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If someone did this to my child I would throw hands and never speak to them again. Brother, sister, mother, father, rabbi, I don't give a fuck. This is beyond a boundary, this breaches human decency.
He doesn't need to work a desk job. I don't work a desk job and I'm very happy with my job. There are plenty of jobs that he could do, there must be other things that he likes other than singing, if you want to help, sit with him and brainstorm ideas for jobs based on the things he likes or doesn't mind doing. But he needs A job (unless his parents have millions that he will inherit)
'Listening to him try to blame everything on his bipolar disorder just made me angrier. '
Let's just pause for a moment and think about this. If he has bi-polar disorder, one of the symptoms can be inappropriate sexual behaviour (see Vivian Leigh's biography for an example). However, this is only true if the sufferer is not on any medication. With the correct balance of medication bi-polar sufferers can cope with life just fine.
If, however, he is NOT on any medical regimen, you have far bigger problems than him banging his ex-step sister. Uncontrolled bi-polar sufferers can he literally hell to online with (I have personal experience here) Up to and including violence.
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Has he been correctly diagnosed by a competent psychiatrist?
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Think long and very hot before you consider forgiving him and taking him back to try again.
He used sexual coercion, he insisted, then he threatens her by saying how he could've raped her, so she better comply next time if she doesn't want to get hurt.
I would give her cat to a shelter/re home it. Then when your shitty roommate is looking for her cat, just say “idk where it went, I thought you took it with you since you were gone for so long.” She will think it ran away. She clearly doesn’t care about her cat enough. Don’t get your RA or anyone else involved. They won’t be able to do anything since it’s her “emotional support animal.”
Not really, I am like this because I lost my goals and I'm a bit lost in life if I may say. We met during the summer holidays and she saw the true me, all joyful and with multiple activities. When I have objectives and passion I am whole different person and she would like me to go back to that type of energy.
Women lose interest in a man looooooong before they say the words “I’m breaking up with you”. It could take weeks or months before they are consciously sick of a guy.
Essentially you guys are broken up.
It’s best to just say it out loud and move on. She doesn’t want you anymore.
Um well he doesn't want to get married clearly. So is it worth it to you to present him with an ultimatum or are you just going to settle for not being married.
Nothing personal here, just want you to know that I did not read your post. I did however read your title and that was all I needed. He is abusive and blaming you for it. “I wouldn’t do this if you didn’t make me” is a standard phrase for abusers. It’s one of those red flag phrases that lets you know exactly what is going on. Please find some safety for yourself because it won’t happen with him in the picture.
Unfortunately, officiual stats have to rely on self-reports. IMHO I am quite sure
that the % is much higher and is most probably the support for my original
citation.
Well you are 20 I don't think you have any kids. So make some time and go to gym. Maybe you can go together
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She got into your buddy’s car and drove off for guard?
She’s projecting.
If someone did this to my child I would throw hands and never speak to them again. Brother, sister, mother, father, rabbi, I don't give a fuck. This is beyond a boundary, this breaches human decency.
I’m sorry, are you secretly a car? That’s like one of the few things (maybe only?) that depreciates in value once it’s “driven off the lot”
NTA, Tell him to fuck off, maybe offer him one of your toys to do it with?
Dumb his ignorant ass to the curb and find some fresh batteries
And this is supposed to last how long?
He doesn't need to work a desk job. I don't work a desk job and I'm very happy with my job. There are plenty of jobs that he could do, there must be other things that he likes other than singing, if you want to help, sit with him and brainstorm ideas for jobs based on the things he likes or doesn't mind doing. But he needs A job (unless his parents have millions that he will inherit)
Actually cycle tracking is more reliable than a condom.
'Listening to him try to blame everything on his bipolar disorder just made me angrier. '
Let's just pause for a moment and think about this. If he has bi-polar disorder, one of the symptoms can be inappropriate sexual behaviour (see Vivian Leigh's biography for an example). However, this is only true if the sufferer is not on any medication. With the correct balance of medication bi-polar sufferers can cope with life just fine.
If, however, he is NOT on any medical regimen, you have far bigger problems than him banging his ex-step sister. Uncontrolled bi-polar sufferers can he literally hell to online with (I have personal experience here) Up to and including violence.
So consider the following points carefully:
Has he been correctly diagnosed by a competent psychiatrist?
Is he on any medication?
Has he shown this kind of reckless behaviour in the past?
Is he generally faithful and kind and is this noticeably out of his usual behaviour pattern?
Can you live! with the answers?
Living with bi-polar disorder always involves two sufferers – one who has it, and the other who is on the receiving end of it.
Think long and very hot before you consider forgiving him and taking him back to try again.
What did I say that was redpill? She obviously didn't want to have that very hot conversation since OP is very gungho about children
He will reach back out. When he does, stay strong. Just block his number.
He used sexual coercion, he insisted, then he threatens her by saying how he could've raped her, so she better comply next time if she doesn't want to get hurt.
At this point just end the relationship.
You know she's destroying your quality of life
I would give her cat to a shelter/re home it. Then when your shitty roommate is looking for her cat, just say “idk where it went, I thought you took it with you since you were gone for so long.” She will think it ran away. She clearly doesn’t care about her cat enough. Don’t get your RA or anyone else involved. They won’t be able to do anything since it’s her “emotional support animal.”
Not really, I am like this because I lost my goals and I'm a bit lost in life if I may say. We met during the summer holidays and she saw the true me, all joyful and with multiple activities. When I have objectives and passion I am whole different person and she would like me to go back to that type of energy.
So women break up differently than men do.
Women lose interest in a man looooooong before they say the words “I’m breaking up with you”. It could take weeks or months before they are consciously sick of a guy.
Essentially you guys are broken up.
It’s best to just say it out loud and move on. She doesn’t want you anymore.
Um well he doesn't want to get married clearly. So is it worth it to you to present him with an ultimatum or are you just going to settle for not being married.
Nothing personal here, just want you to know that I did not read your post. I did however read your title and that was all I needed. He is abusive and blaming you for it. “I wouldn’t do this if you didn’t make me” is a standard phrase for abusers. It’s one of those red flag phrases that lets you know exactly what is going on. Please find some safety for yourself because it won’t happen with him in the picture.