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No means no.
And it works both ways. If you don't want to do it, you don't have to do it. If she doesn't want to do something, then she doesn't have to do it neither. Intimacy is about 2 people connecting and both having fun, respecting each others boundries.
Yeah, I feel you. Direct communication would be best here. I'd honestly just rip the bandaid off and be like “Hey babe, are you still smoking regularly?” Then if he lies about it be like “so I understand that but here are a few reasons I feel like you have been.”
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He wants to have his cake and eat it too. He’s just going to continue to string you along while living the single life. He’s 25 and sounds nowhere near ready to settle down. You’re 23… cut your losses, cut him off completely and move on. There’s plenty of fish in the sea and he’s not your fish.
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Let me say this for the people in the back- NO ONE CONTROLS WHO YOU DECIDE TO BE WITH, PERIOD.
Okay now that I got that out of the way. That dude can think he gets a day, but frankly you don’t even know where you stand with them… a third is a lot different than adding another partner. Decide what you’re comfortable with and go from there.
Wow!
The whole accusing women of transphobia to blackmail them into straight sex with a MAN routine has gotten really old, really fast.
It's awful behavior but you can chalk it up to male predators being predators. What's truly baffling and ridiculous is these actual women who sign on to be their enablers, open the doors to women's spaces, and attack and silence their critics. Such people are completely undeserving of your time or consideration, and will eventually get what is coming to them.
I disagree. You can demand he's cut. Because not cutting him off means he's still in your life.
This will impact your job, your clearance, your finances, etc. What happens if your wife invites him over when you're not home and a different cousin or niece is around?
Another post on why to not marry young.
She hasn’t had enough dick or explored and now she is bored with you.
This is why I have to treat a certain ex of mine like he’s dead. Blocked and muted on everything. Out of sight, out of mind.
What are you asking for relationship advice on?
My parents tried but at their age it's just too much, there's no way they can practically learn another language sufficiently. Learning a language properly is really hot, virtually a full time job to do it quickly. They only visit me once a year or so and can ask for drinks but not discuss legal matters, there are plenty of people who can translate if it's ever necessary. It wasn't their decision for me to share my life with someone who speaks another language. And what if they have three children who all have spouses with different languages? Do they have to learn them all? The partner on the other hand should learn the language, it was his decision. I assumed mine would with time, he didn't.
Yh I get that but for me it’s, firstly ethically and morally I don’t agree with it at all, I think it sets a bad precedent for children in future (mummy got them so why can’t I) and lastly I genuinely don’t see that as beautiful I get it’s beauty standards that have put this pressure on women but it doesn’t appeal to me whatsoever, she set a picture that had some filter that was supposedly made her ‘perfect’ how she ‘should’ look and I was like I dont think that’s beautiful or that’s not my perception of beauty
He and all the guys there can’t talk about you and all the side bitches they are messing with if you are there. Your bf doesn’t want the other guys and himself to have to watch what they say because you are there.
Is she hiking with a guy?
Leave. The “test” was him seeing how much he can get away with. Let him know he failed and get out now. This man isn’t worth your time and love and health.
He’s 24. It’s hot enough to have them commit at that age much less be stable enough to eventually support a child he didn’t make. Him breaking up with you is reasonable. I’m sorry but when you become a single mom young, it’s going to be harder to date. That’s just a given so it was inappropriate to yell at him. An older man however you may have better luck with and they’ll most likely have a career established.
Ask him to be more transparent with regards to the people he meets.
yeah, not what you meant but certainly what you said…cool, cool
Successful long term relationship depend on both people being allowed to exist as their whole selves, even the less pretty parts about their feelings about other people. That’s how you work through them.
I’m not disagreeing with your point, I’m simply showing the holes in it, when compared to OPs issue with maturity.
Is she immature, or does he just want to go to the bar?
If someone said to you: I can’t date this girl. She’s not mature enough; I mean, she can’t even get fucked up on Jagerbombs without a fake ID.
You’d laugh, right? Because it would be hilarious.
His sister in law and brother came to visit me across the country about two months after I moved. She had mentioned when we were alone that OG had came to their house and said he was so proud of me and everything I had accomplished in life and if anyone deserved to have a great life and experience all the joys it was me (I’ve had a crappy traumatizing lchildhood/ early adult life but I won’t get into all that— OG knows everything)
— about two years ago someone with a weird instagram username started following me and liking everything I posted, and I couldnt figure out who it was. I finally asked OG’s sister in law because it looked like a familiar landscape in the profile, she was like yeah the OG lol.
So he constantly likes everything I post on instagram and will randomly comment. But only on stuff where my current boyfriend is not pictured.
He mentioned that if I ever invited him to come see me across the country he would?
About two weeks ago he started messaging me on instagram, he’ll send me funny reels and we’ll banter back and forth. Well last week he sent me some weirdly sexual reels, and then one that said I love you at the end. I didn’t react to any of them and just kind of ignored it. As I’m happy with my current relationship. As these last two weeks have gone on, he’s been more and more persistent about talking to me and sending me things.
On a side note we have a “family group chat” on instagram and he won’t say a word or react in there but will message me separately.
It’s all starting to bring back old feelings. And I’ve noticed he will only talk to me when he is at work (works nights) and if his girlfriend isn’t around. If I respond during the day I won’t get a response until the middle of the night.
I’ve been struggling lately because he’s literally everything I’ve ever wanted. But he won’t man up and admit anything. He makes me feel like I am crazy for wanting him. But my thought process is if someone has poured their heart out to you twice, and you aren’t interested why does he keep talking to me and sending me inappropriate messages & videos?
Again, I love him, he’s absolutely someone who will always have my heart. And I can’t cut him out because of our family situation. But am I crazy? Am I reading too much into everything?
What does this mean, is he playing me, is he really not interested? I just can’t believe that 10 years in and he’s still fucking with my head if he doesn’t actually like/love me.
This is just the short overview, way too much in ten years to go into details on or even recall at this point. But I guess my overall question— what the heck should I do, do I say anything or just let it fizzle out and focus on my current relationship and try to put these feelings back to rest?
You need to break up with your boyfriend, this ain’t even a question.
Although her reaction may not be appropriate, this is still missing the context of what the argument was about.
Let him become a 'proper adult' before you get tied down. This guy… has a lot of red flags for three dates in. Like, a lot. Perhaps he is tone deaf, but sis… this stranger on the internet thinks you need to back off 1000% from him.
At best, he is kind of thoughtless and trying to force a relationship to make himself feel like a grown-up. It doesn't bode well for a long-term partnership, yeah?
Take it glacial paced with this guy.
“I shouldn’t lead you on if I’m not in it.”
She told me that even if I was single she wouldn’t date me for at least 6 months..
You're just another guy to her, dumbass. Wow. You really are an idiot.
Chinese as well (Fujianese) my partner is American. We are saving up together for my bride price. In modern days, the bride price is merely a token gesture to thank the brides parent for raising her. Often the parents would take the bride price and add on to it to give the whole amount back to the couple as a nest egg during the tea ceremony.
Alright?
I also would never do that. That, and her reaction to me asking to see what was going on, really paints my impression, no matter what she says.
i do agree and this is how i am in most cases.
but with him, sometimes he won’t tell me what’s wrong unless i ask him multiple times, and in that case it usually is about me and he just doesn’t want to talk about it or something. so idk what to do about that
I did read your comment wrong. That being said. you aren’t making someone get wet for you, it isn’t their fault but yours. Also, being wet does not mean they are orgasming or going to orgasm. Being wet is just the female body’s lubrication to make sex more comfortable, and yes, it can come from being turned on emotionally, but some people need physical stimulation to get wet. And the right kind of stimulation physically and emotionally to orgasm.
If you don’t want to do the work go turn on your partner emotionally and physically, that is something wrong with you, not them.
Sorry don't know how to word this gonna sound horrible but I don't mean it that way. How long does your mum have left, is it possible to confront him after she has passed or would you be able to do it without mum knowing. It's a horrible situation you and your mum are in but it would be horrible to ruin the happy news. I'm so sorry you are going through this