Just don’t put her man down. You can express your concerns about her rushing into things, making sure she doesn’t miss any of the important topics for before marriage, and ask how she feels about him and why.
But the moment you imply he’s the wrong match, she will pull away from you.
Everyone has their breaking point. Yes, life has its ups and downs, but at some point, we must cut our losses and move on. Difficult times =/= eight years of suffering and misery.
I dated a man with kids once, and that shit is hard. We lived together, and it was a lot of unnecessary heart break and drama. Unfortunately, it's because he let that happen. People who haven't stepparented just don't understand the complex realities of being with someone who has kids from a previous relationship. It requires an unfathomable amount of patience, maturity, sacrifice, and understanding. You cannot set yourself to keep someone warm, though.
That's because he respected and looked up to you. That's now been completely destroyed because he found out that you're willing to cheat, betray, and make a farce of relationships that are meant to be based on love and trust.
Can you move out? Sublease? This sounds like bullying to me. It doesn't sound like she will stop just because you ask her to. You are living in a hostile environment. Can you move back home with your parents? Do you have any options at all? Are you on the lease?
Ignorance is not an act of hate or intolerance. It's being uneducated or unaware in what ever subject. The OP can read all they want live! but it will not equate to their real life experience or provide the personal answers they need about their child. There is no blanket explanation or one size fits all answer here. Their child is one person, an individual, not text on the internet.
Expecting their parent to accept whatever Reddit or whatever other corner of the internet says as the how, what, or why is what is ignorant.
I like to say just because you are on a diet doesn't mean you can't look at the rest of the menu. You just can't order anything else. She told you which I get hurts but if I was in relationship and was gonna cheat I wouldn't tell my other half I've got a bit of a crush on this person. Her crush will pass and that will be it.
Leave her. Do not date people that aren't over their lexes. She is using to try to get over him, but even about that is uncommital. You are a tool to her.
I'm not sure if regulating porn intake is really any of your business OP.
I understand why it might be concerning, but also there seems to be some other underlying insecurity where limiting your partners intake or trying to control their intake of porn is setting up ya'll for failure.
I was just thinking that. If it's legit 12 hours a day for months on end, this man is dead to the world. I did it for half a year once, and literally, I could barely muster the energy to take a shower and feed myself.
I stopped reading after he slept with both of them. Have some self respect and dump him.
Just don’t put her man down. You can express your concerns about her rushing into things, making sure she doesn’t miss any of the important topics for before marriage, and ask how she feels about him and why.
But the moment you imply he’s the wrong match, she will pull away from you.
Everyone has their breaking point. Yes, life has its ups and downs, but at some point, we must cut our losses and move on. Difficult times =/= eight years of suffering and misery.
I dated a man with kids once, and that shit is hard. We lived together, and it was a lot of unnecessary heart break and drama. Unfortunately, it's because he let that happen. People who haven't stepparented just don't understand the complex realities of being with someone who has kids from a previous relationship. It requires an unfathomable amount of patience, maturity, sacrifice, and understanding. You cannot set yourself to keep someone warm, though.
You are a bad mom.
That's because he respected and looked up to you. That's now been completely destroyed because he found out that you're willing to cheat, betray, and make a farce of relationships that are meant to be based on love and trust.
I’d think about the pros and cons of it. Then decide.
But if you go for it then make sure she’s on some type of birth control AND you always use condoms.
Might be part of the reason he doesn't think to grow a better personality ?
Can you move out? Sublease? This sounds like bullying to me. It doesn't sound like she will stop just because you ask her to. You are living in a hostile environment. Can you move back home with your parents? Do you have any options at all? Are you on the lease?
Ignorance is not an act of hate or intolerance. It's being uneducated or unaware in what ever subject. The OP can read all they want live! but it will not equate to their real life experience or provide the personal answers they need about their child. There is no blanket explanation or one size fits all answer here. Their child is one person, an individual, not text on the internet.
Expecting their parent to accept whatever Reddit or whatever other corner of the internet says as the how, what, or why is what is ignorant.
Man this is just sad.
Someone dicked her down. That’s why she didn’t come home.
What? You don't carefully vet your new girlfriends to make sure all their financials are in order? /S
“Damn that’s crazy im fucking some girl who lives there now”
I like to say just because you are on a diet doesn't mean you can't look at the rest of the menu. You just can't order anything else. She told you which I get hurts but if I was in relationship and was gonna cheat I wouldn't tell my other half I've got a bit of a crush on this person. Her crush will pass and that will be it.
Going through her messages is only going to make everyone involved feel shitty. Stay out of her private business and learn to trust her
Most of the time, the breakup comes after
Leave her. Do not date people that aren't over their lexes. She is using to try to get over him, but even about that is uncommital. You are a tool to her.
If you don’t like it, just say you don’t like it.
I'm not sure if regulating porn intake is really any of your business OP.
I understand why it might be concerning, but also there seems to be some other underlying insecurity where limiting your partners intake or trying to control their intake of porn is setting up ya'll for failure.
This is so evil and I love it!
Could be fine. Prob won’t be. But that’s most relationships. Good luck!
She’s being dumb by not getting the money owed paid immediately and fixing the “errors in the system” whatever that means.
Help her sort her shit out and for gods sake don’t get a loan if you don’t need it.
Do you honestly believe that? C’mon he definitely had sex with her.
I was just thinking that. If it's legit 12 hours a day for months on end, this man is dead to the world. I did it for half a year once, and literally, I could barely muster the energy to take a shower and feed myself.