I (19m) almost lost my virginity with my gf (19f) today…. But it hurts for her. Help. NSFW

We were making out, I initiated it and we continued. I first went down on her while I was still hot. Then when I'm about to put the condom on, I go flaccid….

Not only that, but when I'm naked again….I don't find the hole. When she even leads it to the hole it doesn't "fit" it deadass doesn't "fit". I have an average sized penis, so I'm surprised.

I really need help on how to make it "loose" enough for mine to fit? More foreplay even though she was wet through her pants? Fingering or dildos to warm up? Idk, please help 😭🙏