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Alyssa, 19 y.o.
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Date: November 25, 2022
Alyssa, 19 y.o.
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It's a bad thing that he feels that your silence is agreement to his plans.
Before you give up on this relationship, give the thing that you propose to try. See if both of you are able to alternate who decides every time. If it goes well then maybe this will help.
I would also like to remind you that he is a person who does not like change or new things. So if you want to do a lot of change or a lot of new things, you will likely need to find some friends who you do things with. This isn't an excuse for his behavior, I'm just saying that a lot of your needs will likely be fulfilled by other friends.
It could be that he watches those videos because they turn him on due to being relatable to you. Like he could genuinely love you and find you very attractive, but normal pornography doesnt capture disabilities or much of the like at all, so he ventures to find videos similar to you because thats what turns him on.
He may never have been interested in those videos before meeting you.
I say this from my own perspective, when I look at porn, if Im in a relationship I prefer content thats similar to my partner and I's dynamic.
I think everyone here is ignoring the fact that op does almost everything in the relationship. Maybe it’s not just about her appearance but her lack of effort overall? She barely cooks, cleans, works, and doesn’t wanna spend time with her husband. The weight might just be what broke the camels back for op which, without context can make him seem conceited but with everything else it’s understandable. It’s probably maddening to see someone who doesn’t do much not able to maintain themselves and become overweight (at that height she is overweight). If she doesn’t care about her health or being a good partner then there’s no reason to stay together. You can’t force someone to care.
Why are you dating someone where your relationship is filled with red flags? This isn’t healthy. You both supposed to end it.
WHAT IS THIS FROM PLEASE IT PLAYS IN MY HEAD CONSTANTLY
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Have you told him this is a dealbreaker?
Have you considered proposing instead of waiting for him?
We all know she uses. 5x as much TP. Guys get to shake. Ladies have to wipe.
Keyword being MAN. 🙂
Why would she leave her underwear behind? Not only is that expensive, but then you’re spending the rest of the day without a bra or panties on? That really just doesn’t make any sense.
Whats stupid about what I said? If i fall asleep all consent is gone? And she knew i was asleep then started stroking it instead of starting when i was still awake. No not that I know of.
What did OP say to lead you to believe he feels he’s entitled to go?
The issue, which is glaringly obvious, is he thinks his GF should back him up and not attend if he’s not invited to her ex boyfriends party…… and he’s right.
And you mean the 10 people who are all friends with her ex? Who gives a shit what they think?
The secondhand embarrassment I feel from reading your comments and remembering that you are THIRTY is just overwhelming. I don’t mean this as an insult, but please considering therapy. Your jealousy and insecurity issues are coming from something way deep down inside you that needs addressed with a professional.
So your wife is a NEET who pulls in no money, barely does any housework, and will get mad at you for wasting money?
Okay, you might have a bigger issue than the laundry smelling imperceptibly of mildew.
Also, far less critically, you used the wrong “to”. Too much vs to much.
Bazinga
Thank you, a lot of people on the post apparently think I’m the asshole because I “make” my wife do the laundry. All I’ve ever asked her is to pick up behind herself and try to keep the bedroom clean.
You are right, don't share a room. Just tell him in a very matter of fact way without apologizing. Just say “I am excited to attend the event! Thank you for the invite. I am going to go ahead and book a room for myself” and then you book your own room at the same place, or a nearby hotel. No need to explain why you want your own room. You want your own room, and will book your own room and he needs to deal with it. If he tries to tell you that he won't try anything on you or will sleep on the couch or whatever just say “I am sure you'd be a perfect gentlemen, but I just like having my own space when I travel so I've booked a room”.
I think this is one of those cases where you need to trust your instincts here. Nothing wrong with this guy being hopeful for a hookup, but any decent guy won't pressure you into something that makes you uncomfortable. If he pushes back on you getting your own room, I would suggest that you back out. Sucks to miss out on a fun opportunity, but your comfort and integrity are more valuable to you than any contacts that you could potentially be introduced to at this event. Also, a lot of famous men seem to have a habit of using events like this, and promises of intros etc… in order to get women to sleep with them. It is icky and wrong on so many levels. If you sense he is doing this, please just trust your instinct and be safe.
He wants to smash. He invites you to help because he likes you and wants to spend time with you.
If you accept the offer, the implication is that you will hook up. If you're not interested then you have to turn down the whole event.
My husband got tested and diagnosed with dyslexia in college. He was lucky that they had those resources on campus.
If you’d like to try and keep your relationship ship, seek professional counseling.
From what you’re telling us, it looks pretty grim, but it’s only one side of the story and maybe you wrote things while feeling especially down. Going by what you’ve written alone, there’s no reason to stay in this marriage.
But don’t make massive decisions like leaving your spouse based off of Reddit we don’t know your life.
Get counseling, go to therapy (both of you) and see if it’s something you want to make work, or if you’re better off parting ways.
I feel like we’ve made a lot of improvements recently, but it feels like we’re on sorta shakey ground just because a lot of it feels up to outside forces, like for instance that him and his coworker haven’t been scheduled for all the same shifts for the past couple weeks.
But in my heart of hearts I would like to believe he would never physically cheat on me.
Obviously not blaming her, but don’t give up an organ for a BOYFRIEND. Maybe a husband, but as OP has shown, they be trippin too
I don't know about “men”, but this one seems to.
He's just not thinking about you or seeing you to be of equal importance and worthy of equal consideration.
sometimes he’ll he moving ,,, yess that’s how they keep you sucked in .. this is not healthy
I try to view it like my grandma woukd, tell him to shut up and get over it or he can walk.
Jesus wtf. Your dad spit on your bf face and your bf needs to make more of an effort ? Do you know how disrespectful that is? Either stand up to your points or lose your bf. But don’t pressure your bf to take that shit from your parents
You probably can’t handle an inter cultural relationship if you can’t stand up to your parents
You betrayed your son in so many ways. You're very lucky that he has anything to say to you at all.
thanks for the response!! our circle here isn't that large, it's really like 6 of us. and they know I would have been interested in joining, since we have always done that together and they used to always invite me to that same activity. They invited our other mutual friend who we have all been to the same place together before and also all see each other weekly.
The posts are three years old. If your body really bothered him, he wouldn’t still be with you.
How long ago did you find the post?
Are you 100% sure it was him (not his friend or someone else) and that he was talking about you?
Has he ever made you feel like you’re not good enough, or is it all this post?
I didn’t word it correctly, I meant that I may not actually “love” him, but it’s just so convenient for me to stay with him that I may unconsciously ignore that
Why do you need a large service dog?
He is definitely having an emotional affair with her. He either drastically reduces contact with her and goes to counselling with you. Or you have to decide if this is a deal breaker for you.
He needs to realise that he is disrespecting you and your marriage by continuing this emotional affair.
Did you report your management for distributing alcohol to underage workers?
Narcissists avoid self reflection and self criticism. I think it’s because they grew up in a really invalidating place where criticism was toxic? So to avoid perceived mental devastation, they don’t self reflect in certain circumstances.
She might honestly believe that she’s in the right here. Most of my family is like this and it’s absolutely maddening. Unlike gaslighting (which is intentionally doing things to make someone feel crazy so that you can use it against them later), script flipping (that thing where you walk out of a argument not sure if you’re the bad guy because they played the victim) isn’t always intentional. Most people are just not prepared for that level of delusion.
Sorry you had to deal with this. I’m glad you were able to reach out for help and that you’re away from her now.
Do you think it would be better for the child for the parents to be divorced, or for them to go the rest of the child's life with tension and with the mother being disgusted with her partner? OP has expressed that she doesn't think she can get over it; they can try marriage counseling, and they should, but what do you suggest to fix their marriage if that fails?
Erm actually the fact he came on your chest suggests you guys didn’t use protection. STI test?
I was thinking about doing so but wanted a day or so to cool off first. In a kitchen, where would I go?
She gets abused so you suggest she gives her kid away. How gracious of you. The baby is actually her fourth child .
She gets abused so you suggest she gives her kid away. How gracious of you. The baby is actually her fourth child .
Right, and it just feels really hostile here.
Absolutely agree I will be looking for a therapist as a part of my healing process
Maybe i can join him to get stop my nicotine addiction too.
Look, that's sweet but rehab for hard drugs means going to a retreat/hospital setting for a set period of weeks, not a thing you do for cigarettes.
There are thousands of sites from specialists who tell you exactly how to confront and help and addict family member (do NOT give him money), search for them and do as they say. All of them will tell you this has to be shared with your family to get him real help. Of course it will get complicated, his life is in danger. Addictions can't be secrets in families if you want to help. He doesn't have to trust you again, this is more important. If he truly heals in the future he will know you had to tell your family to save him.
Google: “how to deal with addict family member”
Thank you, I think I needed to hear that and have some grounding here!
Start working on the best you can be. Study, start a new hobby, something you’ve always wanted to do. Join a club, don’t mope at home. Allow yourself to grieve now and then, but you know you made the right decision. You cannot have a future with a liar. You know that. Be amazing!
I hope it does not come to that (cheating or break up)
Can you elaborate?