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I would talk to them. Tell them honestly what you said here – that you now feel gross and like you forced yourself on someone. While they are welcome to on-line their sexuality, I feel it is also important to acknowledge your reality and how you have perceived things – what their lying as done to you. If nothing else, it might make them think twice before doing it again in the future.
My experience has been (mind you – this is personal only), that some asexual people really hate that most people will hear ‘asexual’ and walk away. Very few people who are allosexual are willing to give up on regular sex, even if their emotional needs are being met. That results in anger and ultimately lying, then faking it and hoping sex will ‘dry up’ by itself. It is also worth mentioning that not all asexual people are repulsed by sex. Some are happy to engage in it, as their partner’s happiness gives them a lot too. Some are indifferent and well, some are actively disgusted. I am not saying that that is what happened here – they might have only just come to the realisation for all we know – but it honestly doesn’t sound like it from your description.
Personally, I would really struggle to rekindle the relationship after this. This is a big lie to hide, if it was indeed hidden. How do you know that nothing else is being hidden? How do you know they aren’t lying, when they tell you something? Also, they have done a lot of damage to your trust and sense of consent, but there doesn’t seem to be much acknowledgement of that.
Sounds like you haven't grown at all. You are still incredibly selfish.
How was OP able to be approved by himself on the lease if he can't afford the apartment alone? This makes no sense.
You are free to keep or dispose of anyone in your life.
And from the sounds it, both of your friends are the type of people who bring you down.
I personally have a tough time with those people who always spew negative vibes.
Hey! I just bought a new car! Want to check it out? Honda? Why would you go Honda? Those car sucks. Alright ?
Surround yourself with people who care about what you have to say. Positive friend groups make a world of a difference.
A lot of people come to this realization in their 20s… Don't have the time or mental care for negative people.
This is so important. You did not cheat. You were sexually assaulted in your own bed by your roommate. Your girlfriend needs to know this right away. You did nothing wrong.
Dump the old ass
Get out now, no matter how good she is in bed.
I know. I already made the appointment 🙁
I remember your birthday party post. I’m so relieved you took in the feedback.
Your husband, on the other hand….didn’t think it was possible, but he comes off even creepier in your origin story. The fact that he won’t tell you why he was on campus is disturbing. Either he had a previous 18yo gf, or he was scouting for one on move-in day like the fratstars who sit out on their porches with beers to survey the new crop of freshmen girls on move-in day. Then he keeps his three children secret from you for an entire year, and surprise! His eldest is 4 years younger than you. He wants her to call you Mom – why? So he doesn’t look as creepy if no one knows your actual age? So he can engage his mommy fetish?
You mentioned starting college late because of family issues. So you were a young, vulnerable person who got swept off her feet by a man who seems like Prince Charming, except now you are doing Cinderella chores while working and going to school.
You are so, so young with so much life ahead of you. You don’t need to spend it cleaning up after three kids who are already almost grown and a man who at best may need elder care and at worst will trade you in for a fresh 18yo once you grow up a little and start asserting yourself. He found you on your first day of college, before you had a chance to meet guys your age and spend a substantial amount of time with your peers. Then he trapped you in marriage after surprising you with the existence of his kids. Now he expects you to cook, clean, and provide service with a smile – while you still work and go to college. When do you have time for yourself? When do you have time to spend meeting other people your age? Part of the college experience is getting to know people your age with different backgrounds and interests. You are living the life of a 40yo soccer mom, and it’s chafing because you are 22 and still want to have a big birthday bash and just be 22. You don’t need to spend your youth being his unpaid nanny. At least a nanny gets benefits and vacation time.
One day, when you are 38, you are going to look back at this and shudder at the thought of dating a 20yo. Your early 20s are your time to grow and explore the world – I hope you find a chance to do that, even if you do end up staying with him (but for the love of God, please get out).
This is what I did too. Picked out a few styles I liked, and he chose one. I have to be picky about jewellery due to work, and I wanted to be able to wear it all the time.
I think this is a troll The age gap is worrying The timeline is off. You don't find out someone gave you herpes a few days after sex. If that happens you likely had it for much longer
What you wrote makes it clear what you mean. You could throw in a I want to keep talking to you or two, but I thought you did a good job explaining your feelings
Therapy for your anxiety and low self esteem issues.
You sound so desperate & needy it makes you so unattractive in her eyes.
But the fact that we have been dating 3 weeks is the reason he should have told his grandma he'd just come tomorrow so we can get to know each other more just my opinion tho
Alimony? She MIGHT get it short term considering she’s unemployed but it’s not like this dude was making millions and she supported him through university. She should consider herself lucky if she gets any of his retirement/ 401k from his job in addition to half the proceeds from the sale of their home and anything he has in savings.
If I were him I would be squirreling away any money I could and talking to an attorney asap. A marriage is a partnership and this one is most definitely not.
Your wife is a leech.
I get “la petite mort”, but I have neurocardiogenic syncope. When my blood pressure starts dropping, my first symptom is pretty severe nausea and occasionally vomiting. It is possible his blood pressure is bottoming out from orgasming. However, none of that is normal, and he needs to see a doctor asap. The neurocardiogenic syncope never seemed like a big deal, and I always thought I was overreacting until they gave me a tilt test in the hospital and my heart actually stopped. Turns out that it can be a very big deal.
From the way he expresses himself, no men has good intentions or wants to see me as just a friend or whatever.
This is himself he is talking about – he is incapable of seeing a woman as anything other than a sexual prospect. He doesn't see women as friends, or colleagues, or even actual people, and since he is incapable of it, he assumes every other man does as well.
This is exactly it. Regardless of whether the guy is cheating, this is no way to on-line. When you’ve been reduced to location tracking everything and essentially trying to reconstruct relationship crime scenes from pings and delivered text notifications, the relationship is dead and you’ve been warped and twisted into a person your everyday self would barely recognize. You can’t stop someone else from cheating if they want to, no matter how much desperate, angry energy you pour into checking their texts and tracking/analyzing their movements.
Her dorm is overly tidy, so why would you assume that. She obviously is making an effort to not on-line like that anymore
Maybe she’s not embarrassed because she recognizes her parents flaws but is able to see them as whole people and not just one aspect.
She also is worried about being judged which is why she’s speaking about them so positively, even if she’s not saying it outright
Maybe she is embarrassed, bur trusts her boyfriend enough to not judge her because of her parents
The boyfriend is reporting her feeling not her, so there’s probably more to her side, don’t be so quick to judge without knowing the full picture
My ex husband would do the same stuff. He was so angry when he had to take me to the emergency room for sickness found out I had a bleeding ulcer and pneumonia. He said it was a waste of time and money. That and how your bf is not ok and not what a loving partner does. What he should do is try to make you comfortable and care for you. Two days ago I had the worst food poisoning of my life and my boyfriend want to the store and grabbed everything he could think of to make me feel better. He kept leaving me little “gifts” of medicine and electrolyte drinks outside the bedroom door. THAT is how you care for someone you love when they are sick.
I didn’t. He asked for advice and I gave that to him. Maybe I did like him when we were friends but when he told me he had a girlfriend, I backed off
Yeah I totally see that, honestly that’s what I was worried about. He just doesn’t seem like the type so I wanted to get a second opinion I guess. Thanks for your advice, it helps a lot!
This guy is abusing her and she's miserable.
There's no good outcome here. He keeps hurting her until she finally decides to leave.
that's a wilfully obstuse view – it's about him ignoring her needs even when explicitly asked and making her feel used
No she's older, I've spoken to him in awhile this is more or less to remind myself why
So what are your options for more therapy to address your issues?
I was married to a narcissist for over 3 decades. This was a signature move for him. To belittle me or show me anger and in a split second turn to someone else with kindness and sweetness.
Consider the habits my ex had and if your BF has any of them I'd suggest you make an escape before he ruins your life and you no longer recognize yourself.
-split personality/hot-cold
-Gets a tone in his voice and you know you're going to deal with a mood when you get home
-stonewalling and silent treatment for no apparent reason and won't communicate
-will be formal with you and not explain what the problem is
-fuck up your day before 8am with an unnecessary argument
-Will ignore texts and calls in order to gain control and power
-subtle criticisms and devaluing and will gaslight you if you call him on it
-lies and manipulation
I know it seems pretty easy to say get a divorce but you have to realise my pakistani culture aswell it will not only cut me off from my family and inheritence but i will be destroying her life aswell,In our culture marrying a divorcee is frowned upon Basically i will be ruining both our lives.
This guy’s a scrub. You can easily find a guy who isn’t a total loser.
I'd be more concerned about her being trafficked. You sound too insecure and concerned about yourself more than her. Anyways it sounds really sketchy and if she doesn't care than you shouldn't care (about her) either. Time to move on, after she comes back (worry for her safety until then). Good luck
hahaha why is it hard? ?
Omg this reddit is so bad, its just people jumping on the “oh sorry girl that guy is so bad” like family guy even makes fun of this stuff when it comes to it, what you should have done is go TOGETHER to the doctor to have a doctor talk to you both about this, maybe not have a pelvic exam right in front of him but as a male we are literally worried about charges, and even jail time at the mention of wanting to learn about vaginas, I've been in a relationship for a long long time, like, parent type long but without kids, and UTIs happen, he's making an effort to get in the shower and get clean it seems obvious to ME he's disgusted with himself not you, please don't go to these reddits like this they'll never actually do anything for your relationship, be part of it together ❤