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Date: October 13, 2022
The problem here is that u're not giving any kind of advice, but sure, thanks for ur time.
This the dumbest advice I have read on here. And the fact that he/she has upvotes blows my mind.
Lose her.
Yeah between that and her comment that she couldn't wait to see him until Monday definitely doesn't sound like a platonic working relationship does it?
You need to make more of an effort to get a job. That will change your schedules a little bit and allow you to be able to amongst people and not sitting at home all the time. I’ve been there when you’re waiting for him. It’s kind of like that when you have a baby the first year or two also. That is really the only time I’ve experienced that and it made me want to tear my hair out. So get out and find yourself a job no matter what you have to do ask friends ask anybody. That will be getting your journey back to full adulthood. Good luck with that.
She's negging you. Certainly a woman who has dated men before would realize how common this tactic is, and how corrosive.
36B is amazing and beautiful to me. Let him find someone else so you can stop worrying about yourself. You're healthy and fit. Go find someone that wants to eat you like a cupcake.
This is a tough situation. Nothing wrong with being upset about it. All for honesty in relationships, but can't help but think she should have kept that to herself. You'll never forget this. Sure, she technically did everything right. This time. The problem is the future. She may be transferring but still will be working in a male dominated field. So you will be wondering about her next crush the rest of your life. F man. Can't say I envy your situation. Any chance she can use whatever skills she has acquired and change industries? Not sure I would be confident of it not happening again as long as she stays in this male dominated field.
Hiding it isn't working on it, that's basically stuffing it all inside and compounding it into a big bottle that will eventually become a volcano.
What can you do to actually work on your anxiety?
thanks. i’m stuck in the place we’re renting for six months so he has plenty of time, probably too much ?
It's really great that you offer him to talk to yiu about everything. But you shoud not be the person he goes to when he wants to talk about his ex. He can talk to a family member, a friend or even a therapist but not to his girlfriend. This can weaken your relationship and if you both break up it will make his situation even worse.
See that would actually be an issue with me in my relationship if my bf had more pictures of random women than me. That would make me extremely uncomfortable cuz of my eyes You can window shop all you want when you're single, but the minute you get in a relationship you need to minimize all that window shopping.
But honestly because how I am and because of my boundaries this is something I would actually break up with someone for. I would explain to them that you're fine to have some photos, but when you start showing me that those photos are more important than me, your actual partner then we're going to have some problems because I'm not going to be put in second place cuz of some photos. To me when you're in a relationship that person always becomes number one (when there's kids in the picture, that's a different story) to you and if you cannot make that person number one, you are not ready for a relationship.
The part about how she doesn't say you're pretty or how she calls them handsome with no hesitation. If that's an issue then communicate that with her. Just say like hey, when you show more interest in those photos or compliment those photos more than you have ever done for me or any photo I've sent to you, it makes me feel like those pictures are more important to you than me.
It wasn’t perfect between you, she was just evil enough to hide it well and you blindly trusting. She is garbage now. Thank goodness you found out, before marriage.
My guess is it isn't about you not warning them but more about them being scared and you being callous or defensive about that.
In my own relationship I have gotten better at this. Old me would have done as you did and got defensive and argued about why they shouldn't be upset with me. New me would recognize that they are upset and it may not actually be about me, validate those feelings, offer some comfort and then let go while they have their emotions. Like this:
“Oh wow. That sounds so scary! I'm glad you're ok. Yeah I didn't really notice the black ice or think much about it. I'll definitely try to give you a heads up next time though. I'm just glad you didn't get hurt or something.”
I think you sound incredibly insecure. Why does it matter if some random chick smiled at something he said? Why are you even noticing that he ‘might have’ looked at her some way? Drop it and stop it. All this kind of mindset does is cause issues where there are none.
Take photos of him on your bed and of the box he threw you on, especially if the box is broken. If you don't cal the police tonight, then file a report for assault today, after he leaves. Documenting his behavior and why is the best strategy especially if you have a restraining order issued. This is NOT OK behavior for him and the best way to send him a message is to have the police notify him of the report of assault and restraining order for him not to come around again. Take his key if he has one or change the lock the next day.
I’m still waiting, I’m really excited to see your studies to counter my anecdotal evidence? You obviously have them or you wouldn’t have said that, right? You weren’t just basing your opinion on your own sad insecurities, right? You have evidence! And my experience is anecdotal but yours isn’t. Right?
Anyway, I’m really excited to read the studies that you are going to post.
Dude, let people live! their lives and be happy. What they do ain’t your concern. Why are you disgusted about two people who are single getting together? Worry about your own relationship and let people find happiness.
To be honest, at the beginning I was going to say that “coward” might not be the right word. But when you got to the truck example, that’s certainly a great way to partially describe him. That situation is honestly incredibly odd, because it’s one thing to be afraid of confrontation where there’s a legitimate concern of things blowing up. This situation would never have suggested that. “Hey, I need to back out, would you mind moving the truck please?” What are they going to say, “go fuck yourself?” Unless they’re crazy people, 999 times out of 1000 a person in that situation will say “oh yeah sure, no problem.” Did you ask him about that?
Either way, it unfortunately doesn’t matter. Because when I said I wasn’t thinking the word coward was right, it’s because I was going to say he’s an asshole and shitty partner. You say his friends have insulted you. Even more, you suggest it’s happened more than once. If it happened once, I might even try to brush it off as him fucking up, apologizing and things were fine since.
But it wasn’t just once. First, what are they even saying? Second, even if we ignore him not speaking up, why would he continue to be friends with them? Why would you keep seeing them? Why would you keep seeing him with this being a pattern?
You feel like in the long run it would impact your relationship? It’s already impacting it. You can safely assume nothing’s going to change if it never has. Run. Good luck.
So he acknowledged that he finally understands what you've been telling him. Why are you pissed about that?? Unless he used completely different words than what you described here, nothing he said was insinuating that there is anything 'wrong' with you. Again, you are being very defensive. It sounds like maybe you think there is something wrong with you and you want to make it his fault.
These. things. happen. It comes and goes, for a zillion different reasons. There is no 'fault' inherent in your wetness or lack thereof. It sounds like he is trying to take things on board and your resentment is coloring things.
This isn’t a situation where any one person is truly at fault here. You probably shouldn’t have tried to stay through all the red flags but I think we’ve all done that in the name of trying to work things out.
Being the dumper is nude, especially if you still care for your ex. Don’t re-engage and try to focus on the pros instead of the cons. You can finally look forward to your weekends instead of Mondays, so try to reconnect with the things you couldn’t do while her and her kid were around. That could be gaming, hanging out with your buddies for hours or late into the night, or even just walking around your place butt-naked.
I’d also recommend you treat yourself to a nice meal since you’re now on your own and next expected to pay for an extra mouth or two. You’re gonna inevitably feel bad and stew over how you handled things so just create experiences that consistently remind you of why you broke up with her (the reason being you’re now free to enjoy all these things you couldn’t/live without restrictions).
Going to the gym is also good. If you’re like me, hyper-focus on all the stuff you didn’t like and get angry and turn that into fuel for your gains. If you’re not like me, physically exhausting yourself is a great way to avoid thinking about the stuff upsetting you and can help you get a better night’s sleep if that’s something you end up struggling with in the post-breakup aftermath.
It may not feel like it while you feel guilty and wrong for hurting her, but you did good here. At the end of the day, you realized things couldn’t continue so you ended things before they got worse. You’ve saved her and yourself a lot of hurt, resentment, and time.
oh well now i feel much better
Clearly we saw the post at a different time. The 1st 3 top comments when I saw the post were yelling at him for being a cheater. But when I posted my comment, it seems everybody was turning around because they actually had to acknowledge the fact that if it was a woman they wouldn't be staying what they did.
On a first date or two I always found that endearing lol
Lawyer up now and save yourself all the time and agony.
Why did you open the message? Because you suspect she's not transparent and maybe keeping something from you? Tell her. Ask her why she lied to you. Whether or not you go to the wedding isn't as important as why you both feel the need to lie to each other.
Check out the Chump Lady website, get STD tested and get an attorney.
My boyfriend also asked me if he wanted to take the drug together because it enhances the “love emotion” (don’t know if that’s true) and I told him absolutely not and he accepted it. I also told him just cuz his friends have a positive experience doesn’t count the same for others. I hope he doesn’t think I’m being a pain the ass, cuz he said “well yeah people in my surroundings are pretty liberal and are open to trying new things blablabla” (felt offended by that comment but didn’t say anything about that) I’m glad the conversation was over text, cuz my hands were very shaky, drugs and stuff like that give me very bad anxienty
Bro got left high and dry on something entirely caused by his gf and feels bad lmao. Get out now she does not have your back
I think it seems weird to me because we don’t live! together or hang out during the week, only on weekends typically because of our jobs. So to me, I think why don’t you want to get a simple dinner with my friends and I on a Friday night or go to a brewery on a Saturday afternoon etc. considering we don’t see each other too much.
You interpret my words that way. You insinuate all you want.
I simply observed a very common theme here. Boy bitches about fat girlfriend who doesn't do anything, eats and is unmotivated. Boy seems oblivious that there could be something very wrong with his gf but he is focused on not having the arm candy he feels he merits. Gf's mental health is not he forefront of his concern- it is how to disentangle from his GF and not feel guilty.
Same story. Rinse repeat.
She is having an affair and had explained to me some of the things that pushed her to have an affair.
From your comment adding context:
During our marriage I became mean, and have/had some unresolved trauma along with her brother being murdered
#1 – Did she come forward with this info/confess without being pressed? Or did you find out some other way.
#2 – HER AFFAIR IS NOT YOUR FAULT. If she is making excuses/blaming you in any way that is unacceptable. While it's healthy for her to communicate with you, and she probably has her “reasons” for cheating, at the end of the day cheating is always a mistake and never justified. The right way to deal with your partner being mean/cruel is to communicate/couples counseling/any number of other ways, NOT CHEATING…
I want to work on my myself and my marraige but I'm not sure if she wants the same. She has not told me yet what she would like to do. In the meantime I'm going crazy. I'm putting a lot into myself, like going to therapy and journaling daily,….but what to do. Please Help Going Crazy!!!
Honestly, you're doing what you should be doing, focusing on yourself. Focus on your work, hobbies, family & friends, who you are as an individual and not as a piece in your marriage. From there, patience and lots of work. For the sake of your marriage, #1, are YOU SURE that you want to stay? Per your added comment, it seems there are other issues in your marriage beyond your wife's infidelity. Being able to work past all of it is something will take a lot of patience and work from both of you, and you should only do that/offer to work on your marriage if that's truly what YOU want. Patience, time, and therapy are all great ways to allow you to process this betrayal and your feelings surrounding it and whether or not you truly want to work on your marriage.
Clearly your wife is doing this if she's not even given you a clear answer on what she wants too do, you should seriously do the same.
This has all been way too much for me, and my therapist wants me to let them in, but I would rather cut all contact
It is time to get a new therapist. Is the therapist friends with or related to the imposter mom or something because holy shit
Oh gotcha. Honestly, let her be mad. She's being a hypocrite if she's annoyed with you for repeating something she shouldn't have been repeating herself. Maybe a lesson learned not to gossip with the person in the office who doesn't like gossip.
I'm sure she'll get over it the next time something juicy starts going around.
I am definitely gonna talk to him today, but what you said made sense. Im gonna ask him if it was ok for me to ask just to double check thank you for the advice.
Ok so first things first go look at the 18 year olds. And see how young they look to you (they are probably starting to look really young/baby faced through your eyes) listen to how immature and remember how you feel about those 'teenagers' getting married, they are young and silly and think they know better right? Now they have an age difference to you of a THIRD of what this guy has. 'Old soul' yeah I've got some mature friends, but inexperience still affects you, your still not on the same page as him in life.
Which leads us to point 2. Good chance guy is leading you on, what does he have to gain from marrying you? You already do all the wifey stuff. People who have been divorced are generally not keen to jump straight back into marraige, and I'll be willing to bet the ring is to keep you placated. He has enough experience to know “i don't feel ready to commit to anything. I think we should hold off on getting married. I don't know if i want to get married.” Won't fly well enough to keep a woman who has as many options as you do at your age. But a piece of shiny bait on the hook will keep you there so much longer wasting your time, and then he's got a good chance of you going “well it's been xyz number of years, do i really want to throw it all away?”
The next time it’s brought up, tell her that you’re already married. You went to a drive-through wedding chapel in Las Vegas. You’d send her the pictures, but there wasn’t enough on your debit card to pay for them at the time.
Woman, pull yourself together! I know what it's like being 23 and I honestly wish I had he self-respect I now have in my 30s. Do not let him walk all over you like this. He is being manipulative and will still give you the bare minimum. You are currently entangled with him and it will suck for a bit to not be with him but you need to stop talking to him. You are not friends, this is not healthy for either of you, but especially for you. Cut contact, stop engaging with him and in time you will be free and feel so much better