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I feel like this is going to be one of those situations where your (new+old) money is yours and hers, and also her money is just her money.
Get a nanny cam. Lay low and apologize for acting crazy. Bam.
Being with someone for 9 years is always going to be a monumental chunk of your life. Especially in your early 20s when you're learning more about yourself as you gain independence, figuring out what you want in life, etc. In that time, she was told that her desire to get married was fundamentally at odds with her partner at the time. This isn't a conversation you have sitting down over dinner one day. This is generally something that's discovered over time and not calmly and rationally. Generally it happens over very hot conversations and tears, and wanting it to work but knowing it won't. It shapes you, and leaves a mark to go through something like that.
Now she found out that oh he did want to get married. Just not to her. That doesn't mean she's mourning HIM or the relationship. But rather 1. the time she wasted. 9 YEARS. Of. Her. Life. That's a freakin' percentage. A BIG percentage. If she lives to 80, she will have been with him for 11% of her life. Or 2. Feelings of inadequacy. 3. A shift in her fundamental understanding of why a relationship that took up so much of her early formative adulthood years ended. She thought one thing. It's now not true. She's now going to question so much of why that was. Not because she wants him back but fuck that's just a weird thing to believe for so long and then it's just not true. It's not about HIM really at all. It's about her and the things this experience led her to believe about herself and the shift she's now having to come to terms with about the reality she thought she lived in.
Ultimately, your girlfriend has to come to understand that his relationship status has little to do with her and more likely to do with just age and the changes that goes with that. He got older. Realized he was ready to settle down. I think that's quite common and it says nothing about her at all.
If she needs some space to get her head right, then that's what she needs. I can understand where you're coming from. If my partner had done that, I would be concerned too. But I don't think you have anything to be worried about in terms of her wanting to be with him or missing him. And regarding your comment about being a bystander…you're not a bystander in this necessarily but it simply just isn't about you. And that's not a bad thing or a good thing – it's just is what it is. She's just having a rough time and hopefully she gets through it. If I were in her position, I would react exactly the same way. It's gotta be a kick in the gut.
Yeah for sure. As predicted the situation is more complex than what was in the original post, AND also seems to be a lot about the daughter’s maturity.
Depends on the med. I was on anti depressants through pregnancy as well as while breastfeeding.
I stopped at the long distance part. She's for sure fucking him.
Find a real relationship
I mean I do get along with her and we can crack more jokes and laugh together more than she does with her bf. She doesn't flirt like this with other of our friends just me. I dont know if my friend noticed or not but he had to. Basically we have alot of fun when we are together.
I mean i like the attention but also liked her. But it's not a good position to be in, dont want to be known as the guy that stole a friends gf.
We have fun with her together but my mental health is ruined for days after we hangout for some reason I don't know why.
I’m really looking forward to the inevitable update from OP. It’s going to be something else.
Divorcing this woman will be pure hell. I would recommend individual and couples counseling.
I agree that behavior is a major red flag and a major turn off.
No. Don't pursue an apology, and don't tell his wife anything about it.
You don't have a right to expect “transparency in all [your] relationships.” This is long in the past, let it lie. And you are naive to think it would strengthen any of your stepson's relationships, it would more likely tear them apart.
Now! If you wait, she will be mad that you were there for so long and didn't visit.
I am a student and I wouldn’t have enough money to bribe the police for their services if they had came
In what world is him saying “I won’t enjoy it” not directly telling you that he isn’t into it
I am the first partner she hasn’t cheated on
If you think she’s cheating and you come right out and ask her she will just lie to you and hide her cheating better. Become Inspector gadget.
You're 27 years old
Sounds messy, but will heal in time. Give her the space she obviously needs, I'm sure you'll be able to talk it through at some point, but it probably too soon at the moment.
Your husband is mentally ill. He should also go have a physical check up.
I don’t know. It could be worth it in the end, all we can do is speculate. Helping raise kids is a lot, just saying, and you need to def consider it. But what makes you happy? I feel like you should just be happy.
Your young and widowed making you a target. He has stepped outside moral boundaries and he needs to make his wife feel better about their marriage. You should look into getting a separate room on vacation to help set very hot boundaries. Talk to his wife to assure her of your situation and feelings to ease tensions for the vacation.
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(Except for preferring lilies. Lilies are of the devil and should be banned from all civilized homes. As should hyacinths. I have spoken.)
Ty!
Ugh that's tough.
But you'll be out soon. I've heard the gray rocking method can be effective for situations like these, in case he keeps trying to “negotiate.”
He intentionally chose to say “watch a movie” so he could turn around and tell you it was a misunderstanding. He set this up so he could get what he wanted and could conveniently dodge any consequences by making it a misunderstanding. Don't waste anymore time on this dude. He will likely do this again.
But leaving just means I lost the battle is there really nothing I can do
Depends on what you want. Kids? Spark matters fuck all if you ask me. The challenges of parenthood will kill that regardless of how strong it is. What really matters is kindness and mutual respect. Ego, anger, insecurity, unreasonable expectations, and narcissism are what to avoid. A person who loves and respects you never gets old. Looks and lust are temporary by nature, you will jump from partner to partner your whole life and never feel fulfilled. Shared values, being a very hot worker, being a considerate roommate and good with money are big bonuses.
“No, thank you” is a perfectly acceptable response.
Please take your daughter and leave. She deserves better and you need to show her this behavior isn't acceptable so she learns from you.
“Dear Ex, I've worked with a therapist and have now recovered completely from my breakup. If you're willing I'd like to talk and catch up. I suffer no delusions that you'll take me back. I'd just like to repair the damage I did between us and see if we can't be in contact again in whatever way you feel comfortable with.”
But don't do if everything in that paragraph isn't true. If you lead her on she may hate you now and until you've processed everything (with a professional) you'd just do the same thing to her again. So feel the proper amount of humility here. When we treat people badly they tend not to forget it. This woman owes you nothing.
You’re the one who ran to the internet to ask us instead of solving your problem like an adult
This guy sounds controlling and abusive. I’d also consider what he did at the gym to be stalking. The longer you continue this the worse it will become. Please get away from him. No normal person gets angry at you for calling back after you are done with a job/ in a secure place.