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This poor man…
She explicitly said that my negative thought are the reason she feel that way.
I admit it, that's my flaw but I am actively trying to fix that.
But, I really can't take this anymore, if something is slightly “wrong”, that's it she is irritated…
Sadly everything is real
Imagine a guy black out drunk and the only thing he can think of is sex. He manages to get laid, was he raped? You are saying he was because he was not in a state to give consent.
This is what I hear over and over in this thread.
The chance is there that the husband is taking his chance to sleep with a half aware wife – rapey. Or the man isn’t lying and OP is in fact coming on to him, aggressively, on many of the nights that she takes the pills.
Then imagine this going on for 20 years and the only solution from OP is “don’t touch me” – Until ghost hour when she appears fully awake and very horny. Perhaps even multiple nights in the week…
Either scenario is possible, and I like to think the best of people, so I go for the horny ambien one. And why haven’t they done any changes during the two decades OP has taken the drug for sleep?
OP, there's a reason he's dating someone a full decade younger. No woman his own age with even a smidgen of dating experience would consider this normal or acceptable.
It troubles me that he didn't respect your initial 'no' and instead kept trying to 'persuade' you to have sex. Likewise, that he feels entitled to sex when he's in the mood, regardless of how you feel.
Finally, the silent treatment is a huuuuuuuuuge red flag. It's manipulative AF.
Don't have kids with this man
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However, I do agree that we do have trust issues. That is a major flaw that we are also trying to fix, I just don't know how I'm supposed to feel safe + able to trust when I find him doing these things any time I've looked thru his phone.
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I agree with what others have said—bring it up with him privately and let him know you’ve noticed it happening a lot, then ask him to stop. If he gets defensive, reiterate that it’s not criticism, it’s just something you noticed and that you’d like for him to stop so you can speak for yourself.
And for you! It must have been awful at the beginning when he thought you were encouraging it or taking advantage of him. Nightmare.
Go for it!
for those who are already decades in to a certain way of communicating, it's a big ask that they should change that unless THEY want to.
Would you say the same of men who were raised to be brash, disrespectful and demanding? Or should he change his behavior?
My son is very wealthy and she doesn’t have anything in common with him, she just uses him and leaches his money for her own interests
I mean…what about your son? What if he only cares about looks and wants to have an arm candy for a wife?
I also found out about her narcissistic diagnosis recently. I have deducted that she went to a psychiatrist, got diagnosed with narcissistic personality, didn’t like the diagnosis so she doesn’t attend therapy to better herself anymore. I have read up on narcissism and the trauma it can cause children and partners I’m terrified for my son and grandchildren. I could be overreacting but I don’t like how my son is wrapped around her finger.
How exactly did you “find out” about her diagnosis? You realise narcissim is also a spectrum, right? Srsly, you sound overbearing.
You cannot get her to shut up. Move out.
Im curious what your ethic background is? Im just curious as i know alot of cultures leave young adults in this same situation .
I understand, but keep in mind if you move out, that's the end of the relationship. I highly doubt he would be fine just hanging around waiting while you party.
Curious on the gender of the bff you want to live! with. If it's a guy double done on this relationship.
So I guess you have to decide if being wild and free for a bit is worth ending something that you say is good but stale. You may really really regret it when you find out the party and free lifestyle is super sad and empty in the end and see his wedding photos to someone else.
Briefly dated a guy who did that (not in front of me) – he ended things because I would not consent to swing dancing* and this spoke poorly about my selfish nature. I will remain offended as long as I live!.
*swing dancing in JNCO jeans by the way
???? I'm bored with you.
Later, gator
You're high every single day, why do you think she should have to deal with that?
I have thrown around the idea that we could be really good friends but they just said that it would not be possible for them as they see me romantically. I do not want to hurt them by ending it suddenly and I do not want to loose the bond I have. It’s really a difficult situation for me :((
IF YOU AREN'T COMFORTABLE WITH THIS KIND OF SEX, DON'T HAVE IT. Your wants and needs are JUST AS IMPORANT AS HIS. Explain to him that this just isn't doing it for you, and tell him about the pain. If you aren't compatible sexually, it might be best to end this. Good luck to you OP.
IF YOU AREN'T COMFORTABLE WITH THIS KIND OF SEX, DON'T HAVE IT. Your wants and needs are JUST AS IMPORANT AS HIS. Explain to him that this just isn't doing it for you, and tell him about the pain. If you aren't compatible sexually, it might be best to end this. Good luck to you OP.
Good god just break up
And yet you're still avoiding to respond what your opinion is if the roles were reversed. A simple yes or no would suffice. The way you constantly avoid to answer though, does not hide your double standards
Yeah he most likely was shooting his shot with someone and got turned down. If he gets mad at you then separating is for the best bc he's mossy likely just mad that your were successful where he failed. It was his idea to break up and when you play stupid games you win stupid prizes.
Sounds like he simply isn’t ready to propose, and that’s okay. You’re barely out of college and have so many life changes coming up. It’s honestly smart not to rush into an engagement directly after school. Get used to your lives together in the real world then talk again about getting engaged.
i told him i find one of them good looking but that doesn’t mean i’m going solely for the men and solely because of a singular man.
Sorry man, she was with you since you were 19, been together 6 years, and is only doing this because her friend clearly has her ear. She has trust issues according to your other comment, so her friend is is def taking advantage of her and her own situation.
it sounds like the extroverted friend was loud around the introverted gf, which apparently is grounds to call off a wedding
Because one of them is out of the league of the other, and they settle for being 'just friends'.
Surely this is a troll.
Historically she's had rather bad relationship with her dad and blamed him for many bad things that happened in her life or in the life of her family. I'm curious how do you think it affected my relationship with her?
Been married 10 years and the you just want sex shit pops up alot. No, I do all the things I do without expectations. What she doesn’t realize is in the past 2 years we probably have had more sex than in the first 5 years. She’s beautiful and turns me on Every minute of the day. Idk maybe it’s just how I am, she calls me her Latin Lover. At least you’ll know when something is up because it will be very obvious
And there's the criticisms that he doesn't want to hear.
She’s lied about where she was before and the past times I asked her about it she turned the conversation around on me and started listing a bunch of mistakes or things I’ve done that she doesn’t like. Because of this I’m not sure if I want to confront her because I don’t want to loose her.
She’s gaslighting you. And as long as you’re afraid to lose her, she will continue to do whatever the hell she wants because she knows she can get away with it.
I think even at a career it's fine. We spend a lot of time at work, people are bound to get together. A lot of offices are big with many different departments, pretty easy to avoid someone you don't want to see.
Don't fuck your boss though.
That’s my fear for sure.
Apologies, it was very late when I read this and my brain filled in some gaps lol
I hope you didn’t accept that desperation inspired proposal.
OP’s boyfriend is a man
Yes. No child should have to go through the things you did, I honestly think the trauma and guilt you'd suffer if history repeats itself and you knew you could have said something to stop it and didn't, will consume you. This animal still has power over you, I think you owe it to your future self to take it back.
Honey I guarantee your family would rather lose a bit of money and have you happy and free, then spend money and make you feel stuck in an abusive situation. Look up “sunk cost fallacy ” and don't commit just because you think you've gone too far already
If you trust her. Then trust her. That's it.
I feel like the parents should be embarrassed here, not you op
Dude you don’t even sound like you like her, but tolerate her because you don’t have anyone else. Let her go and find someone to be happy with, because that ain’t you.
Listen to your friend
The age gap is fine if y’all just want to have fun and keep it casual and see how it goes.
But 21 is way too young for most people to even consider getting married.
No we got married months before we got pregnant, we didn’t plan to have a child for another year or two but both of us knew we wanted kids so we made it work earlier than expected.
I’m not sure what changed, maybe when we visited Florida so see his family? He left his family on a sour note and seem extremely determined to move to Colorado.
The last part broke my heart.
… okay?
you seem nice
When people say they need a break they basically want to cheat on you. They already have their eyes on a target and just need justification. If it works out they might not even come back to you. It's the cowards way. Let her know that she doesn't need to contact you again and that your break just became permanently. Your self esteem will thank you. Don't look back.
Alcoholism would be one concern, but violent when drinking? I'm older and have had my moments, but generally, the filter comes off when drinking…your underlying nature is still the same. Drinking isn't an excuse for violent behavior.
He’s no longer my boyfriend because he wasn’t putting a stop to anything and that’s why we broke up so I surely did not let that situation slide what so ever.
My man it lasted 2 months you need to let go of whatever picture or idea of her you have in your head, you don’t really know her after only 2 months so hanging on this long and being upset she’s living her life is just odd
What are your intentions towards the friendship?