It's wrong to keep this from your friend. Would you want to know? What if your friend finds out on her own, she gets betrayed by all of you because no one had the guts to tell her. Not a one of you have the guts to tell him and the other girl to knock it off, that's shameful! They are both to blame for wrecking his relationship and neither one of them care. He is a cheating pos and and she's just a s*ut! Do the right thing and tell her! She will be devastated and humiliated if she finds out and not a one of her friends had her back
Try? Try for what? He cheated on you, lied about it, and used that lie to manipulate you into marriage.
You can try (as you have been) all you want, but he clearly has zero respect for you or your relationship. Sticking around, or giving it time, or forgiving him, or letting him get away with what he did is not going to make him magically step up and become a good, honest, faithful husband.
In fact, nothing will — he has demonstrated that he does not care about your feelings or relationship.
It’s nude to leave a relationship that is familiar and (arguably) comfortable, but if you stay, he will cheat on you again if he hasn’t already.
Sorry, I’m way too inexperienced with Reddit, and this post got more comments than expected. For further background because I don’t know how to edit posts, we had met and visited before moving in, but were 900 miles away, so it was a long distance relationship. The last 15 years I spent in an abusive marriage, so my self esteem and relationship experience is lacking. To be honest, he doesn’t hit me, so he’s miles above any relationship I’ve had. I know that’s not an excuse, but I was convinced I’d never find anyone who would like me, so when I met him, it was like I had gotten another chance
It's wrong to keep this from your friend. Would you want to know? What if your friend finds out on her own, she gets betrayed by all of you because no one had the guts to tell her. Not a one of you have the guts to tell him and the other girl to knock it off, that's shameful! They are both to blame for wrecking his relationship and neither one of them care. He is a cheating pos and and she's just a s*ut! Do the right thing and tell her! She will be devastated and humiliated if she finds out and not a one of her friends had her back
Try? Try for what? He cheated on you, lied about it, and used that lie to manipulate you into marriage.
You can try (as you have been) all you want, but he clearly has zero respect for you or your relationship. Sticking around, or giving it time, or forgiving him, or letting him get away with what he did is not going to make him magically step up and become a good, honest, faithful husband.
In fact, nothing will — he has demonstrated that he does not care about your feelings or relationship.
It’s nude to leave a relationship that is familiar and (arguably) comfortable, but if you stay, he will cheat on you again if he hasn’t already.
Sorry, I’m way too inexperienced with Reddit, and this post got more comments than expected. For further background because I don’t know how to edit posts, we had met and visited before moving in, but were 900 miles away, so it was a long distance relationship. The last 15 years I spent in an abusive marriage, so my self esteem and relationship experience is lacking. To be honest, he doesn’t hit me, so he’s miles above any relationship I’ve had. I know that’s not an excuse, but I was convinced I’d never find anyone who would like me, so when I met him, it was like I had gotten another chance