'Babysitting'? Whose children? Parents don't 'babysit' their own children, they parent them. Would you say that about another woman- that she 'babysits' her own kids?
His hockey friends call him “hollywood” and refer to him as a player. I agree about the part about him dating a younger woman although I couldn’t complain too much because my mother is 55 and is married to a 36 year old. But he actually dated her when he was 38 and she was 20 and they were together until right before she turned 22 and he turned 40. The very hot part is that he’s obsessed with me and I know I’m his dream girl too. He asked me to marry him after 4 months of dating, he’s a good listener, we like all the same things and he wants a family with me. His behavior is just really weird compared to my ex’s and others
Your boyfriend learned through experience and wants to save you from the same burden. It’s sweet. And you don’t even care to experiment with drugs so it’s a moot point. Your “friend” probably likes you and wants to sow the seeds of discontent.
I would break up with him that’s entirely different. That’s not even a boundary, that’s a condition or an ultimatum. I’d have more to lose in that situation. He knows I won’t have sex until marriage and if he isn’t okay with that he’s free to leave
If this guy wants to cheat, don't get involved. You can't stop him but you don't have to be part of the problem. That's a headache you don't need. But, I find this ghosting/blocking stuff childish, tell him he's making you uncomfortable and not to contact you anymore. No ambiguities. Not, I just want to be friends. You've been down that road and clearly he doesn't care for boundaries.
I am just really saddened by this whole situation. If he wanted to marry a woman that his family approves of I was okay with that and that's why I asked him from the beginning…. Because I would have rather walk away right away and not invest my time/ effort.
Did the two of you not make an agreement on how expenses would be split? If so, you should stick to that.
If there was no agreement beforehand, I would go by the spirit of keeping your finances separate. Is your partner putting the same amount into renovations as you are? If not, the extra you paid into renovations could make up for the rent you are not paying.
However, since marriage is a partnership and if the 2 of you both own the house, then you need to discuss the 3 months late on being finished situation with your spouse. Perhaps you could show goodwill by paying full rent for the 3 months if you are able.
Do you know where she lives? It sounds from your relationship like you should have no difficulty just going over to her house to see if she’s doing OK I wouldn’t suggest that if you didn’t have a close relationship with her family, but according to you, you do. I think after knowing someone for a year, you can just visit to see why she’s out of touch.
He knows he’s hurting you, he even made you cry? And he’s still doing it.
Does he kick puppies too? Because this is straighr up cruelty.
I hate this so much for you.
Dump him. He’s not partner material. What happens when you have kids? Or get sick? Our bodies change and age, if we are lucky enough to grow old. Find someone who cherishes you every day, at any size.
Tell him to fuck all the way off and move on. You are wonderful just the way you are.
Is it something worth discussing with her, so you think? Is it worth saying her, you’re not doing anything wrong, but this is where I’m at, can I have a bit to evaluate? Or do I sit on it and wait to see how it goes?
You don’t owe her anything. Just block and move on.
Pretty common term for amount of sexual partners outside of woke reddit.
'Babysitting'? Whose children? Parents don't 'babysit' their own children, they parent them. Would you say that about another woman- that she 'babysits' her own kids?
His hockey friends call him “hollywood” and refer to him as a player. I agree about the part about him dating a younger woman although I couldn’t complain too much because my mother is 55 and is married to a 36 year old. But he actually dated her when he was 38 and she was 20 and they were together until right before she turned 22 and he turned 40. The very hot part is that he’s obsessed with me and I know I’m his dream girl too. He asked me to marry him after 4 months of dating, he’s a good listener, we like all the same things and he wants a family with me. His behavior is just really weird compared to my ex’s and others
Holy shit. You seem like the monster here. Uneducated and just plain vile. Grow up.
If you dont like it you tell her how lovely it looks and what a fantastic difference it makes.
Its not whether you like it or not it is about her being happy and confident. If she's you gf then surely thts what you want for her.
Your boyfriend learned through experience and wants to save you from the same burden. It’s sweet. And you don’t even care to experiment with drugs so it’s a moot point. Your “friend” probably likes you and wants to sow the seeds of discontent.
I would break up with him that’s entirely different. That’s not even a boundary, that’s a condition or an ultimatum. I’d have more to lose in that situation. He knows I won’t have sex until marriage and if he isn’t okay with that he’s free to leave
How old is the kitty? If you start early they should tolerate having their claws trimmed
If this guy wants to cheat, don't get involved. You can't stop him but you don't have to be part of the problem. That's a headache you don't need. But, I find this ghosting/blocking stuff childish, tell him he's making you uncomfortable and not to contact you anymore. No ambiguities. Not, I just want to be friends. You've been down that road and clearly he doesn't care for boundaries.
just go to the cops. if he somehow isnt a pedophile or cheater he should understand if he’s a good guy…. but i doubt it
if you dont think it can be fixed you dont understand limerence. its a treatable issue. a very serious issue, but one that can be treated.
Do you show your ass to your friends? If yes, then by all means party on. If no, then she knew this was crossing boundaries.
Man there sure has been a lot of people posting this the last few days… starting to think this is just a regular ol troll post.
That is not normally how it works. It’s “equitable” distribution of assets – not “equal”.
Source: twice divorced loser.
Well birth control will lower your libido and chances of getting pregnant but then raise your risk of cancer. It’s tough being a Hetero woman.
I am just really saddened by this whole situation. If he wanted to marry a woman that his family approves of I was okay with that and that's why I asked him from the beginning…. Because I would have rather walk away right away and not invest my time/ effort.
What has happened to you that your self esteem is so low that you're even considering forgiving him for this bullshit?
Did the two of you not make an agreement on how expenses would be split? If so, you should stick to that.
If there was no agreement beforehand, I would go by the spirit of keeping your finances separate. Is your partner putting the same amount into renovations as you are? If not, the extra you paid into renovations could make up for the rent you are not paying.
However, since marriage is a partnership and if the 2 of you both own the house, then you need to discuss the 3 months late on being finished situation with your spouse. Perhaps you could show goodwill by paying full rent for the 3 months if you are able.
I didn't say it wasn't. I'm saying that I was responding to and clearing up a misconception that we didn't discuss this.
Or maybe it’s creepy to normalize pretending an actress is underage in order for you to get off?
Always trust a mother's intuition. If you have a gut feeling that something is off – it probably is.
Do you know where she lives? It sounds from your relationship like you should have no difficulty just going over to her house to see if she’s doing OK I wouldn’t suggest that if you didn’t have a close relationship with her family, but according to you, you do. I think after knowing someone for a year, you can just visit to see why she’s out of touch.
He knows he’s hurting you, he even made you cry? And he’s still doing it.
Does he kick puppies too? Because this is straighr up cruelty.
I hate this so much for you.
Dump him. He’s not partner material. What happens when you have kids? Or get sick? Our bodies change and age, if we are lucky enough to grow old. Find someone who cherishes you every day, at any size.
Tell him to fuck all the way off and move on. You are wonderful just the way you are.
Is it something worth discussing with her, so you think? Is it worth saying her, you’re not doing anything wrong, but this is where I’m at, can I have a bit to evaluate? Or do I sit on it and wait to see how it goes?
I am an anxious type personality, actually