I think your reaction is natural. She seems that there are things she is not saying. I personally don't believe in open relationships. I do believe in swinger, stag/vixen…where the idea is just kinky fun and not about dating another person while you are home. You should open that discussion carefully…but you are into something.
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Aw man, he sounds like he has a low social battery and gets drained relatively easily. I fucking leave parties early and I prefer to leave group events early, idk how people stay for as long as they do. To him, social interaction is probably like doing a burpee or walking up a flight of stairs. “parties and drinking are common past times” ma'am that's not for some people who consider themselves introverted or socially anxious.
It's okay for you to be upset about it. It's okay for you to like being out with friends and having fun. And to feel like you're missing out.
Even though this is serious I find it kinda funny. Like is this what “normal” party/extroverted people think of introverted people? LOL.
Good luck with everything though! It's interesting to see an extrovert's side of things.
You can’t tell the guy to quit adding confusion and then misquote a crucial legal principle. “Silence is not acceptance”, refers to contractual law. It’s contract law 101 in fact.
Sometimes an unfortunate part of being polite to an ex means that the ex might call again. A lot of people have been cheated on and it usually starts innocently like this. An Ex is a symbol of a life your partner had that you may not generally know about, and a resurfacing ex might want to re-visit those old golden days when everything was fire fueled with emotions. It can also be a bit of a territorial issue the ex can freely call for 25mins (and not just say 5mins) while the husband is away. I do think most of this stuff stems from insecurity but it is what it is. Hopefully he'll get over it.
If she cries, it can’t be helped. I think just be simple with it. “I’m flattered, and I enjoy our friendship, but I’m not interested in anything more than that”.
You're allowed to feel uncomfortable around this guy after what he said. He actions have consequences and obviously things don't magically get better after an apology.
I'd just explain to him that his actions made you feel really uncomfortable and you're having a nude time viewing the friendship in the same way. You'll need time to feel comfortable again.
Yeah.. you're right. She didn't technically steal him, but she knew damn sure what she was doing, just like he did.
I think your reaction is natural. She seems that there are things she is not saying. I personally don't believe in open relationships. I do believe in swinger, stag/vixen…where the idea is just kinky fun and not about dating another person while you are home. You should open that discussion carefully…but you are into something.
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I’m working now so I can buy us a Home, I make good money, just saving it all up for now, I’ll try bringing up couples therapy to her and see what she says
Get as far as possible away from this man and never contact him or let him contact you.
Aw man, he sounds like he has a low social battery and gets drained relatively easily. I fucking leave parties early and I prefer to leave group events early, idk how people stay for as long as they do. To him, social interaction is probably like doing a burpee or walking up a flight of stairs. “parties and drinking are common past times” ma'am that's not for some people who consider themselves introverted or socially anxious.
It's okay for you to be upset about it. It's okay for you to like being out with friends and having fun. And to feel like you're missing out.
Even though this is serious I find it kinda funny. Like is this what “normal” party/extroverted people think of introverted people? LOL.
Good luck with everything though! It's interesting to see an extrovert's side of things.
I have to agree. With my first fiance I thought we we a great match we got engaged then we moved in together….
We were absolutely not compatible when living in the same space. We are still friends 20+ years later.
With my husband we moved in together two months after we started dating. Got married a year later 20+ years and going strong.
You can’t tell the guy to quit adding confusion and then misquote a crucial legal principle. “Silence is not acceptance”, refers to contractual law. It’s contract law 101 in fact.
He didn’t say he doesn’t find you attractive, he said he’s more attracted to your personality! That’s a big difference
Sometimes an unfortunate part of being polite to an ex means that the ex might call again. A lot of people have been cheated on and it usually starts innocently like this. An Ex is a symbol of a life your partner had that you may not generally know about, and a resurfacing ex might want to re-visit those old golden days when everything was fire fueled with emotions. It can also be a bit of a territorial issue the ex can freely call for 25mins (and not just say 5mins) while the husband is away. I do think most of this stuff stems from insecurity but it is what it is. Hopefully he'll get over it.
I am usually all about honesty. “I like you but I am getting some bad vibes and I am not feeling it. Peace.”
If she cries, it can’t be helped. I think just be simple with it. “I’m flattered, and I enjoy our friendship, but I’m not interested in anything more than that”.
What??
What are you DOING with that guy?
Do you think so little of yourself??
But she does need to tell him. It sounds like she just is not answering his texts which is a pretty cowardly thing to do
You're allowed to feel uncomfortable around this guy after what he said. He actions have consequences and obviously things don't magically get better after an apology.
I'd just explain to him that his actions made you feel really uncomfortable and you're having a nude time viewing the friendship in the same way. You'll need time to feel comfortable again.
Girl. Stand up.