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We haven’t, wanted to get some advice first
Love is not a word I just throw around carelessly because to me it's a sacred word and to me it would lose a lot of it's meaning if I just threw around to all my friends and similarly if my SO did the same. Of course I have a handful of friends that I love but that's friends I have known for 2 decades and been a constant in my life for those 2 decades. Your boyfriend doesn't seem to mind that you have male friends as far as I understand but the way you talk to them. You keeping it a secret just makes it look even more shady, so to him he is just seeing you saying I love you too to a random guy, that would be questionable for a lot of people.
If you've got another shot, why not ask her to let you watch her make herself cum. Once you pick up what she likes, give it a go yourself.
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I told my husband that we needed to use less sarcasm towards each other and speak nicely. I told him that we need to check in on jokes because sometimes they’re hurtful.
So now we tell each other “we use nice words” when we say jokes that offend each other. This triggers an apology and a conversation about why it hurt feelings.
It’s been hard, and we aren’t perfect with it but it has helped us better communicate as a married couple.
I hope you can grow from this experience. What happened essentially is you went into fight/flight mode and acted in that way of thinking. Next time, try to notice when you are in fight/flight. Maybe write out that note, but then leave it and come back 30 minutes later. I think you’ll find your note was horrible and you don’t want to send it!
Learning this now will help you in so many aspects of life. Work, friendships, all relationships will benefit from you understanding your fight/flight response and appropriately reacting to your natural human instincts (that are wrong sometimes!)
Makes me wonder if she was after S when his wife was still alive and that B sensed that?
Duality of man
Your what? Your EX-boyfriend, right? Right?
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Enjoy the peace and quiet.
Your wife is staying out of it because she can.
People like you are part of the problem.
This isn’t baseball. It’s not three strikes. He got one, now he’s Out!
There's always the option, money permitting, to just send the dog to training school for some months.
What kind of breed is it and what's the age?
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Yikes. She blocked you because she’s…spending Christmas with her family while you spend it with your dying mom? That’s awful, immature, and selfish.
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your mental health is more important than a chump
Life is tough enough, you don't need this Ahole to put you down. Unload the dead weight.
Why should nt he? The boyfriend was accused in front of the family.
I think it was only right that it was addressed with the group.
Yes, we have. I really couldn’t care less what he does when he’s at home as long as he maintains our relationship through communication. I don’t think it’s a control issue (although perhaps I’m biased). It’s just I wouldn’t expect to spending 24/7 with someone and drop to a phone call a week when home.
Block him, it’s the only thing left.
Dump him. Simple. I know the pain you are feeling, my dad died suddenly in June and it has been a horrendous year but the next day when I went to my partners we lay in bed and he held me as I cried, I tried to be intimate because in my sleep deprived dumb brain it's what I thought I wanted but he insisted I took a nap and see how I felt when I woke up. Your bf is a massive AH you deserve so much better especially whilst you're grieving such a huge loss, I hope you find some better support soon
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Did you become attracted to her because of her nose? If that wasn’t a deciding factor then it shouldn’t be now. My husband likes a predictable environment. When I lost all my hair I tried to keep my old hair color in wigs but to me they looked fake compared to the lighter wigs. So I switched from brown to a dark blonde. The change had a noticeable effect on how many men flirted with me- blonde seems more popular. But he hated it- “blonde” just did not match his expectation of what I look like. He eventually got used to it. To be clear he always gushed about how much he loved me and how beautiful he thought I was- even without hair. I forgave him for not preferring my wig color. Just tell her you love HER. Reassure her she is still beautiful. She needs to hear that from you. The nose is new and it is nice- you just need time to adjust your mental image of her.
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I was in therapy but it's not something I can currently afford right now, I would love to go back if I could. I know what they're saying is true though it just hurts to be called a predator even if I am one, to be honest with how I've been feeling recently I am in agreement that this isn't the right career for me as it has led to suicidal feelings etc
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I have been stalked by a “neighbor” in my old state, for approximately 20 yrs. Not only stalked, they are a cop and a few yrs ago were promoted to Captain of this suburban police dept. I have told EVERYONE, for years and no one believes me. I even have 2 brothers who are retired police, and they never believed me! It has been so terrifying. The house I bought (next store to this monster) was vacant for a little over 2 months before I moved in. Weird things would happen all the time, like he seemed to know when I was moving into different rooms, when I would go to a window to look out, when I went to bed and when I showered! Then it dawned on me. I believe he planted hidden cameras and microphones throughout my house. A lady who lived 2 doors away had a key, for years, because she would check on the elderly lady, bring her dinner, etc, regularly. I also believe he had lied about me to the whole neighborhood because so many people started shunning me. I got (I thought ) a very good security system, changed the locks several times, got a dog, etc., and would regularly find dead squirrels, birds, rats, garbage, sticky gum and candy & other trash etc., both in my yard and in my basement , near my car and on my porch. Mail often went missing, gardening and other tools went missing, my car alarm would “randomly “ go off (at all hours of day and night) & when I went out to check, the doors would be open and I would hear the chirp from the remote but I wasn’t pressing it. Same thing at work, I often found my car open &/or the alarm would go off and someone would tell me my car alarm was on. I say all this, and there is a TON more, because I have never known what to do and these past ~ 23 yrs have been terrifying. When I went to a Dr for my depression, after the exam & all the evaluations, (I told them what was happening to me) even MD’s, LCSW’s, psychologists, counselors, other Dr’s, etc, NO ONE BELIEVED me and I was diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia, bipolar disorders, major depression and acute anxiety. Then they put me on antipsychotics, atypical antipsychotics, mood stabilizers, antidepressants, anti anxiety meds, sleeping meds, etc etc. Before I was forced to retire, I was forced to take off for a year and a half and use up all the sick time I accumulated. I am of sound mind and never doubted it. I DO have depression and anxiety, but I have been living in a surreal horrendous nightmare all these years. Most of the meds have made me sicker, MORE depressed, MORE anxious, MORE hostile & even acting invincible- on these meds I would go into the street and try to stop traffic.
I was forced to retire early from my job (I think he lied about me to all my bosses and supervisors) and I finally moved out of state (after my health started failing, right around the time I retired) When I mentioned this to many, they said I was depressed (had recently lost my mom and brother around the time I first moved there) So then I stopped complaining about this monster & my “symptoms” because I knew no one would believe me. More surreal things happened every time I went outside. I was followed on foot by strangers (it was obvious they were following me) & they would laugh at me & call me crazy. I was always followed when I drove. I am sure there was a tracking device placed on my car. Every time I went to a car mechanic I would ask if they would PLEASE look for a gps. None ever was found. So I started copying the license plates of the cars I thought were following or harassing me. I would make a lot of turns & try to get behind them to easily copy their plate. Eventually I got very good at reading plates from my rear view mirror. I had many notebooks filled with nothing but license plates, car models, etc & a brief note how they were harassing me. They would often “follow” me from a head of me, they would regularly bright my rear (& front if they were driving towards me) use my rear view to blind me, I would switch it to “dark” and then they would start brighting my side view mirrors. It’s a miracle I survived a 5 minute drive to a local store, let alone get to work in the AM, get home, get on a highway, I had several near misses, accidents & crashes & thankfully I survive them. It was SO EXHAUSTING, driving, working, trying to just exist. I got very good driving at night wearing very dark sunglasses – it was very dangerous, could barely see & felt like I was driving in a cave. I couldn’t keep up with the maintaining of my home, my health was even worse, the weather in my city became impossible & I had, at this point zero support from everyone except for a few wonderful friends, they didn’t believe me either but were, at least kind & tried helping when they could since they thought I was pretty much crazy. I’m now 1000+ mi away and nothing has really changed. I’ve lost a lot ($, my cats, dog, possessions, friend and family relationships , especially my dignity and peace of mind. I’m pretty sure this monster knows everywhere I have moved to since leaving my home state. In past 3 yrs I moved 8 times. Main reason: I didn’t, & still do not feel safe. I think they come to my new city, under the guise of setting up a business for when they retire, and continue to know ALL about me. As a cop they have had access to ALL SORTS OF SURVEILLANCE TECHNOLOGY since I 1st moved next Dr to this creep. I cannot even say the word neighbor, & creep is too innocent a word for this truly diabolical “person”/thing. I also heard, from another old neighbor that they are also a private subcontractor to a National gov’t “service/agency” & so I feel I am basically dead & am always waiting for the next new torture they are using, to occur. And I have been TORTURED – mentally, physically (there’s a lot I could share) emotionally, spiritually, financially, socially (I have no friends here, but one, & they are usually always busy) so I am basically very isolated. The everyday – waiting for the next “bad” thing, ER admission, move, new torment & torture is exhausting. I had to give up my car, because my insurance got too expensive from all my “accidents “ . I am chronically sleep deprived & everyday I just want to give up. I’ve prayed to die, tried offing myself several times, etc., but I think “they” want me kept alive so they can continue my torture and get a lot of data (especially my medical data) I think they are experimenting on me, like I am a human laboratory rat, and when they are finished with me, will conveniently dispose of me. They seem to be above the law & have carte Blanche in my life. I’ve thought of (fantasized) about calling the Commissioner of this police dept & reporting them, but I have no proof. They would laugh me off the phone or arrest me on defamation of this monsters “character” & for making false accusations. Oh I was also arrested & brutalized & put in jail a few years ago & am still on probation for these false charges)
So, does ANYONE have any advice? I am despairing, lonely & feel totally powerless. I am really afraid for my life & think it’s only some (strange) miracle that I am still alive. Sorry for all this … phew.
I wouldn't mess with her.
Besides morally wrong, it sounds like she might be a headcase. She had a side guy, he “broke her heart”? that sounds like she might be super clingy. Some of the stuff she said after a week, she might be a little crazy too. She is probably a walking STD risk as she seems to jump on almost any guy she finds attractive.
As far as the BF goes, if you contact him, might need evidence. She sounds attractive and a bit wild, he is probably wrapped around her finger. SHe probably knows it and it's why she messes around so much.
For me, it’s the loss of control. I’m a control freak.
lol shit you're speaking my language. I wouldn't say I'm a control freak… but I absolutely hate the loss of control.
in any direction, you sound a lot smarter than I was at 21 🙂 If I was 20 years younger…
I know you're going to have a blast at your cousins. no doubt she's going to be excited as hell to have you visit for a day or a month.
I don't know what's more fucked up you constantly bringing up her weight “due medical reasons” but ignoring her actual health problems with alcohol consumption.
What state? Lol
Don't do it idiot. That's your own fault for not telling her. Don't fuck her head up with this. You've had 6 years
I would ask your girls how they feel and if it made them uncomfortable
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Yeah, no. He said how he doesn't care how you feel and never did, so I think that would be the breaker for me at least.
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She's apologized and said she will look at her drinking habits.
I have PD.
Let me first say that it is a manageable disease. Myself and many others in Facebook support groups I am in I’ve seen improve their gum disease. Now, yes there is definitely a point of no return but you would be able to visibly see that in his teeth.
Does he have any “black triangles” yet?
You are correct about the bacteria transferring. But usually this is only a concern if you also have poor oral health. As long as you maintain your mouth, you should be fine.
He needs to take it seriously. Floss, brushing, mild mouth wash. Tell him to buy a water pick. If he’s not taking it seriously, just be honest with him. Tell him it worries you because taking care of your teeth is something important to you.
Good luck! ?
Not shallow, truly legit. My ex never once went to the gym or attempted any real exercise in the entire 12 years we were together. I would beg and plead and try to motivate to the point where I even stopped going, so not only did he not value his own health he, by association, kept me from valuing my own.
It never got better. A zebra can't change his stripes.
I am Stayin' he a gold digger, but he ain't messing with a broke …
So experts recommend that single parents don't even introduce their SO until they've been together at least 6 months, minimum. You shouldn't have even met her yet. It's not fair to her that you moved so quickly, as you have no idea if you'll be compatible long-term, and if you break up she loses someone she's grown attached to. He's old enough to know better.
Threads like these blow my fucking mind.
My dude, you're being abused. Vacate the property, dump her, and evaluate why you attracted such garbage within close proximity to begin with, much less tolerated it for as long as you have.
Holy shit.
She felt I was mocking her. She did it natural so she moved a lot. I did joke about how she almost kicked us in the head, but I meant it playfully and tried to emphasize the intensity of it all as a partner. It was really badass but she thought I was critiquing her. Likr I said, Im socially awkward.. even with her.
you have 3 biological teens and 1 non biological.
This man is a child lmfao. wtf
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Right! It’s like they just wanna feel that pain for some reason
IF she speaks about him every day, even after your comments, then it is very likely she does have a crush on him. The problem with situations like this is that if the (married) boss doesn't maintain boundaries and pushes his relationship (like going out drinking) then your gf may develop feelings before she would even admit them to herself; after all this is a person she spends 8+ hrs a day around – perhaps even more than you. I think you need to ask to be conscious of her actions (drinking, lunches alone, etc) and what message they send to her married boss. Tell her you trust her (even if you are not sure) but a married boss going out socially with his subordinate(s) is not appropriate and blurs the professional line. Ask her for your sake to withdraw a bit even if she feels like she doesn't need to. Don't bug her just monitor if she takes your comments into account. This may be hard because she might stop communicating so much about him – which is a flag in itself.
here's your advice- leave her alone, dont contact her to tell her your feelings, dont tell her you miss her, dont tell her you can't stop thinking about her.
this is part of the process, which sucks, but you must take the high road as the dumper. if you reach out to her to tell her this stuff, it would ve incredibly(!!) selfish of you, and you will set her back (and this process will be torturous for her).
respect your decision, and her, and her pain, by not telling her these feelings. this is the price you must pay for your decision – it does suck, and i am sorry it's happening to you. just know it's normal, and you must use all your willpower to not make her suffer anymore.
I am trying my best, everything. She doesn't want go therapy, or anything!
Hence I am here talking with strangers trying to get from others people experience!
Your last text there tells me you aren’t listening to her, and that needs to change. Take her at her word, she’s told you she wants to slow things down, so…. slow things down. It’s that easy. Match her pace. If you can’t, then you and her aren’t compatible.
Why are you putting up with this?
I mean three fucking years? Jeez.
Just deal with it by walking away.
He has no respect for you and you need to rediscover your self respect.
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Don't throw your life and money away on this guy. You post problems about him about every month. Get a grip. Why be with a lying, cheating, mama's boy who cares more about money than you?
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You think that’s judging ? It’s fact
Don't confuse a fetish with a “preference”. There are plenty of people out there who fanboy some race/ethnicity they know little about, usually just based on the pop culture of that group (i.e. Anime, K-Pop, et al). But fetishes are fantasies and often pursuing them as reality ends up disappointing. This is a young person with a lot of maturing ahead of him. As long as he treats you well then you probably shouldn't worry about this.
These are all Classic narcissistic things. This is not normal. The advice your therapist gave you is not good advice. You shouldn’t have to hide your calls with your literal family. It’s not normal for anyone to think you’re touching yourself while talking to your sister. This is not healthy and will only get worse.
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Just because I say something makes me feel uncomfortable to my bf that doesn’t make me a controlling asshole. I’m glad that you feel that way and your and yours have that worked out but not every relationship is going to be the same
Thank you, I appreciate your thoughtful replies! I’ll try my hardest
I mean, you already talked to him and he isn't willing to compromise, there isn't much left to do. The only 2 options are either you stay with him and deal with thise feelings or you break up and find someone more compatible, who is willing not watch that or at least find a middle ground
they shared baths until they were 18/14 respectively.
Say what now?
That and him calling her name during sexytime is creepy af.
Stop being a pathetic wimpy coward sad sack excuse of a man and kick her out she'll do it again cause she knows you won't leave, and your new name should be Howard the coward cause that's all you are
You sure its cum and not soap residue ? Just making sure cause that can happen if washed with the wrong product
your mother in law sounds emotionally incestuous. yikes.
I’ve seen people on Reddit say it’s best not to do couples counseling with an abuser or narcissist. Guess this is the result.
Not really isolate me but early on, he had major trust issues. We were long distance at first. If I went grocery shopping, he made me FaceTime him the receipt so he could look at the time stamp. I figured because of long distance, that caused him to be insecure. If an ex texted me although I didn’t respond, he’d go a little crazy. But after I told him I’m leaving if he continues that, he stopped. His bio mom did give him and his brother up to his aunt as kids. Maybe he could have abandonment fears. Why do you ask?
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Two single mattresses side by side works great for my wife and I!
Do you think more boyfriends and girlfriends stay together than married couples? Would you agree that more than half of dating relationships end in the death of one partner?
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Yup, definitely sounds like bipolar with the extreme mood swings. One minute everything is awesome, and the next you’re walking on eggshells in hell.
That's not how Bipolar works. Please stop stigmatizing mental illness.
Hey don’t beat yourself up over this, Jeez you’re overthinking things here my lovely. Best try putting these thoughts to the back of the cupboard, you will not gain anything by “confessing” anything. I wish you well and hope you have an awesome weekend and happy 2023
In the future you should add a disclaimer that says “A reply to this text will be taken as interest”
Oh, you again with your bad takes, bad logic and mutli- accounts.
Yeah I keep telling her that, but she has little confidence to actually follow through. She's essentially been trained that she doesn't understand anything and our parents know best, so it's difficult. My parents are tired of being special needs parents but unfortunately special needs children usually become special needs adults. The past couple days she seems happier and is working (I drove her to work training today), so I'm hoping she's able to get out and be happier soon.
Thanks. People forget how shitty we all tend to be at relationships in our early twenties. Not a judgement- it’s just the nature of the human beast. Our brains haven’t finished curing yet.
It's not that you can't cook… It's just that you're lazy and everyone has done it for you. I cook well… Do you think I LOVE to cook as a women? No i hate it. It's exhausting and takes time, but i had to learn or we wouldn't be eating. Grow up and learn a basic life skill…
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Lol if that what you think cool
Yeah, someone voting for a party just for tax cuts when that said party foments fake outrage, emboldens dangerous people, and is a real threat to the safety and well being of other citizens (particularly minorities of all types), does not cut it for me. That’s a huge red flag and a real indicator of that person’s true values. I’m not suggest someone vote a certain way, but there are ways of voting that regularly, reasonable, good people definitely do not vote.
I agree to an extent. I really wasn't attempting to get into a discussion about politics on the relationship advice reddit. In a political world that many want to be an “us or them” deal, it's important to remember that there is a wide spectrum of political beliefs still. I voted democratic for the first few years after 18 but still was staunchly against abortion due to my upbringing. I now tend to vote Green, Independent or Libertarian and wholeheartedly support bodily autonomy in every way. But I on-line in an area with a lot of former Republicans who are now in the Democratic party yet haven't actually changed their policies. So unfortunately I don't get the option to vote for anything but Dem or Rep in many offices and positions. We don't know what his reasoning is. Blanket statements that classify half of the country concerning American politics is how we got where we are, not having an actual choice and hating each other.
Have you thought about applying for the school district? They’re usually very accommodating for school hours at least
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There is always the option to hire a nanny to take care of kids as well. I would wonder why he is so hell-bent on insisting you stay at home?
A man who genuinely cares about you would support you, and all the more since he seems to be able to do so.
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He doesn’t care about you.
Got the Nexplanon myself due to my nickel allergy. So nice to not have to worry about it for 3 whole years.
Ahhhh. So he’s playing victim.
I’ve spent 7 years working with my rescue dog who has anxiety, fear aggression and lots of behavioural issues. We work closely with a behaviourist now so he’s medicated and doing so much better. Let me just say that each one of these incidents takes only a few seconds to take your dog many steps back and undoing months of your hard work and trust-building.
I agree with you that training is the way forward (“discipline” as you say it has negative connotations for me, especially in a dog with fear aggression like yours. Even what you consider normal corrections can damage trust in a fearful dog—you don’t want him to learn based on fear despite his anxiety, you want him to learn to trust you enough for his anxiety to no longer become an issue in these situations). You say your dog is overprotective of you and possibly his spot on the bed (look into resource guarding—in this case you are the resource). This behaviour should be addressed immediately with positive reinforcement and training methods as resource guarding can quickly snowball into worse behaviour.
However, your boyfriend’s reaction is so unbelievably damaging. I’ve worked nude with my dog, who belongs to both me and my husband. My husband would never be abusive, but he does sometimes get lax in training and allow for situations to occur that set us back. I’ve been very clear: if he’s not going to help me, he’s not allowed to undermine me and work against me. We’ve argued over this but the bottom line is that if he doesn’t participate in the training, he’s showing he has no respect for all my naked work and my bond with our dog (and let’s face it, behavioural issues like this in a dig can be so overwhelming).
Not only is your boyfriend abusive (instinctual reaction my fucking ass, that doesn’t bode well for you if your boyfriend “instinctively” reacts in a fight and slaps you) but he has no respect for you, the progress you’ve made, your time, no respect for the things that you care about and no respect for a creature that’s weaker than he is. Seeing how a person treats those “below” him can really give you a glimpse into who they are. Even if my relationship was perfect with my husband, if he ever slapped our dog in anger I’d be out of there.
Your dog, your home, your rules. If your boyfriend can’t interact properly with your dog by your rules then he’s not to interact with him at all. Because acting like this makes him a threat to your dog. You and your home are your dog’s safe space. The bigger a threat your boyfriend becomes, the less safe your dog will feel in his safe space and the more his issues will worsen. Fearful dogs need a solid routine, safety, and people they can trust to be predictable above anything else. Your boyfriend hitting your dog makes your boyfriend unpredictable. Knowing that puts your dog on edge the rest of the time even if your boyfriend behaves appropriately. And if your dog becomes more fearful your idiot boyfriend may again decide that violence is the appropriate response and create an ongoing spiral downwards. If your boyfriend can’t abide by your rules and your training requests—or worse, if he thinks he knows better—get rid of him. You’re young and have plenty of time to find someone else who, at minimum, is not abusive to animals. That’s a pretty low bar in my opinion.
Admiral Ackbar is screaming into OP's ear
Did you kiss one of your friends while you were engaged to fiancé? If yes, how come fiancé wasn't there/your default choice of who to kiss. Or was he kissing someone else too? Genuinely curious. Where I'm from, kisses on new years are basically only a romantic thing between partners. Or, if two single people had met at that new years party, and maybe had been dancing and flirting all night, then they would kiss each other as a sort of confirmation of being interested in each other, which often leads to dating. But again, that's purely romantic, and either with partners+ partner or two single folks who are interested in each other
So, kissing someone who's not your bf/gf would be seen as cheating, the same way as if they'd kissed someone else at any other time of year
She says she will try to do better for example with carrying her part of the housework but it never happens and is pretty much just an empty lie. She did say last night that she is going to try to do better next year but I’ll believe it when I see it.
She knows I’m kind of I don’t know finding my place in our marriage as she teases me in and out of the bedroom. I know she realizes things are changing and she doesn’t really seem to feel it’s a bad thing. She feels more empowered in our relationship than she did previously and that’s not necessarily a bad thing.
I would feel betrayed
No, it was mostly verbal and just chatting. But he did write it down that he still owes me. Should I be doing that now to avoid future contact with him? I guess that's probably a good idea. Thank you!
So what do you think is the best course of action i know i should have texted her but i really still want to stay together
This is the most direct and concise answer so far.
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Time to move on
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Yea quit communicating with your ex. Only “I'm bringing Timmy over” texts and that's it.
I (33f) don't mind people using weed, it has many health benefits. However, I get migraines from the strong smell of it and cannot be around people who smoke. Maybe your wife hates the smell? Have you seen if edibles are a potential compromise?
Is it you want a ring and a marriage certificate from your court house that would be enough, or is it the idea if a formal wedding? It’s ok to want to be married. And it’s ok if he doesn’t want a marriage and just to be dating. You need to decide which you want more. If he doesn’t want the same, it’s ok to end things.
I’m gonna be honest you’ve dug yourself into a hole here. The best option is to come clean but put yourself in his shoes… would you believe it? Why in the world would you post saying you kissed a bunch of other people as a joke? That just doesn’t make sense. Even I’m having a hard time believing you aren’t just posting this to cover your own ass and go “see! I posted it on Reddit!” later.
I feel sorry for your wife
“Become a fantastic human being”…..
He is a man who will not be able to support his partner if they become sick. Or support a family.
But sure, let’s call OP materialistic because she wants a partner who has stability
A difficult breakup is a real problem. Regardless, therapy is for everyone. It's honestly best to start when you aren't desperate for help because by the time you are, it's way harder to deal with trying to find someone and laying all the groundwork before getting into the serious issues.
It could have been anything, maybe he didn’t shower.
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I don’t think there’s any vag involved in this situation, though the rest of your comment is solid…
My mum has always been a controversial figure in my life, I’ve been learning to stand against her more. Unfortunately my mum didn’t apologise, even though I explained to her why her comments are inappropriate and isn’t right she doesn’t quite understand. My gf isn’t taking my word for it and tbh I would also like her to hear it from my mum too.
I feel the need to talk to my mum again about all this in the future but every time I speak to my mum no matter how calm I try to be she’s always so difficult to talk to. Do you think it’ll be a good idea to bring this back into conversation again? ?
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Yuck. He's way too insecure and controlling. Huge red flags!
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I have said this to her before, months ago when the situation occurred, she is just in denial so I am a bit lost now. I was very clear that she betrayed my trust beyond repair and I don't see any point in being friends with a person I cannot trust. Seems it went over her head and she keeps trying to get close to me again.
Romantically — no. I think he’s way to immature. Or in different words I feel like I’m looking for different relationship dynamic than he is.
Physically — I’m not sure. He guessed my kinks and preferences perfectly without me even hinting at him. This turned me on quite a bit. But I never looked at him and thought he’s hot/ attractive.
Emotionally — No. I’m super picky with whom I’m feeling safe and although I definitely feel like I can be my chaotic self around him but the last bit of feeling like “at home” isn’t there. This safe-feeling happened with a different guy way stronger. But sadly we have huge age (13 years) difference so we left it with a mutual agreement at best friends. And this doesn’t change with time for me. I met both of them on the same day at the same time. It either is there or it isn’t.
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Hopefully ?? your little one will be happy, healthy and have a wonderful life.
It seems like you had assumed more about the relationship than what was actually there at the time? and are you saying there was absolutely no time spent apart outside of work and school? I think it makes sense that she didn’t disclose she was sleeping with someone if it was just sex. I don’t think she considered him to be someone she was “seeing”.
I don’t understand the problem here. You were not exclusive and sounds like she didn’t want to be sleeping with two men at the same time. Her history before you were exclusively dating is really none of your business. As far as your “story”’goes, that sounds as if it’s the one you wrote. You won the girl. That’s the story here.
You already know it’s time to end it. You can’t have a healthy relationship where you avoid communication.
It’s great that he’s a nice guy but that is supposed to be part of the BF package with anyone you choose.
Avoiding hurting him isn’t helping. He deserves a girl that really wants to be with him and not out of guilt, fear and avoidance.
If you want to text, text. There's no magic formula.
never nothing more than like 3 years younger then me
Youre being used… his wife most likely doesnt even know unr in the picture still…. he was in the process of divorce and it sounds to me from the outside looking in that perhaps theyve decided to work through it and he failed to mention that to u so he could continue to sneak away and have sex w u. Thats a horrible thing to do but it happens all the time. Thats why he doesn't let his son see u now, his son may say something off topic about u and then his grand scheme is over and his wife knows hes been lying to her, she wont look at you as a victim youll be the villain of the story. Do yourself a favor. No more relationship with him till his divorce is clear. Hes using you and youre letting him in hopes for a relationship that he obviously doesnt care about.
What you seem to forget is that by doing that, you basically put your friend as a meatshield.
In case things escalated, and the man tried to attack you, he would have been forced to put his safety on the line to protect you. You intervened because you had a “very big man” besides you to protect you in case things go south.
That is female entitlement.
Or crypto.
yea..
i wd not rule out that they spiked your drinks with the very intention to rape you.
i'm so sorry op. i's not your fault, not even a tiny bit.
Your relationship Is indeed going backwards. Most relationships don't recover from a backward step like this. Also, he seems way too excited to be leaving you.
This fella is pretty immature. He doesn't have a realistic way to pay for his own expenses. How can he contribute to a partnership when he can't even manage his own needs? And his solution is to move back with his parents? And he's excited about that? That all suggests that he's not interested in being an adult.
Candidly, although you say that you don't want to give up on this relationship, you asked him to move out. And his lack of self-growth is probably a red flag that you've recognized. My guess is that you're ready to move on, and are just sad about it. It's the sunk cost fallacy. Maybe you hope this will be something that prompts him to change, and maybe it will. But this is likely the end of your relationship, and that's actually a very good thing for you, and probably for him too.
Definitely wasn’t my intention.
He will cry it out, let him. He needs to understand the word no.
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Yeah I'm not doing that anymore, you're probably 100% right.
You need proper support to learn to parent, both you and husband. Family therapy would be the way forward.
You sound like a lovely person OP but bless your heart she is not going to get back on her feet quickly. She's at the age where schizophrenia and many other mental illnesses manifest. It may have come on suddenly but it is likely to be something that she has to deal with for the rest of her life, hopefully it can be fully managed with medication but not everyone can be.
Two months is NOTHING in the face of this. If you continue to advocate for and help your sister then you need to know that there is no quick fix for this. You won't be back to normal by February, your sister might have a handle on her condition by February next year but that would be if she gets very lucky with meds and therapy. It won't be as acute as it has been that whole time but it won't be easy either.
You're very young to be taking on such a serious burden. I'm not saying you shouldn't, I know for a fact as an older sister that I would 100% drop everything and everyone if my younger sibling needed me in a crisis like this. But I also know that that instinct probably isn't healthy, and that I'm probably not the only one who could help in that scenario. You need to find out who else can help you and your sister. One person can't be the only one keeping someone mentally ill grounded, it's too much. Find support.
Don't abandon your sister, but recognise that it's okay to want to choose your fiancée (even if you are so so young to be considering marriage and babies!). It's okay to choose her and be happy even though your sister is having an awful time. You're still allowed to be happy.
This hurts my heart to hear but it’s all true. I do feel like a sexual object around him. He’s even admitted it and said he’s trying to work on it. I feel stupid
So he can be but not you???
Fuck that guy sorry not sorry
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I agree the context matters and I think I’m the problem here
Hard no. This is a nude decision after several months, no question it's a no at 1 week. Also, once she's in, you will have a hell of a time getting her out if things sour or her boyfriend decides to move in with her.
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This disease of the brain can easily grind everybody down to a nub. It’s a living nightmare to live with someone like this when they are only getting worse. The ultimatum may be bad but I don’t think there is anything petty about it
That's domestic abuse. She has to cope with meds and therapy, if not divorced her abusive ass.
you need to let her go. this is not her mess
Sit down and tell her the truth.
You may want this to work, but honestly, you shouldn't. Obviously people can't control what they are and aren't attracted to, but think about this long-term. People's bodies change throughout time, it's unavoidable. Pregnancy happens, menopause happens, ups and downs happen. Bodies drastically change through these and weight gain or loss is inevitable for most people. Someone that wants a “break” at the prospect of their SO gaining some weight is unsustainable to be with. Imagine you get pregnant, have irreversible bodily changes, and he wants a break because of it.
On top of that, if he wants a “break” because he's unattracted to you, I'm sorry, but the likelihood of him just using that time to fuck other people isn't slim. He's treating you like an option. Furthermore, it's not healthy for YOU if you try to force yourself to be as skinny as you were at a time when your mental health was shot. Your mental health matters more.
I've had people in my life, especially women, who get broken up with because they gain some weight. It never works out, and one in particular gained an eating disorder that started with her feeling less than enough because of her boyfriend. You can do better.
I recommend just moving on. Don't wait for this dude.
My brother has some money..and these girls come from terrible backgrounds.
This how he's selecting them. People from abusive households become potential targets for pedophiles and groomers.
…(a 22 year old that honestly looked 13) that he needed help.
How dangerous this is. I doubt how a 22 year old look would like a 13 year. Did she have some authentic ID on her. Real talk I'd have reported him to the police. Do you really want a pedophile in her house and around your family? I guess not.
She said she would rather have kids then lose me
idk man; to me this is iffy. sometimes people say things they don't mean just to strong along their partner, ykwim? i realise you love her but love isn't everything about a relationship; you need common goals.
Would you have a tantrum if one your relatives started dating someone named Rosie or if a coworker is named that? Would you start screaming at a cashier for being named that ? If the answer is no you need to grow up and get grief therapy it's been long enough for you to have been proactive in your grief.
Exactly! My partner was less experienced than I was when we got together. He’s AMAZING in bed because he pays attention to what I like, and I do likewise. It’s more about being caring than experience.
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Yeah no offence, but he owes you absolutely nothing when it comes to him finding new partners. Your last paragraph is your answer though; you still have feelings for him, which is valid and you have every right to feel upset, so take some solid time apart to disconnect those feelings. But yous haven't been dating for a long time. Its good for him to move on. would you rather him sit around miserable and alone, waiting for you to decide what you want? sounds like you are only considering your feelings and not at all whats best for him. I know those words are harsh but i really mean them with the best intention, its just a harsh message. Take time for yourself. If yous can later become friends, great. If not, i wish yous both the best
Get a paternity test.
Get rid of your shit friend.
Get rid of your shit wife.
Go and be happy.
Even if he doesn't realise it, do you want to be the person who helps him slowly realise this stuff, potentially over the course of years, and at the expense of your own comfort and happiness?
is your brother leonardo dicaprio?
He wants to have his cake and eat it. There are better men out there
Sex without foreplay doesn’t make sense to me not even porn does that lol
Go down on your woman, man ffs
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OP, I think there's a chance to have a rational conversation with him before making any tough decisions. Talk about your concerns and see why he structured things this way. Ask why he is foregoing some of the classic elements of a prenup, and if he realizes that by doing so this becomes a pretty one sided agreement. Ask if he'd be willing to sign such an agreement in your position.
Ultimately he needs to view you as partners, and while prenups can protect assets from before the marriage this is suggesting he has pretty inflexible views on how you will have access to money within the marriage itself.
As a last resort say you will provide him with a prenup structure from your attorney to use as a starting point because his document is not fair to you or your career.
It ain't ticking at 38, a klaxon is going off and the silo doors are open
Are you turning her on or is she tired of saying no . Saying yes to make you happy
Well, first of all, you need to take responsibility for your part. You're not losing a good friend because you had a crush on her, you're losing a good friend because you cut her off when you found out she had a boyfriend. She was probably more confused than you, because she probably had no idea why you just stopped talking to her. Also, if your inclination was to cut her off when you found out she wasn't single, I don't think you actually see her as a friend.
If you want to reconnect as friends, you're going to have to be honest with her. You got your own hopes up here, she never even knew you liked her so it's not like she shot you down or anything. From her perspective, she had a good friend who just stopped talking to her for seemingly no reason, and if you want her to trust you again, you need to tell her why that happened. If you don't think you can be just friends with her without expecting more at some point, then I think you should let it go, because that's not fair either. As in, if you're only waiting around for her to break up with her boyfriend, then pretending to be her friend in the meantime when you may just cut her off again for getting with another guy would be dishonest and you don't want to start a relationship like that anyway.
LOL. Yeah nothing says “Still in love” like sending a Christmas card at Christmas.
Maybe she sells them to a creeper and is embarrassed to say so?
I do all of those things on a daily basis. I hug her atleast like 30 times a day and tell her she’s pretty, but she always says “ you never think of anything new to say, always the same sentences”
You’re not doing anything wrong by breaking up with him. You’re being honest about your feelings, which is ok.
The wrong thing is leading him on and letting him believe you are as invested in him as he is in you. That’s just not being honest.
You should end it with him and be honest that you just don’t feel the same way he does. Nothing you can do about it. Let him find someone who is a better fit.
I’d probably ask your gf if she really felt that way always and why it just came up now if so. Because someone mentioned her friend could be planting ideas in her head. If she is being manipulated I think you should and can explain your intentions.
Either way though, her being easily influenced is a red flag, and if she’s not being influenced by anyone else, that’s also a red a flag. Good luck
Rip it off.
He sounds depressed, lazy, addicting to gaming, unhealthy lifestyle or all of the above. It’s way to early for him to just give up on himself and your relationship like that. My husband is more than 20 years older than yours and we are always traveling, partying, eat meals out, and do lots of fun things together.
Go easy on yourself. You were being a loving, supportive partner. Just recognize that he is not a supportive partner, or so it seems. He seems immature and delusional about how things worked in the past.
You're only 22. Ending this marriage wouldn't be the worst thing in the world. Not saying you should or shouldn't, just saying it's a possibility.
If you believe cheating is doing nothing wrong hey your in for a rude awakening
Sorry dude, but I have never found drugs or alcohol to be an excuse. It may be justified as not cheating because it happened right in front of you but in my opinion, if it is something that normally you would consider a violation, a betrayal, it is still cheating… and I do not feel there is a lot of remorse on her part. Think the two of you need to talk.
I assume you didn’t have kids with him or lived together?
Can i ask who initiated the relationship from friendship to romantic partners initiatially?
And no need for thanks, regardless of how i feel or what i think, ur still a person. I also havent said or done anything to get thanked for minus the bare minimum. U still have a heart and feelings, and ur still going through a rough/shitty time. I came here to try to help and give support, not just put u down bc that does nothing for no one. There is no reason i shld pile onto that esp when ur simply asking for help and not being aggressive/shitty yourself. I try to be a firm believer in treating others the way u wish to be treated and specifically treating others the way they treat me/others.
Saviour fetishism.
Don't date guys who talk to and about you this way.
It's naked, and it hurts now. It will hurt for a while, but eventually, it will be ok. He isn't mature enough for a committed relationship.
He wants to come over tonight to talk in person. I told him no, but was that the right thing? Should I try to hear him out or end it?
That was the right thing to do. Yes, end it and don't look back. You realize he has lied thru his teeth, right? There was never any “break” with the wife. He just likes to cheat. If you're his “soulmate,” why did he get back together with his wife from their supposed “break” and impregnate her? He is a liar and a known cheater. I took the quotes below that just illustrate what a liar he is. He just wants to feed you some bullshit so he can have his cake and eat it, too. If he hadn't left his wife before, he probably doesn't plan to now, especially with a baby in the picture. I expect him to try to convince you he is going to leave his wife, while stringing you along.
And even if he does divorce her, do you really want a guy that cheats on his wife? You would be naive to think your relationship is going to be any different.
I met this guy on Hinge just about a year ago,
telling me he was only on hinge when he and his wife were on a break and figured it would lead to a hookup that he didn't realize he would meet his soulmate.
she was 3 months pregnant and her husband had revealed to her last month that he was having an affair
As this was not his first indiscretion.
Kate is a bitch. She has a right to feel however she wants but her feelings on this also make her a giant bitch. Personally I don't need a friend group that takes side with a colossal cunt like that. Go to the con and find a new bunch weirdos to spend time with.
Hey X I don’t think we are a good fit where we will both be happy in the long run. I still have a lot of admiration and respect for you and hope you find lasting love and happiness moving forward as we part ways.
What do y’all think, if she doesn’t respond back in a few days should I send another message, or just count it as a loss?
Your message was just fine!
Are you two friends on Facebook? Because if you aren't there's a very good chance she won't see your message.
If all things are equal then Kate shouldn’t dress up as any anime character unless they’re specifically written as a black person since the vast majority of anime characters are Asian and not black or white.
Yeah! You need to be strong and view her as a colleague only just like Dave from accounting. Limit interactions to only professional things.
And make love to your wife a lot.
Hire security and make sure dad 1 doesn't decide to show up anyway.
Smell the panties to see if they smell like his balls.
Trust comes from repeatedly acting in a way that’s consistent with what you have said. Locking yourself in a small space with a guy who has his dick out is not consistent with being in an exclusive relationship.
Ask her if she trusts you. She’ll say yes. Ask her how she would feel if you suddenly started staying out late and got protective about your phone. Or started locking yourself in with hard women. She would worry, and rightly so, because it’s behavior that isn’t consistent with being in an exclusive relationship.
Are the texts innocent like “hey do you want to catch a movie, have lunch meet with x group of friends?” Or are they flirting and sexting?
More context would help.
I side with the hard asian.
Agreed! I’ve never understood it. Even if I was pissed if at someone I was in a relationship with I wouldn’t make him sleep on the couch!
It's not your job to teach anyone you're dating how to be a decent human being. And if they haven't learned by 30, the chances of you successfully changing them are slim to none.
Be open to differences when it comes to style and looks and taste in music and all those external things. Take no prisoners when it comes to character.
Seven long paragraphs itemizing why this relationship is bad news. Not one mention of anything positive, not even a hint of about liking or loving her. What does that tell you? Seems pretty obvious. Heed the advice of the wise comments below.
You're completely right. I have lived with a delusion in my head that I felt the need to fix it with her. But I am completely able to do that alone.
Idk it seems like you’ve been pretty reasonable. Also idk what the deal is, isn’t one of the roommates getting a new Tv anyways? Why does he give a shit if you buy the old one if a new ones replacing it.
He seems to be blowing this out of proportion, is this really just about the tv? I mean it seems like he was off before that so many something else is going on with him. That’s the only thing I can think of.
Thank you! I will look around, read some stories, but honestly, I don't feel like the open relationship would be something for me. I have a very monogamous mindset, and would feel weird letting other people into the relationship.
You might not have a choice on the DV charges. In most places, at least in the US (if that’s where you are) police are required to arrest and charge in DV cases. They’re used to cases like this where the victim doesn’t want to cooperate and too many people have been killed in cases like this.
It's not the length; it's the girth.
I am on month 7 of my gf coming off BC due to low libido and other side effects. Nothing has changed yet libido wise but good luck to you. I’m trying to be patient.
none of these things appear to be related. also, none of these things seem to be a big deal. at least to me.
your boyfriend was sad for an hour over his team losing? people have interests and hobbies and are disappointed when things don’t go their way. belittling others interests, particularly your own partners, is not a good character trait.
he left a small amount of food out because he was rushing to get to the movies? again, things happen. if you are going to be mad every time something gets left out, well, good luck in future relationships.
he made you dinner and undercooked the rice and you’re mad at him. i would be grateful he made you dinner. he probably rushed the rice because he wanted it ready for when you got home. again, if you’re going to be mad at your partner for making a mistake on a cooked meal, good luck in future relationships.
Honestly at the end y’all aren’t official so you did nothing wrong. If y’all are exclusive it’s worth telling him since a relationship is about honesty. Also I don’t think it’s serious bc you’re kissing a girl thus you don’t seem ready for a relationship. And I don’t think that girl straight since y’all kissed.
This is terrible advice. He has already told her multiple times what his feelings and boundaries are on this and she has constantly disregarded them. There is a point at which it is not our responsibility to explain how to be a non-abusive adult human being to people in our lives. And that goes for our partners too.
I agree with most of your comment! The only thing I will say is I know a few couples who started dating (and some who are married) after getting together at like 14/15ish so that’s not the craziest part to me.
Hungover sex is good. But only if you’re both hungover. And it doesn’t start with “feeling on her”.
I can understand that. But also, neither of them wanted kids originally. So, the reasonings just wouldn't matter. And either way, people don't need to know your decision to not wanting kids.
And I agree. It doesn't even necessarily mean that, just that she may have trouble conceiving. Either way, at the top of her post, she says she doesn't want them.
It doesn’t sound like she’s thinking about dating at all. Now or any time in the near future. I’m not saying you’re wrong but it didn’t seem like she has dating on her mind at all.
Keep your finances separate that’s non negotiable, you have to protect yourself. He has debts but they are not your debts.
If this guy is so bothered by his wife's consideration of his mood and his feelings that he has to come make a reddit post because he thinks she should be more direct about her seasoning preferences… she is not the problem here. And I'm a little worried for you that you don't see that
She's blackmail you.. call the police and have her escorted out! Don't threaten her with the cops but just call them. Don't argue with her .. you told her to leave, period. No more talk! More you talk, more she'll threaten and guilt trip you..
She could hurt herself and call the cops on you.. so be smart and not afraid!
Babies may be a gift from God, but that's entirely not the point here. No one is opposed to Allan and his gf having a baby.
Making the announcement at the future was tactless and insensitive. “Can we have the baby's stuff?” doubly so. An honest mistake, perhaps. Be upset about it, and then get over it.
No, don't have an intervention. Stay out of it. Let it blow over, if it will. The gf's family may have to learn the long, hard way that a family feud over some possessions is stupid and pointless, and Allan may have to learn the wisdom of siding with gf instead of reason, but you can't really learn it for them.
I understand that, it's still weird.. You should've stopped after the first time she didn't bother responding.
Why surprising??
My guy, this is why guys get a bad rap. No means no. If you can't accept that move on another woman that will say yes. Don't try and pressure her into something she doesn't want, and likely isn't ready for, just become you want to have sex.
Her medical team isn’t the only one failing her. You are too.
If she is too unwell to advocate for herself, then that is your role, as her husband.
Sign the rights away. This is on him. He fucked around and found out. “Wah wah i didnt think it would be this hard” sir that's a whole child. You need to get a lawyer yesterday
Sign the rights away. This is on him. He fucked around and found out. “Wah wah i didnt think it would be this hard” sir that's a whole child. You need to get a lawyer yesterday
You're right! I think I was getting hung up on all these 'spontaneous' nice things Lucy would talk about her boyfriend. But maybe I should just mention them or similar things to my boyfriend anyway – the spontaneity isn't the important part, it's the thought and nice experience after all lol.
I would disagree. He wants to work on things, she wants to have sex with a co worker.
My god man, used a period or even a comma. Anything
What is your wife like, usually? What's your normal relationship dynamic?
Buy another box of dumplings and eat them in front of her again
What do you think marriage means and what do you think being a wife means. Thats really a question only you can answer and hopefully find someone who agrees with your meaning of marriage.
You should contact an attorney, who can give you reliable advice.
That would be a dealbreaker for me. I've passed on guys that half-assed it.
You absolutely need better communication and need to say “if you haven’t worked with me to come up with a plan by (pick a date) I’m going to assume I’m on my own and will plan accordingly.
You were frustrated with his lack of planning and you just planned something with other people without his input? Not cool.
I thought it could be assumed from what I said, but I guess I should have clarified that she’s been saying she wanted to go back for years. They didn’t just give her away, she was saying for a long time that after she was done helping to raise my youngest brother, she would go back, essentially to on-line out her last days at home. Now they finally had the chance to take her there, but after a month, she wanted to come back to the US because it wasn’t what she thought it would be.
If it makes you uneasy, it's okay to delete the 'half hard sexy' stuff that teenagers would send between each other, but I would keep any other pictures like from vacation or you both together etc, which are just genuine shots of your time together, even if there is some skin showing (I'm thinking like holiday photos in swimwear and such). I don't think either keeping or deleting them is right or wrong inherently, but if having them makes you feel iffy, just het rid of them and move on, you'll get plenty more adult photos anyway 😉
Alternative to spinning the board: zombie chess
Play one normal game, second game you only play with your dead pieces from the last game
Instead of a love language, it could be love bombing. There’s a big difference. Love bombing is abuse but it sounds like he read a book and is using the phrase “love language” as an excuse for smothering. Just because a person has a love language, doesn’t mean they have to use it constantly. You say you don’t have much experience and lack confidence, but you can tell him that while you appreciate his words, they are overwhelming and making you uncomfortable, especially since it’s only been four months. Ask him to give you some space until you have spent more time together. Let him know that while he thinks he is being complimentary, it is having the opposite effect and you hope he can understand that. It might mean that you are incompatible because he moving too fast for you. You both need to agree on how your relationship works.
I confronted her after this incident. She hasn’t drank anything since and we’re going to counseling and such.
I’ve been through a similar situation, met in class yada yada.
If she doesn’t get back, drop it. Regardless of the reason, in my experience it’s dead and it was lip service. Happy hunting!
He doesn’t understand that you’ve been planning your wedding since you were 12 years old.
I think it's funny that she doesn't want you to be alone with another woman in public, but it's perfectly to be alone with her in an office.
In which space is some form of cheating more likely to happen?
My partner works most evenings and if he has a week off I sometimes find it hard to have my routine upended, if on top of that he started to complain about it I would be really annoyed.
This won’t end well. Whether it’s tomorrow or years down the road. Do you want to resent him if you don’t have children or him resent you if you do? Either way it ends up with a soured, toxic relationship.
Only way you'll be happy is if she gets health problems from birth control (common) or extreme pain from iud insertion/removal (common)? selfish as fuck. all this because you need to pull out. Use condoms if you have so much of an issue, her health is not less than your pleasure it's not even equivalent. Or just make her single, this is not an ultimatum she deserves.
They lost their common punching bag which was you. They need you back in there for more drama so they can have their “forbidden” chemistry again.
What were you expecting when you married a child?
“Be glad you only got cheated on and not beaten” is absolutely saying “it could have been worse”. You’re sick for that. And you’re on Reddit. Most people on here already hate cops. Get over yourself and quit telling people to be grateful they were only cheated on.
He’s waiting for test results
People don't wanna talk about how loving someone is literally the bare minimum required for a healthy relationship to exist
would your answer change if I had made suggestions as to what I would renovate, and he vetoed it? As in, “I would like to change the bathrooms because the tiles are so stained they can't be fixed, the toilets don't flush well, and the kitchen because the stove doesn't work.” And he said no because it's a waste of money (even though I would be paying for it). I should have put that ^ in there, but it seems like he still holds the power to even decide if I can do renovations, following his proposal.
What dumbass excuse did she give you?
It's his responsibility to recognize his trauma and get treatment and it's no excuse for treating you badly. You are being abused.
Yeah, when it comes to something as basic as the relationship being exclusive, you absolutely do not have to compromise on it. Ever. Never ever. That is a basic building block of a relationship, in my book, not something you compromise on.
regardless of gender
Why did you add this bit?
It's totally fair to ask him to stop if it makes you feel uncomfortable. If he doesn't, that tells you how much he values your boundaries.
I was with my bf for 3 years, going from living rather close to being long distance, then moved in together and pretty much immediately broke up because we couldn't handle seeing each other 24/7 and dealing with the other's bs. 6 months later we got back together because we realised we didn't want to be apart and loved each other too much. Now we're once again loving together and it's going great. We've both matured, learned (and continue to learn) to love each other's flaws and are having our 10 year anniversary very soon. 🙂
Selfish people do selfish shit and then pull up selfish reasons to justify their selfishness. I have no time for people like OP and the bullshit lives they foist on others.
Darling… your anger is justified. Ofc you want your pleasure, like he is getting his. If a toy would be better at pleasuring you and making you happy, than your bf, maybe you should buy one and leave your boyfriend
INFO: how often do you “forget” things when it comes to your wife?