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he has gotten better at it but he's still not fully able to do that. my partner has lived on his own but i haven't.
Sounds like it would be good for your bf to get some individual counseling, and for you to online on your own first before jumping into living together this quickly.
While I do think some of these questions are truly not something he wants to know, the generalized “how many guys have you interacted with, and how long did you interact with each” are very fair questions. Both guys and girls recognize that past behavior is predictive of future behavior, and there are reasons that you can disqualify yourself from a relationship by showing that you either don't respect your own body or you treat men like disposable commodities. It's not to deny you from seeking love, but to make sure that you are wife material. And whether most girls want to admit it or not, you all are drowning in opportunities so showing that your process of vetting men before allowing them your whole self shows signals whether you make genuine attempts to find and be a good long term partner.
As for how I'd answer, I would just stick to how many total, and how many boyfriends, and how long those relationships lasted.
Fuck that.
I would slow down on making major decision to raise someone else’s child and embark on a lifelong relationship with this level of dysfunction. Parents can go scratch. It is your life.
It feels like you are the one doing all the work here, I understand he may be wonderful and rich, but if he is not putting in effort to see you, thats a big failing.
Stop travelling to see him for at least a month because you are busy at work, see if he comes to you at all.
If you are uncomfortable with her texting other men, she should respect that and stop. If this ERP is where she is getting her jollies and sexual release, that is her relationship, not you.
So your ex was right all along? Don’t keep that from her she should know that she her feelings were right all the time
I mean why are you more mad at the friend for telling you what your bf won’t? The friend didn’t cause this your bf being down low did.
Believe it or don’t. But don’t whine to anyone when he gives you an STD
I’m not, but I’m hoping we can figure something out. Thank you!
Thats just weird. Theyre over there texting about some game…. at night when gamers game…. and your sleeping and hes supposed to be like “nah not when shes sleeping”. Whats the logic behind time of day or you sleeping that makes it wrong?
You dont think thats weird? Hes supposed to just see a notification from his friend and internally say “cant do it till she wakes up”. I cant find the logic in it
That's different and has nothing to do with the purchase of the house. That's a marriage contract which states which assets will be shared and which won't. That can negate the spouse getting an equal cut upon divorce, but it also depends on the nature of the divorce.
Are they both mutually dissolving the contract or did someone violate the terms of the contract (both marriage and prenup) rendering the prenuptial agreement void prior to the decision to divorce?
All depends on how the contract is written.
I think partially this is because my armpits are stained with stench. I was depressed for a long time from March to August and never showered during the month of August. My armpits are permanently stinky. I have been trying to fix it for months. I will take the shower hose and spray really very hot hot water and scrub for fifteen minutes with soup but still…stinky! No joke!
Also I think it is that I am a shy guy and girls mostly like masculine “whoop whoop. HEY YOU STRANGER HAVE A GOOD DAY” kind of guys.
Y’all are 18 and making minimum wage, you shouldn’t have pets. You are enabling her. Do you want a dependent who controls your life? Cause that’s what you are creating.
Thank him and move on with your life. There’s a good chance he is just happy you’re happy. I know that many of my ex’s I wish nothing but happiness for. Don’t read too much into it.
I’m planning to no longer talk to her after our trip. She told me she can’t make any money transferring app so she can’t send me money. She said she will give me cash and I haven’t received anything yet
I will never understand why people drink to the point of not remembering what they do or doing things they claim that wouldn't otherwise do.
If you want to stay, she needs to cut all non-work related contact with AP, until she can get a new job, transferred, or until he leaves. Complete timeline, she should tell AP’s wife, and if she doesn’t, you should. anonymously if that makes you feel better. She also needs to completely transparent about what she does and with who, until she earns your trust back. She screwed up, and the consequences are she needs to earn her way back to where you two were before she screwed up, before it’s reasonable to work on improving the relationship. If not, break up, and go NC. Whatever you choose, good luck ✌️
Hate to tell ya but op has been trolling this sub with this kind of bullshit for well over a year now.
I am not trolling.
I hear you, and, it’s still a misinformed argument. It’s a scientific fact that drinking in large quantities decreases your pain ratings, increases pain tolerance, and higher blood alcohol content is associated with analgesia (inability to feel pain).
I understand where you’re coming from, but even to say she would have probably noticed is misinformed. Not to mention, some folks have a very hot time with interoception and proprioception (both of which are also impacted by alcohol) which would also contribute to not noticing.
I’m not trying to rip you a new asshole, I just believe it’s a misinformed viewpoint, and am attempting to explain why vs just saying “don’t say that.” Ya know?
Divorce rate is actually quite low, the 50% fail rate that reddit loves to tout is misleading as it accounts for all marriages including people who have gone through multiple divorces.
If you only look at first marriages the divorce rate is nowhere near 50%.
Do we know it is revenge porn??? We don’t know who sent it and why. There are quite a few reasons: random sending the pics to woman who is so angry she made it her business to find the recipients of the mail. Sending to gf on side, etc. Op needs to find out more. If he sent it to a person he doesn’t know, then that is a crime. Equivalent is someone showing you their Willy in the park. Some of these crimes escalate, so we need to know what really happened. The fact he cannot tell right from wrong is worrying.
After 4 tries, finally posted
I honestly don't think my wife raped me by peeing in the bath. Relax.
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Make your peace with whether you're willing to end the relationship over it, because you as the man will be wrong for taking any issue with her weight. No it's not fair, yes it's reality, make your peace with the fact that she's never going to lose it because you say so. You'll just be wrong for bringing it up.
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Got it. Sometimes distractions just don’t always work. What I’ve found to work for myself when I start to feel insecurities creeping in about a relationship is that I try to figure out where my insecurities are coming from (I.e. what feelings are coming up for me? why is this specific thing triggering to me? Has something happened in my past that’s similar to this that’s making it particularly very hot for me to deal with? Etc). As I’m working through that, I’ll also offer myself reassurance (for example, while he may still be friends with her, he obviously loves and cares about you, and has chosen that he wants to be in a relationship with you). It can also help to plan something with a friend/call a friend/plan to do something that you’d enjoy on those nights as well.
Roger thank you.
Awesome, thank you so much for the insider perspective! I'll check out that video with her tomorrow.
When you cheat you break trust. You cheated. You lied to him. How will he ever be able to be sure that you're not lying now, or any other time? Get the paternity test, if the baby is his then you can then make sure he supports it financially once your inevitable divorce has happened.
Why? Because cooking for others is an act of service. Do you know what your wife’s love languages are? My partner loves it when I cook because acts of service are important to her. Any person can order food. Not any person can show that they care enough to take the time to make you a meal. You may not enjoy it, but do you think that’s something you could do occasionally to show your wife some love and appreciation? It’s really irrelevant if it’s a modern society or if you have the money. The point is putting the time in to show someone you love, that you care.
Take your time and get yourself out of there. She’s not trustworthy and will never be trustworthy. Here’s the thing kinks are cool and actually help bond couples. But don’t bring a third person into your marriage. By the time you do that your marriage is mostly gone, which is what you probably already discovered.
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If you are uncomfortable down there even when not having Sex; itchy, sore, ect; you could have something like thrush or bacterial vaginosis, both of which are treatable and completely normal. As for him saying these inconsiderate comments, he needs to stop being so selfish otherwise the relationship won’t last. It’s just not healthy.
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I used to work in the child welfare field. We had received a report that a young teen was pregnant by her stepdad. Were informed he was infertile by a physician, so the report wasn’t taken seriously. Got another report about the same situation. Paternity test was done, and stepdad was the baby’s father. Just pointing out that it’s not impossible that OP is the father.
I’m sorry you are feeling bad. You did nothing wrong. It sounds like has just an absolute ass. Try your best to move on. You deserve better.
You are recognizing that she is unpredictable and potentially dangerous. This is not a good combination for a long term partner. Right now, whatever you do, do NOT get her pregnant. Imagine her behaviour with children in the picture.
You will also need to research 'Sunk Cost Fallacy'.
If you feel you must give her yet another chance, there needs to be a clear plan with a timeline, and results. This should include therapy and counselling, possibly medications, and learning how to communicate with you without these ridiculous screaming matches. That's NOT a healthy relationship.
If you find you are just 'done' with it, she will need to figure out how she's going to live the rest of her life with her current attitude. She doesn't have to move in with family – she can find a roommate. This will not be YOUR responsibility. Your responsibility is protecting yourself and your own mental health. Good luck.
if there was something between them it would have happened earlier.
lol that is NOT reassuring
What exactly do you want to communicate?
Dude, if you cheated, she’s not the love of your life.
That being said, just leave her alone for now and let things cool off. You are both 19. Yeah there is always a chance in the future you can rekindle things, but that should not be your primary focus as a 19 year old college student.
Enjoy college. Those were the absolute best four years and I would do it again in a heartbeat. Have fun. Be young. Party. Make the mistakes now and learn from them. Have fun with friends. Commit to your studies and enjoy what you’re learning.
Thank u. Uve been one of the few that have had actual advice lol
You have a right to feel angry and I think that is a perfectly natural response. You will likely go through various emotions. Have you talked to your counselor about it? Your counselor would be best suited to help you cope with the anger.
Like others have said, I am glad to hear that she immediately took swift action to get far away from the crush, and go to you, rather than allow it to escalate into an emotional or physical affair. That’s exactly how a faithful partner would handle a situation if they ever noticed a crush on a co worker developing.
Yes, she's toxic. She dumped you and now she's treating you as if you're an old coat that she only wears when she has no other clean laundry.
He's very immature. Let him move out, and then you can find an adult to have a relationship with.
How can you even afford a ring or marriage if you don't have a job
Dont waste any more of her time. Or yours for that matter.
This only ends in regret and resentment, and if you're really unlucky cheating and abuse.
If you're not into her like you'd like to be, that's the end of the conversation. There's no way to manufacture attraction. Its far easier to find a woman you're attracted to and who has all these attributes.
And frankly if you think from her pov it's depressing and insulting- 'you're really a great women and have everything going for you, but you're just not attractive enough for me to get it going'. That's not a compliment in any way
On the flip side, if your partner cares about you and the health of your sex life, which is a big part of a relationship, they should put in a bit of effort to keep up their appearance and shape. Not saying you have to have six pack abs, but obesity isn’t really an excuse. Honestly I think what you wrote, which is common rhetoric on Reddit, all holy is though…is just an excuse to not exercise. Bring those downvotes ?. Personally op, my gf is also gaining weight, and I have six pack Abs and fit af. I do love her for more than her body, but I know what you mean, a little effort for your man would be nice every once in awhile ya know
On the flip side, if your partner cares about you and the health of your sex life, which is a big part of a relationship, they should put in a bit of effort to keep up their appearance and shape. Not saying you have to have six pack abs, but obesity isn’t really an excuse. Honestly I think what you wrote, which is common rhetoric on Reddit, all holy is though…is just an excuse to not exercise. Bring those downvotes ?. Personally op, my gf is also gaining weight, and I have six pack Abs and fit af. I do love her for more than her body, but I know what you mean, a little effort for your man would be nice every once in awhile ya know
Thanks. Not going to lie, I was thrilled when she hit 18 and I could block all avenues of communication with him and let her manage her relationship with him on her own.
She’s a smart kid though and is aware of her dad’s behavior. She is fierce about her boundaries and won’t hesitate to check him or anyone really. I love that about her.
Respectfully, why are you with someone who is so cruel to you?
You are 23 years old and have many great years ahead of you. Why not share those years with someone who measures your worth by your character and not a ruler?
Generally, girls will not hesitate to turn you down if they aren't interested in going out, the easiest way being the old “I have a boyfriend” (even if it's not true). But there are some questions:
How long has the ghosting been? Sub-question, how busy is she? If it's only been a few days, she could be busy with work, family stuff, schoolwork, whatever. Stuff happens.
Did you make it clear you were asking her out romantically? If she just thinks it's a cool hang, she might not feel as obligated to explain the ghosting. I had a relationship like that in college. I was serious but never explicitly made a move so we were stuck in limbo (until she met someone who was more clear). You won't even get “friendzoned” in that situation; you'll just be another acquaintance.
Good luck, OP. But no matter what, don't attack her about the ghosting or you'll definitely never hear from her again. Ask about it, sure. But have some patience and understand when/if she explains.
That should make it easier for you. Well not easier to deal with but at least open communications is already there for you. The one biggest thing that makes everything more difficult in a relationship is mistrust.
I hope you find a solution that works for you in the long run. Always be true to yourself first
You aren’t failing this marriage. She is.
shocking
I'd cheat on you too, cause it seems like the only way to get away from a man like you.
Women pay too. Risking their life to bear those misogynistic men's kids, spending all their life on raising those kids when they could have a career… Everyone pays.
Why did they only test one of your children and not all 4? It seems odd that out of the blue they'd accuse you of cheating and not test all children
Dude…you wrote out this whole thing and still don't see it…? Me, personally, I never would have even made it to the part where I found out my wife was gay, because I would have ended this relationship a very long time ago. In this whole post, you make it seem like she's never once shown you the decency and respect that a partner is supposed to show. Have some more respect for yourself. Don't be in a relationship where someone treats you like that. Find someone who values you and cares about you enough to not ditch you at the hospital when you need a ride home after a surgery, to have lunch with her friends. Based on the rest of the post, it would make me wonder if she had a crush on one of her friends and that's why she always wants to spend more time with them and make them more of a priority than her own husband. Just end it, dude.
Based on your profile you are a caring person so you should understand what I feel. It’s not suspicious.
If I had anywhere at all to go I would. I'm not close to any of my family and literally all of my friends either have their own families to care for + no room or they don't even have places of their own at the moment. Last time we split I did move out and moved in with some random new friends of mine and it was an equally rough living situation. He owns the house, although we moved in together on the same day, so I legally cannot kick him out either. Moving is my only option and where I online housing is limited. That's why I intend to save as much money as possible while I'm here.
Are you changing positions to mix it up and give her different sensations?
Can’t have a meaningful relationship with a compulsive liar. How can you trust someone like that?
Talk to her “Hey during the party, X was sitting with you feeling up your waste while I was out of the room, what's going on?”
I'd ask before accusing her, given she didn't react when he left.
You think we have total control over it?????
Look man, even if what she told you was 100% the truth, you would be an absolute imbecile to take any of it as mitigating factors.
Dump her.
You have two options: either get over it or break up. You said you can't get over it. You also returned the ring. So what exactly is your question here?
Are you just posting this so people will validate you? I'm sure you'll find it because there are a lot of people on Reddit who unironically use the phrase “body count.” Those people will also struggle to find meaningful relationships unless they change their view.
Your (ex) girlfriend deserves someone who respects her for who she is as a person. Clearly that person isn't you.
Was it an issue before you moved in?
Why is he assuming sex even happened? Because his clothes were wet? He was drunk af, he could have sweat through his clothes, he could have gotten sweaty when they had sex or he could have pissed himself.
The same reason his brother could have for wanting to sleep with her is the same reasons he would have for lying about it happening.
Honestly OP sounds like he's writing fetish fanfic at this point.
What you mean expose myself? Im confused by your respond. I asked the question because he’s being weird with me now that i want deal with him again
No, I'm just curious.
Innovative, but i was only emphasizing the point when i said i couldn't wear it. It's really more of a girl's necklace. I could give it to some other girl but feels a bit disingenuous no?
Well, it happened before you were together. Or exclusive. It is “valid” to feel hurt, because you can't control your feelings, but it's certainly also irrational in a relationship sense.
That being said paying for pornography in general is pretty pathetic. As other users have pointed out, it's free nowadays. That's a separate issue.
Likewise violating his privacy by going through his phone is a big red flag.
For someone who is 28, you don't sound very mature in this context. Sorry.
I don't think she is. Just a GF at the moment.
I understand that but now i have no transportation to the job that pays mine and her bills and no way to get any myself
Those are certainly all words
Lol ok yet you blew up my notifications with like 10 different comments- we get it- you don’t agree. Move on
It's a good idea to get all the really big issues out on the table early, kids, religion, politics etc, way before feelings develop. This gal is old enough to know that and is likely not looking to waste time on someone who doesn't want the same things as her.
And yes, her clock is ticking, I'm glad it worked out ok for your mum, but many women experience difficulties with pregnancy in their late 30s.
It's so different for guys, theres no real cut off point as such. It sounds like her timeframe is going to be way faster than yours. She already has a child and perhaps wants that child to have a sibling within age range for companionship etc.
Respectfully, I dont think your timelines ate going to match up and youd be better being honest about that now.
Come right out and tell her, it sounds to me like you are at least a decade away from wanting to father a child. Dont be indirect here by saying 'yeah, some day' – that will just breed tension and resentment.
Its actually quite mature to have these discussions early, it should prevent people who dont want the same things from wasting time on each other. But the key is to be honest, even if it feels blunt.
“But…I can change him”
Yeah we don’t have any children together and you’re absolutely right, thank you
The fact that he never mentioned that they had a sexual history to you and said she was like a sister is disrespectful enough for grounds to break up.
Unless they're from Alabama, or their country's version of Alabama.
This
I’m confused as to why her saying he’s average is so bad.
OP? yes, it seems so
You have trouble opening up, so you’re not going to get involved as quickly or have as many options. Others open up quicker, thus have more options, and don’t stay single as long. So what you believe is a reflection of interest and commitment is simply a reflection of how open you vs your partner are. If you’re worried about interest or commitment that’s reflected in how you treat each other once in a relationship. And fir that, google the importance of validation in relationships, bids for attention in relationships, magic relationship ratio, and conflict resolution skills, as how well you both do that for each other is more an indication of interest and commitment that how slowly or quickly you commit in the beginning.
I agree with everything you’ve said. I feel stuck staying because if I stay then he stays in therapy. If I leave what’s stopping him from continuing to hurt women unchecked? I’m not trying to justify his behavior I’m genuinely asking if you think leaving is better for /everyone/ rather than staying and making sure he stops and is held accountable for what he’s done. This is awful and honestly I want to die so I don’t have to be in this situation.
Hen she shouldn't abort
I honestly would not want to be with someone who makes me feel less than, that's what she's doing when she compares other girls bfs and their gifts, she's trying to make you feel less than them for not doing the same, tread carefully here OP.
Honestly, unless you find this guy live I don’t think you are going to get the answers you are looking for.
My suggestions are to either accept her story, let it go and move on. Or, give her one last opportunity to come clean. Let her know that something about this situation doesn’t sit right and you feel like she is keeping what really happened hidden from you. Mention that a stripper being present isn’t something that would bother you and you don’t understand why she would hide it. Let her know you will accept whatever answer she gives you and move on, however if you find out later that she lied (again?) then you can’t guarantee the two of you will have a future together.
I’d run. She’s doesn’t sound like the one or you’re leaving out important details
Everyone is saying he’s trying to baby trap you but maybe he’s genuinely umcomfy with the IUD. That’s not an excuse to pressure you into getting it removed. However, when I first got birth control, I opted for nexplanon because my bf at the time had told me stories of the IUD stabbing into the male’s urethra during intercourse. He was terrified of that happening, and I was terrified at the prospect of that happening to him. Is that truly possible? I don’t know. I’m just saying try talking to him about it. If you’re worried about the effectiveness of an alternate form of birth control, nexplanon is a great option. At the end of the day, if you’re dead set on an IUD, he’s either going to have to suck it up or y’all are gonna have to break things off.
If it were me, This would be grounds for breakup. He disrespected you. Plain and simple.
No, you are not obligated to watch her grandchildren.
If your BF can't get his mother in line, be very, very careful with this relationship. Head over to r/JUSTNOMIL to see what kind of havoc these horrible MILs cause in the lives of their sons and their sons' partners.
I think as part of that conversation, ask her does she want to marry you, knowing that being married to you means having the smaller sized engagement ring, not having designer bags as gifts etc?
Tbh, if I bought someone an engagement ring, and they were upset about the weight of diamonds, and actually complained to me about it, I'd interpret that as a rejection of the engagement and ask them if they want to break it off.
I didn’t want to be on birth control anymore because of side effects and don’t enjoy my husband using condoms. Short story short: we’re expecting our first baby in August.
Lol, her gift sucks. It wasn’t personal at all
Even if she didn’t like yours, you definitely put effort in by listening to her interests and gifted her something in support of a new interest she wants to try.
She had to make an active choice not to take OC or another form.
Letting bedroom talk be the voice of reason, not using any protection, and not expecting to be knocked up would be absolutely delusional.
No you did not. Y’all are 2 adults.
If she miscarriages, you may want to have a real conversation there.
Story time: a guy I was in a situationship with told me he had a “friend” named Sophia. He said she had zero common sense, wasn’t attractive and just wasn’t for him. He said she wanted more with him, but he told her no and they were “just friends.” I saw her photo…huge nose, dumpy figure, even after significant weight loss, and just plain unattractive. Not hideous, but definitely unfortunate looking. Anyway, so I’m flying two states over to see him…I get there and guess what? He asks me to be his gf, but Sophia’s hair is on his bathroom sink, her purple leg shaver is in the shower, and later I realized it was her shampoos and hair dryer in the bathroom cabinet.
I said no to formally being his gf that day because I felt that or actually I had a fear of putting my whole heart in it and then only being let down. I wasn’t suspicious of Sophia though because she really is unfortunate looking. I was just more worried about his mind set. Even if this was just a friend why would you have her shit around if you expect me to be with you. It’s just not something someone would do that respects you.
About a month after this he said we would go on an important trip to a lavender farm together with his child. The day before my flight, I see he posted himself and his son at the lavender farm. When I got off the plane I was so emotionally upset I couldn’t speak. It finally came out and he said he took Sophia because he figured he could just take me elsewhere. Like I was some disposable settling for anything piece of shit I guess. Anyway, I just figured she was some ugly girl desperate for him sabotaging things since she lived near and I didn’t. I held in a lot. Not because I play games, but because I couldn’t ever be with someone that either 1) allows me to be sabotaged and hurt or 2) is so stupid, they can’t see the sabotage. A few days go by and I leave and Sophia’s profile picture was of the lavender farm for the next few years. Her next profile picture, him and her together. Yep. She weathered years and even a gf in between. I’m sure they put that woman through hell.
Anyway, fast forward to now. Sometime ago I noticed they are together on her FB profile. So who knows if they are bffs or married or wtf is going on. But learn from my lesson. Do what I didn’t do. Gracefully just tell him this is not okay and show him you mean it. Cut communication. If he wants you, he will find you.
I bet your strawberry cake is amazing. That sounds delicious. Take good care of yourself, okay? I'll be cheering you on from here!
Why wouldn’t you use oven mitts or a towel for the pot…?
Probably some point after which they discussed it. He never did. She didn’t even think he was cumming. Seems he assumed from the get-go that was cool, never asked, and just did it.
Next time, all you say is “have fun.”
I will be mindful of that. What would you reckon my next step be?
masturbating everyday? uh…
Talk with a family lawyer. Find out the specific that will help your case. Start a log of what happened, when the bio-mother left, when she has attempted contact, etc. Only have communication with her through written sources, e.g., email, text, and save those for evidence. Keep any voicemails also.
If your child is in school/daycare, ensure they are aware that the bio-mother is not allowed to pick-up your child. Ensure you list the people that are allowed, to prevent her from attempting to send someone else and saying they are picking her up for “her mother”.
I don't know. As in every reddit thread ever, I guess you'd have to know the person in the flesh to really figure out what's going on. (even then, it's a crapshoot but a slightly more accurate one imo). Maybe she hasn't figured out that how the blackout mechanism works (your tolerance diminishes time and time again and the blackouts come earlier and earlier in your consumption).
Now, a blackout would probably be scary enough for a person to lay off the drink altogether, but maybe she thought that if she can moderate herself, she can partake in a social activity.
Perhaps she has been drinking less and less, trying to figure out what's happening to her body, without realising that her body is doing what it's doing.
It must be so weird when a certain input doesn't give the response you're expecting – we all know the limits of our body, but when they go completely haywire, I figure that there's a moment of doubting oneself, maybe fear (if one doesn't realise what's going on and is afraid to research it/ask a professional/find out) etc.
What I wanted to do is go to the next social event and introduce him as my son, but after his response, I think that would make him more uncomfortable than he already is. I'll ask him how he feels about going and me properly introducing him, and I'll lead with his answer.
I had it done as a teenager and didn't need 24/7 care . Wtf
Thank you! I’m seeing them today so maybe I’ll bring it up with them if I decide to
You both should go on with your studies and career paths…when it comes time to both of you living in different countries then you both can make it work by communicating and visits…but nothing is written in stone…she may decide to stay in Mexico
Oh gotcha! Yeah no that definitely changes the read of your post completely haha.
If you get to the point you’re OK with low key coming out, it can’t hurt to slide the fact that you’re bi into a casual convo. Just so he knows you might be available if he himself is so inclined. But if you aren’t ready for that to be public, your hands are pretty tied.
But still, shit can go so wrong with dating at work soooo, letting it go would probably be the best course.
You've put the ball in his court. Any additional reach out will be over extending your reach.
And if your run into this situation again, I'd change the wording from:
I’m attracted to you and I want to see you again. I’ll leave it up to you though
To:
I’m attracted to you and I want to see you again. I'd like to set up another date if you're open to it. I am free xyz days.
things are going great
How are people this gross of human beings? You cheated twice and you’re just so flippant about it. You’ve betrayed someone trust twice. TWICE. Nice that you can forgive yourself but you’re not the person who needs to be granting forgiveness. Do you want some sort of pat on the back for realising that you’re trash for cheating on on your partner with some guy who’s got a pregnant wife
I feel sorry that this man has wasted over a decade with someone who is so vile
Because he doesn't really have any, it's a condition that miraculously doesn't affect him when it's something he wants to do with his friends and family but it's debilitating when his SO wants to do something or wants him to do something. He's a lying manipulative asshole and she should leave him before she's trapped with this ass.
If someone need attention from guys that just want to fuck them and treat like target there ja clearly something wrong.
Just stay friends with her and see where the road takes you.
Definitely express your concerns for your kids being under the custody and guidance with someone like their mother, and especially this ex. None of us know what this guy is like other than what you may know, but he likely would become involved, or still is, with drugs and would also likely get your wife dragged into it too which would really be bad for your kids to be exposed to
Shes playing you like a fiddle bro she has you like a puppet show its funny
I think she was younger, perhaps 19 when they met.
Probably at a gym.
Why would he marry you? You're doing everything he needs a wife to do anyway.
He could just be inexperienced and absolutely shitting himself
In my case yes, I would feel obligated but knowing that maybe be she doesn’t want to do nothing about it, as they are an open marriage and may have the rule of don’t ask, don’t tell.
I promise you aren’t missing out ? In all seriousness though, if she is also bi, maybe it’s a discussion you guys could have together? Ask if she ever feels that way. If you both go into the discussion being open minded and secure in your relationship then who knows where it might go
Is that her name? “Wind”