After 2 years when you have enjoyed her physically and emotionally, noww you feel troubled with her body count?. You are just the same as the other guys who have slept with her… If you break up, you are also one of the guys adding to her body count. But really, dont waste her time and emotions if this really bothers you and let her go so she can be with someone who loves her as she is.
Hi. It's not over, drugs are stupid and very hot to get off, and I feel he probably met someone who has influenced him.
You decide to confront him, just be sure you have a well-thought-out plan, and I wouldn't go away on vacation. He needs to get into a counselor or program. It's pretty normal to relapse and your concern is warranted.
I can't tell you how many people I know have relapsed and died. It's a bunch though
Your post was removed for the following reason(s):
Your title did not include at least two ages/genders or was not formatted correctly
Posts must:
include details about the involved parties including ages, genders, and length of relationship, and
request advice in real situations involving two or more people
We are enforcing the two rules listed above by making all titles start with ages/genders in the following format:
[##X][##X], [## X][## X], or [##-X][##-X] where ## is the age and X is the gender (currently M, F, T, A, NB, FTM, MTF but more can be added). You can have more than two ages/genders listed, but you must have at least two at the beginning of your title. Here is an example:
There seems to be a rash of posts like this. I don't get these guys, if your girl is having trouble with this, that's not a time to sulk it's time to talk to her and experiment, follow her lead and learn how to give her one.
If she doesn't know herself then try to learn together.
The point is double your effort and try to make it fun.
Leave her she is a battered wife basically and until she stands up for herself nothing will change. She doesn't sound like she wants to stand up to herself at all. You are putting the boys and your unborn child at great risk. I hate to even suggest this but what if her ex comes after her violently one day and the worse comes to reality and she loses the baby?
You need to protect the children because she obviously is incapable of doing so.
Hopefully this will be a learning experience for you. Don't make someone the center of your world when you're barely a part of theirs. This is probably why it was so easy for her to let you go. A healthy relationship doesn't have one person putting in all the effort – it has both people doing it.
My point is, she had very specific questions/concerns. The responses about the VERY serious and legitimate issue of the age gap had nothing to do with her questions.
It might be very hot for her to see beyond her questions. So, she never gets the message she should end the relationship with this guy because he’s the definition of totally inappropriate.
I want details to understand her motives more. I believe being open about our pasts is important, as it can bring us closer together give insight on what type of person she is. I found out through her, however more details were hidden from me. I prefer open communication.
Yes, driving while sleep deprived is dangerous. No one is disputing that. But it should be taken into consideration that op was not in the right frame of mind to register that at the time because she was 1) sleep deprived, and 2) being pressured by a loved one while sleep deprived.
Not so much this sub, but a lot of places on the internet I've seen people, men mostly, act like the orgasm gap is a woman's problem. I've seen people outright say things like “you should take control of your own orgasm” or “your orgasm is your responsibility” in similar conversations.
Generally I've not had the best experience pointing out misogyny on the internet, again not necessarily RA but certainly on Reddit.
No one is wrong. He masturbates, just like most adults of all genders, and you don’t like what he masturbates to.
Attempts to make someone stop masturbating the way they like to never work; on this sub alone there are 10,000+ posts of people upset because they made their partner promise to never look at porn, and then they did and lied about it.
You’re allowed to not like it, but you need to either find somebody who shares your views or figure out how to get over whatever insecurities are making you want to control your partner’s masturbatory habits.
Because it isn’t going to work, and you’re only going to end up resentful that he continues to do it in secret.
I have never heard of a single relationship where one person banned porn because they’re insecure, and the other didn’t just do it secretly and lie about it.
I’m a married woman in my 40s. I watch porn, my husband watches porn, sometimes we watch together and sometimes on our own. It’s great! I can’t recommend enough just getting over this idea that your partner isn’t supposed to have a fantasy life unless it revolves solely around you.
from male point of view, i assume he wants more sex or he wants you to initiate more sex.
if you're not that into sex then probably think of some stuff that makes you horny and do that stuff daily e.g. reading erotic novels or taking nude photos.
then when you're horny channel those stuff into him.
After 2 years when you have enjoyed her physically and emotionally, noww you feel troubled with her body count?. You are just the same as the other guys who have slept with her… If you break up, you are also one of the guys adding to her body count. But really, dont waste her time and emotions if this really bothers you and let her go so she can be with someone who loves her as she is.
Hi. It's not over, drugs are stupid and very hot to get off, and I feel he probably met someone who has influenced him.
You decide to confront him, just be sure you have a well-thought-out plan, and I wouldn't go away on vacation. He needs to get into a counselor or program. It's pretty normal to relapse and your concern is warranted.
I can't tell you how many people I know have relapsed and died. It's a bunch though
Girl that literally makes you family!
Hello /u/SmellyTostitoes,
Your post was removed for the following reason(s):
Your title did not include at least two ages/genders or was not formatted correctly
Posts must:
include details about the involved parties including ages, genders, and length of relationship, and
request advice in real situations involving two or more people
We are enforcing the two rules listed above by making all titles start with ages/genders in the following format:
[##X][##X], [## X][## X], or [##-X][##-X] where ## is the age and X is the gender (currently M, F, T, A, NB, FTM, MTF but more can be added). You can have more than two ages/genders listed, but you must have at least two at the beginning of your title. Here is an example:
[34NB][88-F] We are two people in an example post
Please resubmit with a corrected title.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
There seems to be a rash of posts like this. I don't get these guys, if your girl is having trouble with this, that's not a time to sulk it's time to talk to her and experiment, follow her lead and learn how to give her one.
If she doesn't know herself then try to learn together.
The point is double your effort and try to make it fun.
Porn. Like normal people. Not pictures of crushes.
Leave her she is a battered wife basically and until she stands up for herself nothing will change. She doesn't sound like she wants to stand up to herself at all. You are putting the boys and your unborn child at great risk. I hate to even suggest this but what if her ex comes after her violently one day and the worse comes to reality and she loses the baby?
You need to protect the children because she obviously is incapable of doing so.
It sounds like this was just too much, too soon for the relationship. As soon as you’re medically able, I would get out of there and go home.
Hopefully this will be a learning experience for you. Don't make someone the center of your world when you're barely a part of theirs. This is probably why it was so easy for her to let you go. A healthy relationship doesn't have one person putting in all the effort – it has both people doing it.
Yeah…that bothers me because it seems so serious. Dead? Really?
I’m sorry brother. I hope you guys find peace. Just know you have options. Hoping the best for you, OP. ❤️
My point is, she had very specific questions/concerns. The responses about the VERY serious and legitimate issue of the age gap had nothing to do with her questions.
It might be very hot for her to see beyond her questions. So, she never gets the message she should end the relationship with this guy because he’s the definition of totally inappropriate.
You're literally not.
I want details to understand her motives more. I believe being open about our pasts is important, as it can bring us closer together give insight on what type of person she is. I found out through her, however more details were hidden from me. I prefer open communication.
Lol this is such bullshit
Yes, driving while sleep deprived is dangerous. No one is disputing that. But it should be taken into consideration that op was not in the right frame of mind to register that at the time because she was 1) sleep deprived, and 2) being pressured by a loved one while sleep deprived.
I do some chores admittedly not as many as I should.
Yes. That’s not what I’m commenting on.
Not so much this sub, but a lot of places on the internet I've seen people, men mostly, act like the orgasm gap is a woman's problem. I've seen people outright say things like “you should take control of your own orgasm” or “your orgasm is your responsibility” in similar conversations.
Generally I've not had the best experience pointing out misogyny on the internet, again not necessarily RA but certainly on Reddit.
No one is wrong. He masturbates, just like most adults of all genders, and you don’t like what he masturbates to.
Attempts to make someone stop masturbating the way they like to never work; on this sub alone there are 10,000+ posts of people upset because they made their partner promise to never look at porn, and then they did and lied about it.
You’re allowed to not like it, but you need to either find somebody who shares your views or figure out how to get over whatever insecurities are making you want to control your partner’s masturbatory habits.
Because it isn’t going to work, and you’re only going to end up resentful that he continues to do it in secret.
I have never heard of a single relationship where one person banned porn because they’re insecure, and the other didn’t just do it secretly and lie about it.
I’m a married woman in my 40s. I watch porn, my husband watches porn, sometimes we watch together and sometimes on our own. It’s great! I can’t recommend enough just getting over this idea that your partner isn’t supposed to have a fantasy life unless it revolves solely around you.
from male point of view, i assume he wants more sex or he wants you to initiate more sex.
if you're not that into sex then probably think of some stuff that makes you horny and do that stuff daily e.g. reading erotic novels or taking nude photos.
then when you're horny channel those stuff into him.