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Date: October 22, 2022
I appreciate your opinion.
You can be upset about anything that upsets you.
OP, in many places breaking your own things in an argument with a partner is illegal. Why? Because it is an abusive thing to do with the sole intention of intimidating you. If he was really channeling his anger in a healthy way as he claims, he wouldn't break anything. He would get angry, put on his jogging shoes and go for a run. What he is doing is ALREADY abuse and, yes, it will escalate.
Understandable. Some people just don’t know how to behave properly. It’s on you if you can get over this or not. Maybe take a break from him so you can sort your feelings
Looking at previous posts by OP, she wasn't invited at all. He could have actually said that, but he chose not to.
Hey! First of all i'm so sorry that you had to go through that. Both the assault and having to deal with your boyfriends change. In my opinion I think there are two options in this situation, option 1 is to talk to him about it, as you mentioned in the post he doesn't know it's trauma related to SA, I know it's probably scary and difficult but it may help to mention that to him, to really convey the importance of him respecting your boundary. Obviously you don't have to go into detail, just saying “this trauma was caused by SA”. The other option is to end things with him. I know that might seem harsh but you communicated a boundary when you first got together and he has disrespected that boundary. Not only that he is disregarding how impactful it is to you. I'm assuming he can see that you're having panic attacks and can tell you're extremely upset by it. If someone cares about you, keeping a beard should not be worth your mental health. On top of that, him trying to convince you to have sex with him despite you being clearly upset is an extremely big red flag to me. And I am so sorry you're seeing this side of him a year down the line. If I were in this situation, I would explain to him why it is so upsetting to me and if he didn't immediately shave it off and apologize profusely for his behaviour and make a significant change, It would be over for me.
i also want to add, there is no timeline for when you need to be over it. That is your decision, and your bodies decision. This kind of healing doesn't have a set timeline and i find it extremely rude and cruel for him to expect you to just “be over it”. Ive had some difficult experiences related to SA and abuse in my life, i'm also in therapy and have been slowly healing but i still get triggered often, my partner tries his best to be there for me and be understanding. You deserve better and you will be able to find someone kinder and more understanding than him if you choose to end things
Your partner sounds fucking crazy
Yep i just realized this is a dumb post, I guess I was overthinking about what she actually thinks about me, which nobody else can answer. I am so nervous about this since I don’t want to mess things up so I probably panic posted this haha. I’m just gonna spend more time with her as a friend and improve myself accordingly and hopefully it works out, and even if it doesn’t I’d still appreciate a close friend with so much similarities.
? the talbots gift card!!!
It was my account, i posted it there first but the community wasn't active.
She's selfish, you do a party knowing the circumstances then she leaves with her mates, goes n gets hammered and asks you to pick her up when you're drunk ?♀️ that's some cheek
Meh, I don’t like this….
If he didn’t have anything recent, why would you even be worried? Is he that unattractive that you don’t think any girl would swipe on him? iPhone does have the “remove from home screen” option as well. Chances are, he’s not lying. Plus, why would you be worried about him having an app he hasn’t done anything on? I mean, if I were you, I would calculate the number of girls he matches with. Maybe he doesn’t get swiped on, but chances are – he probably was a dumbass and though deleting the app (because when you delete an iPhone app, it says you delete all data) and he didn’t want to lose all the girls he had matched on. So he cancelled and then removed the app (even though deleting you do keep all your history). But chances are he wasn’t sure about you at first, or whoever he deleted the app for, but was scared to lose a potential match so chose to just delete the app from his Home Screen. The fact he hasn’t used the app in over a year, I would not worry. Don’t ruin your relationship because you don’t believe him when he’s telling the truth.
We have had a conversation on boundaries, it just falls into the gray area of what is and isn’t. I suppose we should’ve got a little more in depth. I just feel sick right now and i’m really rethinking things.
If I'm not taking shit from you or anyone else, that shows I have a spine
First he doesn't have any right to look through your phone. Second he's controlling and third he's abusive Your body is responding to trauma. I experienced this. Get out before it gets worse
Oh come on this is a troll right? No grown man is this oblivious right…? Ugh
I feel like there’s more nuance than being uncomfortable with a partner watching porn of other people being controlling. If you disagree then that’s fine, we can have different views?
She can kick rocks lol
cheating bastard
i’m gonna throw up that’s sick ?
In the meantime what could be a celebration for her?
Leaving her alone and giving her space.
I’m currently trying to take off as many things off her plate as I can to free her up. So she’d have mental energy for whatever she wants. But I’d like to do and show more than that.
Great start. Make a list of all the things she did by herself everyday for the last 2 years. Now start doing all of them so she doesn’t have to. Expect nothing in return because you gave her nothing and let her work through her feelings.
She wants space because she’s burnt out and has been alone in the marriage for 2+ years like you said. Nothing you do now is going to change that and honestly the more you try to pull her in (love bomb) the more angry and repulsed she’ll get. All you can do is explain why you acted they way you did and she’ll decide what’s next.
Your actions might have not been intentional but consequences still follow. Your living the consequence of neglecting your marriage for 2 years.
Honestly this is just sad. Your family seems more supportive of your cheating ex then their own who is hurting. He hurt you and they are dismissing that. They are choosing him, but you need to choose you.
You need to tell them that if they decide to stay in contact with someone who chose to hurt you then they can accept the fact that you won’t be their lives. They are your family and they should support you and comfort you.
Hello again everyone. I posted this story today, but from a different profile (Mindless_Cucamber_76). I am new to reddit and really have no idea how to work it. I really just want to share my story, so I am trying again. Thank you to all who commented on my previous post. I never realized how many amazing people are on here and I really appreciate the many advises I was given.
This is a long story that really started some 15 years ago. It really impacted my (33F) life, so please bear with me.
When I was 18 and in my senior year of high school I really believed my life was on a good track. I lived with with with my parents and 4 siblings (23M, 22M, 20F, 14F) and spent most of my days hanging out with my best friend Ashley (18F) and/or my boyfriend of three years Kyle (20M). Both Ashley's and Kyle's parents were best friends with my parent, so I knew both of them since we were in diapers. We spent holidays together, birthdays and visited each other all the time as we lived in the same town. Ashley's been my friend for 18 years and she truly was the person I trusted with everything. Sometimes our parents would joke that we are connected by the hip as we were together all the time. I've been dating Kyle for the last 3 years. I believed he was the love of my life and the one I would eventually marry. We were quite serious and even talked about getting married after he finished college (he was a sophomore at that point). Although I had every plan on going to university, I was quite content with the idea of being married to Kyle and being a stay-at-home mom. My parents loved Kyle and supported our relationship. I really was happy. (I think I should note here that my sister 20 F was also dating Kyle's brother 23M and that all our siblings were very close).
One day, at the beginning of the school year, I noticed that Ashley was being very melancholic and detached. After a while of prodding, she told me she was pregnant. I was very surprised because I didn't know she and her boyfriend broke up a while ago and I didn't know she had anyone else like that in her life. I asked her who the father was and she didn't want to talk about it, but in a way implied that the ex was the father. She was absolutely distraught, so I dropped the topic and just consoled her. I was with her when she told her family and while her parents were disappointed, they promised to support her in whatever she decides. They tried to make her share the dad's name but she refused and made me promise to stay quiet (They did not know she had a boyfriend at one point). I was there for her for the next nine months. I went with her for an ultrasound, doc's appointments. I was there for her when she was bullied in school for being pregnant, I helped her set up the nursery, I was there when she was sick or just felt down, I held a baby shower for her, went shopping with her, I even took some parenting classes with her. We chose names together and she even asked me to be with her in the delivery room. I noticed that the pregnancy was really taking a toll on her emotionally and physically and I tried to support her in every way possible. She was my best friend, always there for me and I loved her.
Some 2 weeks before her due date I went to the mall to run some errands and ran into her ex. Although I promised never to contact her, the knowledge of my friend's emotional state sent me into a fit of anger and I confronted him. I gave him a piece of my mind, told him what a piece of shit he was for leaving his ex pregnant and alone and not caring for his unborn child. He was shocked and said that he had no idea what I was talking about. Ashley never told him about the pregnancy and when I told him she was 9 months pregnant at the time, he said that it was not possible for him to be the father as they broke up over a year ago and had no relations since then. I was confused but apologized for yelling at him in the middle of the mall. After that, he became snarky, said some nasty stuff, and mentioned that maybe I should ask Ashley's friend Kyle if he is the Daddy. I didn't really think about his words in any way. Kyle and Ashley have been friends their entire lives, we were always very close (because of our parents' relationship), but they never showed any sign of being anything more.
That evening my younger sister (14F) and I were preparing to have a movie night. I began ranting to her about confronting Ashley's ex and his words. My sister, who is usually very outspoken, got quiet and didn't really respond to anything I said. After a while, she excused herself and went to the bathroom. I decided to go and get some snack and went downstairs to the kitchen and heard younger sister berating my mother. This part of my memory is really fuzzy as I was dealing with lots of emotions. My sister told my mom about me running into Ashley's ex and his words and told my mom she no longer wanted to hide from me the fact that Kyle was Ashley's baby's father. I was shocked. Absolutely shocked. I stumbled into the kitchen and demanded an explanation. Both my mom and my sister became white as a sheet when they saw me and my sister started crying her eyes out. My sister explained to me (some things I also learned from other people later) that appear during the end of the summer break Kyle and Ashley attended the same house party, got drunk, and slept together. Ashley got pregnant and told Kyle but they were both ''ashamed'' and afraid of telling me. They also didn't share this with their parents. Ashley however couldn't keep the secret and told her mom and dad, who told Kyle's parents and later to mine as well. This all happened when Ashley was in her first trimester. By her second trimester all of my siblings, Kyle's and Ashley's siblings knew about this. Everyone, except for me. I simply cannot explain the way I felt. I was physically ill for the next 3 days and I couldn't speak to anyone. My parents were apologetic but explained that they didn't want to see me hurt or ruin everyone's relationship. I did not speak with Kyle or Ashley, although they bombarded my phone with messages and calls and also came to my house, I refused to see them. At one point Kyle's mom came to our house and my mom allowed her into my room. While I was lying in my bed still ill and just emotionally drained from the betrayal she tried to convince me to forgive them and how Ashley and the baby need me. I said nothing.
First. You are in an abusive relationship. Who bought the cat? Cats are property legally speaking. You need to get out of this relationship. I know it’s painful to think of losing your cat but you can’t stay in this toxic situation because of the cat.
Thank you for your advice.
I've suggested relationship counseling and she refuses. I can even get it free from work. But she thinks it's a scam and relationship issues are to be dealt with privately. If you love someone than you will change the behaviour thats causing the issues. If you don't love someone than the issues persist because you don't want to try/put effort in. I'm paraphrasing her.
There has to be more to the story and having those games with your mom and dad gross lol. You need to be straight the worse thing she was with someone else ?? Maybe idk just ask her and give us an update. When I thought my husband was being weird I just asked him
Exactly.
Man-babies will have you turning grey prematurely.