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Date: February 13, 2023
Thats okay, i alright.
A tenet is a principle or a belief. A tenant is someone who lives in a rented property.
Not everyone goes all out on valentines day. My husband and I basically never do anything, even when were in the early dating stage. But that works for us and we discussed it.
You always take the current organizer's side
My mother has Borderline Personality Disorder, as a child of a BPD parent I had (and still have) some unpleasant tendencies. My mother used to have full blown temper tantrums- like screaming, cursing, stomping her feet, breaking things, especially when she'd hurt herself. Like she'd stub her toe and have a full blown temper tantrum like a 2 year old, but it was scary because she's an adult and much larger.
I interpreted that as just how people act, like a normal reaction. When I was in my 20's I started realizing that maybe some of my childhood wasn't so “normal” after all- a colleague actually clued me in that my overreactions to pain stimulus were causing a safety concern in the plant I worked at, and I don't argue with safety procedures so that was clearly the right thing to say to me. I was never as bad as my mother's temper tantrums, but I will admit with embarrassment that my reactions to minor injuries weren't great.
It required a lot of conscious effort, but I was able to get control of my outward reaction to pain- I would do a variation of the Family Guy drawn out “oooooh, ahhhhh, ooooh, ahhh” to pain stimulus. if you can imagine how tough it is to keep control of your reaction when you're injured, maintaining a reasonable composure when you're frustrated is absolutely possible.
Sometimes we learn bad habits from our parents, including how we deal with pain, frustration, or other things. I would say something gentle like “it sounds like it's always bothered you that your father has these over the top reactions, and you've mentioned they made you feel scared as a child. It looked like you were having a temper tantrum, but much scarier because you're a large adult. It makes me scared that you can't control yourself, and I worry about where your ability to control this ends. Is that how you want to be seen?”
He's either going to get better control of himself, or he's going to let his anger/frustration control him. Children of BPD problems tend to have a lot of other tendencies- some good, some not. At the very least, I would see if being in control of himself is going to be a priority for him, and at best he gets himself a few therapy sessions to see what else is there that he can improve on to make his life better. I honestly wouldn't have realized my own issues if I hadn't engaged the help of a therapist who literally met my family and was able to tell me what was going on. It helped me manage myself and my relationships much better.
She calls you a shitty father in front of the kids while demonstrating being a shitty mom, wife, and human being. Wow you should have worked things out with a woman with suicidal ideation before having kids. Next time she threatens suicide, call 911, and have her put on a psyche hold.
Yeah I looked my state’s legal code up when I got back to my computer a moment ago. The ‘middle ground’ term I was looking for is called sexual battery, at least here. And is punishable by 1-5 years in prison as opposed to rape’s 25 to life. Which makes sense and I clearly should’ve looked that up beforehand. Gonna add an edit to my original comment to reflect that
She is living with you. If that means she can't have a pet at your place, she needs to look into a new place.
You are absolutely allowed to tell her “No cats”.
Fairness does not enter into this. You tell her no, and when she pushes, you say that you have decided not to have a cat in the home, and that it is not up for debate.
This may damage the friendship, but the safety angle you mentioned does not go away because she wants it to.
You're right, there is no real compromise here. Only wishy feelings.
That's the part that creeps me out. He's basically middle-aged. Weird.
It sounds like he’s controlling and exerting his dominance over you in your most vulnerable state- pregnancy and postpartum. This is classic abuser behavior. My mother is like this so I cut her off indefinitely finally- she was always pretty verbally abusive but actually escalated her abuse during the end of my pregnancy and throughout the whole first year of my child’s life. I couldn’t believe it since I thought for some reason she would be more warm kind and soft hearted since I’m her daughter and had her first grandchild. Instead, it was the opposite and I was in shock from it all for a while. Her abuse even got sort of physical when nobody was around me at my child’s first birthday. Definitely consider seriously divorcing this person. I’m sorry you’re going through it all, they have more than enough money to pay child support and alimony.
Sir, that was rape.
Therapy?
You might be the side piece
As a dude, I think you're being manipulated for sex. You're “the other woman” in this scenario.
Option 1: He lied. She's his real girlfriend who's carrying his child. If you continue this relationship, just know your only function will be to give it up when he wants it, and to hear him whine about how horrible she is. You're delusional if you think he's going to be available for emotional support.
Option 2: He's telling the truth. He picks up women in bars and has unprotected sex. You may very well end up with “The Gift That Keeps on Giving.”
The best case scenario: You will NEVER be the first priority. You'll be the girlfriend of a good dad who spends lots of time away, raising the child he had with the ever present other woman he had unprotected sex with after a night of drinking.
Girl stop arguing and go bask in your toxic glory on your own. You’ll realize how weird this is when YOU ARE OLDER, which is what I meant.
So, your reasons are that she's not some brainwashed submissive bangmaid who you can hurt without any repercussions.
Break up so this woman finds someone worthy instead of your fake religious ass.
Stop paying attention of what she says and pay close attention of what she does.
My guess is he is in love with you but he knows you are not interested in him romantically. Or you have done something he disapproves of and he no longer sees you in a good light.
You already know you're right. You presumably know he's not so dumb as to not know what cheating is.
If you want accountability then give him some. As long as you stick around he doesn't have to have accountability. There's nothing in that for him. No incentive. No benefit. You can't force people to do what you want them to do, but you can walk away from them.
I respect your decision and agree with it. I lost someone to a drunk driver. She was speeding and tried to pass a car. Three people died because the driver chose to drive drunk.
This time, your bf thinks he made it home safely, but he will never be 100 percent sure because he was drunk. Plus, odds are he will do it again because he feels he got away with it.
I've been in your wife's shoes. As long as she stays medicated you have nothing to worry about. And frankly, even when s mania, or depression, occurs, it doesn't mean that she's going to do the same thing. I suggest counseling as well.
23? Sounds like she’s 16. She has a hell of a lot of growing up to do. On to the next
she shouldnt wear it at all , when did I say that?
Girl get a nose job if you want a nose job. And if your freckles are cancerous then get them zapped. But please don’t remove the fat out of your face or it will age you. I’m a big lover in plastic surgery because you only have one life, and being au natural doesn’t mean you’re living authentically. Same thing with transitioning. Do you! I have my lips done and my ex screamed at me for it and said I was already perfect and then later said he just didn’t want me to get more attention than I already did. Could be a similar case for you.
Just out of curiosity, was he like this before you got married? Or did it change over time?
I say go for it! Who cares what your ex thinks. That's the best part of him being an ex. He doesn't have to matter anymore. Go have some fun!
Therapy, go get it. So many issues to process.
After the childhood you described i would go no contact with her as watching her be a good parent now as opposed to the beatings you got is just fucking with your head.
Tell her this before you go NC, add that you are happy she learned, but it hurts to much to deal with her, then block her on everything and heal
This is rape. I'm really sorry to hear you went through it.
My suggestion is that you stop trying to get him to see your side. He never will. This relationship is dead. It's okay to mourn for it if you really feel you need to, but accept that it is dead and move on. Don't stay with a rapist.
I also urge you to contact the police, if you possibly can.
He's not your boyfriend: you don't live! in the same city, you're seeing other people, and he doesn't ever want to be seen in public with you. You're his side piece, his mistress; that's why he's so worried about “anyone” (read: his actual girlfriend) finding out he's hooking up with you.
If that's the sort or relationship you want with him, go for it, but it sounds like you want him to be your boyfriend, and he has no interest in that. So my advice is to go date someone who is interested in the same sort of relationship as you.
He’s the abusive one and be glad the trash is taking itself out.
Same
girl..therapy
I'm sorry you are in this position, it sounds really rough.
If you truly believe keeping the child is not the correct decision, but are unwilling to terminate, you should consider giving the child up for adoption.
Dude….you have to realize this isn't normal. Even if she's the sweetest girl in the world, if she's not ready to quit drugs you can't make her. Her doing in sneakily isn't a good sign either
Go on this journey with him. Go to the gym as a couple, eat the same meals. Having the accountability will make him much more likely to stick to it.
she has snapchat ? for the streeets
dude youre insane ?
It sucks the other way, too. Loving a person and not being attracted to them at all makes you feel guilty and terrible. (Or at least it made me feel that way.) If that were the case, I’d understand OP’s confusion more, but this seems easy. She doesn’t want to bang him because she doesn’t like him. Not seeing the confusing part.
Actually I didn't cheat the usual way.. I was casually talking to some people on line with no intentions on meeting them
I’m prior Air Force, so was never on a ship for months but been deployed and had plenty of friends get deployed.
When you’re away from home for so long you need some time to decompress a little bit and be yourself. It can take some time for your life to feel like it’s gone back to normalcy.
I don’t really want to use the term “uprooted” because it’s expected that you’ll be deployed when you’re in the military, but imagine a scenario where you’re gone from home in an unfamiliar place for months on end, how would you feel? Maybe you’d want to see friends and all that you haven’t seen in such a long time, most people I know just wanted to get back into their routine with work and home life. If he just got back it sounds fair he’s not planning anything yet, especially since it doesn’t sound like you were a HUGE part of his life prior. If you were like a long term partner or something of course something would be off if he didn’t want to see you pretty soon after he got back, but to me it all seems relatively normal that he’s taking his time.
“She's just reassured me that she's placed boundaries, and it's not her fault that he acts that way.”
Yes, it is HER fault. She is letting him cross boundaries and show open disrespect to her current relationship without consequence and continuing to treat him with a degree of closeness and that is encouraging him to continue on.
In your situation, I would make it clear that every time she shrugs off his disrespect for her supposed boundaries ( you know she didn't say a fucking thing to him ) or our relationship, that SHE is disrespecting our relationship. I would give her the option of hitting him with actual, very clearly defined boundaries that would include among them “no more pet names” and “no more messaging through snapchat or any other clandestined/sketchy apps… text messages, emails or phone calls only”, with these boundaries stated either over the phone or in messages, while I am present for the conversation, not some “I'll tell him later” shit… and that line-stepping over the boundaries would be met with no less than 2 days of no contact until such a time that crossing one in a minor “slip-up” degree would be uncommon enough to be genuinely seen as a true accident more than testing limits.
If she were to argue against the reasonable demand that she stop prioritizing her supposedly platonic relationship with an ex… that is still blatantly pining for her… over her supposedly serious, romantic relationship with me, I would just let her know that I am going to take the hint and remove myself from her list of options.
I’ve found that correcting someone in the moment – preferably with a hunourous put down – is an effective strategy.
Your aim is to make his behaviour not work for him.
“Ok professor know it all” (eye roll) is just the first one that comes to mind. Google funny put downs and memories the ones you think will fit.
Also when you’re going to an event, pre-warn your friends that they don’t have to laugh along if he’s offensive. If he’s teasing them and they don’t like it, tell them you’ll back them up if they tell him to cut it out.
Eg. Friend : “That’s not funny Jack, stop saying that” You: (jumping in before you bf gets defensive): yeah cut it out Jack it’s not funny.
Exactly. Both are awful
How she feels about sex toys depends on her maturity and how she values herself as a sex partner.