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Agreed, idk why but I honestly feel like he baby trapped her and then decided he doesn't want to be a dad but doesn't want to out right say it
If you consent to be in a free use relationship, you are giving consent. However, she did not give consent. This is pretty basic. It’s not opinion. I’m not sure what part of this you don’t understand.
I’m a straight single female, and I would STRONGLY consider dumping anyone who thought that was a good joke to tell my parents.
FFS change your password and get out of that relationship. You both treat each other like shit Stop the cycle.
maybe so. but I doubt she's packing.
I don't have a plan. My original plan (ignore it and hope it goes away) didn't work. As I said, when I got married, they were muted enough that I didn't think they'd be a problem. We got married 2 years after ex and I ended things.
When I said “we casually hang out sometimes”, I mean when he drops her off or picks her up, sometimes he'll stay and chat for a bit. We go on family outings with all of us sometimes
I think I failed to mention this, but I also have a child with my husband. It wasn't so much a “lack of self esteem” that had him marrying me, it was ” we're in love and have a family, past feeling aren't that relevant” it was also 2 years after ex and I ended things, so neither of us thought there would be an issue and I definitely didn't think they'd have the audacity to come back in full force the second I stopped being hurt by how our relationship ended. I guess I also should have mentioned that I made an attempt on my life as a result of things ending the way they did. To tell the full story would be a massive undertaking abd I really didn't feel like getting into everything.
Oh yeah this is not something I would want to be around. I always think it stems from childhood abuse and incredibly low self-esteem (despite appearing otherwise), but I guess there’s probably a range of reasons for it.
I don’t think you’re going to be able to fix this one, my dude. She’s not going to change her oversexualized persona for whatever reason, and she’s never going to fit into your world or your system of values. You’ll always be embarrassed and annoyed by it.
Well your problem was assuming that she would change instead of asking her if she planned on it. She probably thought you were fine with her behavior and liked it which is why you wanted to date her
I love it when men cry in front of me because it shows me that they’re sensitive, which is something I find extremely attractive. It also shows they’re comfortable being emotional and vulnerable and having difficult conversations. Also all attractive traits in a partner. If a guy told me he never cried I’d be put off.
She completely disrespected you. She told you that you don't matter and she can replace you at any time. She emasculated you in front of your mates.
She's telling you that you're through.
Yerp. Husband isn't on IG, but a close guy friend is. His feed is baseball and bass guitars. And audio compressors.
From one life of financial abuse to another. You want your kids to be forced to think about finances from day dot? Not to mention the forced education they'll be subjected to. My guy has priorities which don't include you
r/DeadBedrooms might have some advice. Perhaps a sex therapist would be helpful.
I…would not want his wiener in me after that if I were you. I’d cut your ties with him if he’s been too much of a mama’s boy
Sad times. But expected answer. Thanks!
It will be the end of your relationship. One outcome is you will develop feelings for someone else or he will. Another is that only one of you will be successful in sleeping with someone else and the other will be resentful. A third is that after having sex with others one or both of you begin to feel inadequate after hearing about how it went for the other person.
It is a bad idea. Being with more than one person is not important. I’ve been with more people than I can count and it has made me worse at staying content in a monogamous relationship.
No where does it say that she goes out and spends money. That's just the one sentence her father harped on. She also clarifies that she rarely ever asks for rides from her parents. And getting an Uber at the end of her late shift is not a simple thing to do. They are harder to find and are often way more expensive. She's paying rent and for food. They pay none of her bills. Rarely asking them for a ride is not burdensome. And if she carpools with coworkers, then that's a pretty normal thing to do.
So many assumptions insulting OP. No one seems interested in how her situation is set up. She manages her own transportation, just sometimes it doesn't work out the way you plan.
She is NOT a burden! He IS an asshole, who appears to be setting her up to fail. So much of society really likes to treat adult children like entitled assholes, while not even considering that it's the parents in the wrong. Flying monkeys, man.
child support is not a massive drain on a persons income. if she is draining him emotionally he should block her. even if they have a biological kid together they do not need to interact beyond the child support payments. they do not need to exchange words. and to act like asking for child support is in any way equivalent to raping and murdering someone is insane.
thank you so much.
Usually an allowance is contractual. An allowance for a service. Kids do chores, get an allowance.
How would you benefit from giving her this allowance? Especially if she already has a salary? Wake up.
So what exactly do you want to do?
You said you want him to spend 70% of his free time with you—which seems excessive to me—but you don’t say what you want to do in that time.
I (44F) can’t imagine spending 70% of my free time doing things with my partner-especially if it was limited to watching TV or videos or something.
One date night a week seems pretty reasonable. That’s how we do it. Friday night is our night and we play a game, play music, have some drinks and hang out. The rest of the week, we usually have dinner together and then he plays his games or watches shows and I do my volunteer work or hobby or meet up with a friend.
We do sleep in the same room usually but sometimes I like to stay up later so I might sleep on the couch to avoid waking him on a work night.
I dunno. I guess I’m unclear on what you actually want from him.
The gift was originally bought by my mom and my older sibling, my girlfriend, and I were going to chip in so it costs less for my mom. She knew because I was supposed to give her the portions from myself, my sibling, and my gf, but I hadn't actually gotten the portion from my gf because I never reminded her and I didn't think about just covering for her and figuring it out later. You are right that I could've just covered for her but I have trouble with not being fully honest to my parents. I know it's dumb but I genuinely just speak before I think sometimes and I usually end up just being honest.
Does it count as a threesome if she has multiple personalities?
I won't argue that's not the correct thing to do, I really feel like that wouldn't help with her depression. Is there a nicer way to do this? Hahah
He's being gentle about it, but he's making clear he's done with the relationship. He supported you emotionally when you were on rocky ground, and now that you're getting the help you need and have that other support, he's distancing himself.
Yes, it is time to let go.
They are the childcare. Per OP he has no idea who will care for the kids, as he assumes it will be her…while she works full time and is the main bread winner.
Please get out. If you want to try a conversation about boundaries and sensory needs, go ahead, but I doubt it’ll go well. You’re not supposed to be scared of your partner. He’s absolutely in the wrong here and realistically not going to change. It’s veering into abusive territory. Leave before it gets worse.
When did anybody say you were a baby at 22?
Yup, jobs available to the young and low income vary by location. In my country, working in a restaurant is a common minimum wage job. Neither your experience nor mine lacks validity 🙂
Glad to see reddit responding appropriately in this case. I'm surprised nobody's told you to call the cops yet, lol.
She's doubling down and calling you controlling? F that. If you'd have sent her pics to a bunch of your friends she'd be losing her mind.
What she did was totally not cool. The act itself puts the relationship in major jeopardy but her reaction should put it in the grave.
Don't listen to these fools, your bf is weird and inappropriate. You should talk to him, but you need to decide what you want to do if he refused (or agrees but fails) to change.
What were the options and try to give some urself
The only correct advice here is that you run and never look back. There's no gray area here. Until you mentioned that she cheated on you, I would have talked you through all of the fundamental issues in your relationship with both of you. I'm honestly happy to do so if asked, and you can feel free to PM me if you'd like.
But as soon as you said she cheated on you, the rest became irrelevant. The past doesn't matter. Infidelity is an act all on its own. Nothing justifies it happening, and that would include doing so as a response to a partner committing infidelity. It's not an excuse. If you're not happy, you leave. You don't cheat. What could it possibly solve? Nothing, is the answer. I digress.
She cheated on you and you're worried about her forgiveness. I can't possibly explain to you how unhealthy of a situation you're in. It doesn't matter that she's never had a normal relationship. It's awful that she's been in objectively abhorrent situations, and I hope she gets the help she needs to address that. But that's not an excuse for her behavior towards you.
She's still amazing? You're being naive. Long story short; if you stay in this, you're never going to be happy. You're confident you can work it out? You're betting on a guaranteed loss.
So you went back to an immature cheater and had a child with him???? Well, he is starting to gaslight you – he is perhaps cheating again, and has started the gaslighting with some distraction and accusations.
He is an emotionally stunted adult. You are not a therapist, if I had to guess (nor am I) and I doubt you're equipped to help him become a better communicator and process his emotions in healthier ways. You shouldn't have to walk on egg shells. I'd break up with him.
Ask if he’d be okay to spend some time with you before he hits the couch. Like 20 minutes where you can just breathe together. That will probably help. If this is a nude line for you, definitely explain how him sleeping elsewhere might be a dealbreaker.
I would have taken it as leaving it there might give the GF the hope of reconciling the relationship (or at least the impression of it). Going so scorched earth to remember to take it provides an additional layer of finality.
Given that your back was turned and her getting in the way hit her face it is very likely this man would have killed you with a fatal blow to the back of your head. Instead of going to therapy you have turned your anger at your wife. Go to therapy before you destroy your life. Your wife and baby deserve better than the person you have become.
You deserve so much better. Good on you for leaving- keep your chin up!
You really don't have to meet up with her just so she can yell at you.
You txt her back saying that you will not be coming, and as an adult, you will be making your own decisions.
You are on the verge of 30! She gets no say over your life. The sooner you rip the bandaid off, the sooner your mother can get used to the situation.
Another useful phrase: “That doesn't work for me.”
I'm not from as strict of a background as you, but I'm the first in my family to not go to church, first to have a baby out of wedlock. My grandmother is constantly begging me to go to church, and is putting a lot of pressure on me to get my kids into Sunday school “to give them a chance”.
My dad has made it very clear he regrets allowing me to choose for myself whether to go to church or not (says the man who cheated on his wife and then abandoned his family to on-line with his mistress). I obviously hate hippocrates when it comes to religion, so I have chosen to make my own path in life. Everyone is going to have an opinion no matter what, but that doesn't mean that needs to dictate my decisions. I'm an adult. My mistakes are mine to make. And actually, my kids are not mistakes, living with my partner for 12yrs un-married is not a mistake. I love my little family, and we are happy. We are a very stable family unit despite not being married. These are the most important people in my life, and nobody else gets to tell us how to live!.
Just to also confirm, you’re on the internet again – which is an extreme echo chamber, so it’s not a good sample of what’s normal. This whole Reddit is about condemning the ops partner and saying to break up.
People here are saying that your partner is disgusting, not to trust him when he’s being nice. It’s all projection.
You can be unhappy with the your partners reaction – that’s fine but handle it with maturity and no expectation on him, it will be less emotionally draining for one. – Make your point and move on and see how he progresses form there.
Yes, feminism is about empowerment to you, but some feminists will find you disgusting and setting back others and be angry at you and see you as the enemy. Now they can accept people have different views or try to educate you rationally or that can treat you like the enemy – see what I’m getting to? (Hypothetical of course)
Hun, you know you need to leave him. You're now in a situation where you can barely support YOURSELF, a grown responsible adult with a decent credit score. There is no way you can support him too, not with all the debt he has, all the savings he has lost you, and the fact that his situation is unlikely to improve. Marriage is done. Let's brainstorm financial solutions.
You outright dismissed housemates due to a traumatic past experience, but there is no denying that that would be the best solution that would allow you to keep the house with minimal disruption. Would there be a situation where you could consider room mates?
Perhaps if it was a friend of a friend, or family friend, or a coworker, and thus comes fully vetted?
Would you consider appointing a rental agency to do the vetting for you?
What if you used the increased house value to extend the mortgage to subdivide the house so your part and their part doesn't intersect (like, give them their own entry, kitchen,bathroom, etc). That way even if there are issues, they can't impact your living space or pets, and you would likely charge a higher rent for a small self contained studio than a room in a shared house, so you likely would make the money back.
On the divorce front, talk to your lawyer, but realistically, you will likely never get back the money your now-ex owes you from what was lost from joint savings. Your ex is likely in denial that he will ever crawl out of that hole with the irs though, so you can proffer “waiving” claiming back what he owes you in exchange for something you want; pet custody? He is barred from suing for any further marital assets? Talk to your lawyer, but ime a lot of procrastination springs from denial that the issue is “that bad”, so this sounds like the time to use that denial to your advantage.
Tell her to please stop commenting on your food. She's trying to manipulate you.
She almost certainly can’t get her tubes tied because doctors simply won’t do it for women in their 20s who haven’t had kids
You're probably getting downvoted because everyone wants to know what the goddamn crime is before we can offer any advice.
Ew
Huge red flags here. This is a major deception, what else will she lie about? You will either be a third wheel in their threesome, catch chlamydia, or have your kidneys stolen.
Maybe all three.
Get a pren. Even better, don’t marry until he behaves in a secure way. It would likely end poorly.
You need to address the problem. Don’t joke about it and don’t treat it like ‘our’ money. He’s not showing enough stability for that.
Can he realistically handle not ever making as much or having as much? You both need to know. It may change in the future but he needs to be okay either way. Not hope he will be but know he’s mentally handling it.
Maybe couples counselling would help? Have a third party ask questions.
Don’t get into funding his business. It’s probably unwise because you become a business partner and if it fails or goes sideways you both have extra resentment.
Talk about how you see both your lives. How you both want to handle money, goals, children, future. What you both want from the relationship. Are you really both on the same page? Talk it out.
Honestly man, this is a terrible place to ask for advice on this subject. These advice subs are heavily dominated by women and they will bend over backwards to justify why its okay for your gf to read pornographic material, but not ok for you to watch porn. All of these commenters talking about how they don't get off reading smutty books and that porn is misogynistic and hurts women are missing the point entirely. This is about a fundamental double standard in your relationship. If she wants to demand that you dont watch porn, then she doesn't read it. There are plenty of other books that she can read, huge numbers of romance novels with no explicit sex scenes. Your gf needs to hold herself to the same standard that she holds you.
Now yes, your gf could be one of these magical unicorns that reads these books for the plot, but why does she specifically choose heavily sexual ones? There's a reason 50 shades of grey was so popular, and it wasn't because it was well written. I think your comparison to men reading Playboy for the articles was spot on.
That’s an excellent plan
This is fixable. At least now you know. Together you can both work on being healthier and losing weight and see if that improves anything. If nothing else you will be healthier
Why do people get married if they can't afford it?
Like you're working your ass off for years for 1 day? Why doesn't she work more?
I know it's hard, I had a buddy go through the same thing recently (he and his ex had been together 10 years with plans to marry). Unfortunately, the only thing you can do now is grieve, heal, and move on. Cry when you need to, talk to friends or family when you need support. One day at a time. I know it's so painful to go through this but you will come out stronger for it. So many other people love you and want you in their lives. Love yourself and on-line for yourself. Don't give in to despair. Be gentle with yourself. Give yourself time to grieve— it's not just the relationship, it's every single moment from the past 5 years and the future you had planned. It'll take some time for you to get back on your feet, and then you can work on healing and moving forward. But use this time to focus on yourself unapologetically! My buddy broke up with his ex November 2021 and after also feeling suicidal and just heartbroken, he's in such a better place now. I know the same will happen for you. Just give it time. Healing isn't linear and it will take time to adjust. My heart goes out to you!
Sounds like the trust has been broken. If he really is a compulsive liar, I don't see how the trust can be rebuilt. He'd have to stop lying for that to happen, and it doesn't sound like he can.
What the hell that's a great idea why did I not think of this…. Thank you!!
Maybe.
But the real question is what are you going to do about your relationship? Don't get too caught up in the side stuff. That's the issue.
It's not too easy. She lies and tries to cheat (at the very least) unless you pike the thought of her trying to cheat .dump her
Didn't even take her a few days, check his update.
Do I trust him?
Ummm…yes. He was acquitted, not convicted. If he had been convicted, it'd be a different story.
I can’t take credit, it’s something most of the vets I have worked with will recommend if we have an anxious licker—dog or cat.
There’s a video I saw of someone smashing a plate and telling the person who did it to say sorry… it doesn’t put the plate back together. IF it’s possible, it takes a lot of work. Maybe OP needs to show her husband this video meant to explain (to children) how sorry doesn’t undo nasty behavior.
Both things can be true. You can be frustrated by how it affects your sex life, and his lack of willingness to get treatment, and also be concerned for his health, they aren't mutually exclusive. But she really didn't show any concern for him in her post. And she also just jumped to a surgery she found on Google, which of course if a scary thing to throw at him.
This is a conversation you want to have with a lawyer. If those cards have your name on them, you might be SOL.
Regardless, you need to leave and sever ties and stop hemorrhaging your money to her addictions. She won't change until she hits rock bottom, and that won't happen with you enabling her.
what should you do? the same thing you are doing already..You aren't gonna stop some 19 year old from going out and there are dudes everywhere, soooooo not much you can do other than trust your GF and drop her if she cheats.
You’re holding women to a monolith. Yes, there are women who like nude assholes. Just like there are guys who like crazy women who might cut their dick off. Doesn’t mean there aren’t other people out there for you.
I’m 35, never had an issue attracting women and never felt the need to hold misogynistic views in order to attract them.
Find yourself, discover who you are, don’t try so hard and you’ll find it’s easier.
I can clearly see it on this situation, they dont like being called out and their white knights always come to the rescue , so typical…
In this economy? Most people would've peaced out. No one has the time to waste it now a days. That being said, if you still are doubtful, you are in a position to ask, ” Where do you see us in the near future?””
I would rather not cuddle with her and her friends because like I said earlier in my post I think cuddling was only something partners do. I don’t want to cuddle her friends lmao. Thank you however for recommending I talk it out with her
My guy, from this point forward in your life, lube is always present. Always. Get both kinds, water and silicon.
Develop some comfort about talking to her about her Vulva, her menstrual cycle. You need to connect with her.
She likely needs FAR more time before she’s ready. Get your oral game up.
You should get a real, on-line, paper copy of Emily Nagoski’s book, “Come as You Are” and read it with her. Plenty to talk about.
I realize this might not sound like I’m addressing your questions, but I am. It’s a longer conversation.
I didn’t know until I wore a condom when I was older and kinda had a similar thing happen but have you checked if you’re allergic to latex? Could be an allergic reaction.
That would be the end of the relationship, if I were you.
There's a lot to unpack here. I'm going to do my best because this probably won't get a lot of traction, and will probably get deleted because of triggers.
It sounds like your girlfriend needs clinical help. Help that you can't give, despite all of the things that you want to give.
Add on the fact that it's a LTR that you're committed to, which is yikes in and of itself. LTRs very rarely work out in the best of cases (after years of being in a relationship) and it sounds like you're not even remotely in that boat (after months of knowing her).
Personally, there are so many red flags about what you're saying that I couldn't deal with any of it without wanting to nope the fuck out.
She's using suicide as a way of getting attention and using your experiences with it to manipulate you. She sounds sick. Some people just do this type of shit for fun. If what you're saying is true, she's using you as a patsy to get her jollies off, to string you along.
I would get out of of whatever this is. It sounds like you're an empathetic person and you deserve much better than to be emotionally manipulated into whatever relationship they want you to be in.
Find someone better.
I thought we’ve been told that not saying no isn’t the same thing as saying yes
Not even if it'd mean I might ruin the possibilities of friendship in the future?
How is it possible to keep politics out of a relationship, especially in this day and age? Do you not have any real conversations about what is happening in the world lately? Do you not think about the possibility of what may happen if you have unforeseen complications during pregnancy and the lack of choices you may have in terms of protecting your life or your fertility? Are these types of conversations also kept “out of the relationship”? Because I think it's important to be on the same page. Or maybe it is because you don't want to discuss anything like this, that your bf is thinking you aren't capable of educating children properly.
I can't do that man. If I break up with her, she's going to off herself. I don't want her to go
So if he’s sat on the sofa and I come out of the next room behind him. I can see he’s on Snapchat but he instantly comes off it. He’s not really on his phone when I’m next to him. He rarely leaves his phone lying around. We have this relationship where we keep our things as our things which I’m happy with. So we don’t know each others passwords/share location etc..
Cancel the weekend?
It would absolutely not be financially abusive to move your paycheque into your personal account. It’s protecting yourself. Your SO’s friend is lying to his SO. Your SO lied to you. This will only escalate until the sum he owes is so big that he’ll decide it’s worth losing a friend over and he’ll disappear.
He might not be gay. He might be bi, or pan, or…
I wonder how long it will take him to find wife #5…. next time date more like 3/4 years before getting married. He doesn't want to change, he doesn't want you to nag him about the problems you are having with him, he doesn't have an issue why would he want to change?
Gawd! My mother's philosophy was that a house had to be clean enough to be healthy and dirty enough to be lived in. I highly recommend it to anyone who fixates on cleaning.
I don't know if I'm jumping to conclusions but has he jumped from an 18year old to 'innocent' you?
If you're waiting for marriage, is he perhaps attracted to that aspect?
Just tell him no, he doesn't get to decide who you hang out with, the end.
You have a guy friend, you may make other guy friends, and you will have guy friends. He actually doesn't get a vote or to make a demand like that.
If he doesn't want to be with a girl who has male friends, he can go find a different girl.
That's such a backwards, sexist, and illogical way of thinking, and better to get rid of this dude now.
Just tell him no, he doesn't get to decide who you hang out with, the end.
You have a guy friend, you may make other guy friends, and you will have guy friends. He actually doesn't get a vote or to make a demand like that.
If he doesn't want to be with a girl who has male friends, he can go find a different girl.
That's such a backwards, sexist, and illogical way of thinking, and better to get rid of this dude now.
My mother married an abusive and violent man. She was only with him for a few years, but the damage of his violence changed her permanently. I’m not manufacturing anything. We have one incident here, which OP oddly didn’t classify as violence when she said he is never violent, and I’m asking OP to think about his past behaviors.
Thank you… I appreciate it..
Losing a relationship does feel like losing home, and it’s common to kinda want to just give it all up.
That feeling does pass, OP. I’m very sorry for your heartache.
Google “how to take care of myself after a breakup” and try to follow that advice to the best of your ability: See Friends Try new or old Hobbies Counseling Sunshine Food Sleep Exercise
All those things will be nude to do. They really help though. Lean on friends and family as much as you can.
One day at a time.
Get over it. It is that easy, and that nude. You are too focused on (it seems) matching an instant recall ability that your boyfriend has and ignoring other, more basic qualities like the simple ability to point yourself in the right direction for things you do want to learn about or remind yourself of if information gets hazy from when you learned it until now. Einstein himself stated a love for books because he didn't have to remember as much, but could still have information on hand. There is also always the chance that you haven't even found all of the talents where you would be the one he is looking at and thinking “Fuck…. how is she making that look so easy??”
Walks 2 times a day at most, and they are only to make her do her duties. She used to, but that dog died as mentioned in the post. And that still didn't stop her from wrecking stuff
This is why age gap relationships are frowned upon… you know the truth. No matter how well you get on, you’d be compromising your own quality of life to be with her. You would need to mature a decades worth of time to be truly compatible. As hard as it is, you need to on-line your own life and experience it.
Perhaps in the future you two will find your way back to each other. But for right now? Go live! the life you deserve.
I think r/amitheangel and r/amithedevil have a bunch of people who are, but it's more entertaining ngl.
Maybe if I had hobbies, friends and such the issues wouldn’t seem so big. All of our kids are still elementary young, that makes doing things nude for ourselves. As a couple and individually.
Being a wife may have been put on the back burner while being a mom takes center stage.
I just recently opened my own business that I’m having a hard time finding time for to the point I’m gonna need to put it on pause so I can reconsider my operation methods to accommodate the kids.
Well this is fake because you cannot randomly have people committed to a psych ward for “strange social media behavior.” Also, they wouldn't enter your home without your knowledge. They also can't commit her without you or a family member advocating for it with proof of Berghaus changes. But okay.
Right? If this was a nuisance for him, I would think he would have consistently been complaining up and down a storm to his partner and seeking her counsel on it.
its not just the sex first off.
I fear we may not be compatible in the long run due to some differences in values
Rip off the bandaid and have your reasons ready for when she asks why. Dont make it long and painful. Do it asap, there’s never a good time