What do you mean when you say that you were “unhappy and emotionally drained after” going to a movie with your gf and one of her friends? Because that sounds very drama-queen-ish.
As someone who’s been in her position: nor. “Similar stages” of life means nothing compared to life experience and personal development.
If you like her? Let her alone or you’ll interrupt and disrupt her natural growth and maturation process.
And consider this: why is it nearly exclusively men asking this on this sub? Why is it nearly exclusively young women with older men in age gapped relationships?
Walk away. She will resent you later if you don’t.
One more clarification question. Are you saying the fat that makes penetration more snug is coming from the inside pushing outward, or from the outside when laying prone? In other words, is it the vaginal walls that are tighter in heavier women or the opening? Also I did not think this would be a conversation I would be having online today but now I’m hooked.
Isnt it funny how everybody is rude to her, but they are not rude to you? She is acting entitled and when she doesn't get her way, she assumes that everyone is out to get her – and she is probably escalating the situation much further than it needs to be.
The fact that she “goes to start a fight” because there is something wrong with her food – as opposed to calmly pointing it out so the staff can correct what is probably an honest mistake – is horrifying.
If you stay in this relationship, you will have to see this happen all the time, for the rest of your life. And if you ever, EVER, tell her no at something, you can bet she is telling all of her friends yow rude you are to her. It will be turned around on you so unbelievably fast.
You need to leave. This is not a safe relationship. It's not for you to fix this and you should not stick around for her to learn the error of her ways.
But please be careful when you break up. If you online together, be ready to leave at a moments notice. If you don't on-line together, be sure to change your locks. I absolutely expect this to get ugly, so maybe have someone on standby in case you need help.
You may also need to consider the unthinkable possibility he may target the children with his clearly uncontrollable impulses now, or even in the future. You and your children are living with a sexual predator. As a mother, your first priority is their safety.
I can absolutely believe that he forgot about them. People have different ways of using that kind of storage option. Some people meticulously sort everything and open it up everyday while others just dump stuff all over when they are just transferring it between devices and then have an eternal drive of random pictures they do not remember.
He would not have given you access if he truly was still looking at the pictures in a sexual way in my opinion. Either he forgot or he really does not consider nudes important. An adult conversation about why he still has them, how you both feel about that, and what to do now is in order.
One of the core values of communication is to actually listen to the other person and give them time to calm down/ figure out how they want to answer a question truthfully. You immediately escalated, shut down his attempts to answer your question without letting him explain his point, and when he tried to get some space between you to think about what you said & what to reply you chased him down.
If this is truly his only offense then you are breaking up your relationship all by yourself with escalation of a resolvable issue. He immediately gave an honest reply that he would delete them if it bothered you.
It is not your fault at all that you reacted to a perceived act of betrayal in an aggressive & passionate manner, you are in a vulnerable position in your relationship and have a lot of responsibility with the new baby and all, but do yourself the favor and reconsider calmy instead of escalating without discussing properly.
Going to your parents and thinking is a great first step, get some distance and then arrange an in-person meeting with your husband, preferably without the baby there to distract from the conversation, to discuss the issue.
Is it creepy af the still have the pictures? Yes. But people have different boundaries. Some of my exes still have nude pics of me and I am okay with that, we talked about it when breaking up. But I also do nude modeling for art students so my boundaries are different and my exes had the pictures specifically for drawing. If you are concerned about whether or not he was allowed to have them for whatever reason, contact his ex.
Apparently, you know who she is, just ask her about it. She could also tell you about other red flags he has so you can better evaluate whether or not to leave him.
If she knows he's a Nazi and is marrying him anyway, she is also a Nazi. I'm sorry.
What do you mean when you say that you were “unhappy and emotionally drained after” going to a movie with your gf and one of her friends? Because that sounds very drama-queen-ish.
So… I'll just ask because everyone is going to be wondering….
Did she ever end up sending you the pics later, or did this other guy get exclusive content?
As someone who’s been in her position: nor. “Similar stages” of life means nothing compared to life experience and personal development.
If you like her? Let her alone or you’ll interrupt and disrupt her natural growth and maturation process.
And consider this: why is it nearly exclusively men asking this on this sub? Why is it nearly exclusively young women with older men in age gapped relationships?
Walk away. She will resent you later if you don’t.
Info: what did you mean when you said “she’s making it about my 9 year old son”? As in she doesn’t like your child??
One more clarification question. Are you saying the fat that makes penetration more snug is coming from the inside pushing outward, or from the outside when laying prone? In other words, is it the vaginal walls that are tighter in heavier women or the opening? Also I did not think this would be a conversation I would be having online today but now I’m hooked.
Isnt it funny how everybody is rude to her, but they are not rude to you? She is acting entitled and when she doesn't get her way, she assumes that everyone is out to get her – and she is probably escalating the situation much further than it needs to be.
The fact that she “goes to start a fight” because there is something wrong with her food – as opposed to calmly pointing it out so the staff can correct what is probably an honest mistake – is horrifying.
If you stay in this relationship, you will have to see this happen all the time, for the rest of your life. And if you ever, EVER, tell her no at something, you can bet she is telling all of her friends yow rude you are to her. It will be turned around on you so unbelievably fast.
You need to leave. This is not a safe relationship. It's not for you to fix this and you should not stick around for her to learn the error of her ways.
But please be careful when you break up. If you online together, be ready to leave at a moments notice. If you don't on-line together, be sure to change your locks. I absolutely expect this to get ugly, so maybe have someone on standby in case you need help.
Can you find validation in doing the right thing for your kids, at least?
Damn. Well said. Thank you.
You may also need to consider the unthinkable possibility he may target the children with his clearly uncontrollable impulses now, or even in the future. You and your children are living with a sexual predator. As a mother, your first priority is their safety.
I think you need to ask why you've stayed in this relationship for 2 years, when he's totally fine with it being crappy for you.
A. Tell everyone she has Chlamydia B. Go no contact C. Find out how to give her herpes
I can absolutely believe that he forgot about them. People have different ways of using that kind of storage option. Some people meticulously sort everything and open it up everyday while others just dump stuff all over when they are just transferring it between devices and then have an eternal drive of random pictures they do not remember.
He would not have given you access if he truly was still looking at the pictures in a sexual way in my opinion. Either he forgot or he really does not consider nudes important. An adult conversation about why he still has them, how you both feel about that, and what to do now is in order.
One of the core values of communication is to actually listen to the other person and give them time to calm down/ figure out how they want to answer a question truthfully. You immediately escalated, shut down his attempts to answer your question without letting him explain his point, and when he tried to get some space between you to think about what you said & what to reply you chased him down.
If this is truly his only offense then you are breaking up your relationship all by yourself with escalation of a resolvable issue. He immediately gave an honest reply that he would delete them if it bothered you.
It is not your fault at all that you reacted to a perceived act of betrayal in an aggressive & passionate manner, you are in a vulnerable position in your relationship and have a lot of responsibility with the new baby and all, but do yourself the favor and reconsider calmy instead of escalating without discussing properly.
Going to your parents and thinking is a great first step, get some distance and then arrange an in-person meeting with your husband, preferably without the baby there to distract from the conversation, to discuss the issue.
Is it creepy af the still have the pictures? Yes. But people have different boundaries. Some of my exes still have nude pics of me and I am okay with that, we talked about it when breaking up. But I also do nude modeling for art students so my boundaries are different and my exes had the pictures specifically for drawing. If you are concerned about whether or not he was allowed to have them for whatever reason, contact his ex.
Apparently, you know who she is, just ask her about it. She could also tell you about other red flags he has so you can better evaluate whether or not to leave him.
Good luck!