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Exactly, she’s most likely stressed out about that but remember she is also a person with her own life and personal problems.
Like I said before, It sucks and I know exactly how you feel but you have to be a little logical sometimes.
I'm polyamorous (ish, gets more complicated but for the purpose of this it's good enough description) in a relationship with someone who's monogamous. Whether it can work really depends on whether both are able to accept and respect the other as an individual as well as compromise so that some consensus on how to proceed can be reached. Just because you're polyamorous also doesn't mean you have to engage in multiple relationships, it's more about you being capable of doing so. Then on the other hand you being monogamous is fine but she's her own person and not your possession, it's not like you have any rights over her. I understand though that feelings of jealousy is not something that can easily be controlled.
You really need to sit down and have a long conversation (quote likely several of them) about whether there's any type of settings in which both of you can imagine being comfortable enough for it to be worth it. It's also important to keep in mind whatever consensus you reach, it's not binding, it's an attempt. If someone agrees to something but then changes their mind should be expected and respected. You especially need to discuss long term future. What about celebrating holidays like Christmas? What about starting a home, are you all going to be living together? What about kids? Things like this might not be relevant for you at the moment but they are absolutely crucial and most common dealbreakers. This is not a discussion about how you would feel if she went for a date, it's about how you would feel if she had another partner and got pregnant with him. How would you solve that situation? You need to ask the right questions.
I'm open to a call if you'd like to talk it through with someone familiar with the subject. I know how difficult this position can be so I'll be glad to help.
In my country there is a saying that goes something like this” If you have a tongue and fingers there is no reason not to do anything”
It's an actual attachment style as well. Giving it a name allows for someone to work on improving their attachment style (if they want) or giving some explanation for the clingy behavior.
Is this real? Lmao ? It's kinda her fault, too, so ?
Drum roll, please…
Hmm. This does make sense to me, I shouldve been clear from the start with him. but brings me to some more questions. I agree its not fair to change a partner into what you’d like. But is there a level to it?
Ex. Wanting a partner to change a hobby = wrong
Asking a partner to unfollow people or accounts = right or wrong?
Asking them not to call other women naked infront of you = right or wrong?
Not being defensive, more so trying to get a deeper understanding
I dunno if you're looking for advice, thoughts or just venting.
Three takeaways for me:
You were caught in the middle of a shitty situation. You shouldn't feel bad or guilty for that. It's not your fault.
Your friend is toxic from what I've read. She's very accusatory, and seems a bit of a user. I would wonder why you're still her friend after that.
This thing has also left David with trust issues, as anyone who has been caught in a toxic relationship has. That's not something easily fixed. That is something that he needs to work through with perhaps professional help to rebuild trust in people and recognise healthy from unhealthy relationships. If you want to he his friend still, that's you're choice but honesty is important there, and it won't be an overnight fix.
Finally, it is not your friend's business if you and David date, or who you date any more. They've long since broken up, and aren't even talking to each other. If she can't see her own faults in her own behaviours, then that's her problem.
Try not to judge your beauty or worth against other people's. You are worth loving.
It doesn't read like he didn't like as much as OP did. He made no comment about the bottle kiss thing and got upset when OP voiced concern which indicates (at least to me, an internet stranger) that he was upset about OP being upset, not about the comment.
If he was uncomfortable/upset with the bottle kiss comment he would have said so, or at the very least when OP brought it up he would have agreed that it was weird and he didn't like it and that they're on the same page. But he didn't.
I do agree OP should reconsider being friends with a lady who started her current marriage as the other woman and is now showing interest in OPs husband though. The friend has shown a pattern of behaviour that is quite concerning, and OPs husband didn't react well to this behaviour.
My partner literally asks me for consent every single time and will not proceed without an enthusiastic yes. We should normalize this.
Going nonverbal is a common trauma response.
It sounds like he really likes you but still too soon. I would stop seeing him but put it out there that you would like him to reach out when he’s in a better place and go from there.
Maybe if it only happened in one of his past relationships and he worked on it it might be something to consider but every single one of them?
I believe people can change; I do; but how can you ever feel like he will be loyal to you knowing what he did in the past? I think it will eat at you and you will never really trust him unless you are with him 24/7.
I would say in your position and already having trust issues to begin with that this isn't going to move forward in any positive way.
Doesn't seem like long term relationship material.
the age gap ???
At first i thought u were jealous that ur friend had a girlfriend but now I’m thinking ur jealous of the girlfriend…
And she is complaining about last Christmas. That would have made it 2 months that she spent $600 for last years Christmas.
I made it clear from the beginning maybe 7 days knowing him I didn’t want to go forward if that was something he did interested in no big deal no naked feeling and what ptsd I had from it before, I have gone to therapy and I’ve also been in relationship after that respected my boundary but didn’t work out so now I’m stuck feeling like he’s sneaky and a liar he could of been straight up from the beginning and I could of gone and found some one who respected me
What i got of that was…7 hours away… my guy…that shit doesn't work.
Unpopular opinion -You are 24….get your career set…you have plenty of time to have kids vs a 37 year old banging on her biological clock……
Im going in tomorrow to get tested, if it comes back positive I'm just going to cut my losses and drop contact with her. If she really did it im not going to have any more of my life taken up by this
Same here. I have to clean out the vacuum cleaner often. Usually every week to every other week. I have to take the roller bush out too because it is always tangled in my hair. My dog has doggie stairs to my bed and my husband asked me why it is covered in my hair. I have to sweep my bathroom floors once a week because so much hair ends up on the floor.
That's very good then but keep what i said in the back of your mind ^
As the father of three grown children…I can't imagine what it's like to live this nightmare, my heart is aching for you both. Every word you wrote just tore at me, I'm so deeply sorry for the loss you've suffered. I'm sure just dragging yourself through each day is a challenge in itself and the only thought that immediately comes to mind is to possibly find a third party to intervene on your behalf but I'm assuming that is part of what therapy is doing. Patience is likely the only possibility and understanding that it's likely just raw emotion, emotion that makes little sense that is driving many of your wifes responses at this point. I'm sorry I can't offer more advice, and I know we don't know each other , but if you were here, I would hug you and cry with you, and ask you to tell me the most wonderful memories you have… I'm so sorry…
Do it and stick to the break up this time! The guy is garbage.
But it wasnt another man
You’re welcome! I hope it ends up helping.
I took her to a concert of her favorite band, we did cool and fun things together, I always tried to keep it interesting and exciting.
That doesn't sound like a lot for 8 years.
In any case, she seems to have moved on for whatever reason. I suggest you go ahead and start your own grieving process, cause there is no way back here.
I personally think it’s incredibly weird to ask her to show you her naked body after a shower over FaceTime, but regardless of that lol, it sounds like she’s just having a time of lowered sex drive. It could be a sign of deeper issues in the relationship, or it could just be normal / honeymoon sexuality phasing out.
It's her. There's no other logical explanation esp if you've noticed jealousy. I mean, of course she's nof going to admit it.
Well if you ever need a friend to talk to consider my DMS open. I mean I was lonely I had already started my career and with her in grad school I would be waiting up all night just to see her come home. And then she'd rather spend her free time with this new guy and her friends anyway.
And what am I gonna do if I do find anyone else I want to spend time with are they just gonna get bored and leave me after 7 years to. I suppose it's better to live for the moment rather then think about what could happen. I did snap her but immediately deleted it lol.
And while that would be funny, I probably shouldn't. But thank you anyway
She becomes a different person when the attention is off her. That's a sign that her self esteem depends on the approval of others. I'd ask her about what she values most in her sense of purpose. If she can't answer that then she has no true sense of purpose
Feeling Insecure is valid because she's telling you about him and you don't have the heart to tell her that you won't put up with such disrespect. Id just consult with a divorce lawyer and silently gather evidence. If you let a woman talk she will eventually reveal the secrets. Never forget thattheres always something you can do. Stay strong bro, working out relieves a ton of stress
A fair reply, and I appreciate it 🙂
I don’t think his first reassurance is necessarily a lie. What I mean by this is that in situations like these, the guy will often jump to saying “no no you’re beautiful I love you you’re the hottest girl in the world.” That isn’t believable when you’ve given her concrete evidence of seeking out sexualized women who don’t look like her. OP might really feel that way, but just saying it like that isn’t going to come off as sincere. He needs to show her it’s true, and accept that it may take some time for her to believe that his desire for her is 100% genuine. It isn’t black and white: either he’s attracted to her or not. I think she’s well within reason to wonder though, if he’s as attracted fully, in the way she wants from a partner.
Re: stalking. Replace the likes with 5 racist tweets in 2 years. Wouldn’t it be better that she found those out? No, I’m not comparing the two “mistakes”, merely pointing out that wanting to find out info about how your partner conducts themselves publicly isn’t weird. Twitter and other sm are public platforms. Before sm, if she had sought out an old he friend of his and asked what OP was like, yeah that’d be weird. But sm has made that kind of info easily accessible. It isn’t as big of an intrusion as it used to be to seek it out.
So no, I am not all that bothered by her behavior. I don’t categorize it as stalking because he doesn’t have an expectation of privacy for public tweets. She didn’t go through his texts, emails, or something actually private.
Why not just simply invest it to increase value then make a decision when the need arises?
There is no such thing as right person, wrong time. If you guys were really about each other you’d be dating despite any circumstances. I’m sorry but it’s not gonna work with this person. The moment you meet someone and realize you become a better person when they’re around is when you found the one. Clearly in this situation you guys didn’t end up dating so it’s over. Move on. You’ll find someone where it’s impossible to leave the situation saying you’ll just be friends until so and so.
Neither my husband or I were in debt at the time of our marriage and didn’t want to be. We had a courthouse wedding and spent probably 3k on a backyard party with a tent and catering and booze. I think if you both WANT a large event that compromising on the amount is reasonable. All of marriage is compromise and unfortunately compromise usually means nobody is happy. I think it’s probably safe to look at this situation as a good example of how conflict will go from here on. Maybe some pre-marriage counseling wouldn’t hurt?
Neither my husband or I were in debt at the time of our marriage and didn’t want to be. We had a courthouse wedding and spent probably 3k on a backyard party with a tent and catering and booze. I think if you both WANT a large event that compromising on the amount is reasonable. All of marriage is compromise and unfortunately compromise usually means nobody is happy. I think it’s probably safe to look at this situation as a good example of how conflict will go from here on. Maybe some pre-marriage counseling wouldn’t hurt?
Thank you. These people act like she should be his servant!
I have been accused of that, I will admit.
Breaking up doesn't necessarily mean it's permanent. I would suggest you pull the trigger for him, end things and then focus on yourself.
You deserve better. And perhaps in time you circle back around to each other in the future and you both are in a better place to have a relationship.
But the limbo will eat away at you, and no one deserves that. Take control of this yourself.
His “so I’ve been told“ comment made me immediately think he should fuck right off, honestly.
I am already wary of one partner resenting a stay at home parent by assuming they are “doing nothing“; I would go insane if I had to stay home with a toddler all fucking day, it’s sp much relentless watching and caring to make sure they stay alive. When he threw in there that he also has no idea what it’s like to care for a child 24/7? Right then I knew he’s making a lot of assumptions and it’s going to end poorly if he approaches it with the resentment he apparently has.
Hate say it this way
Shit test her. Pack her a bag and tell her to stay with her potato. If she doesn't start to freak out you know the whole truth right then and there
Many don't admit even after being caught- expect denial, truth trickling, and when cannot refute evidence- blame.
Well, he plans “to do a lot of dating”, so at least he'll have a lot of “friends” after he rejects them all for the next one. Something about the chase here with this one…
I get that dating around can be part of college, but I don't understand the “plan to do a lot of dating”. Is that code for sleeping around these days? And since OP sounds like he perceives himself as Austin Powers (irresistible, am I right?) surely he'll be doing all the heartbreaking.
Dating is dating. Hooking up is hooking up.
At 35, I feel WAAAYYY too old for whatever code OP is speaking.
Hm, I see what you mean. I feel like the specific issues I have with work would be a little better due to not having a forced schedule and stuff like that, and I do want to because of that, but you're absolutely right that I do need to face the fact that it is selfish and hurtful to my partner. I guess I was hoping there'd be a way it wouldn't be, but seems like that was massively wishful thinking on my part.
You are right. If it is ever to happen it needs to come from your gf. And until then I would stay away from her best friend
It's not as bad as reddit!!
Could she be experiencing post parturition depression?
She’s being very controlling. There’s no reason to think you’re going to cheat on her with some random coworker just because you’re in the same room. Tell her if she wants to pay for a single she’s welcome to, but otherwise you’re going and she can deal.
Thank you for a legitimate answer. This is a perspective I hadn’t completely thought of.
Prior to looking through your profile, I could kind of see where you’re coming from. Key word is kind of, I was still on the fence. If you’ve been with this person for four years, why are you posting your duck everywhere? Does she know about this? Also, you have a whole ass child. This dynamic so far beyond creepy. I’m 21 and would never date an 18 year old. And if I had a child, I wouldn’t even look their way. Yuck.
He thinks im being shy since im not big on pda, so he thinks its like an exhibitionist thing or kinky when im worried his mom walks in and tries to kill him thinking he is hurting me or the kids see it and think its normal for couples
Fields of red flags so numerous you can't see the other side of the field.
Yeah if you lie about your perfect life you'd say 'her Christmas list is way too long, who does she think I am?' or 'She keeps annoying me about dishes and always wants me to watch the kid', NOT 'i got an STD'
Test yourself he is cheating
How were they supposed to just know your husband is a liar? Ask yourself why you think they should have just known he was lying and followed up. You are mad at the wrong people.
Troll
How much does it matter why she doesn’t want to be with you if she tells you that she doesn’t want to be with you?
What does the why accomplish
You take her at her word. She said yes to the date, but has also warned you she is not available for a relationship. You have to decide what to do with this information.
If just you name is on the lease eviction. If both break the lease leave and shut off everything in your name.
are you having a stroke
He's not showing you love. He's being selfish. It's unfortunate you're in a shared state. I'd suggest having a serious talk with him AND a lawyer. It's financially abusive of him to expect you to cover everything. You're being used and by carrying on this way you're enabling him to get away with it. How he's acting is not ok and you know it or you wouldn't be here asking. You don't leave someone you love with all the stress and financial responsibility and then withhold money for yourself. He needs a serious wake up call.
More than one gift. And not a junky dollar store gift. 5 years old! The future is what these kids make it. Be a light, bring warmth & empathy to people you meet. This is an easy answer and you'll do the right thing.
Well, love is a verb. If you don’t feel loved, her saying it doesn’t seem to fix that, does it. Do you feel loved and accepted by her?
Thanks this gives me a bit to think about. How would you recommend I go about it?
I don't agree with you asking him to block your sister.
I don’t care if you guys patch things up and all; but please don’t have another kid with him. Don’t have his second kid, if you do, don’t have his third. At least until you are almost thirty or something.
🙁 it’s the same here in the US. There’s no shortage of news articles about cops murdering their wives, ex wives, girlfriends… I badly wish I had helpful information to offer you. The fact that you don’t want to burden or endanger your Mom by returning home is respectable but I’m sure she’d rather have you under her roof and face the consequences than know you’re suffering alone. I have a great feeling deep in my heart you will come out on top at the end of it all. Sincerely rooting for you ♥️
You've only known each other for a year and a half, and not even that entire time every day. It's normal. I felt that when I was dating my husband the first few years.
Ok there you go
Where’s the confusion?
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This is a waste of time it’s like trying to date your best friends ex. What’s the point just smash and moveon
You hit us with a “moral of the story” which you don’t know the moral to or for Lmfaoo ?????
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But some women who have PPD also have psychotic breaks, so you cannot generalize like this.
Throw his cheating ass out. He can stay with her.
Just say “okay, I understand.”
She’s putting you into the friend zone and she doesn’t feel the same way.
You didn’t do yourself favours confessing through text. It doesn’t show courage and it’s an example of why she’s not into you.
If you plan on breastfeeding your baby, DONT get a boob job. Also… dump this loser. Someone out there thinks you're perfect just the way you are. Find that guy. Throw this one in the garbage.
If you plan on breastfeeding your baby, DONT get a boob job. Also… dump this loser. Someone out there thinks you're perfect just the way you are. Find that guy. Throw this one in the garbage.
If you plan on breastfeeding your baby, DONT get a boob job. Also… dump this loser. Someone out there thinks you're perfect just the way you are. Find that guy. Throw this one in the garbage.
You're jumping through hoops to avoid being honest with him because you think it will hurt when he has made you aware that not being honest is hurting him. Your stance does not make any sense. You could 'maybe' hurt him or 'actually' hurt him and you're choosing 'actually'. That's messed up. Also, you don't give your brother any credit. You've already decided in your head how he will respond to you discussing this with him so you are making the decision for him instead of treating him respectfully and like a capable adult and letting him make his own decisions with the full information you could provide.
It's like you are seeing yourself as some kind of martyr or savior of his relationship when actually, you are the one who is actively causing him pain.
How so? She already knows I don’t have a libido; how is reiterating this point leading on?
I’m sure he’ll survive. It was one date. Text him. Thank you for dinner. I don’t think we’re a match but I have your pen. What’s your address so I can send it to you.
Imagine if his girl best friend (who he has slept with) got her boobs done, and sent him a photo asking for his opinion.
And then you found that photo 6 months later.
Do you see why he is upset now?
What's going on with this sub recently? People in the comments are displaying a psychotic level of jealousy and can't seem to think rationally.
She has no idea what's going on.
It sounds like he is having some anxiety. Sometimes with anxiety, someone can want to proceed even while experiencing the anxiety. Anxiety is often worries that someone knows are not actually proportional or reasonable. Like he doesn’t want his fears to stop the two of you from doing something you both want.
I have anxiety. I know sometimes my worries prevent me from fully enjoying things, but I suck it up and keep living my life. I’m not going to prevent my children from doing normal things just because I am experiencing anxiety.
He could try anxiety medication or counseling. Or it could fade on its own. Or maybe it will be manageable.
Right now I think he isn’t ready to intentionally actively try because it feels too scary but he is willing to open the door as a maybe it will happen and he would be ok with it. Anxiety is often increased when there are too many choices. Sometimes is anxiety less when the decision is out of your hands. It’s a legit strategy to manage things sometimes if anxiety is keeping you from making an active decision.
This is not your fault. You are not pushing him. He is just dealing with how his brain is failing him at the moment and it doesn’t mean he doesn’t want kids.
But it isn’t one child – it will be one more on the additional cost of 3
That is a cool project! And I’m laughing at the idea that you were so upset you had to crochet ? it really helps with my anxiety so I totally understand!
That is a cool project! And I’m laughing at the idea that you were so upset you had to crochet ? it really helps with my anxiety so I totally understand!
It‘s something different when every guy that wants to take me on a date says „Idk, what you want to do?“.. literally not one single guy has ever suggested to take me somewhere. They put zero effort in, I feel like an idiot always planning the dates that I get asked on.
I have issues with my family but literally I keep that to myself. I tell her what goes on with my family but never has it been a problem regarding her family. She said it was the easiest excuse she could use because she told them I don't like staying there for long because I distrust people.
Yeah, i'm pretty much doing so… I call my friend today to talk about it and he told me the same thing.
Yeah, i'm pretty much doing so… I call my friend today to talk about it and he told me the same thing.
To be honest, myself and others are generally calling out infatuation to people who illogically think they’re in love when they’re not, not people who are level headed like yourself asking about the difference.
I’m honestly not even here suggesting that you just keep your guard up out of fear (in general), or giving advice based on your age. I assure you that in context I’ll usually give very strong age related advice. In saying that, I’m not saying that you’re incapable of knowing you’re in love because you’re 21. You’re absolutely capable of being about to know it. I just think in your specific situation it doesn’t make sense to push it.
You’ll more likely than not ever have to experience this, but I always say that telling someone you love them is the same as proposing to something; you should only do so knowing what the response to your statement will be. If you think telling him you love him will result in him saying it back, then go ahead and say it. If you’re unsure? Hang back.
I was being tongue in cheek, really.
I did feel gross after typing out that last question.
I'm 5'2″, I am almost always reaching.
What a great ending. You go girl
Instant divorce…
Buddy, you cannot live like that. You cannot fear she will abandon you, everytime you have a disagreement or she doesn't like something you do/say or something inconvinient happen. This will make you totally miserable and afraid all the time. After a while you will forget what you want and need and just do things because you are afraid of her reaction. This will fuck you up. You deserve better than that.
So my boyfriend being able to provide for me and my kids, and me being able to spend every waking moment nurturing and caring for them is somehow child abuse?! You have a very weird definition of child abuse lol
you have the information incorrect because you’re not reading. I do NOT charge market value on rent, I charge way under because of my upbringing. My income is not morally dubious, this is another incorrect assumption you are making.
It's been an ongoing discussion, she pushes back saying that it's not true or that she does consider my opinions. The one place we made ground was with dinners, it's fairly equal now. For the first 10 months or so, we only ate what she wanted. Our talks have led to an increase in her asking for my opinion on things and small concessions here and there, but overall the same.
Your feelings are pure. Talk to her about it. I would still give her the chocolates, tell her it will be more on other occasions when you aren't donating to earthquake relief.
It's all about communication and responsibility.
He communicated to her, repeatedly, to get off him before he ejaculated. She refused. You state that the whole idea is to “talk to your SO” but he did talk to her and she ignored him.
We can disagree, but I still respect your opinion and I'm not about to insult you or demean you for it.
It's all about communication and responsibility.
He communicated to her, repeatedly, to get off him before he ejaculated. She refused. You state that the whole idea is to “talk to your SO” but he did talk to her and she ignored him.
We can disagree, but I still respect your opinion and I'm not about to insult you or demean you for it.
Yes but OP specifically said they struggled with gender pronouns in the bedroom so that's why we're confused I think
Yes but OP specifically said they struggled with gender pronouns in the bedroom so that's why we're confused I think
Lol who said anything about moving in or getting engaged?
Bro allow this to happen. How do you not see that you’re a terrible partner?? You’re essentially living the high life on this women’s dime and you can’t even respect basic boundaries. News flash: You suck bud. She deserves better. The best thing you can do for her is let her leave you.
That mentally is super unhealthy.
I don't think you fully get it… one person wanting monogamy and one person wanting to engage in polyamorous relationships are fundamentally incompatible. There is no working around it. There is no compromise.
Trying to come up with a solution, or a compromise is only delaying the inevitable here.
You will find someone who is on the same page as you, you are only 19. You have time.
Your not compatible in a Core belief vegan vs Meat. I believe you should break up. What would you do if you had a child with her. This will be a ongoing fight with or without a child. Break up.
“Here, these are the diverce papers. Next time you decide to make a doormat of me without any reason whatsoever, Im filing them.”
That should be enough of a reason for her to shape up.
I don't see why she would need to thell them you are BI? what is the need?
I am honestly surprised that with your awful attitude and outlook on life and women that you have a girlfriend. Holy shit I hope she dumps you for a guy who has respect for her.
Pitiful.
“I dont plan on turning them on”
I thought the same thing with his roommates.
Don't make boundaries/promises that you cannot keep. She can consider that cheating because that is how she feels about it and there is nothing wrong with what she thinks. Realistically though that is not something most guys can do. You should have just admitted that it was too difficult and never accepted such conditions in order to be in a relationship. You just aren't the right guy for her. There are some guys out there who could abstain from adult videos and fulfill her requirements. You though aren't that type of guy and you shouldn't force yourself to be someone you are not. You are just incompatible and you just basically lied to her and yourself that you are someone who can abstain from her cheating standards.
When you have to force things so unnaturally then it will never work. There are plenty of girls who don't consider that cheating and can tolerate it. You are both with the wrong people.
So breaking up was a bit too intense? Again he never shows me the intimacy I demand
The longer you wait, the worse it will get.
If you feel you can't reconcile your feelings it will gnaw at you mentally and emotionally till you become so miserable it will spill out one day
Tl;dr cut your losses.
I was shocked he thought it was appropriate/acceptable to even touch me.
Why would you be shocked your boyfriend of 2 years touches you?
From the sounds of it, it looks like he hasn't figured out how to communicate his feelings to you in a way that he feels you understand. Him basically silencing you so that he can get his point across tells me that you probably “interject” many times to correct him and that he couldn't find the words to shut you up for 2 seconds to allow him to talk uninterrupted. I think there is a big communication problem in your relationship, where neither of you is right. Note: you never tell us what the argument is about so I have to go by this post.
My advice would to seek therapy for yourself and couples therapy. He might not want to go to his own therapy sessions, but I think it will benefit his growth as a person as well. During the couples therapy, you should be working on communication between you two.
Well then you don't get into a relationship with someone from another country. If my partner had even thought of saying my family from abroad couldn't visit I wouldn't have continued the relationship. Staying in a hotel isn't really the same, especially if they don't have a hotel next door. I like being able to share meals and late nights with my family for the few days a year I see them, it balances out my local in laws we see more often for shorter periods.
Thank you 🙂 I feel a bit less “crazy” now
a leopard doesn't change its spots. ditch her
Don't throw those 6 years away….it'll be much better to stay with someone who cheated on you and broke your trust for the next 50 years. /s
What do you mean, what else should he depend on? He’s free to masturbate, no one’s stopping him. That’s his choice.
…Well what’s the game?
Looking over your post and comments:
paragraphs are your friend Unlike this guy, who is a creep That you've known him “for years”…so when you were a much younger child, is really fucking disturbing considering he's been an adult for 5 of those years That you're hiding this relationship from your friends and family shows that on some base level, you know this isn't right.
If you think you’re needy, you probably are. Hobbies and friends will do you some good (irl, not video gaming). Get both and start spending time on them. If you work, take some schooling to help improve your skills or knowledge. Just do something for yourself to expand your horizons. If you get out and start socializing more and doing more, you will have things to think about that are not tied to your wife and home life.
It’s an early relationship and I can see how it would be naked for him to miss a family vacation for this. Just as I would have advised you not to miss your nephews birthday. Congrats on graduating, such an achievement! But I don’t think it’s relationship ending if he goes on this trip
You’re pretentious and should date someone that you respect and don’t find annoying.
This is pretty comical lol
This isn’t about you. You’re married. Grow uuupp…
If your family isn’t concerned about the financial protections, could it be the marriage part. You guys definitely need to put all your cards on the table about this.
Why give her another chance? The only message that will send her is that you’re a pathetic pushover unable to stand up for himself, and that cheating has zero consequences. Jeez you know exactly what needs to be done, so just do it, dump her. Then tell his wife everything and show her the proof.
Um…..never met his family or even a friend. Never been to his house because, according to him, he lives with his family. You know what this is sounding, don’t you? He is probably married and you are his side dish.
Info: how did she get his number?
You were dating someone who introduced you to her kid in under 6 months AND was willing to uproot her kid for a guy she was dating for that short period of time? Where is her support network? Where are her friends and family? Were they really okay with her moving? Did she find a job in your new town?
Hopefully you haven't impregnated her and don't have to worry about battling her to give your kids proper medical care.
BTW, I am so sorry for the pain and grief you are experiencing. It totally sucks. Give yourself some grace right now.
Girl I’m glad you’re planning to dump him because his approach is SO TOXIC. Like he’s actively trying to cultivate an unhealthy dynamic of conflict of codependency where one doesn’t naturally exist, presumably because it’s the only way he can feel like he’s in control of the relationship. He doesn’t want to relate to you as an equal; he wants to feel like you’re dependent on him so that he can manipulate you. Yeet this man into the sun.
Based on the post there’s nothing to indicate she can’t speak up and contribute. She doesn’t even consider that, she wants him to basically maintain the status quo and be “goofier” and fun. She doesn’t even consider taking initiative for their relationship, she wants it to be him. She sounds like one of those soul draining corporate middle managers.
Not OPs wife. My husband had the good sense to get me a Roomba when I became disabled and overwhelmed with the housework so we would BOTH be happier and more comfortable!
I could take 4 hours to wash a single spoon if I wanted to. That doesn’t suddenly make washing a spoon objectively naked work! It just means I’m either doing it wrong or easily distracted/not diligent about it.
No marriage is between an angel and a monster, and this whole scenario has just been painted with too much golden glitter and too many pearly gates for me to accept it at face value.
She didn’t get what she wanted so she started spouting the lies that she knew would hurt you the most. Block her on everything and let your family know what she said and that your done dealing with you.
Don’t let one toxic person destroy your memories of the man you loved. Don’t dwell on it either, she’s just not worth your peace of mind.
He gets an old Camry and dave ramsey
I'm not religious and don't like spouting “God” stuff, but I do try to put it all in perspective when I have no idea what's happening. Tell him to start talking to someone or bounce. This isn't going to get better for you.