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Date: November 2, 2022
My husband is 6’5 260, i’m 5’2 and 140. In 14 years he has never hurt me even by accident.
If your husband is not doing this on purpose, then he is careless.
Thanks, you have a point and to be completely honest this is the first time I'm asking for advice regarding anything, but I am deeply conflicted just because idk if you read the rest but what if she means everything, im 21 and that's only person I've let in I know I've got years more to come but I won't be the same.
I was the one who loved more and I was discarded after 33 years.
Don't be me. Having to have the “passion” and “undying love” …..I was the only one who had it. I spent 33 years trying to convince him that I was worth loving and in the end it only destroyed my health and spirit.
Yeah I do realise that I was passive aggressive… I try not to be but I guess I don’t realise when it happens or at least it’s not on purpose most of the time. How do you think I should bring up the fact that he shuts me down ?
How did you guys work out custody?
It sounds like you are trying way too hot too keep this girl, to the point of being naive and completely unrealistic. I don't think this situation is going to end well for you.
Your GF is going to have intercourse with these other guys (if not, has done so already). And once that happens, her emotional transition from you towards the other guy will be almost fully complete.
Don't keep on dragging this situation out. You met a nice girl, you fell in love with, but you met at completely the wrong time in your lives. And your GF does not have what it takes to wait the years for you. It will also be near-impossible for her to avoid forming serious emotional attachments to those other guys (and you will end up getting friendzoned in your own relationship).
Please have a bit more dignity and rip the bandaid off this situation, because dragging it out like this (making constant concessions to keep on clinging onto the same person and keep them in your life) is not working (nor ever going to work).
He doesn't want you. You gave him an out and he took it. He's happier with his current partner.
If her husband is a POS, maybe you should encourage her to get a divorce. Does she have a full-time job? She could have 50/50 custody. Or do you think he'll give her full custody and not pay child support?
Or you could encourage her to do things for her, like get some therapy, go for walks alone, leave the kids with him and leave for an hour. The kids are old enough that they can entertain themselves with minimal supervision.
Okay so the issue is not that your boyfriend looks at pretty models on-line.
The issue is that it makes you feel threatened. Why? Does he comment on your looks in ways that make you feel uncomfortable? Does he make you feel attractive? Why do you feel bad about this? Is this insecurities you had prior to being together or is there really something that makes you feel like you're less than enough in your relationship?
Maybe you're horny when your partner isn't. Maybe you like to watch things you don't actually want to do in real life. Maybe you like to watch things your partner doesn't want to do in real life. Maybe the novelty is exciting. Those are just 4 normal reasons to watch porn!
He has a responsibility to raise HIS child. Smh all these dudes acting like babies just come from women and some benevolent man takes care of them bc hes so generous and kind… You have an obligation to care for your child. So many dudes just running
I am just posing what ifs.
So you got married when she got pregnant with your son and your relationship with your wife is hanging on barely.
Your post suggests that you are there mostly because if you were not this Vee would not have a parent that cares, goes to events, takes her to activities etc. Plus the caring part.
Should you split up then you might get 50/50 with your son but maybe not be able to do what you have been able to do for Vee with support as easily as now, though that isn't a given since no one really cares what you do with her.
So I would explore the potential routes, Vee could claim emancipation, you could be granted as a guardian from both parents choosing to sign away parental rights, you could adopt her with both parents agreement. Given the options it would be best to discuss this with a family lawyer who understands the law in these cases and then present options to the parents and then Vee, in that order so that you can offer Vee options based on real facts.
The divorce with your wife should you wish it should be separate from this situation.
I would also consider that your son may well react badly to you having Vee as a full time parent whilst he only gets you part time, that could become an issue and you would need to nagivate that carefully.
You could wait 4 years but you would also have the same problem with your son but you would not have any problems supporting Vee, plus she would still have good contact with her sister, which is also a part of this equation.
The main issue is your marriage really, do you want to stay for 4 years more until guardianship isn't an issue? Or could this situation boil over before that, maybe your wife decides to divorce? Maybe Mark would not want to give up rights if he had to pay child support, something to think about.
I am just posing what ifs.
So you got married when she got pregnant with your son and your relationship with your wife is hanging on barely.
Your post suggests that you are there mostly because if you were not this Vee would not have a parent that cares, goes to events, takes her to activities etc. Plus the caring part.
Should you split up then you might get 50/50 with your son but maybe not be able to do what you have been able to do for Vee with support as easily as now, though that isn't a given since no one really cares what you do with her.
So I would explore the potential routes, Vee could claim emancipation, you could be granted as a guardian from both parents choosing to sign away parental rights, you could adopt her with both parents agreement. Given the options it would be best to discuss this with a family lawyer who understands the law in these cases and then present options to the parents and then Vee, in that order so that you can offer Vee options based on real facts.
The divorce with your wife should you wish it should be separate from this situation.
I would also consider that your son may well react badly to you having Vee as a full time parent whilst he only gets you part time, that could become an issue and you would need to nagivate that carefully.
You could wait 4 years but you would also have the same problem with your son but you would not have any problems supporting Vee, plus she would still have good contact with her sister, which is also a part of this equation.
The main issue is your marriage really, do you want to stay for 4 years more until guardianship isn't an issue? Or could this situation boil over before that, maybe your wife decides to divorce? Maybe Mark would not want to give up rights if he had to pay child support, something to think about.
Whenever we do talk he’s super sweet and super flirty and in private situations he always looks at me.
I’d edit it a little and say
She knows what she did, she just is having a hot time adjusting to the realization that I actually found out.
This sounds like hell. Be single. Focus on your own location.
You are absolutely right in that based on my reaction I am not OK to be in a relationship. Incidentally, this whole experience has prompted me to seek out therapy (first session tomorrow). I was so excited with how things were going, I failed to acknowledge that in the process I might have been overwhelming.
My immature response was to get wasted, and essentially burn the bridge. I think out of respect for her, as much as I want to send an apology, my motive might not be 100% in the right place, and as you've said, I have done enough damage.
She probably already things I am crazy, so I don't see how any contact wouldn't reinforce that perception of me.
As an aside, what/if anything should my approach be should I run into her at a local meetup group? Any ideas? I guess just stay away from her, don't acknowledge her and don't interact with her.
Stop being a people pleaser and do what you want!
I'd say that you wouldn't be able to give her the kind of support she needs and that she'd be better off asking a friend.
Does he not remember or does he not WANT to remember?
My POV: No matter how well matched I felt with someone, if they said “Come on-line in the suburbs with me”, I would say “sorry, we're not right for each other.”
I live! in the city not because I can do city things: I am fully aware that I can do CITY THINGS whether I on-line in the city or not. I live! in the city so I can come home from work and decide at the last minute that I want to do city things — I don't have to think out “Ok, I want to do city things, so I'll take a shower, get dressed, take off at 6, traffic should be fine, so I'll get downtown before 7, pay for parking, hopefully that lot that has evening rates of $30 is still open, make sure I don't have too much to drink, and then leave by 9:30 to get home by 10?” Nope, I get to come home, shower, dress, walk a couple blocks or take a bus or train or bike and come home when I want.
So I'm siding, obviously, with your girlfriend.
But I certainly would not, in your shoes, sell your home for a girlfriend of one year, with whom you have some obvious compatibility issues to work out (i.e. what kind of living situation y'all like).
Your comparison doesn't make sense. OPs parents were insensitive and reckless, the way OP found out and how little they cared, left some obvious trauma. Reddit is one thing, but in real world most people find polyamory abnormal. Just because OP expected his parents to be monogamous, like 99% of parents, and got upset about they way they acted, doesn't mean he is going to have some unreasonable expectations from his fiance (or anyone really)
And you don’t have to now. Hopefully your fiancée will let go of her happy families image, and support you. Maybe some day you will want to talk with them. Your wedding is not the right time.
But some 24 year olds look 20. Like many of them
Do you not understand how babies are made?
Just concentrate on staying sober. Get yourself healthy. You both need time to get well and whenever both of you are at a better place, you can make a better decision about a relationship. She is only what 10 days or so into rehab, this is not a good time to work on relationship it is only the beginning of healing.
ehh seems like your friends problem. I'd still let your coworkers know that wasn't ok to say.
especially from the the last aita post you posted i can just tell this is your personality. you are not entitled to anyones family buisness not even your partners. if its a dealbreaker that your partners parents need to love you then find someone else. im sure the bf will find someone that respects his boundaries later on in life. when you date someone or marry them that its a commitment to them not them AND their family, if her family is important to her and he acknowledges that and gets to know them thats amazing. bit if he does not think his family is important to him and she pushes it bc of her beliefs they are not compatible and she is not being a good partner. and newsflash, ive never met a single one of my friends whos in laws thought of them as their own children, thats incredibly rare. i got lucky with my partners parents liking me a lot but im still not their kid, so idk where ur pulling all this generalizing bullshit from.
If you’re a team why isn’t he paying rent?
Are you bisexual? Because of not I find the remark that you would both benefit from FMF but not from MFM extremely weird. Like is the main benefit for both of you his pleasure? Is he a selfish lover? I hope you are indeed bisexual, my head is spinning with all the implications this comment might otherwise have haha
Tbh the relationship is over, it’s real tricky when you talk about threesomes that can be immediately deal breaker even tho they fantasize having one it’s just some people can’t wrap their head around that their SO participated even tho it’s totally fine it’s just everyone was/is rasied differently and people have different outlooks on things. That why I gave up the fantasy in general even tho I would love to participate in a mff one day but I also know my heart is a hypocrite for the MfM side so I just stay away from it all in general
Self awareness, self discipline.
If you’re going to continue living with her, you should be demonstrating your absolute best behavior on a daily basis.
Seek therapy, anger management, etc.
Don’t tell her she is safe around you. Show her.
Your actions should be showing nothing but calm and relaxed. I would suggest starting yoga. Or some other form of calming meditation.
You need introspection and healing.
Time to let go of all the macho bullshit. Look where it got you. Start trying to be a more well rounded individual and heal your soul.
Think about this he is your best friend and he never mentioned her to you. Must not have been much to say. Now he is trying to say I ate your girl. Tell him to fuck off believe her. Boys often tell lies about sex
That’s such a good idea, thank you so much. It is a bit too much keeping them on my phone so I’m definitely going to do that.
They’ve definitely already hooked up. Break up, move on.
Didnu ask her asshole? Go fuck yourself
Anyways, I didn’t contact her for a week because I was busy. Also, I wanted to see if she would contact me.
You are both a bit too childish to be dating, but she's 23 so that's expected, you are 28… You shouldn't need to play these games.
Yay, I'm so glad it helped. Wedding planning is notoriously stressful, so it's no wonder you're completely fed up with the unnecessary input from the self-appointed peanut gallery. Thanks so much for writing back and congrats to you both!
Simple. You allow double dipping. He comes and goes as he pleases, you embrace him, then you’re disappointed when he takes off. Boundaries are essential in this circumstance. Perhaps you believe that you can’t do better besides playing second fiddle. Therapy can do wonders, but if you can’t participate there’s tons of self-help books to address this. I suggest you read material on attachment styles. You’ll get a better understanding of the pathology.
I love him and have always been there for him. Words can’t describe how incredibly lonely I felt. It was a shitty decision and I am paying the consequences. He doesn’t trust me and I have to prove everything, and I’m still lonely and miserable. Weird how I am in love and with my dream man but rarely get to see him. It hurts so bad.
…so you started a conversation, he got defensive about his point of view, and then when he tried to concede the floor to you, you left with a parting shot that was aimed to make him angry.
You deserved the fuck you you received.
Why was it even a conversation that needed to be had? It’s your choice if you smoke them or not it has nothing to do with him at all – now if you were being an extra large helping of arsehole and trying to guilt him into stopping with you, then you probably deserve another fuck you.
As for the yelling – both of you were wrong. Both for yelling, and for expecting the other person to come to you because the task you were doing was more important that what the other person was doing.
As for his comments about you coming whenever he yells – massive red flags ?
So should you get married or not….. ultimately it’s your choice, but I’d be going with no. Neither of you are healthy for the relationship, and it will end badly.
Ditch her. If she thinks morality is better than earning a comfortable salary then maybe she can go and use that morality to pay her own bills.
OP, you are playing the wife without the commitment from him. Answer these questions honestly and it may help you understand what your boyfriend is thinking.
Do you provide him with emotional support?
Do you have intellectual and stimulating conversations?
Do you have a satisfying sex life?
If you said yes to all 3, then why would he want to marry you? You're already satisfying all his needs. From his perspective, a marriage would simply cost him lots of money, put his finances at risk (if you ever divorced) and there is no real benefit that will happen if you do get married. Are you gonna have sex with him more? Are you gonna cook all his meals for him? Or, will things pretty much stay the same and you just get to have a big ring on your finger?
From your boyfriend's perspective, there is no benefit in marrying you because you've already given him everything and held nothing back from the relationship.
I agree with this.
You're not in a relationship, he's mentioned how he can see other people while you be “exclusive,” so therefore I wouldn't consider your “situationship” to be exclusive AT ALL. I agree with your friends that it wouldn't be cheating to go out with this other guy.
It's up to you whether you want to tell your friend/fuckbuddy/whatever that you're interested in something more with him than this wishy washy situation you're in, or whether you want to pursue the guy who asked you out or not. Sounds like you want to go out with the guy who asked you out, so you should give it a shot. Maybe tell the guy you're in a situationship with if you feel dating the other guy went well and something more might come out of it, for transparency sake. That's going to be your call, but I wouldn't waste my time worrying about a guy who was adamant about not wanting to be in a “real” relationship with you and give up potential other connections as a result of that waiting around.
I didn’t misunderstand, I just think that perspective comes from a place of insecurity and I was sarcastically pointing out that you are so concerned about your feelings and insecurities that you announced out loud “she’s allowed to think it”.
I DON’T CARE IF YOU MAKE A SCENE – he could’ve KILLED you??? Get OUTTA THERE hun!!
I think in these situations the best solution is to just “rip off the bandaid” and tell her how you feel. Being direct and saying you like her and see her as more than just friends takes the guesswork out of it. Based on experience, being in that weird gray area where you don't know where you stand is so draining.
Absolutely not
Oh sure, give an answer far superior to mine.
Listen to this poster OP.