So I'm not going to tell you whether you should reach out to this girl or not.
But
This dude is crappy and manipulative. The fact that he has been a good friend of yours doesn't mean that you can't do better or don't deserve better.
Think about it. Do you have the same best friends that you did in primary school, or have you moved on to people who are a better fit with who you are today?
Assuming it's the latter, move on again and block this dude's number.
I Can see how that can be totally confusing. I say you know what’s going on and you are able to make that change that you need for yourself to feel peace of mind
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This was really helpful, thank you. No contact isn’t an option for him at this time. I will definitely do what you suggested and go through our ideal/realistic outcomes.
I don’t believe my in laws have to love me. My relationship with my partner is much more important. My own family is fucked up, but when it’s mental illness and drug abuse, it’s easier to call it what it is and separate. Up until a couple years ago, my partner thought he more or less had the perfect family and it was him that was messed up.
So I'm not going to tell you whether you should reach out to this girl or not.
But
This dude is crappy and manipulative. The fact that he has been a good friend of yours doesn't mean that you can't do better or don't deserve better.
Think about it. Do you have the same best friends that you did in primary school, or have you moved on to people who are a better fit with who you are today?
Assuming it's the latter, move on again and block this dude's number.
I Can see how that can be totally confusing. I say you know what’s going on and you are able to make that change that you need for yourself to feel peace of mind
Why? because breaking up is hard to do
Fellow Nanny, you summed up my feelings perfectly! Well said
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Well you picked him. No is a word you could use more often.
This was really helpful, thank you. No contact isn’t an option for him at this time. I will definitely do what you suggested and go through our ideal/realistic outcomes.
I don’t believe my in laws have to love me. My relationship with my partner is much more important. My own family is fucked up, but when it’s mental illness and drug abuse, it’s easier to call it what it is and separate. Up until a couple years ago, my partner thought he more or less had the perfect family and it was him that was messed up.
Thanks again for the suggestions.
Where I live, in the province of Quebec, Canada.
You can find them other than July but they are very very rare.. And they are usually shit holes. 95%+ people who are renting are moving July first.
Leases are also usually available for exactly a year which makes it really complicated to get out of that situation if yours is April to April.
The rules don't make much sense but it is what it is.