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You’re being a bit daft here. He doesn’t want your advice, he wants validation. It’s frustrating for sure because his ego and low self-esteem is getting in the way of true success.
Have you tried asking him why he keeps bothering you for feedback when he never seem to consider it? If he refuse to acknowledge this, just tell him you don’t have time next time he wants feedback. Or just tell him “I’m sure you’re going to do well!” Without providing any detailed feedback.
I see you’re a real problem solver, but you really have to reign in that instinct. His life is not your problem. Put that energy on yourself or on someone who can use it constructively.
Since this was relayed by text, how certain are you that it was her, and not maybe a new insane jealous BF or family member posing as her?
If you're confident that it was her, then break contact permanently. The way she wrote to you is a her problem, not a you problem.
If you're not confident that it was her and are concerned, then consider talking to a mutual acquaintance to see if you can find out what's been going on, as you “received some concerning texts from her yesterday that seem to have come out of nowhere”.
You don't clearly detail if you've said or done anything that may have triggered this sort of reaction, but I'm going to assume that you're not a terrible person and that it's not worth making amends if she's decided all of these things about you. She doesn't get to decide them – you do. And her breaking things off means she no longer has a say outside of any children or shared accounts you might have (and I'm gathering it hadn't come to that yet).
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You’re being a bit daft here. He doesn’t want your advice, he wants validation. It’s frustrating for sure because his ego and low self-esteem is getting in the way of true success.
Have you tried asking him why he keeps bothering you for feedback when he never seem to consider it? If he refuse to acknowledge this, just tell him you don’t have time next time he wants feedback. Or just tell him “I’m sure you’re going to do well!” Without providing any detailed feedback.
I see you’re a real problem solver, but you really have to reign in that instinct. His life is not your problem. Put that energy on yourself or on someone who can use it constructively.
Since this was relayed by text, how certain are you that it was her, and not maybe a new insane jealous BF or family member posing as her?
If you're confident that it was her, then break contact permanently. The way she wrote to you is a her problem, not a you problem.
If you're not confident that it was her and are concerned, then consider talking to a mutual acquaintance to see if you can find out what's been going on, as you “received some concerning texts from her yesterday that seem to have come out of nowhere”.
You don't clearly detail if you've said or done anything that may have triggered this sort of reaction, but I'm going to assume that you're not a terrible person and that it's not worth making amends if she's decided all of these things about you. She doesn't get to decide them – you do. And her breaking things off means she no longer has a say outside of any children or shared accounts you might have (and I'm gathering it hadn't come to that yet).
I think you know this isn't going anywhere.
I don’t know exes that sleep over to see their KIDS let alone A CAT. Hoooolyyyy ?
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