No? If an adult can’t have an important albeit uncomfortable convo with their spouse, they are failing their duties as a partner. Just because she doesn’t like it does not mean she can refuse to discuss things or ever have disagreements.
How would you feel if your partner avoided any disagreement by immediately being ill and ignored your concerns?
You've got 10 years of info that this is who she is. She's not going to change.
If this a deal breaker, then it's time to exit the relationship. Otherwise it's time for her to manage her adhd better or for her to hire cleaners to handle her share of chores.
No, he got the job, that’s his award. I would take him for a celebration dinner and pay it.
No? If an adult can’t have an important albeit uncomfortable convo with their spouse, they are failing their duties as a partner. Just because she doesn’t like it does not mean she can refuse to discuss things or ever have disagreements.
How would you feel if your partner avoided any disagreement by immediately being ill and ignored your concerns?
You've got 10 years of info that this is who she is. She's not going to change.
If this a deal breaker, then it's time to exit the relationship. Otherwise it's time for her to manage her adhd better or for her to hire cleaners to handle her share of chores.