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This GD chick sounds like a real piece of work, getting in between you and your dad's relationship. But here's the deal, you gotta take control of your own life. You can't just sit around and wait for your dad to make a move. If you want a relationship with him, you gotta make it happen.
I'd say start by talking to him, but it sounds like that's not really an option right now. So, why don't you try reaching out to him in a different way? Write him a letter, explaining how you feel and what you want for your relationship. Let him know that you miss him and that you want to have a place in his life.
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And as for the kids, I'd say don't worry about that just yet. You got time to figure that out. But if he does break up with GD just to see his grandkids, well, that's his problem. You just gotta focus on yourself and what you want.
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You're an adult. He's a minor. You're a pedophile.
This GD chick sounds like a real piece of work, getting in between you and your dad's relationship. But here's the deal, you gotta take control of your own life. You can't just sit around and wait for your dad to make a move. If you want a relationship with him, you gotta make it happen.
I'd say start by talking to him, but it sounds like that's not really an option right now. So, why don't you try reaching out to him in a different way? Write him a letter, explaining how you feel and what you want for your relationship. Let him know that you miss him and that you want to have a place in his life.
And if he's not willing to stand up to GD, that's his problem, not yours. You can't force him to do anything. But you can control your own life and make sure you're happy. If he's not willing to make a place for you in his life, you gotta find happiness elsewhere.
And as for the kids, I'd say don't worry about that just yet. You got time to figure that out. But if he does break up with GD just to see his grandkids, well, that's his problem. You just gotta focus on yourself and what you want.