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Fiona and Andy, y.o.
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Date: October 16, 2022
Fiona and Andy, y.o.
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Get a divorce. Get a loan and get a divorce. Far too young to be wasting your life on this person. He's selfish and you no longer love him, now you have to admit that to him. You can see yourself putting up with this until you're 50, right? Get out now.
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Fragile white ego has entered the chat….
I'll say what you need to hear.
You. Are. An. A**hole.
This “coworker” doesn't respect you as a person if she's trying to be in a relationship with you EVEN THOUGH you've told her you're in a relationship. Do you honestly believe she'll respect you as a person if you're in a relationship? As if!
And it's not that she actually even likes you. She likes that you're unattainable right now. You break up with your girlfriend, you go to her and she'll drop you faster than a high speed chase.
And you are unfaithful to your current girlfriend. At SOME point, you'll be unfaithful to any other person you're in a relationship with. It took you MONTHS to tell your girlfriend about this girl and when you're girlfriend asked you to block this girl, you went behind her back to talk to this girl. Why? Because you felt the relationship was important?
And on TOP of that, you say you're a touchy person. It's your love language. Read physical touch love language again. It doesn't say invade personal space! Which is exactly what you do.
Your problem is you have NO respect. For your girlfriend, for your relationship, and especially NOT for yourself.
Look, long distance is VERY HOT! And it's even harder wheb you used to live! near each other then had to separate. But, you and your girlfriend are still together after 4 years and a LDR? That's bloody impressive. It's even MORE impressive when you're the age you are. Don't throw it away because you think some girl chasing you is making you see shit that isn't there.
Good to hear you won't be going. This sounds very scary.
If I could tell my younger self one thing it would be to trust your gut. Women tend to have good intuition for a reason, it is an adaptation that has lead to our survival. Men aren’t targeted as much as we are so they don’t have the same need to develop these senses. You don’t always need empirical proof as to why you don’t feel good about a person or a situation. It doesn’t matter what other people think, if you are getting bad vibes, trust yourself and turn and walk away, you don’t owe anyone your safety or mental wellbeing. It took me way too long to realize this and I could have saved myself a whole lot of anguish and emotional exhaustion if I had just listened to my inner voice that was telling me something just wasn’t right. I hope you can learn to confidently trust your intuition much faster than I had. You don’t need reddit to tell you that you are right, believe yourself.
Your nta not to really to send cash to her family. But you're on weaker ground expecting a 50/50 split on all expenses when you earn so much more than she does. How do you see that split continuing to evolve in the future if your earning power ramps up further? Perhaps that's the issue to address?
Move out, if she is actually serious about ending the relationship, then you've got to respect that and part ways. If you own any property/possessions together set about working how to split things.
And who can blame her really? Right in the middle of what’s suppose to be a passionate moment he nags her once again over a threesome because he does not care how devastating that can make a monogamous woman feel going through with that. Then his thirst trap gawking and wouldn’t surprise me if he goes for camgirls too. There are so many men out there who would kill to have been in his shoes, to have a girlfriend and fantastic relationship (as he puts it) and he took her for granted. Now she gets to free her time for some lucky fellow and he gets to go try to be the friendly neighborhood fuck boy.
Yeah, you're fucked. You made a huge mistake and it's really up to her whether she believes your intentions and forgives you. You don't go talking to people's young cousins behind their back. Esp ones in such vulnerable positions. It's predatory behavior, whether you had good intentions or not. Also, the cousin is 20, not 10. You're infantilizing her for formerly being in foster care.
All of this is a giant red flag. Honestly, if your gf were posting here, my advice would be to run. You just can't trust someone that messages young women behind your back.
You both suck and need to grow up. Him for going on Tinder, you for threatening to go on apps during an argument.
I’m just wondering how anyone can be this evil and fucked up?
Says the woman who threatened to go on dating apps in an argument. For all you know, he might never have had the idea in the first place if you hadn't threatened it and planted the idea in his head that maybe you were doing it already.
I’ve never been on an app. I never cheated on him and I’ve been loyal.
You know that. Did he? How could he be certain?
If you're not going to take responsibility for your part in the mess, you're going to be doomed to repeat this messy bullshit in your next relationship.
My spouse and I are on two completely seprate ends of this debate. I am strongly, passionately pro choice and he is strongly anti choice.
We have had conversations about it. I am not going to change his mind. He will not change mind.
So we no longer discuss it.
Yea that's fucking nuts after 5-6 years. I don't blame you for being beyond hurt and questioning your relationship. Her bringing this up out of the blue like that makes me think your gf is taking Susan's problems too personal. Your gf can't seem to understand that the glimpse she showed you of how she views you during her friend's naked time has hurt you. By entertaining this idea she betrayed the relationship you thought had reciprocal trust and respect.
You are allowed to break up for any reason no matter how long the relationship has existed. If this is a dealbreaker then leave that's ok, if you want to work through this that's ok too. Incase you needed to hear it.
She has a kid and that kid's father calls her delusional
You're never going to find the right man for you, if you're looking for the right man for your parents. Hopefully you can see that soon.
He literally didn’t stop, he asked again after she already said no
It’s almost like people reach a tipping point. Because they’re human beings.
No she is super strict about the kid not eating any pork. She strictly told me she would be very upset if I gave the kid any pork at all even when she is gone/ traveling/ etc.
Can we please get his take on this before we draw a conclusion?
I will tell you that people can and will suffer for years and years to try to keep a relationship together, but it all comes out eventually. My boyfriend gets extremely bothered by a few of my more off-putting tendencies, but he just “endured” it for years. We functionally never fought, he never let it show that it was bothering him (except for asking if I could tone it down a few times), never let it affect how he acted toward me.
Then the tipping point came. It took over nine years, but he finally… I wouldn't say “snapped” because he still is pretty good about not crossing certain lines, but he is certainly “done” indulging me in that manner. Now we are trying to find a solution we can both live! with. I feel like he wants me to take a turn with the “smash down your emotions” ball, but I don't think that's a suitable long-term solution (and not one I am capable of), so I'm trying to fix our fundamental communication as well as work on toning down. It's not going so very hot, but I don't think it's hopeless.
Now, this is different because I'm the “difficult to deal with” person here, but it is still a situation where somebody is actively ignoring their feelings for the “better” of the relationship. In your case, your boyfriend intends to just ignore an anxiety-based disease, that is a recipe for disaster. He needs to get professional treatment or else all of his delayed anxious responses are going to burst out at once. Probably sooner rather than later. At that point your relationship may be destroyed in the initial blast and fallout of a million unaired grievances spilling out at once.
I would just end the relationship now if he refuses to get treatment. You're just delaying the inevitable with your “ignore the severe mental illness” circumstances (and the inevitable will be a million times more painful.)
When did this begin? Has she always been unstable? What's the frequency? If it is something newish, sit her down and have a talk about her mental health. She may be struggling, lacking in insight, and you might be the only one who can show her how fucked up this is.
If she refuses to deal with it, you need to leave. Your kid doesn't deserve this and nor do you.
Exactly. The prenup needs to protect her as well. If he wants to protect his pension, then she needs to be guaranteed that marital funds are going into a retirement account that is solely hers.
And if she were posting here, I'd be advising her not to get married with a prenup until he's out of the military. She's going to be uprooting her life and career to go wherever the army assigns him. She'll also be signing up for single motherhood if he's deployed.
I am anti-military, so no dog in this fight, but it's crazy to me people are calling military spouses leeches and “dependas.” They're giving up their lives and careers for their partners in the army, frequently raising their children alone. That's not nothing. That's more than deserving of equal retirement and equal pay.
Thank you for all the replies, I would like to add that Husband and I have been happily together since 2015, married since 2018. We have never had a fight that lasted more than a day or two before this. He has been a fantastic partner in every way up until this.
I just wanted to tell you all that we have had a very healthy relationship, and these past few months have been the first time we have struggled like this. It's part of the reason I'm so confused and hurt. I thought we had the perfect relationship and never expected that we would go through something like this.