I think you’re fine to explain that connections within a blended/extended family is something that happens naturally and no-one can expect it automatically. It’s unfortunate that your dad’s partner had presumed this but it doesn’t make your position or feelings any less relevant.
Have a chat with her directly and I hope she’s able to see that there’s no negativity or diminished feelings in any of this.
I appreciate you.
You seem to be the only adult in the room.
I think you’re fine to explain that connections within a blended/extended family is something that happens naturally and no-one can expect it automatically. It’s unfortunate that your dad’s partner had presumed this but it doesn’t make your position or feelings any less relevant.
Have a chat with her directly and I hope she’s able to see that there’s no negativity or diminished feelings in any of this.