you question?
Do you honestly think she is “sleeping” in their beds?
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My boyfriend struggles with aftercare. I have continuously tried to explain what aftercare is and how he could help me with it more, but it seems to fall onto deaf ears.
After we do the deed, he tends to simply clean himself up and play on his phone or go into the other room to watch tv. I feel so used and icky afterwords that it really just makes me sad. I have voiced what I want after from him multiple times, but it only seems like he will do so only if I ask directly. If I specifically say, “please warm me up some water to clean up with.” Or, “please get me a wet rag” or cuddle up before he rolls over, he will. But otherwise will do nothing. No cuddling, hardly any talk outside of, “that was great”, no clean up, no shower together, nothing. After we do the deed I just feel so used up and lonely. I have voiced this with him before and he always promises he doesn’t mean anything by it, but I can’t help but feel the way I do.
Advice please?
ETA: editing to answer some questions. Our sex life and our relationship are great. This is not something I would even consider ending the relationship over. Aftercare is something neither of us ever even knew about until about a year ago. I never really knew it had a name. I’m not expecting him to wait on me hand and foot afterwords by any means, I understand everyone processes the heightened emotions after sex in different ways. I don’t think by any means that he “doesn’t care”, I just think he processes in a different way and I’m looking to find a better middle ground.
For all of the supportive commenters and kind messages, thank you. There’s so many now that I probably won’t respond to everyone but thank you. There has been an almost equal amount of hateful messages to which I really hope gave you the gratification you needed for a better day.
Second Edit since I’ve commented it so many times: Our sex is not vanilla, I understand that aftercare is a term affiliated with BDSM, that’s why I said “aftercare” and not another term. I don’t feel like aftercare needs to be BDSM specific though. I believe anyone can and should receive aftercare following the heightened emotions of sex if that’s what they need.
So sorry if something is wrong in this, this is my first post to Reddit ever. Please delete or let me know whatever I need to correct and I will do so.
“I'm not in any real danger. ” Girl, he threatened to kill you. Call the domestic abuse hotline and ask for help devising an escape plan.
I mean, yeah, that's what you are now. There is no closing that door, the horses have bolted. You can't put that back to the way it was because your relationship has changed on a fundamental level.
Honestly, I would go NC if you feel remorse for what you both have done. Just remember that a duplicitous, two-faced liar is who he is. Yes, you share blame in this, but the lion's share is his for cheating on his wife. Is that the kind of person you want to be friends with?
He isn't going to say it. You need to decide if you can online the rest of forever knowing it.
Yes, he was the one who asked to be exclusive and everything. He would always tell me how into me he is and how attractive he finds me, yet is super against posting a picture of us on both mine or his story. 🙁
He offered a solution when you raised your concerns, that you also get a day off to yourself while he spends the entire day caring for the child. I was against him until he suggested this. At least he's trying to be fair
don’t think it makes sense to continue this business at the expense of everyone’s free labor, including mine.
He offered a solution, a fair one. Secondly, you don't really get to speak for anyone's free time. Only yours. His parents asked for volunteers, he agreed. You don't seem to understand the enotional attachment his family have to the family business so you perceive his devotion to it as a slight to you.
could see in his eyes that my labor hadn’t even crossed his mind, which somehow makes it more hurtful.
Unpopular opinion, but caring for your own child is not labor. It's your obligation as a parent. And as I've already said, he offered to reciprocate by spending a day before caring for the child while mama gets a day off.
He's doing his best.
Also, don't really understand what the point was of saying you earn more than him. Like, how is that valuable to the story at all? He's not asking for your money.
I would just tell her. Something like that can be chalked up to teenage rebellion and learning. Lots of us fall in the wrong crowd at some point in our lives. A dui is a terrible thing, but it's not uncommon here in the US. Even if only 2% of the country has a dui, that is still over 7 million people. As a woman around your age, I can tell you that a guy having a dui or a criminal history from 15 years ago would not be a reason for me to raise a flag or not continue seeing him (as long as it was the past and he had grown). I can tell you, that finding out later on that he had hidden and lied about it would be a reason for me to not trust him.
If you’re in your 40s and he doesn’t have a stable job? Idk man. That would be it for me.