Well ok, thanks. And he already has them and has worn them…. I can’t take them back anymore. I just won’t do anything for him moving forward, which is nude for me because I love to buy things for others because it brings me joy to know that I can make them happy, even if it’s expensive. Someone else’s happiness is worth a lot to me, especially if I’m the person who made them happy.
Clearly your relationship dynamic has been established and it’s unlikely to change. Even though you are an adult your move feels she has the right to search your room and have ownership over your money. You can’t get her to shut up she feels like you’re her child so she has the right.
You need to move out. Let her rent the room to someone who will pay rent and contribute to bills.
God damn I do not understand people who just LET themselves get walked all over like this. Stop being fucking POLITE when it means allowing yourself to be treated like shit. God fucking damn
By sending a message then block him you’ll hurt yourself more just you’ll be thinking about it …. I’d suggest to let it go and move on with your life cuz you deserve better .
The vast majority of adults pay for the things and space they use, her saying it is normal for girlfriends to live! at their boyfriends place rent free is bullshit. Let’s sum this up:
She’s 35 and living with her da Her dad is kicking her out You‘ve only been together 6 months and she is trying to move in She‘s at your place 24/7 and effectively living there She‘s already moved in a fuck ton of her shit, clogging up your space She gives absolute bullshit explanations why she won’t pay rent (she needs more of her stuff there to feel comfortable first – straight up WTF)
You have a stage 5 leech here OP. I know you don’t want to hear it but sometimes what we don’t want to hear is what we need to hear – she is blatantly using you and will do so until you reach the end of your rope. There is no negotiating with people like this, if there is any hope of salvaging the relationship, she needs to start paying you (500 is rock bottom and she can’t even do that) rent and utilities or move the fuck out.
She isn't into you. She has told you numerous times she isn't into you and you forced it to the point it's at. She will never be into you. She doesn't want to fuck you. You're her friend and roommate that she lets pleasure her whenever she is drunk enough.
Why is her closeted gay friend paying her for nudes and a relationship? Surely he can find better ways to waste cash?
If you believe what she is telling you then you stand to be tricked by many people during your lifetime.
Maintaining a relationship with a SW client is not very encouraging in even the most kindly interpretations. It is quite likely that it goes much farther than that.
You don’t…you don’t deal with it. Emotional abuse is abuse and this guy is doing all of it. Psych warfare, insults, explosions…. You leave. You recognize that you would never treat someone you love the way he’s treating you and you settle for nothing less than that bar.
Definitely choose the job! You are at the stage when developing your career is a priority. Whatever you achieve now will be your safety cushion for whatever comes ahead in terms of relationships. Partners come and go, your professional development and achievements stay with you.
It doesn’t need to have flowery, eloquent words, expensive flowers or dinners, or even a tangible item at all. Just do something simple, like breakfast in bed on a Sunday, thank her, tell her how much you love her, and don’t worry if you trip over your words like a newborn deer. It’ll make it even more meaningful, because your brain and mouth can’t keep up with your heart.
Don’t ignore it, somethings up especially if he is acting defensive over it!
You going to remember this opportunity once you get married. Better practice now than after marriage else you'll regret why didn't you do it
Well ok, thanks. And he already has them and has worn them…. I can’t take them back anymore. I just won’t do anything for him moving forward, which is nude for me because I love to buy things for others because it brings me joy to know that I can make them happy, even if it’s expensive. Someone else’s happiness is worth a lot to me, especially if I’m the person who made them happy.
Agreed, sounds like OP may have already heard something but it's not clear if it was before or after this incident.
Clearly your relationship dynamic has been established and it’s unlikely to change. Even though you are an adult your move feels she has the right to search your room and have ownership over your money. You can’t get her to shut up she feels like you’re her child so she has the right.
You need to move out. Let her rent the room to someone who will pay rent and contribute to bills.
God damn I do not understand people who just LET themselves get walked all over like this. Stop being fucking POLITE when it means allowing yourself to be treated like shit. God fucking damn
By sending a message then block him you’ll hurt yourself more just you’ll be thinking about it …. I’d suggest to let it go and move on with your life cuz you deserve better .
The vast majority of adults pay for the things and space they use, her saying it is normal for girlfriends to live! at their boyfriends place rent free is bullshit. Let’s sum this up:
She’s 35 and living with her da Her dad is kicking her out You‘ve only been together 6 months and she is trying to move in She‘s at your place 24/7 and effectively living there She‘s already moved in a fuck ton of her shit, clogging up your space She gives absolute bullshit explanations why she won’t pay rent (she needs more of her stuff there to feel comfortable first – straight up WTF)
You have a stage 5 leech here OP. I know you don’t want to hear it but sometimes what we don’t want to hear is what we need to hear – she is blatantly using you and will do so until you reach the end of your rope. There is no negotiating with people like this, if there is any hope of salvaging the relationship, she needs to start paying you (500 is rock bottom and she can’t even do that) rent and utilities or move the fuck out.
She isn't into you. She has told you numerous times she isn't into you and you forced it to the point it's at. She will never be into you. She doesn't want to fuck you. You're her friend and roommate that she lets pleasure her whenever she is drunk enough.
Why is her closeted gay friend paying her for nudes and a relationship? Surely he can find better ways to waste cash?
If you believe what she is telling you then you stand to be tricked by many people during your lifetime.
Maintaining a relationship with a SW client is not very encouraging in even the most kindly interpretations. It is quite likely that it goes much farther than that.
Maybe op has a porn addiction?
You deserve better, you know what you have to do. If your “bf” cant back you up and defend you is he even a man?
Block her number. Tell her you can no longer hear from her.
Start referring to him as Wish Leo. ??
You don’t…you don’t deal with it. Emotional abuse is abuse and this guy is doing all of it. Psych warfare, insults, explosions…. You leave. You recognize that you would never treat someone you love the way he’s treating you and you settle for nothing less than that bar.
Also, he remembers, that’s bs.
Definitely choose the job! You are at the stage when developing your career is a priority. Whatever you achieve now will be your safety cushion for whatever comes ahead in terms of relationships. Partners come and go, your professional development and achievements stay with you.
It doesn’t need to have flowery, eloquent words, expensive flowers or dinners, or even a tangible item at all. Just do something simple, like breakfast in bed on a Sunday, thank her, tell her how much you love her, and don’t worry if you trip over your words like a newborn deer. It’ll make it even more meaningful, because your brain and mouth can’t keep up with your heart.
That’s really insulting that he would believe this about you even for a second.