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Date: October 17, 2022
So you’re a homophobe too? Cool ?
He's asking you to help him trust that cuddling another dude in a towel, while wearing an easy-access jumper was totally non sexual.
Fine. Don't get the test, and lose your boyfriend. Then come back and cry here about how he left you with a baby and no support, and ask “how oh how can I fix it”.
You're being as dumb as a box of rocks for not seeing why he was suspicious, and you're going to lose everything if you don't just take a stupid test.
red flag city
No i wouldn’t comment about it. He’ll eventually see it. He’ll feel too bad if you mention it and it it wouldn’t serve any good purpose
He probably got black out drunk at the football game.
He watered down that story just as he did when he said they only kissed.
I'm sorry this happened to you, but you should move on. Giving cheaters a chance to lie to you again and hurt you again is not worth it.
I don’t know the context of the texts, that’s one of the issues, I’m not gonna go through her phone. Who knows what they talk about.. but they text a lot
Thank you for this, I will look up the Gray rock technique. After he left we texted a bit back and forth with more apologizing and me trying to explain myself. Then I asked if i should start packing my things and he said yes. So i am currently packing and trying to get over being sick (ive been sick all week, sore throat, cough, nauseas, etc.). Probably cause its been raining or something. Packing and being stressed hasn’t been helping me get over this sickness but i am trying my best to handle everything.
I’m very confident that you’re not being selfish or difficult here!
It sounds like you are empathetic and care how he feels while he has felt rejected and stopped empathising with you. If he’s still pouting after a morning cuddle then tell him off!
Take a deep breath, stretch out, try and enjoy the space and don’t let the distant-feels stop you getting a decent nights sleep.
How do you think a crush occurs?
OP this is way beyond you. I would recommend a couples therapist. He’s made it quite clear he doesn’t really listen to you during these convos because he isn’t interested in challenging his own beliefs
Honestly if he wanted to know he would ask. I wouldn’t lie but I wouldn’t volunteer. You were single at the time.
Need advice? Stop flirting with your married superior lol. What other advice is there.
Yeah like what's your goal with this lol
Tale as old as time
The fact that he brings her up CONSISTENTLY is an issue here so not sure why you’re being called insecure. The sweet spot of obsession and hate is apathy which is where he should be.
She’s not what you’re looking for. Well, unless you’re looking for a cheater.
This was definitely written by the ‘great husband’ wasn’t it
This happens the older you get. Some people hyper prioritize their romantic relationships like this. Then if she breaks up she will come right back and be super friend again. Until she finds another dude.
It’s awful but you’ll just have to accept that some people are this way.
Did I say therapy for a month makes for a health emotional recovery? No, I did not I simply said I started therapy to work on my issues.
Wisdom
OP, post about this on r/AsOneAfterInfidelity and r/survivinginfidelity. These are support subreddits for people who are dealing with infidelity. The first for people trying to reconcile and the second for people who are divorcing.
I say post on both so you can get feedback from both perspectives.
I will say this though: there need to be consequences for her actions. She did a horrible thing to you and you’re going to come to resent her actions. If there are no consequences, she may decide she can have as many affairs as she wants and hurt you again. I personally don’t think I could ever trust my wife again if I never found out she cheated on me. And if there is no trust, there is no relationship.
Op, your needs matter in a relationship
So if you feel like your needs aren’t being met in this relationship, and a conversation won’t make him change his behavior (for good reason since managing a business can be exhausting), then you need to ask yourself if you can stay in a relationship like this
Supporting someone through work/school can be nude emotionally. You need to ask yourself if you think it’s worth it to continue to support him
Girl I'm just 28 and right now the thought of dating a 19 year old is grossing me out. Like how dating a 14 year old at 19 felt like.
Trust your instincts. He sees a trophy. A pretty accessory. And that's a feature for him, not a bug. This is the reason he's dating someone your age and not someone his age.
Seriously! I can't even count the number of times my son told me he hates and and he can't wait to be able to move out. I know he doesn't actually feel that way but teenagers aren't known for being very appreciative to their parents, whether they are biological parents or not.
Those sound like great choices! Best wishes.
Depression is the name of the biggest trouble you're describing. BTW, being unwilling to adhere to ANY rules, including taking meds, is part and parcel of depression. It sounds as though she might also be dealing with issues far deeper then chemical balances in her body. If it were possible to help people want to change themselves for the better, we'd all do it in a heartbeat for our loved ones. Her asking you for help is her saying “I'm not going to do this but if I ask you for help I can argue with your methods and then appear as though I've done something when in fact I've just not showed up for yet another thing in life.” It's an endless circle and YOU CANNOT FIX THIS. She has to want to. All you can really do is decide how much more of this you want to be responsible for or on-line next to. This is a classic description of what happens in uncontrolled depression. Her self-esteem is non-existent, you can't fix this, she will continue to ask you for help. Support her best by taking on none of it and repeating that her therapist/counsellor/doctor and she are the best problem solvers with all of these things that relate to depression. You can not fix this. xo from a granny who's been there.
Please get full custody is writing !!
Keep the dog – dump the dude
Wow he sounds like a real catch. Take the dog and leave the manchild.
lol, so stupid. are you still a kid?
Where does it say he didn’t have consent?
She didn’t stalk him. Everything she learned about him was given to her without her own efforts. He said himself where he was going, the other girl told her where he was going. It was literally happening in front of her in real time. She went to confront him in his lies. No stalking involved.
They seemed pretty normal to me up until I found out about all of this. She says that it's not like they see each other nude as they all have their own covers but still, this is so god damn weird
You already have thrown in the towel but not left.
It was also sabotaged from the start because you didn’t choose someone you were attracted to.
Stop wasting time because time can’t fix your current issues.
Did I say it wasn’t his choice whether or not to disclose it? I simply said that was the lie by omission referred to by the previous commenter. It is a lie by omission, by the definition of a lie by omission.
He told you he did not want to be involved. Just reply that to him and block him and his entire family. He made the choice not you.
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My partner of one year tells me I am not caring for him enough.
The ways he wants me to care for him are mostly “traditional” like cooking, cleaning, but also partially financial by helping with groceries, for example. He is unemployed but formerly cash-rich for a period of time (before we met). He is absolutely broke now and owes me money. We do not on-line together. He says he has ADHD, depression, and recently I discovered some technology related addiction. He doesn’t have any money to pay for therapy and is essentially struggling to meet his basic needs at this point but the mental health symptoms seem to preclude him from taking steps to help himself. Vicious circle.
He says that he needs my softer support and encouragement to get out of this and back to himself. He would like me to “hold his hand through it”, and to be by his side taking some of the load off him.
However, I have been resentful and frustrated for a variety of reasons I won’t mention here. I want him to understand my actions/energy/feelings are a direct reflection of his behaviour. I am often trying to get him to understand my point or to get him to help himself…but I am not caretaking in the right way apparently.
He has asked for something interesting: 28 days of unconditional support. It’s not a contract per se but terms discussed include: – [ ] -seeing each other 2-3 times a week – [ ] -I should be more fun/positive – [ ] -make the plans for us if going out – [ ] -encourage him to tidy up or achieve a goal – [ ] -take the lead on cooking meals – [ ] -initiate affection/sex – [ ] -be softer/gentler in my mood/energy – [ ] -demonstrate my admiration/respect – [ ] -not accuse/bring up the past that starts fights
In theory this is also the kind of relationship I want but how do we determine if this is codependent caretaking OR something that makes a relationship better and deserves effort?
she will not unfriend them.
I think that should tell you what you need to know about the bride. I’d be concerned about the longevity of their marriage.
Even if he isn't sleeping with Laura (which he definitely is), he has broken your trust too many times, and he doesn't care. There is no reason he should constantly be speaking to this woman. He should have ended things the second she tried to make a move on him in that bar, but he didn't. Instead, he continues to interact with her outside of work, knowing you are not comfortable with it. This alone is cause for you to reevaluate your marriage. Your husband doesn't care about your feelings at all. He is lying to you constantly.
I wouldn't be surprised if this started out innocently enough with him just enjoying the attention of a younger woman. He probably believed he'd never act on anything. Then, the boundaries just kept getting pushed and pushed until you ended up where you are right now.
You need to think things through. Probably consult a lawyer. And then, you should definitely confront him. Tell him you know everything and that you are done. He doesn't deserve you. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be with someone that you can trust, someone you don't feel the need to check on where they are all the time. He can have Laura. Although, I'm sure she'll get bored really quickly with him once things don't have to be a big secret and they aren't sneaking around. He'll deserve the mess he made for himself. You just concentrate on yourself and your happiness.
its the face she lied about it for so long until i had irrefutable evidence . so i think shes hiding more
Probably sooner than that. My husband was his bipolar mom's little angel until he started having thoughts and feelings of his own that didn't align with her own, sometime around 3 or 4.
That is…not how courts work whatsoever. You really think judges are like “well this person talked first so case closed I guess”?
Agreed
That will only happen if she wants to save the situation too. If she doesn’t, nothing will change. Have you told her how she’s making you feel?
I had the exact same experience with my wife. As we were getting to know each other, went to her parents and they are obviously hoarders. Not extreme, but definitely hoard. It's ok to make you feel a bit odd, but I wouldn't put to much weight on it. As others have mentioned, children of hoarders are typically pretty clean lmao
OP, your post is unreadable.
Please rewrite this in a way that makes sense, and make it clear what you are actually asking for advice on.
She needs to take responsibility for her situation. Unreal that she is serious when telling you to gain weight! If you haven't, I suggest having a serious conversation about this or suggest therapy. She will likely resist holding herself accountable but something has to give.
Not a great way to start a marriage, then. If fiancée is that insecure..he doesn’t trust OP to know her own mind.
I hope she'll forgive you soon so you can marry before week 2 /s Seriously, she has issues and is not ready for a relationship. And you could drink a bit less in the next first date if you're trying to get to know someone apart from their genitals.
Thank you so much. Im planning on telling A everything now that i considered everything happened and had a sleep and cool down a bit. I think you approach would be appropriate. Considering B past behaviors, she sometime have me as a rebound person and when she’s ok she gonna go somewhere else. I mean my best friend hates her so theres that. I already told B no, not interested and its on the chatting platform too so i have my screen caps for A if i want. And as for B now that she pretty much recovered i think i would contact her less and slowly limits off contact one step at a time to keep her at arms length but A will need to have a say in this.
Thank you so much! I was bit confused last night and its all conflicting to me. To be honest i just want balance out everything but yeah, i dont think A would be fine knowing this so i will let her have a say in this too.
Thank you very much
Here’s what you do; find another boyfriend, this one is trash.
Not to mention he clearly doesnt respect her boundaries, which shows a lack of respect for her and the relationship.
Exactly, your fiancé hasn’t even pushed to make it happen and has listened to your concerns
There’s room for a lot of differences in opinion when you raise children together. And it’s not something OP would be willing to just let him make all the decisions. Especially since he’s such a pompous dick.
This guy sounds like a real catch. Are you sure you want to be married to someone who treats you like that?
Ok first of all next time don’t even start dating people whose morals and politics differ from yours. Don’t move in with people with whom you argue all the time. Jfc
When I think about him stringing me along it just seems too weird because he is really not the playboy type.
Your bf simply doesn't want to be married. C'mon, it's been 7 years, you've had numerous talks about timelines and expectations, he's had enough time to “plan”.
At this point, he knows that marriage isn't a nude boundary for you…you bought a house with him, you stayed even after having numerous discussions…. so yeah.