Personally my advice would be going forward in your relationship endeavors the Golden Rule is almost always applicable and a good baseline since we don’t have nearly enough information here to provide specific info.
Take the time to think about everything you are doing and he has done.
Consider, deep down and honestly if you would be okay if the roles were reversed. You don’t need to share this with anyone.
If so, you are probably good, if not, maybe reconsider.
Will everyone be okay with this? Probably not, everyone is different. My point is though if you are genuinely okay with someone else treating you the same way and doing the same thing then you should probably find someone who is in alignment with your basic ethics. If you wouldn’t be okay with it well then you should change your behavior.
I completely understand where you’re coming from. My husband has no interest in my hobbies but wants me to participate in his. I let him do his activities alone now and I do mine alone. ?♀️ it isn’t perfect but it works for us.
The great thing about being an adult is the ability to be direct and not play games.
Just ask him if he'd like to get coffee sometime. If he's available and interested he'll say yes. If he isn't, he'll tell you and you can say ok and that's it. You don't have to over complicate this.
Dump!
Personally my advice would be going forward in your relationship endeavors the Golden Rule is almost always applicable and a good baseline since we don’t have nearly enough information here to provide specific info.
Take the time to think about everything you are doing and he has done.
Consider, deep down and honestly if you would be okay if the roles were reversed. You don’t need to share this with anyone.
If so, you are probably good, if not, maybe reconsider.
Will everyone be okay with this? Probably not, everyone is different. My point is though if you are genuinely okay with someone else treating you the same way and doing the same thing then you should probably find someone who is in alignment with your basic ethics. If you wouldn’t be okay with it well then you should change your behavior.
I completely understand where you’re coming from. My husband has no interest in my hobbies but wants me to participate in his. I let him do his activities alone now and I do mine alone. ?♀️ it isn’t perfect but it works for us.
The great thing about being an adult is the ability to be direct and not play games.
Just ask him if he'd like to get coffee sometime. If he's available and interested he'll say yes. If he isn't, he'll tell you and you can say ok and that's it. You don't have to over complicate this.