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Your feelings are totally valid in this. If you trust him it’s probably bc he’s never given you a reason not to. I’m a person who thrives off physical affection, not necessarily from people I feel romantic feelings for but just in general. I could see how she could have totally platonically just needed some human touch in an emotional moment. But in your shoes it’d probably make me uncomfortable too. It’s a hot situation but I say if you really trust him, let him know this is one of your boundaries and that you would like for it to not happen again. I hope you get this worked out OP.
Lol so your a couple?
I haven't been on Tinder in years, and am a woman who is interested in men. And while no one owes anyone a reply if they don't want to give it, what you are describing is playing games with someone you care about to gain the upper hand for…reasons???
If you are interested in someone, and they are interested in you, what is toxic is leaving them hanging to wait for a reply to asking you out. Asking someone out that you care about takes a lot of courage, and is something that makes most people anxious. The longer they wait for a response, the more anxious they tend to get, as evidenced by this post.
There is literally no good reason to create anxiety in someone you care about or are interested in, on purpose. That's toxic. Just let them off that anxiety train and answer their question, it's called kindness, and it takes seconds of your time.
Vegas, Cancun, do you think your gf and her “friends” are just sightseeing? Those are two places in the world where married, engaged, chicks with a bf, single chicks go to hoe around. They drink, get laid a lot come back as if nothing happened. Seriously? You're a young guy and seem ready nice and open minded to give her such freedom. Take it from me, you're too good for her!! Leave her, who needs all this headache? If she's behaving like this in her twenties, do you think she'll actually change as she gets older? No, she'll learn to hide her infidelities better. God bless.
you are 27. set a deadline for a proposal now, make it clear to him that this what you want and be prepared to leave because he's already told you he doesn't want it. when he first told you that he didn't want marriage/kids you should've left instead of wasting time. Assuming you want kids, you need to start looking elsewhere otherwise you'll be 30 and asking the same question. Believe people when they say things, and don't try to change them. Also future tip, don't buy houses and be with someone for 7 years when they want a different life than you do.
Tell her
I’m not sure what the GF’s issue is here. She felt uncomfortable with your friend texting with you so you backed off and … now she’s mad? Tell her to pick a lane.
She's not supporting you. You were off work due to mental health reasons as well as school. She should have been supporting you, both with words and deeds. She's only paying 30%? And wants only to pay 10? No, that's not equitable in the least.
Does she even know how much the bills are? Does she have any kind of financial responsibility for the electric bill, or homeowners/renters insurance. Does she have responsibility for any of the household bills?
In the case she's just ignorant about how much is going out in expenses, please build a spreadsheet and show what the outlay is. Okay, you had savings. that is great! I'm glad you were in a place where you could be jobless for a short time. Having said that, your money is not her money. Not if it isn't vice versa.
My husband and I make more than our wife, but that isn't a big deal. We all toss in a third of the bills into a joint bill pay account. Some months that might be 20% of my earnings 18% of his and 40% of hers. It is fixed around the bills, not what we specifically earn any given month. Sometimes one of us might throw a few thousand extra in, so it is there for a vacation or big purchase. None of us feels deprived or taken advantage of, because we're jointly paying for our household. Any overages are just operating expenses for the house. It is our marriage and our family, after all.
When our wife and I were seriously dating and contemplating more, she was still establishing her career, and I handled the majority of the expenses, because I was at a point in my career where I could do so. She hated that she wasn't an equal financial partner.
My friend, your girlfriend needs to step up. She needs to acknowledge that your debt is just as important to pay down as hers. She needs to realize that a relationship isn't a free ride. Your job financial boon is a boon…for you. It isn't a gift to her.
If she can't meet you half way, it sounds as if this may be a deal breaker for you. If so, better to learn now, than later.
Yes you literally ask when their last test was. Knowing how many people someone has slept with does not answer that question
Remindme 2 days
That's emotional abuse.
Leave her. LDRs are hot enough, and an abusive one is even harder. Rip off the band-aid and leave her for your mental and even physical wellbeing.
He didn’t say exactly what he did and how far he went. Perhaps OP could chime in with some details?
Red flag #1 phone down. Red flag #2 weekends only- you guys are in your 30’s and have been together 8 months. If it was a serious relationship, that would be changing. Red flag #3- bad communication Red flag #4- never tried to prevent pregnancy, but wants you to use abortion as birth control Red flag #5- violent tendencies
…I could keep going. Whatever you decide to do with the baby is your choice, but that man needs to be out of your life. You can’t talk out those red flags. You can’t make that better. If you keep the baby, I suggest going no contact with him and getting away from him. Raising a child alone is better than raising a child in fear.
Happy birthdayyyyy, it’s gonna get better it’s fine
her being hot with a hairstyle she showed you DOESNT mean you think she is ugly with every other hairstyle. i hate when people do that. it’s so extreme. like it doesn’t take from her beauty now, you just also admire that hairstyle too. like imagine if you were like “no you only look good with how you have it now” that would be rude. she should be flattered you think she can pull off multiple styles like wtf. and if you can’t even talk to her about or tell her everything you just told reddit maybe rethink your relationship.
No lol.
Mate don’t listen this your feelings are valid and you don’t have to justify it to anyone
Certain places people have an expectation of privacy, even in a one-party recording state.
EZ
Dump her ass
Or
Do the same thing
Did I say sociopath? No.
But it was manipulative and is a sign of either massive immaturity, or malicious intent.
Both are not good traits to have.
Over 100? Holy shit
Why not give him a chance, have a brief discussion and if he pretends he hasn’t noticed or seems unbothered then you have your answer. Don’t waste time over thinking it, if he can’t have an adult conversation to best not to waste more time.
You should always disclose your sexual health. Even if you think whatever you have can’t be spread.
You are equating attractiveness with physical attractiveness and they aren't the same thing. She may have been attracted to stability, calmness, manners, education, conversation, etc.
Think about what attracts her to you? If it's only your looks, you may be in trouble since they will change over time. If she enjoys your company, your conversation, and wants to build a life with you, thank your lucky stars. And don't try to 'blame' her for the stalker situation. It shouldn't be a point of contention that she is a victim of stalking.
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It's not just one gift. It's many, like socks, blankets, things she literally asks for..
If someone loved you, they wouldn't ask you to do it.
“I feel like she would be great for me if she was on anxiety meds” dude that’s a very weird thing to say. Either give her time or just tell her how you honestly feel but don’t say stuff like the meds thing.
He didn't apologize to the phrase itself, but he apologized after seeing me sad all day and stressed after cleaning the house. I don't know if he acknowledges, he just change topics when I talk to him.
The paper towel one, he did made an effort (but my mother, before leaving also asked him to use it, so I think she had more affect on him), about the shoes he did follow after apologizing, but about everything else, I think he's doing it on auto mode? But everytime he cooks he talks about how it's impossible to cook without making a mess
I don’t think you did anything wrong, on the contrary. I think it was thoughtful and nice to text them.
This guy barely passes the ‘half your age plus seven’ test and you’re worried about his maturity.
Thing the first – no more sex that you don't find enjoyable. Totally off the table and you need to be honest about why.
The hot part will be also being able to hear and encourage him to express the way that will make him feel. It will almost certainly make him feel unattractive, it will hit his confidence and if he is even halfway decent make him feel pretty shitty about the sex you have been having.
The honesty is necessary though to heal.
Follow everyone else's good advice here, and I have some more practical advice – much of it inspired by Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski which you absolutely should pick up and read and your husband should also read.
First, take penetration off the table entirely. Try to regain a sense of intimacy. Do you enjoy giving or receiving oral sex? If so, do that. If not, maybe try just making out and being close to each other. One particularly nice, low stakes, low stress activity would be having him hold you while you masturbate, with toys if that is helpful to you. Focusing on you here, but having him masturbate with you can also be inspiring. As another person mentioned, I highly recommend you start masturbating if you haven't since the birth and really explore your body. Vary up your technique, focus on pleasure instead of focusing on orgasm or getting off. When you are with your partner, focus on and only do what feels good at that time. Even if that's only holding, or a massage or a kiss. Start with what you know feels good and focus in that pleasure with no judgement.
There were a few apps I really liked. I'd suggest looking around for dating apps that cater to open or polyamorous relationships, there might even be some for seniors that I don't know about. I met both my best friend and partner on tinder like 8 years ago, but I've heard it's a real shit show nowadays so I'd stay away. I used to help my guy friends with their profiles on dating apps, if you decide you'd like to try a few, feel free to send me a message and I'll throw my 2 cents out there ? Like I said, I don't have much experience with loss in the same way, but I'm happy to give you a hand or an ear if you'd like it. Godspeed man, you deserve to be happy.
Honestly the age thing doesn't bother me at all. My parents have a big age gap and I never cared.
But this guy sounds like a mooch. No one likes a mooch.
How can he not miss me if we were together for 15 months? Does that not mean anything to him?
How many women exist on earth and you just have to pick the one that will hurt your best friend the most. Like yes technically he wasn’t making a move and you like her and she likes you but it’s just really sad that your “best friend’s” feelings mean so little to you that you would do that.
I can also see you have expressed multiple times feeling of lonelyness and abandonment. Is your wife neglecting you. If so making children was a terrible idea. I will go step further and tell that if she isn't particularly intrested in you you should ask why she is with you at all if she isn't willing to care for you. Honestly this conversation you should have had before marriage and children.
Assuming my assumption are correct you can also consider, em, making sure your daughter is yours.
Tell him that you want things to progress a few more months before giving him a pair of your panties.
Your entire personality is based around the size of your duvet, who tf are you to talk?
I spoke from experience, and Tinder can be a useful tool. Understand that there are a lot of people there who actually can not sustain healthy relationships (losers). They are on multiple platforms looking for someone who suits their needs as opposed to being the right person for someone else. There is nothing wrong with you. . Just know what you're dealing with and respond accordingly before you invest in them.
Then she probably just wants to be friends again. Do you want to be friends again?
See this is a major problem
I wouldn’t like either it’s not fair
I would’ve NEVER consented
Jeez stop trying to pretend you're a victim. You're both shitty, he's just a little more shitty.
You knew he had a girlfriend. Period.
For what it's worth, I doubt this marriage would've worked out anyway.
It's impossible to have 3 people in a normal healthy marriage & that's exactly what you'd have.
You've dodged a bullet here, but you're young & I'm confident will find someone that really cares about you.
Have you asked him? It’s really odd.
That's the point.
They sound like a “no match”. Just wondering how she made it last 2 years?
It’s basic hygiene! It’s not the sex it’s about his basics. Imho
Ha, cute. I've been there (though I was the one asking him out). We messaged on-line a lot. I actually drafted a “wanna go out? If you're not interested, no worries” type message separately so he wouldn't see me taking forever to type, copied, pasted, sent, screamed and ran away from my laptop.
Turned out he'd been wanting to ask me out, but figured I'd say no. He was very happily surprised. We're coming up on 4 years together now. I hope you get a cute story like ours out of this!
yeah but if someone's from a culture where it's common they don't necessarily know it's wrong.
No this is pathetic honestly
thanks for this
Don't go. What a pig
Didn’t your parents ever tell you 2 wrongs don’t make a right.
I wouldn't respond. If you do, tell her that when you needed her most she wasn't there. She ghosted you for three years and thinks you're still friends? No, just no.
You have a couple of choices depending on how strongly you feel about this. I think I would suggest rather than escalating it that you tell her that if she wants to stay married she needs to start acting like it. Ask her as her husband to stop communicating with this person. If she refuses or doesn't consider your next (further) step towards separation.
Is it possible that he just wants a “safe” sexual partner with no commitments? Because that's primarily what he has.
My only worry is that you are going to get your heart broken. I'd sit him down and have an open, honest discussion with him. You want the truth, but be prepared for it.
If she truly is not capable of offering the help I need, how do I accept that, or raise the issue? Where do I go from here? How can I voice my frustrations without it being an attack, and is it even worth it if its something she truly cannot change?
There isn’t much you can do. Even if you raise it, she might just feel like she’s obligated to act a certain way that isn’t really genuine. I had to stop being friends with certain people because it felt like a one sided relationship.
I think it all comes down to: Have your love or desire for your partner changed with this? I mean, do you feel that she’s the perfect partner for YOU or is she just an amazing person that you’re scared of letting go?
“emotional creating”
Did you mean to type emotional cheating?
Definitely! Thankyou! Understood Madame. ?
No religious point of view. This is my first relationship and i guess i had just thought that porn was something you rather watch when your partner is gone, you do long distance, they are off on vacation etc. (except the couples that watch porn together which is fine too) The first time it happened i was mostly hurt because we had just gotten together and spent the night together. When i told him about it i asked him why he felt the need to look it up, when we were right there together. He apologized and said it was just an impulsive thought but that he didnt care for it. So we put it behind us but It basically repeated itself and i asked him why he was looking at other women (because they looked significantly different from me i felt very insecure) He denied it and made up a lie and that hurt the most. i told him i was aware of the content he watches and asked if he wasnt happy with my looks or anything. he told me that this wasnt the case. He had been struggling with ‚porn addiction‘ for years and it had been an issue in previous relationships too (not sure in what way) but that i make him want to quit regardless if we are together or not and that he felt it was unhealthy. I had noticed a switch, sometimes when nsfw content would pop up (tv, youtube, etc) he would roll his eyes, say that its oversexualized, unnecessary and etc, but yet i then find this content hidden. I didnt want or need him to say those things to reassure me in any way. I would have just liked him to be honest with me like i thought we had agreed to,even if it would hurt me to know. does that make sense?
This is so weird, I don’t understand why she’s having such an extreme reaction to this, given she knows about the other stuff and seems to be very sex positive in general. Honestly my money is on someone else sent her the videos and she is freaking out that other people know. I really wish you good luck here, I feel for you.
Glad to see that you blocked him! Just wanted to add another reassurance that it’s fine to ask but belittling your experience or potential future experience is bull and you deserve better
staying to prove something
or for whatever reason…. isn’t a reason.
leave him so you can ♥️ your exciting life!
get out now before he makes you stop working and takes all independence from you, stating that he is in charge of your whereabouts.
It's your choice, not his.
Christ, I’m glad people don’t usually take Reddit advice to heart cause this is awful advice
Thank you so much 🙂
There is a lot of great advice on here. You do not mention how many people but if you are paying for yourselves, then, as with a lot of people, at some point you have to cut out some of the famously members or friends. You can be very creative in cutting costs. My pals and myself did the catering, we bought the drink direct from vineyards by the box, etc. If you have good pals, buy the decorations and garlands and deck the room the morning or night before. What is too much money??
Get married, have kids and then you will see him even less.
The way he is going about it is totally not the way to approach a serious relationship, getting married or having kids. Let him know it's not going to happen for a while if ever. If he is not ok with it then it's time to go your separate ways.
It’s also a huge indicator of personality disorder. If there is more to the story than this, I’d seriously be thinking about how to move on.
I gave you advice – leave and get therapy.
If you don’t want to take it that is your problem.
And sorry it doesn’t matter if you’ve ever had the inclination before, you physically assaulted your BF – you are violent, you have violent tendencies.
Your wording doesn’t change the facts.
By the way here is the meaning of tendency
tendency
an inclination, predisposition, propensity, or leaning
And by your actions you have a predisposition, and propensity and leaning – so maybe you don’t think that you have an inclination, but you’d be wrong.
And while we are at it
condescending /ˌkɒndɪˈsɛndɪŋ/ adjective having or showing an attitude of patronizing superiority.
While i can see, and even admit that what I have written might come across as mean, it isn’t condescending.
Though this part is – before you start throwing words around, check the dictionary definition first.
This comment is so spot-on. OP, if you need ideas for how to deal with your bf when he's trying to bait you into an argument with him, look up “grey rocking.”
It’s a situationship so I’m def confused on why you’re expecting him to act like a boyfriend?
If you want it to be more than what it is, say something and but prepared to get an answer you don’t want. But at least you can move on. Otherwise you’re wasting energy being annoyed by an undefined relationship and expecting him to read your mind. You are 100% in control of the relationships you engage in.
Let's keep this simple. You're plan B, and the only way she's coming back is if she's unable to find someone better in the next 12 to 18 months. Like you said, she knows you'll wait, and all she has to do is keep stringing you along.
For God's sake, show just a little self-respect and move on. Find a woman who will appreciate you and under no circumstances should you take her back! Not now, not in 12 to 18 months, or even in 10 years.
What’s it mean if she does reject me?
That there is something she is worried about with the relationship or your potential longevity. So if you say “should we move in together?” … and she says “no” then it's totally okay to ask “well why?”
From there you should unpack what that is. Because it's either something you can work on (she is nervous about affordability, or something – start asking her to be really specific.)
I'll tell you as a woman some of the things that would stop me moving in with a guy: I wouldn't want to give up all my furniture for something to potentially end in 6 months. A workaround could be us both putting some things in storage for a given amount of time until we deem it “safe” to go ahead and sell the things we don't need duplicates of anymore. I wouldn't want to be stuck paying all the bills on my own – in the past with cohabitation, my partner and I made a joint account that all the bills came from, and we both paid into. We each kept our main accounts separate to each other, and we worked out a joint budget so expenses were proportional to income. (I made 60% of the money, so I paid 60% of the rent – it meant we could afford a nicer place than if we did straight 50/50, and he had some fun money left over to spend or save)
Sometimes it's that you want certain milestones before doing something like moving in and/or marrying. If you guys can't articulate/agree to them… then frankly you're not communicating well enough to make those sorts of binding arrangements. It's time you got comfortable with a bit of risk and all the uncomfortable conversations you will have to have together. It's not just practicing playing house, it's practice with negotiation, with caretaking of each others' needs, with peacekeeping.
Seconding the idea of checking a urologist.
It's very simple, if it deviates from the norm it's worth checking out.
Next girlfriend, stop playing dumb games maybe
My sex life has two prerequisites:
1) Does my wife like doing it 2) If not, do I need that particular thing?
If 1 is true, let’s go, all day every day. If 2 is true, I find compromise.
You’re being bullied. Nobody is gonna wanna perform sex acts on a partner that acts like a petulant child.
Tell old boy to get lost, I can personally guarantee his attitude won’t get him far in singles world.
yeah, and he understood that so we stopped but I just can't, like, completely resolve this issue ?
Yeah, I’d spread the news like wildfire. Why? Because then it seems they are all ok with cheating and helping a “friend” cover it up. So all their morals are questionable. They will flip on whoever the one who did it so quick.
Great example you’re showing your kids chief.
“In Florida…”. That sucks but.. ..Florida. LOL. In all seriousness, right, but there needs to be at the VERY least an official statement (at least in every state I'm aware of.) (US only. Other countries, I'm assuming you do mental health better than the US does by default.). Your ex, for example, swore out a statement that you were a danger to yourself or others, I'm assuming? That's the part that's missing in this story.
Genuinely curious how your OCD is relevant to rabbit hole-ing down Reddit users post history. Ik the Hollywood glamorization of OCD does disservice, but as someone who has assisted some with OCD in the past, I'm not sure my experience with it would be any was relatable.. and I love hearing about people's unique experiences ~^
Sounds to me that you are looking for confirmation on what to do.