Nothing here suggests OP so abusive. NOTHING. However wife is checking many boxes for abuse. Check yourself and read the post. Wife shuts down all disagreement, stress pukes only happens with OP, also gaslights and refuses to even talk about her puking problems so therefore she doesn’t see them as problematic. That’s manipulative and abusive.
Yes the comment was pointed and probably could have been packaged nicer, but it really was the same as what everyone was saying.
One thing you never want to do is stay with someone who gives indication that they “don't know what they want”.
Nothing here suggests OP so abusive. NOTHING. However wife is checking many boxes for abuse. Check yourself and read the post. Wife shuts down all disagreement, stress pukes only happens with OP, also gaslights and refuses to even talk about her puking problems so therefore she doesn’t see them as problematic. That’s manipulative and abusive.