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Ok so make that trash your exgf
Take the job. You haven't been together long and he's already being pushy about you moving.
OK personally I can kind of relate to this. I use to have a problem with not being able to cum from blowjobs too but honestly it's all about conditioning. Ask yourself questions. Are you thinking about something else when you're masturbating? Does the vagina feel weird and different than your hand? You need to condition yourself accordingly. Once you have that down, you'll be able to nut. I went from not being able to nut from blowjobs to being able to nut 3 times with a drop in intensity after every nut during a blowjob. So best of luck.
I know it would, which is why I haven't told him as soon as it happened. Also because it's someone I know, and we're not talking about a celebrity that I'll never be able to approach. I t would definitely hurt him
The other problem is with my probable feelings for this person, which I can't understand yet. I just don't want to go along with him while thinking about someone else, I guess.
Exactly this. I feel bad for her husband. Poor dude doesn’t work so he can’t say anything to rock the boat or he’ll be out on his ass.
Movies are made of this type of scenario!
Honey he has made it clear that he does not like your dad. Just remember boyfriends come and go so easily.. where as your dad will always be your dad.. don't let some boy come between your guys relationship.. it's something your will forever regret..
She needs therapy. Especially to be able to identify why she blacks out and doesn't remember these events. Moving forward, tell her now that, unless she's completely sober, you'll refuse any of her advances. It probably just drummed up the helpless feeling from before, and has little to do with you, but this is an old wound. It's deep, and unresolved. She can't find peace until she heals it. She can't find trust for you, for anyone, and most of all, herself, until she heals. Learning to trust yourself again is probably the biggest hurdle in SA trauma, because you always blame yourself, no matter what anyone says or does. I'm speaking from experience.
When a woman touches a man, that usually signals to the man that she is interested, this will cause people to want to take advantage, especially if you are not around. Id draw a hard boundary on it. Would she be ok with u touchin on people?
I mean, if OP is willing to accuse her of cheating and thinks she might be, the relationship is in pretty bad shape anyway
You seem to be worried about everyone else and not about YOU.
Him spending money on dates, shopping etc in the first month of dating is not good enough for you?
Does he know he's your sugar daddy?
Shift her focus to the future. What type of future does she envision? Then break it down in steps. Excuses are just that. They can be worked around. If she gets a job, she can get her own insurance and pay for therapy for instance. If she is not willing to see reason tell her you can't see a future with a partner like her.
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I'm of the view that the older the youngest person in the relationship, the less issue there is. You've been his boss, I assume you're financially secure and independent, and so the power dynamic isn't problematic the way it can be when there's someone so much older and established.
Really, once the maturity and power dynamic issue is resolved, all that's left is the obvious stuff. You in your 20s will likely want different things to him in his 50s, and will have different stamina etc. You'll need to have a way to deal with that, but it's not a deal breaker.
Eerrrrr……… listen: why are you dating this man? He seems douchey, racist and inconsiderate! Do you actually love this person? He defo doesn't love you, he likes the idea of you. I wouldn't be surprised if he woos some Japanese woman and replaces you with her.
Doing the “asian accent” while talking to you?! Boys will be boys?! Girl, he is made of red flags!
Ditch him
He's morally off-base. You have to do what you believe is right.
Break usually means it’s over
Identifies as a trans woman but is closeted so “she” still wears men’s clothing, and claims they’re a lesbian. Yes. Like that’s not the biggest crock of shit I’ve ever heard of.
If he's using this as an excuse I doubt he will ever add you. Tell him you are going to be added to the dead anyway because YOU did all the work for it. And YOU do all the work at home. Stop letting him kick you while your back is turned.
Oh my gosh yes
Think of it this way, he's probably terrified you'll leave him when you find out you're his late wife's doppelganger.
I'm sure that was his initial attraction to you however you are your own person so his love for you will be different. In no way do I want to downplay this, but you two need to have this conversation and start some therapy to work through this.
Sounds like Jane is using you to supplement her life. She can't buy an appliance or silverware? Why is it all on you?
He's happy living the way he is now, with the added benefit of a maid/house manager/companionship/and I'm guessing sex. Literally what incentive does he have to give you what you want when he already has it all? Tell him you are leaving if he is unwilling to give you the minimum of what you want in a relationship and your shared lifestyle and FOLLOW THROUGH. At the end of the day love isn't enough if you aren't getting what you really want. Do you even love him, or are you emotionally attached? I don't presume to know how you feel about him, but know if you're inexperienced it's so easy to delude yourself into believing it's love. In any case I implore you have self respect and stop settling.
Protip: do not go into any relationship doing things you will resent having to keep up re: doing all the house work/managing. Trying to outdo yourself playing wifey will not end up with him respecting you. You just get bitter, and he may turn around say “I never asked you to do all that”. And well, he probably didn't. If he didn't, you chose to carry that all yourself thinking it would give you a favourable outcome believing the more you give him, the more he'll give you back in kind. Sorry but it doesn't work that way. If he doesn't show up, you don't show up or better yet get out of there. Disengage from him, learn the minimum of what you will accept, accept people for exactly who they say they are and not what you want them to be, and only engage with those that know what they want from you and are willing to give you what you want.
SAMHSA I think fits your needs or codependent alcoholic meetings where's it's you him and a few other people focusing on him and alcohols place in your relationship.
Feels like you fear she can't be serious about a guy and she might leave you because she's “casual” and doesn't see you or sex with you as anything meaningful. That's on you though. I'd see that as a positive thing though, she was young, trying new things, got that out of her system and now you can have a nice relationship.
Don't worry and overthink unnecessarily. We all have past. Focus on the future.
He is the only guy that made me wonder if I was actually right or wrong. I have always been decisive and would never let anyone be this shitty to me. I even told him once in a fight that he was psychologically abusing me and he even laugh I mean, he doesn't even know he is being a horrible person…
Seen, thank you for sharing and I’m glad you did so much better this time.
Just so you know I have three kids. Two of them were conceived using the pull out method.
Don’t. Trust. That. Man.
You’re going to have to figure this out soon because the absolute #1 turnoff for men is a critical and combative woman
Have you considered professional counselling?
You need to establish some firm boundaries with her. She needs to understand you have feelings too and she is constantly hurting them. You staying away for now is your healing process.
You should tell her you will not move in until she gets better. Ask her to on therapy, because she needs it. If she starts to throw her job at you and guilt trip you explain to her, that you will not be her emotional vent. You can be equal partners or not in a relationship at all. Until she gets therapy and optionally maybe go on couple counselling with you, you need to live elsewhere. She needs to learn her actions have consequences, and you are not a dog that can be kicked as she pleases and still be happy to see her.
Np. And good luck.
You would only be doing this to make yourself feel better. This isn't about her. This is all about you and your feelings. All about you. You, you, you.
What complication? YFU man – while you cheated on her during your marriage, while she was getting sick and now that she's dying, you want to tell her that you've been cheating on her for five years???
You confessing means nothing. It means you're feeling guilty and you want her to absolve you, and forgive you. That's selfish on your part – it has nothing to do with your wife. Right now, you need to at least pretend you're a decent husband and human being and keep your mouth shut.
Make sure your wife's last months on earth are her best and shower her with love and attention and once you bury her, you can go back being a selfish monster that you're willing to show off on Reddit.
FFS I really hope you're just a troll. I can't imagine being so cruel to your wife just because you effed up in your relationship. Dude.
I feel stupid that I just believed what he told me.
Because it’s such a drastic and sudden change, I wonder what’s up? Mental health issue? Something related to his deployment?
As long as you feel safe I’d probably wait until he’s back to see how he is in person. If he hasn’t changed his tune and he unwilling to get to couples therapy with you….
Well, I’m sorry. This is hard. Couples are there to support each other…it’s part of what makes being in an intimate relationship so unique.
Good luck.
Just because an older man preys on younger men so he can control them in relationships doesn't mean he's interested in children. You were an adult when you met this guy and for all the obvious dysfunction in your relationship nothing you describe here really seals the deal on 33m being in any way a hebephile. Worry less about this kid and more about the fact that you're in a pretty lopsided, controlling relationship. Good luck
I agree. I dont really care he watches porn, like of course i dont love it. But i watch porn too sometimes. Its just usually something i try not to think about, so when kind of face to face so to say, with a girl he jerks off to, it kind of just shut me down.
Unfortunately, you are being raped. You are married to a rapist and need to get out before he teaches your children that these things are okay.
No, we have a problem with people putting their children second. She begged not to go and you forced her out.
You can see that she doesn’t like it when you’re away so often. Instead of coming to a compromise, you’re now spending half of your time away from her. Are you sure you’re invested in this relationship?
You don't deserve empathy. You want to hear everyone say what a wonderful person you are. Surprise, you're not.
I can't answer your questions as a professional, but as a fellow recovering addict I can say.
And then you hear stories like this and it weighs on me. Would it just take one major life event to send me back where I was?
Yes, it absolutely can happen, and watch out for it. Remember this story. Plan ahead for how you would deal with a traumatic situations in non-toxic ways. Whether that's seeking counseling, learning relaxation techniques, self-help books, or something else. You have plenty of options to choose from!
How do you know what kind of addict you are and what will cause a relapse?
I don't know how to say what kind addict you are, but finding what your triggers are that lead you to want to use is a big way to learn how to turn those triggers off. For me, I would drink to cure boredom, so when I quit drinking I had to find other ways to not be bored, so I start learning new hobbies til something stuck. Some people use out of loneliness, so one way to combat that is finding a ways to not be lonely; writing a friend a letter, asking how a strangers day is going, joining a group, or talking to the squirrel on the fence post. You are surrounded by plenty of living beings that will interact with you if you let them.
Another thing to watch out for is not falling into what I call the “Addict's Folly” which is, “Ohhhh I could handle doing just a little bit and be okay!” No. NO. You won't be able to. Just don't do it. Full stop. Redirect your thoughts immediately to something else.
There is so much more I could add, but I found a lot of benefits from r/stopdrinking, and I know that's a bit different from your substance, but maybe finding an live group where you can express these types of feelings might be helpful to you.
This right here. I'd even bet if you found her OF content he's in it too.
What’s the recipe? We all want it. Promise ??not to share with her. ?
Oh so because he works, he has no obligation to take care of his children when his wife is struggling? They also made a deal to be partners “through sickness and health” yet he only cared to be one when she was healthy.
I was kinda sympathetic to her until the she's upset because “she missed out on a huge part of my life that we won't experience together”. This is incredibly immature bordering on insanity. A normal person would not resent something so ridiculous. Are you supposed to apologize for the life you've lived before her which she wasn't part of? What is the actual point of her saying this? I would interpret it as her wishing that I'd erase my son and ex and restart my life all over with just her.
Everything is just nonsense by a grown woman acting like a teenager. You also want to be extra careful with her being alone with your son. You said he's on the spectrum where he struggles to pick up on certain things and she may in fact use that to plant nefarious information in him that he wouldn't be able to interpret and just internalize it.
I had an ex like this and it caused a lot of issues down the line. It got to the point where we were finding each other boring because I wanted to have deep discussions about the universe etc etc, and she wanted to just talk about drama and gossip and reality TV. We seemed compatible at the start but I just think if you're not on the same wavelength with conversation then you'll grow weary of each other pretty fast. Not too say either of you are smart, dumb, boring or interesting. You both just have different ideas of enjoyable conversation. And that's OK!
Your showing her that there’s no consequences to cheating on you.dump her
Triple up on the birth control. She doesn’t want to be financially responsible so having a kid may trap you tighter.
She’s an adult. Let her figure it out.
Single dude takes you out somewhere. It’s a date. Single dude compliments you a lot, he’s interested.
Simple solution: stop talking to her because she’s your ex.
So it sounds like you live with mom, correct? Can you go somewhere else, like your boyfriend’s home, when your dad pulls stunts like this? I don’t see why you should be putting up with his behavior.
Could you have asked him to leave when his friends arrived? That is not his home – but it is yours. It’s weird for him to not want to be alone with HIS friends. Have you discussed any of this with him?? Frankly, your father sounds super immature – he uses his kids as an emotional buffer ffs. You need to stop allowing him to do that to you. If he drives you somewhere you don’t want to be – tell him so. Get someone to pick you up, or Uber home. You need to figure out your boundaries and stick to them.
Yeah, she needs to leave your abusive ass right now. Sorry, chief, but if this isn’t a dealbreaker, idk what is.
Jesus grow a spine. Put the trash out. She has zero respect for you
You’ve only been together for a couple of months. It’s going to take a minute to get into the groove of FT. Awkward silences, talking over each other..perfectly normal in the beginning.
Or..maybe it never really takes off, but the two of you end up being super-compatible and have no issues face to face. If that was the case, would you be able to let go of good FT conversations?
As for your feelings about this having to do with your ex…..maybe so. You associate FT with good feelings, you want more of those good feeling, and now you’re bummed.
You seem like a good guy. I’d try not to worry about this too much unless it’s a dealbreaker for you. You know?
*sensitive not desertice
I understand that. I had a discussion with her and asked her if she has feelings for Amanda. She said while she loved her as a friend, she has no desire to pursue anything with her and only did what she did because she got curious. She admits she might be bi from this experience but does not want to do anything with anyone outside our relationship
He IS enabling her, while thinking he is helping her. People with addiction need support, but not enablers. They need boundaries and sometimes they need to hit rock bottom to change. Right now she has no reason to change because people catch her when she falls. As harsh as it sounds, your boyfriend can maybe be some sort of mental support, but she is manipulative too, knows your boyfriend's weak spots and with that emotionally drags him along. He can't think rationally
WTF. I’m glad your daughter is ok. WTF
So your partner did not go to the daycare and see the kid was not there?
Comes home without kid and who is this midget in bed with my husband, throws lamp immediately.
Dude what the fuck.
I understand you can’t get rid of the girls mother and she would destroy you in court, but I would bring this up every chance I could.
Did you take out the trash? Nope and I didn’t hit out daughter with a lamp like a crazy ***** who went off her meds.
I want to go to “X”. I want a wife that does throw lamps at our daughters.
WTF, you need an apology and your daughter needs one as well.
Can you really unlove a person?
OP needs to establish appropriate boundaries if she has not already. No means no. Then next time it happens, have a conversation with HR. And, save all the flirty texts in order to back up your story.
Thank you. I guess I’m struggling to figure out how to initiate. Do I just say “hey I saw your texts where you did this and have proof”, or “hey, I know you did this”. I fully expect this to be a yelling match on her end but I know I can keep calm. Fully expecting to be gaslit too
You might not realize this, and it’s somewhat dependent on you guys, but sex is work. It’s physical work and mental work. Don’t get me wrong, it’s fun and I enjoy it. But compared to quickly jerking off and having a quick orgasm it’s a lot.
The women I’ve been with seem to never like being on top. So that means I’m doing the bulk of the movement. I also care that they’re having a good time so it’s not just hurry up and done.
This. It sounds cruel but it's true.
But you did have sex with him, why was he ok with it then?
How can 2 people even have a dating relationship without putting in time and attention, let alone being married? ? Her time and attention aren’t free I guess so it’s obvious she is a sugar baby.
Then don't. You are your own boss.
Yes, it is over.
Just block her then. When blocking someone on instagram you automatically block their email/phone number/Facebook connection, so they won’t be able to make a new account and stalk you, they will have to find a new way of registering an account. Then you block that one as well. At a certain point she will probably be sick of creating new email accounts to create profiles with. Enough hoops = too much hassle for her.
It seems like you're pretty upset and frantic right now. Maybe take an hour or two to relax and spend some time with self-care then come back to think about it. All I would have to say is that relationships are hard and sometimes it's scary to change. Sometimes you have to know when to let things go and you have to make a decision to make your life better
This is a big red flag that is indicative of other sexist and misogynistic red flags. “That's woman's work!” I'm wondering if he's the kind of guy who thinks a husband can't rape his wife. Do not let yourself fall into the sunk cost fallacy. Just because you've been with him for 2 years doesn't mean you can't break up with him.
They are already messing around! Sorry
The past couple of weeks we were not able to have sex
he tells me that he has been feeling disconnected from me for at least a few weeks
These things feel connected…
Love you xxx
Red flag, there was no way you could have known precisely where she was, even in a small town.