I actually (30F) am in love with someone (33M) who can’t make me cum

Title says everything. We’ve been with each other for four years today, and I’m head more than heels for my (30F) boyfriend (33M). We live! together. Our sex life can be meh.

For guide, I’m an incredibly sexual person. I’m also bisexual, yet that never really plays into our bedroom life. TBH, I think he ignores that part of me out of insecurity. I’m sexually experienced, he’s more vanilla, so he or she doesn’t “explore”. In all our past relationships, my orgasm was an important aspect of intercourse for my partners. I actually never had to bring it up, that’s just what they loved. Honestly, I got used to the special treatment.

I really like this man with all my heart, but the sex is certainly lacking. It started as us having different work opportunities and days off (I’m a property manager and he is in the restaurant industry), which may prevent us from getting enough off time together to get it going. Sundays were the only day to hang out. No time, no sexual intercourse I get it. But when we all do get it in, it is one sided – this individual comes quick and does not bounce back at all.

I’ve spoken to him about our sex being one sided before and he explained it was a confidence factor along with the time constraint. After i try to guide him during intercourse it works, but I can inform I’m messing his self-confidence up even more because he’s not “doing it right” (although I’d never say that).

We had amazing, attentive sex for about two times after that convo but we are back to where we were.

I do want to say that he is deeply caring and incredibly knowing. Our families get along really well. Everything else in our relationship is definitely solid. I also understand and accept I’m not going to orgasm EVERY time we have sex. I love this man to items and am considering relationship. In the consideration, I’m afraid if I say “I do” if I’m also tallying to a subpar sex life permanently.

Am I trippin? Should I continue the relationship in case I’m concerned about sex 5+ years from now?

Edit: The lack of confidence is due to their size I think. He’s been a big guy. I actually met him at a party so when we vibed he has been at a higher weight than he is now. He’s lost a bunch of weight, but tension has been making him choose weight back up.