Honestly this sounds like me when I first got my dog, I got him last December and it was the hardest thing in my life to do. I was crying and it was a lot because it was just me and him and all I wanted to do was rant.
I worked on training him, walking him, and also socializing and now a year later he’s my best friend. But I also thought about giving him up many times in the beginning.
I would honestly just let your wife rant, puppies are children and they are a lot of work. It doesn’t sound like she’s treating him badly. I don’t see anything wrong with a puppy laying on the bed playing with one toy every once in a while and that’s the only thing I’ve seen you mention. And ofc she gets frustrated.
I would let her rant instead of trying to “level with her” if she’s calling you to rant let her. She’s under some stress right now and doesn’t sound like she wants ideas just someone to talk to, which is all I wanted when I first got my dog
Ok, this might be a dumb analogy but just trying to get through to OP, so bear with me…
Imagine you want to make a big, important purchase. Say, a couch. You don't want to purchase the wrong one, since it's an important decision, so you spend 5 years researching, price comparing, reading reviews, until you've decided on which couch to buy. You're confident that's the couch you want, but for whatever reason, you don't feel the timing is right to make the purchase yet. You have the funds, you know what you want but it's a big decision and a big change and you'd rather wait another 5-10 years to fully prepare yourself for buying this couch.
Then, someone comes along and says “why the heck don't you just purchase the dang couch if you've already decided that's the one you want?!” and puts it in your online shopping cart. You're one simple click away from purchasing your couch! But now you're feeling anxious and reluctant to hit the “purchase” button because it's all happening “so fast”. When in fact, you've already had 5 YEARS to contemplate and ALREADY MAKE this decision!
…If this is really the woman you want to marry, she is giving you the opportunity to still make that happen. She's even trying to help make taking this next step easier by helping pick out the ring and everything. Please realize that waiting years and years will not only be unlikely to make you feel any more “ready” than you do currently, you will also miss out on the opportunity to have this woman as your wife. So even if you did feel ready then, you might not be able to find someone you want to settle down with!
However, if the reason you are reluctant to propose is because you're having doubts about spending the rest of your life with her, please do some soul searching and determine why and if there are things you can work on with her or if it's better to part ways.
She's a hoe
Honestly this sounds like me when I first got my dog, I got him last December and it was the hardest thing in my life to do. I was crying and it was a lot because it was just me and him and all I wanted to do was rant.
I worked on training him, walking him, and also socializing and now a year later he’s my best friend. But I also thought about giving him up many times in the beginning.
I would honestly just let your wife rant, puppies are children and they are a lot of work. It doesn’t sound like she’s treating him badly. I don’t see anything wrong with a puppy laying on the bed playing with one toy every once in a while and that’s the only thing I’ve seen you mention. And ofc she gets frustrated.
I would let her rant instead of trying to “level with her” if she’s calling you to rant let her. She’s under some stress right now and doesn’t sound like she wants ideas just someone to talk to, which is all I wanted when I first got my dog
Ok, this might be a dumb analogy but just trying to get through to OP, so bear with me…
Imagine you want to make a big, important purchase. Say, a couch. You don't want to purchase the wrong one, since it's an important decision, so you spend 5 years researching, price comparing, reading reviews, until you've decided on which couch to buy. You're confident that's the couch you want, but for whatever reason, you don't feel the timing is right to make the purchase yet. You have the funds, you know what you want but it's a big decision and a big change and you'd rather wait another 5-10 years to fully prepare yourself for buying this couch.
Then, someone comes along and says “why the heck don't you just purchase the dang couch if you've already decided that's the one you want?!” and puts it in your online shopping cart. You're one simple click away from purchasing your couch! But now you're feeling anxious and reluctant to hit the “purchase” button because it's all happening “so fast”. When in fact, you've already had 5 YEARS to contemplate and ALREADY MAKE this decision!
…If this is really the woman you want to marry, she is giving you the opportunity to still make that happen. She's even trying to help make taking this next step easier by helping pick out the ring and everything. Please realize that waiting years and years will not only be unlikely to make you feel any more “ready” than you do currently, you will also miss out on the opportunity to have this woman as your wife. So even if you did feel ready then, you might not be able to find someone you want to settle down with!
However, if the reason you are reluctant to propose is because you're having doubts about spending the rest of your life with her, please do some soul searching and determine why and if there are things you can work on with her or if it's better to part ways.