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The introvert in me wants to say “hey maybe she just got cold feet about it being Valentine’s Day and didn’t want it to be a big deal” but at her age she’s old enough to know you don’t set someone up to be hurt like that in the first place. She had plenty of time to cancel if she genuinely cared about you.
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I'm a introvert that married an extrovert and had kids (something changed after my dad died unexpectedly) I lost her in 2020 she was a nurse now I'm dating a fellow introvert that cared enough to help with our girls she never wanted kids (autism and mental health issues in her DNA pool) but she didn't mind helping me and rather likes having me and a little girl that think she's awesome… there's a cat laying on my leg right now
I personally have been single for quite a long time, but have had relationships in the past.
While none of them were great, they were an important part of me working out what is and isn't healthy for me, and the kind of things I'd want to look for. They were also a useful insight into things about myself that I should be aware of, too.
I haven't completely ruled out the possibility of a life partner, I'm just not actively seeking one, and I have significantly raised my standards.
I am completely comfortable with the possibility that I might remain single, or never meet someone permanent. That's completely fine. The same might happen with you – in which case I'd suggest, as you seem to have mostly done already, to develop a 'life plan' that's not reliant on the possibility of a partner.
I personally do want to raise children eventually, and if I am single when the time comes then I will seek to adopt (were I a woman I'd probably have a mix of adopted and non-adopted children, but surrogacy for men is commonly a far 'messier' situation than sperm banks are for women).
When I imagine or plan for the more distant future, I think though doing that stuff myself rather than hoping that there'll be a partner to do it with.
It’s a dead end but not because of anything you did or didn’t do. She told you, she is still in love with her ex. And you expected her to get over that in the span of 3 dates? That’s not how it works. If you really love someone it takes time to get over them. It took me a solid 6 months to not miss my ex anymore and feel like I am truly emotionally available for someone new. And that timeframe really is nothing extraordinary. Anf while she can go on dates and flirt with you she is emotionally not able to connect to you the way you want because at the end of the day while you lie in bed thinking how great and pretty she is, she is thinking about how much she misses her ex and how she wishes he was in bed with her cuddling right now. You’re trying to force something that won’t work.
Self reflection is one of the most difficult things any of us will ever do.
“A bad day for your ego is a great day for your soul.”
Break free from the chains of your past. Change the behaviors that caused pain to yourself and others. Search your heart and seek guidance from the Lord.
“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” -Jeremiah 29:11
Your husband isn't your husband. He's community husband.
He's a manipulative, slimy person ,- even if your opening relationships – YOUR BEST FRIEND???!!!!!!
Even without the sleeping with her – he was happily openly flirting with her in front of you when you were monagomous?
This doesn't sound like a marriage op. This sounds like a slimy guy who will cheat on you at will, invent rules to make it valid for him, not let you do the same, and just be a selfish nasty pasty.
This isn't a partnership.
Divorce this joke of a husband. Your best friend likely isn't your best friend. Continue to casually date your bf if you wish, but good back on being pushed into situations and relationship structures you don't actually like or feel is fair or safe.
I was holding my gf back from leaving in a fight and she smacked me with a slap. Not her fault.
I’d never hurt a woman but when I was on drugs she snatched my phone and buddy had told me he wouldn’t give me a pill if we were fighting and I grabbed her chin and pushed her back and said if I don’t get this pill because of you ill fucking kill you.
She should of left me. It was so out of character and I’ll never live it down and can never make up for it.
I’m sober now and we’re going to go to counseling to work on certain things because we love each other and want to get married.
I was a monster and she didn’t deserve it and I don’t deserve her. But we forgave and moved on and I’ll spend my life making up for it.
I don’t know why I’m bringing this up. It made me think of it.
You did nothing wrong in your scenario. That was wrong of him and he should take accountability for it the way I have. It’s not healthy and it’s very toxic.
I hope I don’t get downvoted but I honestly deserve that too.
A component of counselling abuse victims can be helping them learn to identify warning signs and decrease their risk of being victimized again. Pointing out that paternity fraud is more likely to occur in couples who haven't been together long isn't victim blaming, it's risk mitigation. Sorry if it wasn't clear, but the second part of my comment was advice for reducing risk. It was not aimed at people who have already had it happen to them.
I think the biggest thing that jumps out is having sex once a month or less when your girlfriend has an adventurous past. It just doesn't sound like a fit. You are 23, you should be having it multiple times a day every now and again.
Also I wouldn't assume a 21 year old is past her experimental phase. I think the threesome is the least of your problems. You don't sound compatible.
I am really sorry that you went through that. Intimate partner abuse is a really terrible thing to go through, and it can be really difficult to come to terms with, especially for men. Even being willing to admit that it's been happening can be extremely difficult.
A lot of people here have already said most of the important things, like that you need to see a lawyer immediately, and that you should probably leave to protect your daughter. But that's probably not going to be the case this time, especially considering your current financial issues. The stress you're feeling at being unemployed in this situation is completely understandable. It's also understandable that you think that making her admit that she did something wrong is going to fix this situation.
Unfortunately, it's very unlikely that your partner is going to admit that she has done anything wrong. She's already told you that you're the one responsible for her actions. In her head, you made her throw that lamp. She won't be able to admit it, because if she does, she needs to deal with the guilt of hurting you and almost hurting or killing your daughter. It's all easier for her if it's your fault. Admitting fault is not going to happen without extensive psychological help.
Have there been incidents like this before? Has she thrown things at you, or around you? Has she hit you or screamed at you uncontrollably? I'd really like to hope that nothing like this has happened before, but in light of what you've said about her interrogations, I have my doubts. These kinds of things typically happen as part of a pattern.
I would recommend that you file a police report about what happened. Your partner put your life and your daughter's life in danger. What she did was unacceptable. You should then go stay with any family members that you have nearby. If that isn't an option, you should ask her to leave, or ask the police for a family violence restraining order (or your local equivalent). You should see a lawyer and arrange a separation agreement with you taking custody of your daughter for the moment, preferably with supervised visits for your partner, and make those visits contingent on your partner beginning, and continuing, therapy. You should also ensure that you receive her consent to confirm that she has been attending those therapy appointments. This protects both you and your daughter.
I understand that you love your partner, and that you probably want to make this relationship work. Maybe it can work, but not unless she gets help. If she doesn't get help, the abuse will only get worse. You will go through periods of sweetness and love, followed by violence and fear, and then it'll start again. This will slowly eat away at you, stripping your self-confidence and wellbeing until you won't be able to protect yourself or your daughter any further.
The kid clearly has issues the father isn’t addressing. If your against kids maybe you got to be upfront with him that his kid is a nightmare behind his back and if he desires a actual relationship with a woman he needs to fix the behavior of the child, because it’s making you miserable and your at the point of breaking up
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The introvert in me wants to say “hey maybe she just got cold feet about it being Valentine’s Day and didn’t want it to be a big deal” but at her age she’s old enough to know you don’t set someone up to be hurt like that in the first place. She had plenty of time to cancel if she genuinely cared about you.
Naked when you have no money ….
Find another introvert that likes hanging out with you and your cats
I'm a introvert that married an extrovert and had kids (something changed after my dad died unexpectedly) I lost her in 2020 she was a nurse now I'm dating a fellow introvert that cared enough to help with our girls she never wanted kids (autism and mental health issues in her DNA pool) but she didn't mind helping me and rather likes having me and a little girl that think she's awesome… there's a cat laying on my leg right now
Anyways don't give up it will eventually work out
I personally have been single for quite a long time, but have had relationships in the past.
While none of them were great, they were an important part of me working out what is and isn't healthy for me, and the kind of things I'd want to look for. They were also a useful insight into things about myself that I should be aware of, too.
I haven't completely ruled out the possibility of a life partner, I'm just not actively seeking one, and I have significantly raised my standards.
I am completely comfortable with the possibility that I might remain single, or never meet someone permanent. That's completely fine. The same might happen with you – in which case I'd suggest, as you seem to have mostly done already, to develop a 'life plan' that's not reliant on the possibility of a partner.
I personally do want to raise children eventually, and if I am single when the time comes then I will seek to adopt (were I a woman I'd probably have a mix of adopted and non-adopted children, but surrogacy for men is commonly a far 'messier' situation than sperm banks are for women).
When I imagine or plan for the more distant future, I think though doing that stuff myself rather than hoping that there'll be a partner to do it with.
It might well be, or, as others have pointed out, he wants it to be casual, whereas I want a bit more of density. x
What part of respect him don’t you understand? No. Means. No. He doesn’t have a problem.
He’s not interested.
Lol bonkers take here
It’s a dead end but not because of anything you did or didn’t do. She told you, she is still in love with her ex. And you expected her to get over that in the span of 3 dates? That’s not how it works. If you really love someone it takes time to get over them. It took me a solid 6 months to not miss my ex anymore and feel like I am truly emotionally available for someone new. And that timeframe really is nothing extraordinary. Anf while she can go on dates and flirt with you she is emotionally not able to connect to you the way you want because at the end of the day while you lie in bed thinking how great and pretty she is, she is thinking about how much she misses her ex and how she wishes he was in bed with her cuddling right now. You’re trying to force something that won’t work.
Do you agree with the seriousness of your different religious and political views?
Self reflection is one of the most difficult things any of us will ever do.
“A bad day for your ego is a great day for your soul.”
Break free from the chains of your past. Change the behaviors that caused pain to yourself and others. Search your heart and seek guidance from the Lord.
“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” -Jeremiah 29:11
Ooof, I felt that comment
Your husband isn't your husband. He's community husband.
He's a manipulative, slimy person ,- even if your opening relationships – YOUR BEST FRIEND???!!!!!!
Even without the sleeping with her – he was happily openly flirting with her in front of you when you were monagomous?
This doesn't sound like a marriage op. This sounds like a slimy guy who will cheat on you at will, invent rules to make it valid for him, not let you do the same, and just be a selfish nasty pasty.
This isn't a partnership.
Divorce this joke of a husband. Your best friend likely isn't your best friend. Continue to casually date your bf if you wish, but good back on being pushed into situations and relationship structures you don't actually like or feel is fair or safe.
Had sex. I wanted to keep it casually like 'slept' just in case I get tagged for it or whatever by reddit. :/
Ah exactly my point. I was mad at her too due to the said comment. Both of them are actual shit.
I was holding my gf back from leaving in a fight and she smacked me with a slap. Not her fault.
I’d never hurt a woman but when I was on drugs she snatched my phone and buddy had told me he wouldn’t give me a pill if we were fighting and I grabbed her chin and pushed her back and said if I don’t get this pill because of you ill fucking kill you.
She should of left me. It was so out of character and I’ll never live it down and can never make up for it.
I’m sober now and we’re going to go to counseling to work on certain things because we love each other and want to get married.
I was a monster and she didn’t deserve it and I don’t deserve her. But we forgave and moved on and I’ll spend my life making up for it.
I don’t know why I’m bringing this up. It made me think of it.
You did nothing wrong in your scenario. That was wrong of him and he should take accountability for it the way I have. It’s not healthy and it’s very toxic.
I hope I don’t get downvoted but I honestly deserve that too.
You are not safe and this will only get worse once you “belong” to him. RUN
I guess I have to be poor to ask the girl working at McDonald's now.
A component of counselling abuse victims can be helping them learn to identify warning signs and decrease their risk of being victimized again. Pointing out that paternity fraud is more likely to occur in couples who haven't been together long isn't victim blaming, it's risk mitigation. Sorry if it wasn't clear, but the second part of my comment was advice for reducing risk. It was not aimed at people who have already had it happen to them.
You break up and move on. She clearly isn’t in love with you anyway or proud of you at all.
I think the biggest thing that jumps out is having sex once a month or less when your girlfriend has an adventurous past. It just doesn't sound like a fit. You are 23, you should be having it multiple times a day every now and again.
Also I wouldn't assume a 21 year old is past her experimental phase. I think the threesome is the least of your problems. You don't sound compatible.
I am really sorry that you went through that. Intimate partner abuse is a really terrible thing to go through, and it can be really difficult to come to terms with, especially for men. Even being willing to admit that it's been happening can be extremely difficult.
A lot of people here have already said most of the important things, like that you need to see a lawyer immediately, and that you should probably leave to protect your daughter. But that's probably not going to be the case this time, especially considering your current financial issues. The stress you're feeling at being unemployed in this situation is completely understandable. It's also understandable that you think that making her admit that she did something wrong is going to fix this situation.
Unfortunately, it's very unlikely that your partner is going to admit that she has done anything wrong. She's already told you that you're the one responsible for her actions. In her head, you made her throw that lamp. She won't be able to admit it, because if she does, she needs to deal with the guilt of hurting you and almost hurting or killing your daughter. It's all easier for her if it's your fault. Admitting fault is not going to happen without extensive psychological help.
Have there been incidents like this before? Has she thrown things at you, or around you? Has she hit you or screamed at you uncontrollably? I'd really like to hope that nothing like this has happened before, but in light of what you've said about her interrogations, I have my doubts. These kinds of things typically happen as part of a pattern.
I would recommend that you file a police report about what happened. Your partner put your life and your daughter's life in danger. What she did was unacceptable. You should then go stay with any family members that you have nearby. If that isn't an option, you should ask her to leave, or ask the police for a family violence restraining order (or your local equivalent). You should see a lawyer and arrange a separation agreement with you taking custody of your daughter for the moment, preferably with supervised visits for your partner, and make those visits contingent on your partner beginning, and continuing, therapy. You should also ensure that you receive her consent to confirm that she has been attending those therapy appointments. This protects both you and your daughter.
I understand that you love your partner, and that you probably want to make this relationship work. Maybe it can work, but not unless she gets help. If she doesn't get help, the abuse will only get worse. You will go through periods of sweetness and love, followed by violence and fear, and then it'll start again. This will slowly eat away at you, stripping your self-confidence and wellbeing until you won't be able to protect yourself or your daughter any further.
Translation: “The sex was great and you'll never find out about it again as I'll put more effort into not getting caught.”
I think people should leave each other’s phones alone.
The movie HER was not a movie it was a documentary…
The kid clearly has issues the father isn’t addressing. If your against kids maybe you got to be upfront with him that his kid is a nightmare behind his back and if he desires a actual relationship with a woman he needs to fix the behavior of the child, because it’s making you miserable and your at the point of breaking up
Comment Rule 1: All comments must be on topic and focus on the OP, in good faith. Derailing arguments, fights, and moral whataboutism is not allowed. Advice given must be good, ethical advice. Remember, the goal is to help your fellow human.