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Date: October 6, 2022
It sounds to me like she was thinking out loud.
She saw the picture, she wondered about the three one them (understandable, as they're a family), and she asked the question “to the room”, as it were. It could also have been an indirect request for more family photos.
It's so simple, all dude has to do is say, Hey, how about we put the phone on a timer and take some nice pics of the three of us?
She made a choice to drink, not to get sexually assaulted. Get out of here with your rape culture.
if not having sex with him is what i have to do to keep being with him, i can do it. it might hurt me and take me some time to get used to, but i don't love him just for that. he's a great person and i'd do anything to be with him
Didn't even try. Just sent her that lame ass text after, probably hearing a rumour. Or not enough balls to break it off. Sounds like the kinda guy to bring his mom on first date, to pay for his food.
If the change was sudden then he may have gotten some bad news (health diagnosis, job/money problem, extended family problem)
Either way, you need to sit him down and find out what’s really going on
If there’s trust I would have no problem with my gf doing this. Ideally we’d both like to go out together but the nights we just want to hang out with friends that is perfectly acceptable to me.
Change your passcode and I'm sure he will blow up. Why does he deserve to have access when you don't?
This is crazy. He sounds like a loser. He wanted to take an ex out? And shut you down when you confronted him?
Save it as evidence, tell him that he cuts all contact with you or you will report him for stalking. If he is that down bad that he writes a 4 page letter what do you think he will put that energy into if he keeps obsessing.
The drunk aspect holds no water to me; I have no sympathy for people who cause damage/kill due to driving under the influence, so why would being drunk be a free pass?
Alcohol lowers inhibitions, it doesn’t replace your personality, it just weakens your ability to discard stupid thoughts and desires. If (even when drunk) your SO doesn’t register across your mind then you don’t respect/care about them, and the relationship is doomed anyway, lol
Thank you for this. This is the view I am trying to take whether the video is real or not. I will say the video is clear that he purposely recorded himself showing off. It's pretty on par to the videos he typically sends me. So unless his phone camera was hacked and they compiled a bunch of videos using AI or deep fake or whatever, the video seems pretty legit.
I've tried telling him last night that doing this kind of thing wouldn't be a deal breaker for me, I just want honesty. At this point I'd even encourage it because I am just not well enough to give my husband the attention he wants. But he continuously denied it and said he would never do it. I'm having a nude time believing he would be this stupid though because he has friends who have gone through it as well and he told them what idiots they were. He knows what the internet is like and it could bite him in the ass. But the video just seems impossible to fake at this point. I'm just wondering if he's hiding a huge history of this behavior or worse or if this was just a crappy lapse in judgment due to the realization hitting him that I may never be well enough for him again.
It's presumptuous, inappropriate and controlling to contact your partner's workplace behind their back and schedule time off. Some people can't switch streams and adjust to surprises as quickly as others – if your GF is like this, and if she's having a stressful time at work, no wonder she felt overwhelmed by the sudden change of plans.
I understand that you believe this was a thoughtful and nice thing to do, but you also say at the top of the post this was a belated birthday gift (did you get her anything for her actual birthday?) that was something you personally wanted to do anyway. How certain are you that a spa day is something your girlfriend would actually enjoy?
Take a moment to do some real, deep reflection on getting angry at your girlfriend for not presenting the emotions you anticipated. Your girlfriend is a human being, she is at liberty to feel however she needs to feel, not how you need her to feel.
This whole post reeks of real communication problems. You don't have a handle on your girlfriend's needs, and she can't express them to you.
To be honest, if my partner blithely sat there enjoying his pedicure or whatever while I was sobbing I would break up with them.
He had the audacity to do this to you in your house? OP you need to let him go. He is a violent person.
Once a week
Not only did he sleep with someone so soon after asking for a separation, he slept with a mutual friend. Picking up a random woman in the bar would’ve been hurtful, but not as hurtful as fucking someone that OP knows.
You’re allowed to keep secrets to yourself. I’m sure your boyfriend hasn’t divulged his embarrassing moments of sexual awakening.
It’s the past. You know who you are in the present, and that’s what your boyfriend wants, not the girl going through puberty.
Given your description I would probably hit it in 2 years.
If you've got the money to help out its not bad to do so. I got super lucky from the fam and have been in boots not unlike yours. I really like 70/30 splits on stuff personally. And like this happening once is one thing. If he starts expect you to just cover his expenses that's rather another.
It sounds like you're not compatible. You can't win him back and you can't convince him that this isn't a lot.
Like anything that could be a dealbreaker for a number of people, it's good to make sure that potential partners know about this at an early stage, so that you don't waste time getting attached to someone who is ultimately not right for you.
Sorry for the confusion. I was just letting my emotions out probably not too logic in my expression. 50/50 is not the problem, the problem is that I'm not sure he'll help me when I can't do my part.
I want to say that I take better care of him cause I'm more attentive to details, but who knows, maybe he is complaining the same thing.
Don't you have police in your country? If you are afraid to report now and you get married to him he will kill you any day you provoke him, Run to the police.
Out of curiosity why in the world you be the one calling his new job to ask questions a day after this interview?
I can’t imagine any normal adult has his wife call and talk to a hiring manager before he has even settled in let alone accepted an offer?
Do you often follow up on normal adult tasks he should be doing?
Why are you sharing an account if you are not married? That was a mistake. You need to open your own account and manage your own money.
Tell him you are no longer comfortable with the shared account and start saving your own money. Send him some for the bills or pay the bills yourself.
I'd also consider getting my own place. It might make you feel sane.
leave them alone! youre a shitty friend, he’s a shitty dad, and she deserves better than all of you! get out of their life if you actually respect this girl, i get that youre young but REALLY?
you know cheating bad, you know fucking your friends dad is bad, but you still did it, it doesn’t matter that you were drunk, just leave them alone and block her dad, and never contact her out of work again. she deserves so much better than you or her parents.
Can I just say, Jack and Rose did it in a car their first time spontaneously, and that is an iconic romance scene…..it was steamy after. Don't hate yourself
I would be at the lawyer’s office.
He also has a brother who is a mother's boy and who can do no wrong in her eyes and my bf does everything wrong and is constantly criticised.
In our country, the son that is supposed to inherit a farm usually stays at home and builds a “flat” in a separate story to have a separate households with his family. In this case, his older brother, golden child as you rightfully put it, took that floor and made himself his own flat.
For you, I think based on what you have written it will be beneficial for you to move out and live! independently. (also getting some mental distance will help)
And also take a step back from renovating the grandmother's house. Don't put your time and effort and money into renovating a property that neither you nor your boyfriend own. If he wants to spend his time updating a family property that's his business. But if its not his property, and he doesn't have a good relationship with his parents, what's to stop them giving it to the older brother once it's been renovated?
For your boyfriend, if he was looking for advice, I'd suggest for him to step back from the whole situation and look at this analytically. What do his parents want? Do they want the older son to take on the farm and inherit everything? He's got the traditional property and seems to expect to keep it. Will they insist on the older son inheriting the farm?
What would happen if your BF decided to get a different job, and to move away (as younger siblings seem to do)?
And for this other property, is there any explicit stated agreement that you BF will own it in future? Or just live! in it?
I'm concerned that your BF is working hot to support his parents and build a life, and they could potentially turn around and give everything to the older brother.
If u didnt want to divorce Id just do seperate bank accts. Alot of ppl know crypto is a scam. But if ur sexually not compatible, why did u marry?
Your girl “friend” tricked you into thinking Saturday was your birthday to get you to attend an event she was going to, and then your girl “friend” requested to spend the night at your place…?
You don't see the red flag there? Why do you think your girl “friend” went out of her way to trick you into a situation where your actual girlfriend (if you're exclusive) wasn't present?
I would see her getting her things as a sign she wasn't willing to put up with that kind of shit, not an insecurity. I know I would've done the same thing, personally. Your own boundaries are the issue here, not her insecurities…as this doesn't seem like insecurities, it seems like a full stop.
You just said in a lot of words, you see no future with him. Break up and tell him he has (insert legal number of days) to move out.
Just read your update. He seriously compared rape and murder to a family eating dinner? I’m sorry but he sounds very far gone at this point and NOT the person you entered into a relationship with and likely won’t ever be that person again. He sounds like he has gotten more forceful, and aggressively controlling and I do not imagine that will change or you will be able to reason him out of this state of mind. The only thing you can do is decide if you want to allow this man with his absurd demands run your life and be brow beaten and snarled at anytime you want to meet up with family for thanksgiving dinner or eat at a normal restaurant. Dare you bat an eyelash at a piece of steak, he will really tie you to the whipping post. Does that sound like a good future for you?
You know this is an excuse, he knows you weren’t talking to your ex. He’s trying to blame you for his actions.
I agree that your wife's concerns have nothing to do with taking a boot-and-suspenders approach to avoid pregnancy. She knows she can't get pregnant again, and that's at the root of her problem. She made the difficult and irreversible decision to have no more children, and now she feels like you should now do the same – especially since, in her mind, you shrugged her tubal ligation off as “convenient” and she felt pressured into doing it to please you, possibly before she was convinced herself that it was the right thing to do.
Of course you expect your marriage to last forever, but it may not. Or one of you could die young, unfortunately it happens. If your wife remarries, she will never get to have kids with another man – whereas you could start a whole second family with a future partner. That's what I think is fueling her resentment. You previously made the decision together that you would get a vasectomy, since you didn't want any more kids and you didn't want to deal with condoms any more. Instead she got her tubes tied after her OB/GYN offered, and you strongly supported the idea. However, as you still both agree that your family is the right size now, she wants to make sure that you, like her, will never have any more kids. That was your earlier agreement, and now she is arguing that what's good for the goose is good for the gander.
I don't agree with her reasoning, so please don't shoot the messenger. But it's something you may want to take into account, so you can talk to her about the real problem, and maybe apologize and help her grieve. She lost an important part of her self-identity as a woman, before she was fully prepared mentally to make that sacrifice. That's why she thinks it's your turn now.
Dump her.
Never date someone who humiliates you to other people.
Yeah we have had many of these conversations, and talked about the compromises we would make for each other and the relationship.
That is good advice, we will definitely look into it.
Let me tell you something. That dude will swoop in if he gets the chance. I have an ex who is with another guy and if they break up there's a good chance we get back together. Old flames never die.
He’s hurting you on purpose. Leave his ass
He has already been with other girls in the past, this isn't his first experience, and I think he probably enjoyed it more than I did. I know I need to talk to him, I just don't know how to bring it up
Yeahhhhh, not knowing and contracting is one thing, but knowing and hiding it is a pretty big no-no for me
Share with him, may feel like the 3rd wheel, doesn't know how he fits in anymore. Talk to him!
Talk to your lawyer.
I think it would be best to wait until he comes back. You’ll have more time to evaluate the situation and prepare yourself.
At least wait a year or two before living together to get out of the honeymoon phase of your relationship. I'm sure in some way he thinks he wants you to move in up till you're there full time.
So I’m the bad guy coz you’re defending women who treat their male clients differently on wether she thinks they are attractive or not?
There’s guys there who go to her who arnt arsed about getting a job at all
I tried so I can eat my own money
But tell you want I’ll juts stay on the dole on the tax payer eh if I’m better thought of for it
Such a clown
The key here is to just call it out every single time you see it. Obviously his mom has some personal space/boundary issues. I would just say something like this every time it happens:
“You’re in our room again.” “You don’t need to be in our room.” “I don’t like it when you are in here.” “I’m not comfortable with you being in here right now”
I’m sure she won’t take it well, but you have a right to your space and your privacy. Repeat these things every single time you see it. Don’t pass up an opportunity, because she’s proven that she will see that as an invitation. Hopefully eventually, she will just be so tired of being confronted by you that she’ll just stop.
When you do move out, you’ll have the freedom to be more strict about your boundaries, but I understand why you feel like it isn’t your place in this situation. But just so you have somebody in your corner let me tell you: you are always allowed to take your space. Maybe you don’t own this house, but you live! there. This is your home. You have just as much right to privacy and your s/o, his mom, and the homeowner.
I feel very confident when I tell you his mom will snoop through your house too, when you have one. It will be easier on you then to start practicing defending your space now.
yes, that is what i keep reminding myself but he said it so negatively its getting to me?
I'd probably tell him that it sounds like she's being unprofessional while at work. He was there to visit patients. She's there to help the patients, not try befriending the patients family while on the job. See how he replies to that.
I can almost guarantee that he would snap. He's got a thing for her.
I don't want my bf to see my phone sometimes because i watch embarrassing ASMR videos. Maybe it is totally harmless.
But her freaktout seems realy unappropiate, so there is maybe something more seious she hides.
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Okay i am gonna say what i wish people said to me when i was together with my ex.
If you feel trapped, kick open that door and leave. You dont have to be unhappy. You deserve happiness and you deserve your own life. You are to young to get married. When you are 20 you feel like you are adult enough to get married, trust me you are not. Yeah marriages might work out when people are young but a lot of them dont. Please do not throw away your live! because of someone that makes you feel like you have a shit life.
Also, make a plan before you actually leave. That will make it easier for you!
Let it go. Take care of your accommodation & let the rest go. You’re not being asked to host. In fact, you’re vehemently being asked not to.
It could be that he’s laid back & ur detail oriented. Or it could be he feels like you’re trying to force something this event doesn’t represent for him.
Either way, quit mothering men. It NEVER works out for your best interests
She cheated last year, she was caught and she admitted it, she apologized and was remorseful so I decided to give it a chance but I knew that I don’t think I can really trust her.
That would be the end for me. I'm not a big fan of putting up with people I can't trust.
Thank you for your answer! The thing is he only drinks with friends, to have fun. But he said that if He would feel anxious he would not drink. And I dont think hes planning on taking other anxiolytics (he took 1 once but didnt like the effects after so he's not considering continuing taking the meds from what I understood). When I talked about sobriety for a month, thats what he said basically.
I'm trying to sort out what the issue is.
You've already said that you both watch porn, and you're okay with that. So okay…
Him having an account means that Big Porn is tracking his porn watching habits, which they can often do even if you don't have an account, so I don't see why that in itself should be an issue.
It sounds like maybe he brought this up, because he's suggesting that you could watch porn together. Or he's curious about what kind of porn your watch. Or he's just one of those guys who is open with their girlfriend about whatever randomly pops in their head.
Some couples do watch porn together, and it can be a way to bond over what kind of sexual stuff you're into. But if that's not something you're into, you can just tell him. It's not something to cry over.
If on the other hand, the very idea of him watching porn when he's in a relationship with you is what makes you uncomfortable, then it's okay to acknowledge that. But you can't blame someone for breaking a rule than never existed. You have to be honest with yourself about what you actually want in a romantic partner.
It sounds like you're only sort of okay with the idea of him watching porn while being in a relationship with you, because you have both done it in the past. But maybe it still makes you jealous to think that he is looking at other girls nude and having sex?
Im def thinking that some blame is also on me. But you are little.bit wrong later, they pumped up her hopes, i didnt come and said to her, hey they are throwing party for you.
Im def thinking that some blame is also on me. But you are little.bit wrong later, they pumped up her hopes, i didnt come and said to her, hey they are throwing party for you.
Then break up with her not tht nude a choice then. Lord
Dude you guys are both 18 and 18 year olds love clubbing, single or not. Why don't you go with her?
If you hate clubbing, I get that, so do I, but when my friends group would want to go I usually would. Even though I abhor the environment I still would manage to have some fun because I'm with my friends.
I think if your girl loves it you should go dancing with her. Enjoy your early adult life. When you get closer to my age you will regret not going out and partying more while you had the energy.
Make some memories.
Could you give me some advices what I should tell her or what should i ask her about the situation?
This is way above Reddit’s pay grade. Talk about this in therapy soon.
She's one month out of a long relationship..?
Echoing an earlier comment, how can you possibly move on if you have these plans for a huge intimate act still in the future? I think you need to come to terms with either being with this guy or not, and that it sounds like he’s already chosen not. So unless you broke up for a specific reason that you can show him you’re working on, accept that this is over. You probably also need to distance yourself as friends, at least until you are both truly over the break up. If you’re still best friends and seeing each other all the time there’s no way to separate those feelings.
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