It's neither good or bad to cut off guys what is bad is lying about it. You are allowed to have them, he's allowed to have that boundary. A lack of affection, snapping and unwilling to listen to problems.
This is no different that porn so I would reference any existing attitudes you both have towards that.
Ultimately this sounds like a you being insecure problem rather than him doing anything particularly wrong.
Meanwhile you should acknowledge that in general terms you look to be the one in the wrong here behaviour wise. You went through his phone looking for trouble. Why don’t you trust and respect your partner?
That’s two potential issues with you that might well be damaging the relationship more than any porn habit your partner has.
Just like people are allowed to view sex as experimentation, pleasure, physical activity, etc. OP is allowed to view it as an intimate event between committed partners. She doesn’t need to “break herself free” of anything.
She has her perception of sex and what it means to her, and others can have their perception.
I can understand how you feel, you don't necessarily not trust him completely, you just feel unsettled due to a few factors. Both him doing something with other people that you have mentioned doing together on multiple occasions and then that a girl will be there as well.
Communication is always so key within a relationship. It may be best just to sit down and calmly have a conversation with him to express how you feel. This is something normal that you are going through but it is potentially you just need some reassurance from him, more than anything.
I can understand how you feel, you don't necessarily not trust him completely, you just feel unsettled due to a few factors. Both him doing something with other people that you have mentioned doing together on multiple occasions and then that a girl will be there as well.
Communication is always so key within a relationship. It may be best just to sit down and calmly have a conversation with him to express how you feel. This is something normal that you are going through but it is potentially you just need some reassurance from him, more than anything.
It's neither good or bad to cut off guys what is bad is lying about it. You are allowed to have them, he's allowed to have that boundary. A lack of affection, snapping and unwilling to listen to problems.
I don’t care about the others I was talking to OP and she is the one who thank me!
It was only the two of them no one else was here?
This is no different that porn so I would reference any existing attitudes you both have towards that.
Ultimately this sounds like a you being insecure problem rather than him doing anything particularly wrong.
Meanwhile you should acknowledge that in general terms you look to be the one in the wrong here behaviour wise. You went through his phone looking for trouble. Why don’t you trust and respect your partner?
That’s two potential issues with you that might well be damaging the relationship more than any porn habit your partner has.
and would you recommend stopping porn to get rid of this kink?
Yea that’s a deal breaker.
Just like people are allowed to view sex as experimentation, pleasure, physical activity, etc. OP is allowed to view it as an intimate event between committed partners. She doesn’t need to “break herself free” of anything.
She has her perception of sex and what it means to her, and others can have their perception.
I mean I feel like intentions like that should be communicated upfront
I can understand how you feel, you don't necessarily not trust him completely, you just feel unsettled due to a few factors. Both him doing something with other people that you have mentioned doing together on multiple occasions and then that a girl will be there as well.
Communication is always so key within a relationship. It may be best just to sit down and calmly have a conversation with him to express how you feel. This is something normal that you are going through but it is potentially you just need some reassurance from him, more than anything.
I can understand how you feel, you don't necessarily not trust him completely, you just feel unsettled due to a few factors. Both him doing something with other people that you have mentioned doing together on multiple occasions and then that a girl will be there as well.
Communication is always so key within a relationship. It may be best just to sit down and calmly have a conversation with him to express how you feel. This is something normal that you are going through but it is potentially you just need some reassurance from him, more than anything.
Buy her a weight scale, padded bra and waist trainer. See if she likes that shit.
A 31F is a woman, not a girl, and the fact that you call her a girl tells me that you are not mature enough to be with her. Sorry.
Thats a nasty lil thing called narcissism! almost everyone in OP's situation is dealing with a narcissist even if its not apparent!
How is he in the bedroom? Is he perhaps looking for intimacy with you and no just a sexaul release?
Also, while your reaction and feelings are perfectly fine, so are his reactions to being rejected.
I am upset because he’s manipulating into thinking I did something wrong.
yes, I 100 % agree.
OP did mention in a comment that they’ve been through divorce before