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her discomfort with something that, i agree, is not really that hardcore at all, has led her to say things and pull back from you in a way that has immediately made you feel insecure not about the relationship alone, but about yourself at your core. and that's not okay.
maybe she can adjust and just realize that she has a personal trigger in this area she needs to look into a bit more. or maybe you two aren't as compatible as you thought. better to learn this early, at least. you definitely deserve not to feel less than and to have your sense of self pulled down by this. i know it can be nude not to internalize someone else's biases, but it's super important here. there's nothing gross or dirty or embarrassing about you wearing any kind of heels.
Drinks do not go on couches, at all. Unless they are in your hand as you drink them. Never to be put down on the couch though.
Oh no! I'm so sorry about your kitten.
I hope you know the rest of the kittens are better, of course you do. And you are still grieving over the dead kitten. I am so sorry, you were protecting them and I am sure you feel horrible for putting them in danger.
I hope you are able to heal from this.
I once tried to save some baby possums and because of circumstances of space and my work schedule, my cat killed one. This was over 15 years ago, I still feel like shit. I wish you the very best. Your partner should make you feel calm, happy, and loved. I also wish you get there.
I have a feeling that it will come down to one thing. She has come from a string of abusive relationships and is really not willing to reopen those old wounds just yet.
Do men where you online not have sweaters, workout gear, bedding, or a single dress outfit?
Sorry that's gossip. Maybe not the “closing the call center” example, but definitely talking about the accountant fired for embezzling. I'd normally say no offense, but in this case I can't. People like you are what's wrong with toxic work environments. If I had a gun to my head, I would say you were early to mid twenties. Seriously, get a real life and stop trying to manufacture one.
Apologize for being a complete idiot. You need to mean it and say you realized how stupid and immature it was to ask that not to mention insensitive. That in the future you won't ask dumb questions like that. And again you need to mean it all.
Info:do you talk to your gf about her brother and about what you feel he is doing to y’all’s relationship
Mmmm great advice ?
you will never be pregnant so you will never truly understand what it feels like to be pregnant and how sometimes everything changes.
Sleep training is ridiculous and usually unhealthy. None of my kids have needed it. They learn to sleep on their own in their own time. A 1 year old doesn’t need to learn to sleep by being made to cry alone.
Do some reading and research on the damage sleep training can do.
His wife is being a good parent.
Im gonna try tomorrow
You were kicked out of the party for your behavior and your friend isn't speaking to you so all of the people involved in that think you were at the very least.
Also, yes. Asking if someone enjoys watching people suffer and die is that insulting. You act like this one surgeon is personally responsible for decisions about who receives medical care; he's not. He's also not wrong that someone pays, even with free services.
All my exs are crazy is a gigantic red flag he handed you. Also any guy that says “I'm sUcH A NiCE guY” is not. r/niceguys will help you immensely.
Perhaps she has Asperger’s.
They always try to change when you want to leave but will not be able to keep it up. Trust your gut. You know this isn't right. Good luck mamma, it took me 4 years and multiple times to finally leave for real. Life gets so much better. Keep learning about narc abuse and hold onto the righteous anger you have about not being treated like this.
Halfway through I scrolled back up to check the ages expecting 18 or so, and then it was 30?!
Sorry OP but you're not ready for a man you need to work out how to be happy by yourself first.
Open relationships or poly do not save troubled relationships.
Right? Like damn girl if you've hit 30 and still this naive? My god.
But isn't he aroused by you when he sees you online, when you're together? If he's uncomfortable receiving nude pics from you, you should definitely stop sending them. It's not cool doing something that your partner has explicitly told you bothered him. But if you're doing as a sort of desperate last resort thing because you don't feel wanted by him in general, then there's a deeper issue between you two I guess.
Rapists get custody rights?
USA is becoming Gilead in our lifetimes
Is your husband an idiot?
Has he met anyone in your life?
It's ok to be done but there is no way to guarantee you won't lose her completely. That is just plain selfishness and wishful thinking. You can't have your cake and eat it too.
Jesus, see a lot of controlling douche parents. Not often we get the controlling douche kid.
Maybe your parents are assholes, maybe they aren't, but at least you have them. At least they try to be part of your life. That's better than a lot of people get. WAY better.
The strangest thing about the entire post is the edit. You don't get it? Really???
You disowned your parents because they didn't fit into your overly idealized fantasy family that you for some reason think “99%” of other people have. Your g/f, and holy god she must be a saint, thinks your position on this is patently ridiculous(which it is) and it gently trying to get you to do the right thing, but instead you come here to try and get confirmation for your backwards ass antiquated thinking.
“For her sake, I will try.” Right dude. We won't hold our breath.
It seems you already have a seed of doubt planted in your mind because of what happened, given the age gap between you two I think it may be better for you to go your separate ways. I say this because the maturity of an 18 year old guy ain’t it, I thought I was mature at the age but I couldn’t have been more wrong lol.
Plus, she hasn't even gone back to work yet. It's also a little too soon since the twins would be about 18 months old. That would be 4 babies. She's not being practical or realistic.
Well , if he keeps bringing up the female figure issue then he is not satisfied with you and will probably never be. You don’t want that in a partner.
Ok, so after reading your comments, you both watch porn, sometimes together, sex 2 times a week, you only jerk it a couple times a month. I'm even more confused than I was a minute ago. I'm going to need an update when you find out what's going on.
This woman sounds like she's using him hence why she's moving fast.
We are both good at communicating
Oh honey. It doesn't sound like you are…
He always asked what do I see him as or what do I want from him
What did you say when he asked you this? Was he agreeing with you or literally saying nothing?
Have you discussed being exclusive (ie. not dating or sleeping with other people)? Maybe that's why he has condoms in his car. As for wanting to dispose of them himself, has he said anything to indicate he doesn't trust you with them? Maybe he just thinks it's the gentlemanly thing to do bc used condoms are a bit gross to deal with..?
It’s extremely rare for an abortion to affect future fertility
And none of that helps her now so don't be an asshole dragging it up while she's still in a vulnerable position.
My family doesn't allow healthy boundaries without severing ties.
You're just his girlfriend, not his wife. At any moment you could fall out of love, fall for someone else, decide that you grew apart, or just want to end relationship without any reason to. And no one will blame you. But he's supposed to put you ahead of person who's likely going to remain in his life until they die? Person that can't just quit on him one day because they no longer felt like it anymore? Person that likely has real responsibility towards him?
That said, it's worrisome that his mom “makes the plans and he can't change them”. He should be able to pick up the phone, make a call and see if he can change plans. Why can't he change them? Does his mother rule his life with an iron fist? If she's really intrusive that also is worrisome.
It sounds like she's having an affair with him and using a business trip as an excuse. Business trips don't happen in someone's apartment, just her and the boss and nobody else. And the fact she's so sure he won't try anything again is because the stuff she told you before is all lies.
This is disgusting.
When someone threatens suicide you call emergency services. Full stop. You’re not equipped to deal with it if they’re telling the truth, and if they’re using it as a manipulation tactic they’ll learn not to.
Tell him he needs to leave.
What’s the point of establishing boundaries if you’re not gonna enforce any consequences when they’re broken?
With a skull and crossbones on it!!
Women are always at fault for sex again?
No one is saying that at all. Get out of here with that nonsense.
There is a difference between being drunk and being so drunk that you literally remember nothing. There absolutely is a point where people (men or women) are unable to consent due to being too drunk or high.
We don't know how drunk she was or how things went down to know if this was rape or not. But when one person was so drunk that they don't remember anything, whether they got sexually assaulted or had consensual sex is a topic that should be discussed.
You're allowed to have that boundary around porn. He's also allowed to disagree and find someone more compatible. But he is not allowed to lie and walk on your feelings. I think there are other men out there who would respect you more…
So we'll let the dicks hang out from the man's pants
For starters, don't say tranny. It's transphobic.
Anyways, moving past that. Whether you want to admit it or not, you are 100% in an emotionally abusive and immature relationship. That much is pretty easy to see.
That being said I'm going to try to give you realistic advice. Please remember I'm in no way saying its easy. But yes you should probably leave him.
You are young. You both have a lot of growing up to do. He is abusive and by the sounds of it immature. He needs to make changes in order for any long term relationship. The only reason it works on you is because you've been together so long and you mention your dad was also abusive, so it probably seems normal to you. It's not. You've never learned what being in a healthy relationship is. But you seem to understand and are realizing it's not.
The changes he needs to make are probably not going to happen while you two are together. I'm sorry but they're just probably not. Sometimes people only change when they know they lost you or can lose you. Even then, some people just do not change. This is not something you should try to do with people who are abusive.
You need to start making an escape plan. You have been with him since you were 15 so don't feel bad about being in this position financially relying on him.
As for you, you need to learn what a healthy relationship is.
Fair enough
DTMFA
Now we have one job and I’m getting fed up cause we’re older now and parents getting in the way doesn’t seem like a positive thing for the future
I would just be open with him. Tell him it's getting to the point where you're growing tired of it.
Honesty might hurt, but if it helps open his eyes and wakes him up, it could be exactly what he needs. If nothing changes, then you know where his priorities lie and you can make a choice from there.
You’re right. And they didn’t just have a drink at the bar, they went multiple places, In HIS CAR where he PICKED HER UP AT OUR PLACE. I FEEL CHEATED ON
They really need couple therapy because obviously it's something he hasn't been able to get over.
Don't take the policeman answers. They are not judges.
Both of our names are on the lease. I online right next to my mom too so I don’t want to move out. I could talk to the apartment manager about it because we recently had an inspection and she saw the mattress and commented about all occupants needing to be on the lease.
I agree with your sentiments. Just one tidbit. It is possible to get those DoorDash notifications without being stalker ish if you use the same DoorDash app. I get them when my husband orders something when he’s home and I’m working or vice versa.
It sounds to me, based on your post, that you’ve been complaining that she doesn’t want to, rather than asking her why. So you’ve made it about you, not her. Maybe try approaching her with some concern about what’s going on with her instead of making it all about you not getting what you want.
Everyone seems to be mentioning different sleeping arrangements. I don’t see a problem with that. Sometimes it’s necessary and sometimes it’s not. Quality sleep is important.
OP in one of your responses you said I would have helped him if he asked. My question is did he know you would help or is he expecting a no from you and he decided to not even ask. Sometimes, waking people up aren’t always in the mood for sexual activities?
Think of this guy like a drug, for example Meth.
I cant remember the scientific terms for what meth does to your brain. But it was something like – the normal “happy chemicals” in the brain are about 200 or something. Cocaine brings those up to about 400, and meth brings them up to 1500. When you start doing meth, you experience feelings that are impossible to feel without drugs. So when you stop doing the drug, your “happy chemicals” fall to an all time low, and you feel indescribably, suicidally depressed. But when you go into rehab and stay off it for a long time, you learn to online a normal life and be happy again, even though you can't have that massive, artificial high anymore.
When you're in a tumultuous on-again-off-again relationship, your brain also goes crazy. It's so unstable and there isn't enough time for things to stabilise. So you never really get out of the infatuation phase. Instead you just stay on an emotional roller-coaster. During the good times, you feel infatuated, and your brain becomes filled with all the happy chemicals – dopamine, oxycodone (etc), and those are ADDICTIVE. But then things start to turn south, the happy chemicals drop and are replaced with stress chemicals – adrenaline, cortisol (etc) and you feel incredibly stressed, on-edge, and anxious. When things go bad, the first thing you want is a quick fix, which is to get the dopamine and oxy back (the infatuation – getting your boyfriend back and things being good again). But like a real drug, the good times don't last. It harms your body, damages your health, and makes you feel like absolute crap. Your relieved, then you're elated, then you're scared, then you're confused, then you're angry, then your depressed, then repeat, then repeat, then repeat. It never ends in this type of relationship.
He is not capable of being in a healthy relationship, and it doesn't sound like he's willing to try. He only wants you when he thinks he can't have you – he wants the safety net. But once he has you, he looks elsewhere for the “happy feelings”. This is what serial monogamists do.
In a stable relationship, the infatuation WILL go away. But your love and respect for each other should grow. This is not going to happen with him because he doesn't understand what a proper relationship is, nor does it sound like he's willing to.
The best thing you could possibly do is “rehabilitate” yourself from him. Break up, cut contact permanently, and take that time to focus on yourself and your own healing. Once you move past the initial grieving process, you will reach a better place mentally, and you will realise that he was not doing you any good. This will allow you to be open to a new, healthy relationship with somebody else.
I understand. I think it’s because the fights are always petty and the blow ups are big. He is a great husband that contributes financially, emotionally, and if I need anything he is right there. He loves his son and will do anything for both of us. He stayed in the hospital by my side all 9 days after giving birth. I just think he suffered from his childhood trauma and it causes him to react like this. I would like to be able to self check and see if it’s me that is wrong and causes these huge blow ups.
Sober 4.5y here.
Honestly, you brace for him to leave because he doesn't want to put up with it anymore and you can't blame him.
And you need to get help. Again.
Maybe you represent stability. But think about it…. Is ANYTHING worth feeling that level of betrayal?
She's a liar. Full stop. You shouldn't choose a liar as a partner.
I agree to be honest. This relationship has gotten insecure- In the past she’d ask for my logins & to see convos with other girls… so I guess that just set the tone for us…
OP isn't being the most sensitive about it but being in a situation where a partner doesn't want to deal with an obvious health issue is just not good for the relationship. It reminds me of those ones where someone has a horrible sleeping issue they won't get checked out.
If that is all it took to turn him off, the relationship was not strong to begin with. You are better off finding this out now than later. Find someone who cares for WHO you are.
This seals it for me – this is a troll.
A house she doesn't even pay rent to live in
Go no contact. It’s the best thing.
You can’t worry about what he’ll do. Most of the time threats of suicide is used as a manipulation to get people to stay. If you’re truly worried he might do it, share this info with his mom, brother, grandma, whoever and tell him that if he does so again with you, you’ll call the authorities to have him evaluate him for a 72 hour psyche hold.
You have to do what’s best for you. Not him. Don’t feel guilty for doing it.
Go no contact. It’s the best thing.
You can’t worry about what he’ll do. Most of the time threats of suicide is used as a manipulation to get people to stay. If you’re truly worried he might do it, share this info with his mom, brother, grandma, whoever and tell him that if he does so again with you, you’ll call the authorities to have him evaluate him for a 72 hour psyche hold.
You have to do what’s best for you. Not him. Don’t feel guilty for doing it.
youd be surprised actually lol
I don’t think it’s ok to look at other women the way he does. If he’s so attracted to other women and he does this in front of you do you sometimes wonder what he does when you’re not there.
I am genuinely sorry that’s the case.
Unfortunately yes. I’ve had so many issues with the apartment and I don’t know what to do on that front. He didn’t move in, only I did. I have no idea where he’s staying.
I can say from experience this is the best way to help. When I went through my break up all I wanted for the pain to be over. It took about 5 years (we were together 11 years, went through a deployment and my moms death) and a move to a new state to help me heal 95% of the way.
That's great! I learned young, all our old used towels went to my dad to use in his garage for car or woodwork. Oils and other gross stuff. There was always some in the house separate shelf from ours too to use for animals or spills. Makes a world of difference and old stuff are still perfectly fine to use
six year period
? We’re only four years apart. 22 & 18 is like 20 & 24
I suppose. I'd rather my wife not tell me about every person she happens to find attractive. We tell each other sometimes (celebrities or whatever) but not every person. We're human but we're also loyal to each other. It's fine.
The sad part is that HE is choosing this hill to die on. This doesn't have to be an issue but he made it one and now he's emotionally manipulating you to get his way. And by putting it on you to make the decision, when you do say that you choose the dress he is going to make you feel like a monster for choosing a dress over him, but it's really not just the dress it is about you being able to make decisions for yourself and dress however you feel most confident and comfortable.
Tell her if she wears white she'll be escorted from the ceremony.
I’d be extra petty and pick a wedding dress in a different color. I’ve seen some gorgeous navy wedding dresses. Then don’t tell her and show up in your not white dress. She’ll be so mad that she didn’t get a reaction from you and she will look ridiculous for wearing white.
You do whatever you want, but I suggest you pack your stuff and leave if you online together. Please understand that this guy is insecure and accusing you of cheating. That’s disrespectful and not healthy communication. If you thought he was cheating maybe a conversation and if in fact you didn’t believe him. You probably would just end the relationship and leave, not act crazy calling himself names and talking shit to you all night. That’s absurd. I don’t understand why you would stay or try to convince him otherwise.
Please find yourself someone else to date. This guy is older and has issues that you can’t solve.
What is the difference between odds and percentage?
Oh cut her some slack this is a completely unfair and asinine take
Bro. She’s not white.
I’d tell him not to let the door hit him in the ass going out. Dog stays, jealous control freak to the street.
Let your friends know what happened and explain that your relationship is over. As I suggested in another comment, change your locks. Better you found out. Sorry, sending hugs.
He needs to know you are changing.
Don’t lead him on for any more time then start nagging him to have kids knowing he doesn’t want them.
He’s probably posting the videos on amateur porn sites or swapping them with friends. And it could have been happening all along. I’d worry that there are videos of you out there. I’m so sorry you are dealing with this.
I mean there’s times where I am busy all day and don’t really text people at all , maybe ur overthinking
This is wild.
Almost all of these ‘expenses’ are retirement funds/investments? She earns $4600/month and $3000 of that goes to 401/Roth/iBonds?
Basically you two both put most of your money in savings, split groceries and a couple of small things, then you pay the other expenses. Meanwhile you both have a tiny amount of personal spending money that has (I presume) to cover clothing, grooming, holidays, etc?
No wonder you’re both quibbling over small expenses. You two take home $10k a month, no kids, no mortgage. Why don’t you just…save less and spend a bit more?
She sounds like a chore. Life is too short, you don't need someone to be making you miserable because you exist as a white person.
She is very attached and protective of my partner, and has been getting jealous when we kiss, cuddle or have sex. She non stop barks, wines, and paws at the door if we close it.
This is concerning and will escalate further to the point of the dog starting to be aggressive, if you don't stop it now.
Look up videos regardibg possessuve behaviour and ressource garding in dogs, it's not pretty. Look for help.
In regards to your boyfriend: Make him understand that a dog ruling the house isn't a happy dog, it is very commonly a stressed dog. Good intentions do not make this ok.
This is not about sex, it is about respect. You are not ok with the dog invading your space and intimate life the way it do. You need to find a solution with him and make it clear that you will not continue to online like that.
He might choose the mistreatment (stressed dog isn't a happy dog!) over you, but to be honest: If a guy chose to ignore these issues, I'd rather let him go and keep the dog.
Go talk to her and get the proof from her. It sounds like she doesn't want anything to do with him. I would do it sooner than later.
Doesn’t mean he sent them on accident. He could have sent a message asking if it was about him hitting on her, then deleted it after a second or two. There’s no telling
That was completely shit of you to say and you goddam well know it. He deserves way better than your petty self
I was on the receiving end where my boyfriend was over the relationship and I had no idea. We dated for 7 years starting in high school and into different colleges (130 miles apart). He finally just called me up one day and dumped me over the phone. He said he wanted to take a break and possibly get back together once we realized how much we took each other for granted. I agreed, I was obviously very crushed because this decision he made came out of the blue for me. I had no idea he was unhappy with the relationship. It took a long time for me to get over that one. I cried a lot. That type of break-up where he couldn’t even face me in person hurt more than the actual ending of the relationship. The guy I fell in love with would never have hurt me like that so there was a lot of soul searching that followed.
Have you thought of offering to help him find a style that suits him? Or even restrain it in a ponytail or braid(s)?
She didn't not that I know at least. But that's my exact fear when constantly hearing about it
I jumped on this one, she’s pissed me off.
Sorry to break it to you OP, but, this is something for you to worry about.
Doesn’t matter if you are the more “masculine” one. If you want to be a mother then you should be able to be a mother and enjoy the full pregnancy/birth experience.
You and your partner are due to get married, and she comes out to say that her family wouldn’t love the child the same if it wasn’t biologically hers?! And “bad genes?!” Really?! You could have “the greatest” genes and still give birth to a disabled child. Or your child could still become a sociopath. You never know. How come only your “genes are bad”. What about the donor?
Is it to say she would feel the same as her family?!
Sorry about that, but to me this is a red flag. All she said sounded like a petty attempt to make excuses for not wanting a child that is not biologically hers.
Sorry to break it to you OP, but, this is something for you to worry about.
Doesn’t matter if you are the more “masculine” one. If you want to be a mother then you should be able to be a mother and enjoy the full pregnancy/birth experience.
You and your partner are due to get married, and she comes out to say that her family wouldn’t love the child the same if it wasn’t biologically hers?! And “bad genes?!” Really?! You could have “the greatest” genes and still give birth to a disabled child. Or your child could still become a sociopath. You never know. How come only your “genes are bad”. What about the donor?
Is it to say she would feel the same as her family?!
Sorry about that, but to me this is a red flag. All she said sounded like a petty attempt to make excuses for not wanting a child that is not biologically hers.
I haven't been sick at all since masking started. I've got asthma and my lungs seem to get worse every year. I am not giving up masks any time soon.
Yeah, they are. They’re assuming everyone cares about their cat or their hobby.
Neh, just a garden tool
Then I'm curious what the other responses were, because there is pretty much only two ways to respond to that; you shouldn't worry, or you should worry. If you interpret thoues two as you should worry, then there was no need to ask the question in the first place.
I don’t initiate sex on my period. This is the first time I’ve brought it up since he said it’s something he wants to work on. I was hoping for advice on how to get over the emotional side of it for me not how to pressure him.
Lol yep, turns out she's actually his wife for a start.
To hear what exactly, he described the issue in the post, and no, it's not normal.
reach out to the landlord NOW. ask them what your options are. this is not a guarantee, but you may have options you don't know about. there is no harm in asking.
ask your parents if they can help you. it would be in their best interest to get you away from him ASAP.
You better move on sis
There is an equal argument. Read the post. He left the house, his wife and kids, and has been staying with his parents after a fight.
Regardless of her reasons for traveling, an able grandparent watching their grandchildren is a viable and permissible temporary guardian in absence of the parents.
He can argue that she abandoned their children, and she can simply counter that he abandoned his wife and children when he went to stay with his parents, and she arranged for appropriate child care during her temporary absence and the purpose of her trip without proof of her actual activities is hearsay. A lawyer would simply have her answer it was a personal matter that is irrelevant to this subject or I traveled to help a friend.
I agree
Weaponized incompetence for sure, he’s trying to make OP feel bad for daring to make him do something other than sit on his ass.
Aka. He’s a little bitch.
It took me and my girlfriend two weeks to say it to each other without hesitation from either of us, it may have been quick but with some people you just know, and we have been together for about 5 months and are definitely in love.
Be careful that he doesn’t alienate you from your family. Eventually if there’s family events such as Christmas for example he wouldn’t attend and you’d feel bad for leaving him home alone.
it could be a controlling move.
To me, because this affects your self esteem, I would say you tell him knock it off or we're done. And in the future anyone who isn't body positive to you, tell them to get lost. There's plenty of people who will think you're beautiful.
I was going edit and suggest going to a movie/show just find long drawn out activities until it's over.
I don't know whyd you text that she's a grown woman of she's this oblivious that ain't gonna help her bro. Just potentially cause more of your time wasted.
I'd say be careful she might try to stay longer though. Be stern say you got to go back to work and can't reschedule the ticket