Sounds like you are both avoiding having the hot conversations because you've reached the point where you both realize if you honestly and clearly state your needs, boundaries, and future goals to each other it'll reveal the end of your relationship.
It's a natural impulse to put things off, but you can't stay in that forever. If you want a partner who contributes 50-50 financially – you need to say that and enforce it. She may know this is what you want, but you and her avoiding talking about it gives that deniability you're both marinating in. She may have similar complaints about you that you know on some level or truly are blind to.
I expect you're both holding each other back from getting the lives you want.
Sounds like you are both avoiding having the hot conversations because you've reached the point where you both realize if you honestly and clearly state your needs, boundaries, and future goals to each other it'll reveal the end of your relationship.
It's a natural impulse to put things off, but you can't stay in that forever. If you want a partner who contributes 50-50 financially – you need to say that and enforce it. She may know this is what you want, but you and her avoiding talking about it gives that deniability you're both marinating in. She may have similar complaints about you that you know on some level or truly are blind to.
I expect you're both holding each other back from getting the lives you want.
Run