Your life will only get worse with this women in it. Do you want the mother of your children to be the same person who was fucking strangers in your house?
Just like your inability to have an orgasm, this is a HIM problem. Pose the question, “Would you accept this behaviour from me?” to him and maybe he'll start to understand how immature he's being
Whether to bite the bullet and introduce him to your family depends on what kind of future you see with him. If you're still in regular contact with your family it's not like you and this guy could ever get married or cohabit in a longterm situation without him someday meeting them. So assuming this is a serious relationship you're going to have to just explain the situation to him and apologize in advance. But it's not something you can avoid forever.
Jesus fuckin Christ this “man” is a ghoul. What ever you decide with the baby this man is a loser and you deserve to be free of him. Why isn’t he vasectomized? I know that doesn’t matter at this point but what kind of adult, nurse(!) uses abortion as a birth control method?! I’m disgusted as a nurse and a human. Idk how you could feel anything but for contempt for the man who holds you in such low regard. That’s it’s ok for you to have to go through the emotional and physical pain of terminating another pregnancy. I’m pro choice as hell and even worked in an abortion clinic for awhile and I have nothing but the lowest regard for somebody who has the money and resources to manage his reproduction.
So you are a student, and he works full time. Do you work, or provide and financial support to the household?
If not then what else apart from household chores are you doing to make the household work?
Don’t get me wrong, he needs to be doing more inside, looking after a house should not be a one person job when there are 2 people living there, but as to how much he should be doing needs to be balanced with him paying for everything.
Now if you do work, and contribute financially or in other ways on top of the housework, then he of course needs to be doing a lot more than he does.
And him wanting to be praised or worshipped if he does anything is wrong and you need to stamp that out now (or leave)
As for what you can do to get him to do more inside – if you have tried asking, it’s time to talk, and start by forming an attack strategy, work out exactly what you want to say, what you want him to do, how you both can get things sorted etc. then sit him down and talk to him and lay it all out.
If he accepts it and makes lasting changes, then all good, if not then you should probably end the relationship.
You can't help how you feel but if you can't let this go then let her go, you both deserve better.
Your life will only get worse with this women in it. Do you want the mother of your children to be the same person who was fucking strangers in your house?
Sperm count can change throughout a man’s life and is often due to stress and stuff like that. You prolly just had low sperm count
Just like your inability to have an orgasm, this is a HIM problem. Pose the question, “Would you accept this behaviour from me?” to him and maybe he'll start to understand how immature he's being
I get that point of view. And she does take care of herself which I’ll never get in the way but I don’t want her to have to spend money on me
Whether to bite the bullet and introduce him to your family depends on what kind of future you see with him. If you're still in regular contact with your family it's not like you and this guy could ever get married or cohabit in a longterm situation without him someday meeting them. So assuming this is a serious relationship you're going to have to just explain the situation to him and apologize in advance. But it's not something you can avoid forever.
He's obviously lying, but those are also quite common fantasies, tbh. Doesn't necessarily mean he'd want to do that irl.
doesn't get across to her what I am trying to explain
Sounds like abuser speak for “she's not allowed to have her own opinions so when she doesn't immediately agree with me I verbally abuse her”
DARVO, totally common tactic of manipulation, yes.
Yep
Jesus fuckin Christ this “man” is a ghoul. What ever you decide with the baby this man is a loser and you deserve to be free of him. Why isn’t he vasectomized? I know that doesn’t matter at this point but what kind of adult, nurse(!) uses abortion as a birth control method?! I’m disgusted as a nurse and a human. Idk how you could feel anything but for contempt for the man who holds you in such low regard. That’s it’s ok for you to have to go through the emotional and physical pain of terminating another pregnancy. I’m pro choice as hell and even worked in an abortion clinic for awhile and I have nothing but the lowest regard for somebody who has the money and resources to manage his reproduction.
Please leave. They are manipulating you. Your mental health is going to suffer if you stay.
Also, do your laundry, but not theirs. They are an adult. They can wash their own stuff.
So leave.
If you have to close your eyes and pretend you're fucking someone else and she's fine with the way she is, there's no saving this.
How do you think you make him feel? Would you enjoy being with you???
So you are a student, and he works full time. Do you work, or provide and financial support to the household?
If not then what else apart from household chores are you doing to make the household work?
Don’t get me wrong, he needs to be doing more inside, looking after a house should not be a one person job when there are 2 people living there, but as to how much he should be doing needs to be balanced with him paying for everything.
Now if you do work, and contribute financially or in other ways on top of the housework, then he of course needs to be doing a lot more than he does.
And him wanting to be praised or worshipped if he does anything is wrong and you need to stamp that out now (or leave)
As for what you can do to get him to do more inside – if you have tried asking, it’s time to talk, and start by forming an attack strategy, work out exactly what you want to say, what you want him to do, how you both can get things sorted etc. then sit him down and talk to him and lay it all out.
If he accepts it and makes lasting changes, then all good, if not then you should probably end the relationship.
That escalated quickly