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Date: December 17, 2022
This guy isn’t going to change. He cheats on you and doesn’t respect you. Do not return to him.
please tell me this isn't real
I cant see them either so don't worry
That answer didn't help.
If she won’t even help you with taking care of the cats and dogs ain’t no way she’s gonna help you with a whole ass baby
Answer: I didn't bother to ask who. My grandma seems to think it was Laura's idea but they've never liked each other so not sure how truthful that is.
That particular VD can stay dormant for a long while. It’s definitely possible. Any unusual behavior.? Do you believe her?
i just dont wanna have people making fun of her that would hurt me i'd rather not make it official if its that way
I would leave. He betrayed your trust in a massive, disrespectful way. But that’s my two cents and it’s up to you whether you stay or leave, but met me put some perspective on what will happen if you stay. Years ago, my aunt found out her husband was cheating on her with his ex fiancé. My aunt chose to forgive him but their relationship will never really recover. All the magic and and the sparks are gone. You can chose to forgive your boyfriend if you want to, but you won’t ever get back what you once had. You will always struggle to trust him and he’s likely to do it again.
you know how you went to work every day, and didn’t fall for someone? it was all she had to do and she failed that. if she couldn’t keep the ship neatly run and it’s only been 4 years, expect this to happen again, and again, and again, until she finds someone who will actually leave with her
but once he told her how he felt, it made it real for her and she then couldn’t ignore it and just pass it off as a crush.
the next person will say “you know what, i’m not content i want you” and she will jump at his beck and call
i’ve not been in your situation, i’m just giving you a highly likely scenario for what will happen to you
Most people are smart enough to say who is who in their post. OP is really doubling down on the whole idea that he's not terribly bright.
BF’s mom is right, but for the wrong reason. Seems like BF is a loser still tied to Momma’s apron strings.
You are 21 now and an adult. Find a man to be with, not a little boy.
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Yeah lmao especially the way they talk about the internet habits. Even if you're stalking your crush on the internet, you're probably gonna say something like “I saw this one post/exchange where ___” or something. The way it's described reads like it's from his POV.
He’s not actually a chick he’s a guy, he just wasn’t born biologically male. Trans men take testosterone to look like biological men, op isn’t blind for not noticing. It’s not always obvious.
This is already an emotional affair, he’s the exciting forbidden option and you’re the boring steady dependable bf, only way to change that is to walk out temporarily so she realizes what she might be missing and u actually become unpredictable and hence interesting again (atm u can’t compete with him)
I did though. Most women don’t want that and will simply just ignore you. If you want to send the message, go for it. You asked for advice and I gave it. You don’t have to listen to me.
I know. I mean reading this, I was like “Wow, you guys were almost the last people to see her alive.” It’s pretty heavy.
Yes this, having an issue with numbing gel even if he can’t tell? Fuck that dude he just enjoys causing pain. And not a spank kind of pain, an anal tear and fissures kind.
This dichotomy is easily explained if you consider something very important and somewhat unsettling about the brain/mind.
Your conscious mind primarily operates as an observer. It mostly observes the decisions of the sub-conscious mind and analyzes them and tries to make sense of them. This can lead to dissonance which creates emotional disturbance. The sub-conscious mind has its own thoughts and desires and is the mind that makes snap decisions, however is influenced by your emotional state.
The kind of scary part is that our conscious mind kinda fools itself into thinking its in control but its really not. It actually uses memories to create emotional disturbance as an indirect way to influence the decisions of the subconsious.
As an example, this is why you can gain weight, observe that you are gaining weight, feel badly about it, tell yourself that you are going to eat eggs for breakfast, then get upset and distressed at yourself while you go for the sugar cereal. Its the same principle behind your husband indulging in painal porn.
I say all this because I can relate to your husband on a rather fundamental level unfortunately. Not with painal porn necessarily but I know that my subconsious mind has a shockingly cruel and sadistic streak that upsets and bothers my conscious mind. If I dont have consciously object then I cant influence my subconscious decisions but if I am not paying attention then I will sometimes find myself teasing animals and relishing in the power imbalance (eg. setting treats just out of reach and watching them struggle, or putting them on the vaccuum sweeper to see what they do). I have to wonder if this dark part of myself is heritable because I have witnessed my father do things like this too and he has admitted to me the same, and you would never think of it with him since he is a loving and attentive father and husband.
I hope this helps reconcile the dichotomy you are witnessing.
Just be careful. The reason older men like to date young women is because they think they can get away with manipulating them because young people for the most part don't have as strong of bullshit detectors as older people. I think you should talk to him about this and ask to see his phone and if he refuses or tries to shift the blame onto you then you know he's up to something bad.
Exactly!!! People seem to overlook this, must be very hard for the wife to handle the big household specially with young ones..
I should have mentioned that he has said this “joke” in the past too, it has been around for quite some time. I do genuinely think he says it in a joking manner, sometimes he just says it A LOT, and usually after I say something he disagrees with or when I disagree with him.
My main concern was that he resorted to the silent treatment, I didn't think that my response would get him this upset. So I feel guilty, I feel that maybe I am too sensitive and he might be frustrated with my sensitivity.
He says one of his love languages is being playfully mean, making jokes like that, etc. He does match it with affection through hugs, kisses, the things I like etc. But sometimes I just really don't like the jokes and meanness. Then again I feel bad for not fully accepting this part of him and how he wants to “express” his love.
I will most likely do what you said and approach it was a “learning” stance rather than get defensive or angry, for that will not fix anything. This is frustrating.
So enabling her. Cool
If he knows that she will be driving impaired at a specific time, then you are correct. He does not, however, know that.
Noooo! I wanna get his attention and say something funny about the situation?
Sometimes it doesn’t matter how long you’ve been with someone when you know you know. Who can afford rent these days whilst saving for a house deposit? Renting is wasted money imo.
Sounds like he's getting pressure from somewhere about getting married and he's not ready. Which is 100% normal after only 10 months of dating.
It might feel great right now but are you willing to say yes to a forced proposal after only 10 months?
Becoming undocumented is stressful as hell and some people have definitely manipulated others into relationships and marriage just to get a visa. We don't have enough info to know here.
That said, what he's doing right now is manipulation / emotional blackmail. It can be hard to resist as you may still care for him, but it's no reason to get back together. Your relationship wouldn't be the same anyhow. Given that you have friends in common, maybe mention to one of those that he's been mentioning some worrying things so they should check up on him. Add that you're not interested in getting back together.
Hey friend, I just checked out your post history and it seems like you have a lot going on in your life that’s tough or uncertain (including your relationship) — I would recommend starting individual therapy and go from there.
this has to be bait or else i just don't want to believe it lmao
Is this from the forthcoming Netflix movie and is the dad Eddie Murphy?
In a relationship you're ideally working together to build something based on trust and love. What she did just there was passive aggressive, and served only to establish some sort of dominance over you….manipulation. You did nothing wrong. I find her reaction to the photo troubling and a red flag. That's why I mentioned breaking up….partially also because I had a long day and hate unnecessary drama. 🙂 Good luck. Set boundaries, and never accept unearned guilt.
Hi your boyfriend is a predator.
First thing, he isn't your partner anymore. He is your ex. His life and his choices are his own. It doesn't matter what he told you throughout your relationship, this is the choice he has made.
As for not comparing yourself, stop looking at his social media and if you're still in contact, cut contact. Do your best to focus on you and your own life.
He doesn’t want to officially move in because he gets to live rent free now. You are completely paying his way. If he doesn’t pay rent, he doesn’t get any say in how you online or whether or not you have a roommate.
He can love you and still not respect you and also still be a cheating asshole.
Love doesn't turn a bad person into a good one , that is a fairy tale.
Let him go.
He is a stalker and sending images indicating he is likely to escalate. Please save images of his communication with you and take them to HR. You may well need to move home as well if he already knows where you live.
Also this is three bloody days. He will not improve.
This is exactly it. I think he feels like he works so hard and mine was handed to me but I HAVE worked hard for what I’ve made for myself as well. For you personally, is there anyway your boyfriend could make you feel better or it just is what it is?
Then it’s not what he did, it’s that he wasn’t honest. Deal with that, and it’ll go better.
Put it in this perspective: You and your friends were drunk and got curious and stroked off each other's dicks.
Would you feel like you cheated on your girlfriend?
You are acting like a toddler throwing a tantrum.
Don't take it as a sarcasm . But you don't see each other as much as I see my friends and family. If you lived a country away it would be understandable. But my take at your situation is that you are not really close to each other. I don't know your life obviously. But what you describe is odd to my eyes. I would in fact asked for MORE , not less .
So, is there a concern that you did not talk about ?
I've found that the person people are when they're 18-25 is who they'll be when they're 45-95
Who on earth are you hanging out with? In my 30s, I'm a vastly different person than I was at 25. Some of my friends have completely different bodies and worlds 5-15 years from their early 20s. Some are disabled, some are great people who took a while to find themselves, some were friends but had to be cut out when they became absolute creeps. For a lot of them, a major life event changed significant aspects of how they view the world. The only people I've known who've been pretty much unchanging their entire adult life have been that way because their life is STAGNANT. Spinning wheels at the same level on goals they only half commit to, chasing the same romance over and over with eerily similar partners, mooching off the same people for years, etc. Maybe a couple intermittently entertaining partiers who never grew up.
Personal growth is absolutely vital. If you mostly finished growing into who you can be by the time your prefrontal cortex is finishing cooking, then you're missing out on becoming a much better person.
What would she write? Seriously. It’s hard only hearing one side.
What? That's a question for you, buddy. Here, I'll reframe it for you:
Is there anything, in your eye, that she could do at this point to make it worthwhile for you to stay?
And that's why complete no contact should be at the top of OP's big list of things to do to get over her.
Ignoring everything else you’ve said, a good therapist is not friends with their client. Friendship brings a level of enmeshment that prevents you from properly doing your job.
I would seek a new therapist who can hopefully stay professional and actually help you with your problems instead of being your buddy.
That hurts to hear, but I think you’re right. Thank you.
Let him leave. Why are you fighting to hold on to someone who cheats on you and doesn’t care if it hurts?
Ask him out. If he rejects you for race then you dodged a bullet because he is a dumb racist.
If you have a dream and are able to let that into your waking life and totally stress about it, that's anxiety, in my book, and what help can you seek to alleviate it? ie, therapy.
He’s a spoiled manbaby. The only way he’s going to learn to be a real adult and take on responsibilities is if he’s forced to. That means his parents cutting him off completely and you leaving with your child so he doesn’t have your coddling and catering to all of his stupid whims, so he HAS to get a job and support himself. Unfortunately I doubt you or his parents would be willing to totally abandon him so he’s dependent on himself.
How you feel is irrelevant, something SHE is feeling has made her suddenly not want to have sex anymore. So stop caring about not getting sex and start caring about your girlfriend and what's going on with her.
The goal of this isn't to get to have sex, is for you to understand whats up with your girlfriend and once you two can solve whatever it is, sex will come back.
Get a new wife King, she doesn’t appreciate you. She can take a nap since she’s not doing much all damn day.
If i was a non working house husband, I’d be washing that woman’s back every morning. Helping her dry off, and putting lotion on her. Then I’d go to sleep when she leaves.
You doing all that work and she’s complaining about how you’re bringing home the bacon? This is wild man.
Then you should BOTH work on communication. Its totally normal to have anxiety now. And this feeling wont go away when you both wont change anything.
Its wonderful that you're doing better with this stuff but when he cant bring up an issue, he cant expect you to fix it.
Try: “Hey do you have a moment right now to talk? I've been feeling really anxious about our relationship since you came home that day and decided to end things. I'm working on the things we talked about and I hope that things will get better. There is just this thing bugging me. Please work on your communication. I need you to tell me when there is an issue in our relationship. I dont want this built up again because I wasnt able to work on the issue. I dont want to point fingers or to judge you, I just want you to realize that I cant read your mind. I want to work on problems right at the start so we can maintain a more healthy relationship. Let's both work on that, okay?”
Or something similar, depending on what the issue was.
Maybe just maybe, if you see a long term future with her consider offering to contribute to debt repayment. It would certainly speed up the process
But if OP does that, how will other bills get paid? How will they save for a house, retirement, children, vacations? Him covering her debt isn't going to make the other bills go away.
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If he isn't ready at 28 mentally for a baby he may never be ready. If you want to have the baby then have it, but consider how it would look doing it alone. You don't have to have an abortion and he doesn't have to stay in the relationship for the baby.
If you will abort it would be better to do it sooner because surgery will be painful and require a longer recovery time, plus all the possible complications that go with surgery.
I am praying that you're real because this account is hilarious
You fucked up homie. Just keep throwing cheetos at her until she feels better.
First tell your step dad then tell Roger. If Roger makes a big deal about it then he doesn’t need to come to the wedding. It’s your wedding and you shouldn’t give your bio dad a free pass after the way he abandoned you. I did the same thing. My brother walked me down the aisle and my dad was a guest.
I will never allow anybody to disrespect my body, including my husband.
The moment I allow it for myself, I’m teaching my kids that boundaries are meant to be pushed. I will never be that person.
Yeesh ? What is keeping you with him? You two sound way too different in approaches to life: finances and intimacy are pretty important standards to at least be on the same chapter about.
Regardless if you get a divorce or not, start splitting finances into separate accounts. Keep records and be fair; if you have a very hot time being objective, then see if you can hire an accountant to do this. Moving forward, your income and his income should go to your respective private accounts and it’s time to establish that all shared bills be spilt according to income of not done so.
He is only after sharing your pictures and sex stories with his bros.
Why is he worth all this? If he is cheating, will proving it help you? If he isn’t cheating, does it matter? You’re still making yourself miserable.
Sis, a person can be your best friend and can be an amazing person…
BUT
If there is not sexual chemistry, if there is not a spark felt on both ends, if there is not initiative taken then its maybe not meant to be a marriage.
If you don't feel excitement about a marriage with him its time to bail. Don't get married to check a box.
Sometimes what is right for us in our early 20s is not what is right for us as we reach maturity and know more about who we are and what we want out of life. Here's an analogy. I have a closet full of clothes I never wear because I bought them and they are comfortable to me. They aren't necessarily flattering but they are comfortable. Instead of giving them away I hold onto them and then don't buy clothes that ARE flattering because I already have those items.
You are doing this with your relationship. You are holding onto something that is comfortable and known even though it is a bad fit.
Seriously, don't get married just to check the box. Its better to wait for Mr. Right than to marry Mr. Right Now and then have to deal with unraveling it later when you realize comfortable is not the same thing as happy and fulfilled.
Right. But you didn’t answer the question.
Was she crying and showing fear in her eyes while you had her pinned down and you refused to get off of her under she “surrendered”? Are did she cry and seem scared after it was over.
It's likely that it couldn't have been fixed once it was booked without a big financial penalty.
But, does she know how important anniversaries are to you?
Maybe think about celebrating it before/after her cruise. It can still be meaningful and special.
The next time he does this just say: “Okay, cool. Go date your type.” And end the relationship.
Your bf is a little boy trying to neg you so you will stay with him because you don’t feel like you could get anyone else. He’s also making these jokes to push your boundaries to see what he can get away with. You are young, you likely have no idea how hard you actually are: and you can absolutely find someone else who treats you better.
I agree. This is cringey as fuck.
It's up to you. Do you want that? If not, he's not the guy for you.
He used you.
To him you are just the next step above jerking off on porn hub.
You're disposable to him.
In five years he wont be able to remember your name.
He used to, but doesn't now. My issue with it is that it's seemingly excessive in that his friends do it all the time and I'm not sure that he'll fall back into it one day. I also think that who your friends are is very important because you inevitably end up being like them. I don't want to punish him but also kinda just don't want to be around all that.
So she would want you to sit there letting her think that she’s making a new friend when you know for a fact the hypothetical girl is playing games with bad intentions? I doubt that.
THAT!
It's the girls friendship.
But now he makes it all about himself.
Ick…
Don’t worry about soaring his feelings. Don’t have a conversation if you don’t want to. Just text: “You’re a rapist and an abuser. I was stupid not to see it before. You have been violent with me for the last time. Never contact me again.”
You said he touched your privates without consent and showed you his while you explicitly said you didn't want that.
That is a sexual assault.
There is no way he is a good guy in any way.
Thanks a lot for putting effort towards helping me. I married her because she seemed a good fit to me. Now, some of my views about how unattractive body fat can be, have changed and she has got a bit more heavy too. Thanks for the advice on healthier foods. I think both of us fairly understand the point about meat you are making. What we try to avoid for her is rice, sugar, refined floor etc. I do encourage to eat meat and legumes to get a good fill of proteins, which I believe are absolutely important when you are trying to get overall healthy. The preparing vegetable food was just an example. I noticed that she need less hungry without eating a lot of calories if she has one meal solely made of fruit and vegetables. She watches youtube videos on healthy diets regularly, and she has consulted a few nutritionists on what to eat. Thanks a lot for suggesting going on walks together. Luckily, we already do that. Not daily, but quite often.
Your point about one bad week not undoing it all is also great. I feel the same way and try to be as supportive as possible whenever she takes any action in the positive direction. I wouldn't say I have always supportive, because I make mistakes sometimes, but I can very confidently say I try my best and I am positive to her most of the times.
Some where in between. I find her just thinking about herself with no care that you would have to go to work early in the morning. Had she approached you sober and at a more convenient time you maybe working on getting back together. I guess the bottle gave her liquid courage and poor judgement.
That it was unprompted and he said never is concerning. He told you how it's going to be and that it's permanent, you will always be 2nd to her. He sounds at best immature, he may grow out of it but that's absolutely a red flag. My wife is the most important thing in my life and she's never felt like she had to compete with my mom.
One thing to keep in mind is that once your children have hyphenated last names, your names will be “Mr/Mrs. xxxx-yyyy” to your children's friends and teachers until you correct them. This will happen constantly. You are not allowed to get irritated by this because it was your choice.
Also, your children are the ones having to write it out on every assignment and piece of work and that can be a pain.
You’re both too old for this nonsense. Don’t waste your youth on someone who won’t stand up for you.
My golden rule is this: Ask yourself what you would do if the roles were reversed. If you wouldn’t treat him the same, walk away.