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Can’t really disagree with you there. I’m just saying that men are still going to be worried about that.
Oh and by the way did you comment a few hours ago? I saw a notification with the same text, but when i came to check the comment was gone
Yeah that's why this girl will be changing boyfriends every six months. Good luck for you too
Stay out of it all.
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If you give oral, it's a reasonable expectation to expect oral. You could withhold oral until he reciprocated, you could still have regular sex. I enjoy oral, but I'm also ready to reciprocate, so, it's not really an issue in my relationship.
It sounds like you don't know why he is hesitant/resisting so, you need to figure that out. Also, it's important to express boundaries before something happens as opposed to after.
But venting to a male friend about sexual frustration is considered a classic sign of intent to cheat, so, I understand, from your perspective it might not have seemed like a bad idea. But, if you don't have clearly expressed boundaries it's best to figure those out in advance.
If you believe it's a you issue, eating pineapple and mango really improves flavor, drinking alcohol, specifically beer gives you a watery bitter flavor. If you are drinking to blackout status, that means your flavor is definitely negatively impacted. You don't need to stop drinking, but, probably 2-3 vegetables per drink is the ratio you would want to keep.
Good luck
OP says that it was a culmination of many other things that drove her to that point… it’s not that she was so sexually frustrated that she got blackout drunk ?
I don’t disagree that OPs boyfriend is seriously dropping the ball but… I think some unnecessary dots are being drawn there.
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Why don’t you ask her?
If this is a one-off then it's best to just let it go. Sometimes you go to a party, drink too much, and it's easier to just crash.
I’m a 90s girl we just slept with whoever we want to sleep with their wasn’t really reason for titles and then eventually we grew up in settle down
It shows a lack of mindfulness. Saying “I know I'm going to react a certain way” shows that you think you're not in control of your own reactions. Everyone can choose to react how they see fit.
Get help.
This is who she is, why would you continue to our up with it. You’re looking forward to a lifetime of her alienating more friends and family, the parents of your children’s friends, teachers, coaches , etc. she’s volatile, combative, prone to historians. And she used ignoring you and sex to manipulate you. Save the taxes, go for primary custody. She has mental health issues.
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Please call the police! Elder abuse is not fucking funny and these ppl are assholes
You aren’t compatible. She’s not wrong for doing what she wants with her body but she should have brought it up sooner as she knows if not normal. She shouldn’t have to change for you and you shouldn’t have to change for her.
Well said and spot on! Let's just sweep all the bad shit under the rug so the family reputation isn't tarnished, and we don't have to explain to people why Uncle Pedo isn't around anymore. So fucking disgusting. OP needs to throw that whole disgusting family away and be his brother's legal guardian.
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People absolutely abuse Benadryl to get high. r/DPH is a sad sub.
Well, whoever she had a fling with dumped her, so she's back.
If you take her back, it will only last as long as it takes for her to find her next fling… plus you will drive yourself crazy trying to get these questions answered that she refuses to answer.
To just up and leave a long term marriage with no explanation is simply abusive. To ask to return with no explanations is doubly so.
Learn to listen without saying anything. I had to learn by asking my coworkers to stop if I tried to hijack a conversation. Helped alot
As we say here in Brazil “you don't enter the soccer field without kissing the grass first”
Wow, what a story, and so many questions! Did they catch the guy who murdered your co-worker and his family? What was the motive? And how did your ex react when you just texted back “no, thank you”?
I’m so sorry you were unfortunate to cross paths with this asshole. Please know this isn’t about you. Some people are so unfulfilled in their own selves that they need a constant supply of validation from other people to function. Even if that validation isn’t even real. It’s very very hot for me to explain what I’m trying to say with words, but I think your girlfriend is deeply unhappy and unstable in herself and isn’t able to offer anyone else stability. She needs to work on herself and learn how not to be a c*nt. And you need to dump her ass.
If he lives at home, it’s not going to change.
Let him know it's his friend. There are men out there that think sex toys are the enemy. Like, seriously, I rather have sex if I was given a choice.
Well the nicer interpretation would be that he said it during your argument but regretted it afterwards. Then you both started playing games he because he didn't want to confess that he was stupid and you idk.
That is truly why, because from an outside perspective I know people would tell me he’s not worth it and to leave. Even before this incident.
I believe/believed in him so much, he could be great and doesn’t care. I have honestly believed that he’s shown me he can so easily be good. Those glimpses are where I’ve thought me supporting him and getting to a place where we can be fully happy together have kept me in the relationship. I’m not a very boastful person but this is honestly where I can say I have been a GREAT partner (or at least for the first 3 years depending on how you view the situation) and I didn’t want to see that be wasted.
Especially when we were 15-17 and things could be chalked up to immaturity and growing together. If we had started our relationship now I don’t believe I would have put up with it due to being older. I might be wrong tho.
You’ve been with your gf for just over a year and a half. She has a 14 year old teenager. All of you need lessons in appropriateness in a shared house. It’s not appropriate for any of you to be walking around half hard. Especially with so many young girls molested by their mothers boyfriend. I don’t care if you say you get along with her, this whole thing screams no decorum and trashy.
Tell your father what you know and suspect about your mother, and then let him take over the responsibility of finding out the rest. But also just say that you suspect and how you feel about the situation with your mother. Your father deserves to know that you feel put in a difficult situation with the way your mother is behaving. You may not know everything about your parents. Maybe they have an open relationship. But if she is unfaithful, she is not only playing with her life but also your father's (STD's and more). Also tell him he should find out more before talking to your mother.
Maybe he knows a way to stop me from tasting it? Also how long does that taste stay? I don't kiss him at 6 AM in the morning obviously.
He fully admits they weren’t using any protection beyond a vague adherence to the calendar. I think it’s safe to say it’s his kid.
I’m guessing that when he watched your show, there was little to no overt hatred against men. The same cannot be said for Game of Thrones. So the two experiences really can’t be equated, and I hope he understands that.
I didn’t read the whole thing, but is he in any treatment for the BPD? People with BPD really need help to be able to hold down relationships.
No leave her be.
It took years for our house not to smell like a rancid ashtray. Smoking kills your sense of smell – you don't realize how much until you've quit and your sense of smell has eventually returned. I am mortified to think about how gross I smelled for years. Silly me thought that cheap Bath & Body Works body spray masked the scent.
Time to cut bait sailor, time to cut bait… you are in the prime of your dating life, don't get tied down with someone who isn't giving you what you need. Sounds like she has issues around exclusivity and monogamy, while those are traits you are expecting. This will NOT magically change after marriage. If you go forward with the marriage you should expect to be divorced within a few years, or living a life of misery.
There are tons of other people out there who match what you want out of a partner, I guarentee it. I was in a similar situation when I was your age and was really broken up about it. Girlfriend and I were living together and she spent valentine's with her “best friend” who was also a guy. I was lucky to get the advice from an older friend that I just gave you in the last paragraph. I broke up with her within a week and asked her to move out. Took some time off from dating to find myself, next girl I dated ended up being my wife.
I dont wanna say she has it easy but as a single mother to 2 who never had a nanny or help…she has it easy breezy compared to most mothers in the world. Im going to assume she is either depressed (maybe she should get a hobby that takes her away from the kids and back with adults) or she has PPD (its a depression too but completely different). Its easy to “lose yourself” when you become a parent, no matter how much help you have. Do you take her out on dates? I see you say what you do for the family but do you do things for your wife as a wife and not just the mother of your children?
Ok, honestly the age gap at the current age you both are in will raise eyebrows. There are just too many stories of weirdos manipulating younger women. Having said that – it might also work out great. It really depends on the individuals. Have you talked to your parents about him at all?
I asked him if he’s scared around me and my family members, and he said yes with zero hesitation.
Then he cannot have a relationship with you. You cannot have a relationship with someone who you are scared off.
I told him that a relationship is completely built on trust, that if he’s scared of all white people then us being together is fundamentally flawed, and that if he really sees a future with me then that mindset would need to change, at the very least towards me and my family.
Valid point and well presented!
He got mad and told me that I was trying to erase his experiences as a POC
No, you're not trying to do that. I think your boyfriend is delusional or trying to manipulate you into feeling guilty.
I’m completely lost on what to do.
There is no trust between you and him. He is scared of you and you doubt his motives for being with you. No trust = no relationship. I'm sorry but I think it is better to break up and move on.
You are not ready to have a girlfriend.
Imagine consuming misogynistic content and applying it to someone you apparently care about!
Why should she stay sober to keep your insecurities in check?
You're 23 going on 10. And I'm being kind.
It is a human thing, not a woman thing. But if you want to know why women might be more susceptible, then it's time to start unpacking the reality of fractured support networks as well as the effect of an entire gender largely being raised to see
Well said!
This right her OP. That co-worker needs to fuck right off with her jealousy. If you don't feel comfortable telling her so, your husband needs to step the fuck up and do it. If she is escalating anything, it's best you block her. You don't need this.
Only you know if your marriage is salvageable. This is so something I can not do. I'm a one man only woman and intimacy with that one person is huge on my “”getting it on” list. Ugh. this is such a fucking mess for you. I just want to hug you. God your husband is such a selfish dickwad. I can't even right now for you.
Lol she’s married dude. Even if by the smallest chance she would consider it, that just tells you if she’s doing this to her husband she’s gonna do it to you.
Staying together because she's pregnant would not be good for anyone involved
I'm just thinking about the millions of terrible childhoods that could have been made better if only this idea were socially acceptable for the past millennia.
So his retirement plans have been foiled by her ketchup consumption? Really?! I guess you hear about something new every day.
I think you should just cut your loss man. Even if it’s not a big deal now you’re saving yourself the headache if it comes up again later.
Your additional income is funding her spending habit essentially.
Nobody plays 20 hours a day and still fit in work and sleep. The exaggerating is not helping me gauge for a good advice here.
But it would be something along the lines of either you accept someone's lifestyle or you find another person who more matches your own.
Apparently.
It's weird as hell to me.
As a woman, I think this is a great first date idea. Bravo
Since she agreed, she likes you, and is at least curious about playing, so I wouldn’t worry about her getting bored.
Afterwards, you can ask if she is hungry and wants a snack or something and go from there.
As for letting her win, that might depend on how competitive she is. If she’s really trying to win, I wouldn’t necessarily say to let her, just don’t wipe the floor with her.
His brother does know. It was his brothers wife’s sister and him that cheated together
This is a joke, right?
Tell him to leave. It isn't a choice. It is over.
You have far too much going for you to be dragged down by some guy who lives off you or his parents. He is nearing 30 and has no ambition. You on the other hand sound like you could really do well for yourself.
As the great Logan Roy says, tell him to “FUCK OFF”
Grow your nails??? Was with you until you asked for extended time to get ready lol. Enough heads up for a salon trip should be enough right?
If he has the stones to do this with his daughter right there imagine how often this must work for him
I think the daughter will find out and not care but tell anyway just in case
Please let it go. I know it hurts but you were not exclusive. Maybe seek therapy to work through this. If he hasn't done anything wrong since you have been exclusive then just leave it alone and move forward otherwise it will eat away at you and your mental health is more important than what he has done before you became a couple.
Where’s the TL;DR version? So much paragraphs talking about things that don’t correlate to the title at all lol.
he wants me to be a muslim
Thank you for the reply!
I'm starting to feel better about the situation and understanding her side of things. I've been raised in not rejecting a gift so that's why it was foreign to me.
I agree that in future I will stick to one small thing instead of several or I will just take her out than get a gift.
Grow up.
I agree but it would be an extremely uncomfortable conversation regardless of the answer and I am looking for more subtle solutions I suppose.
I feel like most posts on here have too much nuance (and a whole other side) to give proper advice on. It's pretty obvious when things are break up worthy (dangerous, incompatible core values/life goals, etc), but when it comes down to more trivial things, it'd be more helpful to have a post where one person types out their side, the other person types out theirs (they don't have the option to read each other's until after posted), and then see what people think. But that's far past wishful thinking lol!
He's been saying that i need to get over myself yesterday on cleanliness ?
Throw out words like toxic and misogynistic for upvotes got it. He doesn't have any fucked up ideas about marriage it's about divorce.
Sorry misread. Then give him an ultimatum in your mind by when you'll leave him.
He made a joke about raping. Raping you. And then he said it wouldn't be rape.
Run, my girl, run.
This is a good point, bacterial transfer is a huge risk too.
Goddamn. I've got six weeks to go and I'm not excited. I need mine to bust out of my chest like they are from Alien
I see where they’re coming from, there is a lot of deep seeded insecurities for women because of the comments and degradation we have received for our entire lives regarding loose vs tight vaginas. We’ve been conditioned to believed that loose = bad because men in our lives and online make constant correlations between looseness and promiscuity. So I totally understand the insecurities and frustration of these women, I’ve definitely been there.
I think my job has just given me personally a lot of insight into female anatomy and given me a comfortability talking about the subject. I hope these women can learn the same, but it’s obviously a touchy subject for some very valid reasons.
But ultimately, it’s not helpful to OP. She has said multiple times that her boyfriend has no issues with “death grip syndrome” or small penis and that their relationship is healthy. But people keep insisting that he is either negging or in the wrong somehow. They’re totally ignoring her point of view to persist with their own biases. It is definitely frustrating, but again, I can’t say I blame them
Your boyfriend is an idiot. Instead of taking the compliment that you are so turned on you feel “loose” he is blaming his insecurities on you.
Tell him what your experience is, and how it makes you feel. Be careful about saying “You do this”. Instead, say “I experience X, it makes me feel Y”.
Also, let him do a lot of the talking. Tell him that you've thought about that you seem to be making the plans most of the time. Ask him (in a curious way, not in a judgmental way) what he thinks about that. Be very open to what he has to say, he might think about dating in another way than you, and it might not be bad, just different. Maybe he'll have some thoughts about it that will surprise you.
You can also say outright that you worry about coming of as needy, and that you want to communicate in a calm and healthy manner.
Finding a therapist can be overwhelming. Especially for someone who needs therapy. I can understand that. We’re gonna sit down and make a script and go through the list together.
Finding a therapist can be overwhelming. Especially for someone who needs therapy. I can understand that. We’re gonna sit down and make a script and go through the list together.
I sent him a happy Eid message. I’m just waiting for a response now. I know it’s as easy as messaging again but when it comes to dating it feels really pathetic so I never do it. Please wish me luck ??
Finding a therapist can be overwhelming. Especially for someone who needs therapy. I can understand that. We’re gonna sit down and make a script and go through the list together.
woah. @poormandnigella is right. and I’m sorry for that experience.
go back to your place. kick him out. he will continue to steal from you.
start separating all his shit. start selling to make up for what he stole.
I don’t know. just get him out and stop enabling him. he’s behaving as a child. not an adult.
if you dont want to date a fat guy, dont start dating a fat guy
concerned about his health, right
RED FLAG!!!!!!!
I mean if that’s enough to make him not want to be around you then dump him