No, he actively made a play for her. The only reason he didn’t is because she turned him down (at that point, though it sounds like now they’ve done it).
You think it doesn’t effect him but it does – he has every right to total privacy in his home even while he is sleeping. He should not have to have the phone on all night, every night of the week at all. No wonder he is fed up. Your neediness should be addressed through a therapist. Your boyfriend is not your emotional crutch.
Open relationships are a known thing. I can't promise that he's serious about it, but there's people who are. I'm in one.
Ask what he imagines the future looking like if you do it and go from there.
he only talked about doing it
No, he actively made a play for her. The only reason he didn’t is because she turned him down (at that point, though it sounds like now they’ve done it).
You think it doesn’t effect him but it does – he has every right to total privacy in his home even while he is sleeping. He should not have to have the phone on all night, every night of the week at all. No wonder he is fed up. Your neediness should be addressed through a therapist. Your boyfriend is not your emotional crutch.