I’m a little confused as to what your primary complaint is because you titled this post “My bf won’t introduce me to his friend’s gamer gf,” but then went on to say you’re uncomfortable with your bf playing games w this girl.
Have you told your boyfriend how A’s behavior makes you feel? Have you told your boyfriend how his recent behavior makes you feel?
I would also be uncomfortable if my boyfriend refused to introduce me to someone they’re friends with, especially if it’s someone they talk to frequently. That’s suspicious imo. It’s almost as if your boyfriend is afraid of what this person might tell you.
Considering A has suggested your bf “share” you, there’s a larger issue at hand. This, along with your bf meeting with A and a girl he [likely] knows has had a longtime crush on him, indicates that he doesn’t take his relationship with you very seriously. Either way, he doesn’t respect you.
Your boyfriend’s free time shouldn’t be solely focused on playing video games, and you shouldn’t have to prompt him to spend quality time with you. He should want to do that on his own, and he should be helping to make that happen. Each partner needs to contribute to the intimacy of the relationship, and quality time is a major form of intimacy.
Right! And I am not convinced by her promise to take a lie detector, in fact I have found typical liars to offer up iron clad evidence that doesn’t exist because they do not expect their bluff to be called. I have a pathological liar in my own family. She lies for the sake of lying it seems. She will claim to have proof of wild claims, text messages, etc. when you call her on it, suddenly she yeses you to death that she will share the proof but never does, no not once. Maybe OP should call wife’s bluff about the lie detector.
Maybe, maybe sent nudes. Or the guy just got to see her after a boob job….or she let him see them in the car after dinner. Anything could have happened
She's doing fine as far as I can tell, we stayed friends kinda after breaking up on unrelated issues. But we did bond over me helping her with that issue and another therapist for her. And she helped me with talking about my emotions, opening up and such.
I’m glad you didn’t say “but I LOVE him!!” Haha trust me as a 58 year old, at any one time there are several people who “could be” the love of your life. Move on, this dude is bad news
is the bride the pregnant person? because if not, sorry, it sucks to suck, but i guess they can’t make it to your wedding. you can’t restructure your WEDDING around ONE guest!
I want to develop a company that removes acidity and carbon dioxide from oceans and photozynthesizes it to reverse the effects of excess greenhouse gases. (Nerdy as fuck, I know). I get that I’ll find other people, but it just sucks to see the ones I spent so long becoming close to drift away. Your advice really did help, though; thank you, kind stranger 🙂
You both sound like youre not particularly ready for relationships tbh
And given BFs stance, I can't imagine the relationship surviving either way.
This feels bad today but in the future this will be a footnote. Talk to friends, make friends.
I’m a little confused as to what your primary complaint is because you titled this post “My bf won’t introduce me to his friend’s gamer gf,” but then went on to say you’re uncomfortable with your bf playing games w this girl.
Have you told your boyfriend how A’s behavior makes you feel? Have you told your boyfriend how his recent behavior makes you feel?
I would also be uncomfortable if my boyfriend refused to introduce me to someone they’re friends with, especially if it’s someone they talk to frequently. That’s suspicious imo. It’s almost as if your boyfriend is afraid of what this person might tell you.
Considering A has suggested your bf “share” you, there’s a larger issue at hand. This, along with your bf meeting with A and a girl he [likely] knows has had a longtime crush on him, indicates that he doesn’t take his relationship with you very seriously. Either way, he doesn’t respect you.
Your boyfriend’s free time shouldn’t be solely focused on playing video games, and you shouldn’t have to prompt him to spend quality time with you. He should want to do that on his own, and he should be helping to make that happen. Each partner needs to contribute to the intimacy of the relationship, and quality time is a major form of intimacy.
Do you want to make this same post in 5 years or just cut your losses at 4 months?
Right! And I am not convinced by her promise to take a lie detector, in fact I have found typical liars to offer up iron clad evidence that doesn’t exist because they do not expect their bluff to be called. I have a pathological liar in my own family. She lies for the sake of lying it seems. She will claim to have proof of wild claims, text messages, etc. when you call her on it, suddenly she yeses you to death that she will share the proof but never does, no not once. Maybe OP should call wife’s bluff about the lie detector.
You’re an Indian right?
I lended him $1000 bc he was very short on money, i realize now that it may not have been the smartest thing to do
Dump her. Keep tickets. Find 10,000 other women who will want to go to TS with you.
Maybe, maybe sent nudes. Or the guy just got to see her after a boob job….or she let him see them in the car after dinner. Anything could have happened
She's doing fine as far as I can tell, we stayed friends kinda after breaking up on unrelated issues. But we did bond over me helping her with that issue and another therapist for her. And she helped me with talking about my emotions, opening up and such.
I guarantee you'll be the only one doing the caretaking.
Yep you’re probably right.
Desperation yeah but just because I had some bad experiences with women in the past does not mean that I am misogynistic.
Yep you’re probably right.
Desperation yeah but just because I had some bad experiences with women in the past does not mean that I am misogynistic.
She isn't a good life partner.
Gross
Why did you even stay past the first couple of months?
I’m glad you didn’t say “but I LOVE him!!” Haha trust me as a 58 year old, at any one time there are several people who “could be” the love of your life. Move on, this dude is bad news
is the bride the pregnant person? because if not, sorry, it sucks to suck, but i guess they can’t make it to your wedding. you can’t restructure your WEDDING around ONE guest!
I want to develop a company that removes acidity and carbon dioxide from oceans and photozynthesizes it to reverse the effects of excess greenhouse gases. (Nerdy as fuck, I know). I get that I’ll find other people, but it just sucks to see the ones I spent so long becoming close to drift away. Your advice really did help, though; thank you, kind stranger 🙂