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There is such a thing as too nice but I have a different theory. I think this is a case of one partner not feeling good enough for the other partner. As the “perfect” partner continues to be amazing and perfect it makes the other feel inadequate, hopeless, not good enough, etc . . .
As an intellectually average ass introvert who used to use the “I hate people/stupid people” to get out of doing public things, I think something else is going on here.
I “hated” people because I didn't want to go out when I was single. I would rather have optimized myself/living environment rather than being social because being social can be draining for me.
Now that I have an extroverted GF, I actually find myself craving our dates nights – a movie, a dinner at some cheap (as cheap as it can get) restaurant, etc.
Why?
Because going out allows me to connect to my GF on a level we never would have connected otherwise and I find that interesting. I get to see her choose her outfit (6 times), smile when I look at her across the dinner table, create weird conversations. The overstimulating social setting forces me to focus MORE on her and what she's saying (not that I don't focus on her when we're alone).
There's definitely more at play here in my opinion. There may be social settings he's not that OK with like sporting events, but he seriously won't sit and watch a movie with you at a movie theater?
My wife does this too – after an 8hr work day, I feel like I get an 8hr recap, including most of her emails, verbatim….
As someone that went through sexual abuse and having a partner constantly pressure shit like this it's frustrating reading your post and replies. You say u arent trying to pressure him and u stopped asking him to finger u or have intercourse and u respect him…
And then follow it up with that TONIGHT u tried to get him to go down on u while u had a cup in..on your period and he wasn't comfortable! Because he already told u he isnt.
You keep contradicting yourself! Same with how u want him to try having sex in the shower so he doesn't see the blood. It's very ME ME ME ME!
i want to find a compromise so i can have sex with him!
Do you seriously not see that?
No one is shaming you for your high sex drive! But you are coming off as very selfish and self absorbed to the point you want to fix this so u can get what u want from him instead of jst getting affection.
i honestly think if you are anything like me hormones go into overdrive during that time. And you get alot more emotional and needy and need alot more affection.
Like is said my husband isn't comfortable with sex during tht time aswell. He's just a major clean freak and the thought of ur freaks him out heavily.
So he will show his affection in other ways he would cuddle me and bring me snacks, make me a hot water bottle spend time watching movies with me. So i get my dose of affection and if i have a sexual need i take care of it myself when he isn't around. Or help him out without him having to touch me because again… id never want to make him uncomfortable At all!!!
There isn't any way u can make him not uncomfortable. You can talk to him and tell him u understand and that you still want his affection tho but it won't have anything to do with anything sexually if he isn't okay with it and you still want to just be around and be near him.
You coming up with ways to work around his trauma seems very much like you are trying to “fix him” so you can get what u want. Is so bad!
That's maybe not the greatest approach here. Realize he isn't saying he hates u sexually or doesn't want to be with you in that way it's literally just for a period of time..lol.. and that you as his girl are acknowledging and putting yourself aside to respect his feelings and trauma!