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To be fair, your situations sound very different. Yes, the husband pivoted, but he attempted to pivot WITH OP, and make this apart of their marriage. It sounds like he's been very transparent (he could've kept the Twitter private, he could've lied about spending time with these friends). It sounds like your partner kept you completely in the dark, lied, cheated and broke your marriage vows. But once you breach the vows of your marriage together, you've got to redefine them again as a couple. And you might not be able to.
Sounds to me like she is trying to give you an out before hand.
Stop investing into this lack of a relationship and walk away for your own physical, mental and emotional health. This isn't love. Love is unconditional. If he truly loved you, He wouldn't be saying those things at all. Out there is an amazing partner who will love you exactly as you are and be 100% supportive of you no matter what instead of tearing you down like this.
Yeah sorry but a loyal partner wouldn't have even needed to pretend not to kmow her in public or tried reminiscing about shagging in the rain or whatever.
He didnt shut it down. He encouraged it. And thereon lies the issue. How can you trust it wont go further in future?
Youre young enough to on-line free of shitbags like that.walk away and save yourself the heartache.
I put up with 2 years of that shit in my first relationship and he was not worth it. The dick, or man, isnt that good. Dont do it to yourself now you know he is capable of it and not only tjat, now you know distance isnt an issue between them.
Cut ties. Now.
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You mean you didn't notice any red flags when he never once admitted fault, or said sorry (and actually meant it), or said sorry a thousand times and didn't mean it even once?
Help. I view cheating is a character flaw in the perpetrator, not something the victim was lacking in the relationship
Wait.
Did you just write that you don't know how to feel about him and that you don't know whether or not you can trust him?
He screwed you over and stole $ from you.
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Truthfully, would not meeting them stop her from telling you about their future and how much they suck after they break up?
But also you don't have to meet someone if you don't want to.
So do whatever you want, there is no wrong answer here.
Damn, as a mortgage officer, I'd assume she works for a financial institution/bank and she is bad with handling her own finances? I don't know about this OP, this is something you want to think long and nude. Don't pay off her debt, she took the loan so let her pay for it. But that being said, even if she pays off this debt, do you think she'll be more responsible with her finances once you guys are married? Personally, I will never get involved with someone who is bad with their finances bc that will take a toll in your relationship down the road.
Yeah… it’s not that uncommon to tell female friends we love them, or sign off messages with “xx”. Still, OP sounds like a reasonable person. If his spidey senses are tingling, then there’s probably cause for investigation ?
Leave this abusive creep
Life is almost never black and white, and usually operates in the Grey. Anyone that tells you to break up or stick it out unequivocally is either pulling from personal experience or discerning too in depth from your post.
First, you all are both very young. I can’t speak to relative maturity levels. However, life experience wise, you’re both immature. Is this your only “real” relationship thus far? How about for him?
Second, have you considered his side of things? I’m not condoning bigotry towards others or his asinine commentary towards you. I’m also not saying you’ve done anything wrong. However, he loves you as you are right now. The future of you becoming different than you are currently is most likely frightening and nude to imagine for him. He may have issues with transgender people. But he may also be struggling to cope with the idea of his partner fundamentally changing. Not to mention the drastic shift in relationship dynamics, sex life, his individual conception of gender and sexuality.
Third, while it is important to plan, we have to on-line in the present. If he makes you happy while also being supportive, then it isn’t a negative situation necessarily. Unfortunately though, a lot of relationships have shelf lives. When you do have gender reassignment surgery, you might need to reevaluate or surround yourself with positive people.
At the end of the day, be yourself and surround yourself with people that support your true identity. However, if you truly care about him, it’s important to realize this is a complex situation with many different factors. He may be transphobic. Or he may just be struggling with the idea of you being different and your relationship changing. Or he may love you regardless of your gender, but no longer be attracted to you physically once you transition.
Just communicate. Involve a third party if necessary. Set boundaries. Be yourself. Strive for joy. And on-line in the present.
I know you have many replies. But I want to warn you that Reddit has a tendency of only assuming the worst in people.
Breakups are nude. I’m sure your ex is missing you and her child missing you broke her heart. She shared it with you because she missed you and used it as an excuse to connect.
Was it mature or right? Maybe maybe not. But human beings have emotions. It’s ok for her to not act 100% rationally when a month out from a multi year relationship breakup. And she shouldn’t be expected to tbh. People cope in different ways.
Up to you if you want to respond or not. Or how you want to react to it.
not complaining, exactly…it's just the conversation turned explicit so quickly and he doesn't know how to respond? he is interested in her but isn't sure how to continue the conversation in a more normal or less aggressively explicit way…or maybe this is foreplay and she wouldn't want the things she is messaging in real life?
It's her age. Women create more progesterone as they get older, which messes with mood significantly more. She could consult with a doctor about the possibility of balancing out her hormones.
The kid is 19. Only reason for dad to bring this up is because he's too immature to let a teenager talk about being a fucking younger teenager.
I’m a cis man and not one man in my life is anywhere close to being this sexist, by a thousand miles. Do not tolerate this guy. I’m also absolutely appalled by his behavior.
He probably needs to buy something.
Your girlfriend sounds like she’s suffering from some pretty serious depression.
You'll never weed out all the rodents on dating apps ?
forget that you had a boyfriend, this guy is a creep and abuser, stay away from guys like this if you care about your mental, and probably physical, health
I lived in ohio. Wouldn't go back.
He’s into you. He just is.
This. I’m actually shocked by these comments. I can’t imagine leaving my child with someone I know is an abuser. My child will always come before myself that’s called being a parent.
I'm sorry man, it's not a troll post. It's 100% real. I have proof. What makes you think it's a troll post?
I do want it more. Its also our first year together together. So Idk I just want it more.
Do you know for a fact that his exes cheated and were toxic? Because that’s the EXACT story a toxic guy will tell. Which aligns perfectly with all the other toxic BS you’ve spelled out here that comes from him.
You cant do a relationship thinking “if it were me”. They will never be you. You have to communicate.
“The silent treatment” is abuse and should not be the go-to behavior of an adult in a relationship.
OP needs to do 2 things:
Leave her abusive, insecure boyfriend
Never lie to her SO again, whoever that person is.
Maybe go ahead and remind him that at some point he's going to be an older balding dude with wrinkles, a potbelly, and a pancake ass and ask him how many 20 year old girls are going to be lining up to jump his decrepit bones.
He doesn't drink or smoke. He's always been clear about that. I've never tried to pressure him into anything either. I do want to drink occasionally I definitely don't feel that I need to to make friends though. I honestly don't want the type of friends I have to drink with. We have had many discussions on the topic of substance use and he's always told me where he stands and I've told him that I would like to socially drink occasionally. Our discussions never amount to much though he would always tell me if I drank he would leave. I'm not sure on his thought process on how using substances would bring me closer to someone. I tried to ask him more about what he was thinking but I don't think he really knows what he means.
why are you friends with this person? she wounds awful
This is terrible advice.
he called me last night to tell me that he was just joking about everything and just didn't understand why I was lying. I was trying to get a understanding on what was going on and try to talk about it but he's pretending like none of this happened and keeps changing the subject to something else.
Jesus, this is some hardcore gaslighting and mind fuckery. I would stay away from him. He is incredibly manipulative and malicious.
At the end of the day, if you sit down together, have the nude talks about your relationship and what you expect from each other (knowing this expectations will change) and still want to be together THEN DO IT.
You are 20. You are an adult. You can have a relationship with him if you like. Other people may not like it but is the relationship for you two or for others.
15 years can be a lot and you should expect that your goals are going to change. Just like his will. A health couple goes into a relationship knowing and working through it.
There is a 10 year age gap between my husband and me and we met/started dating when I was 19/20. I look at my relationship now and think “there is nobody else in this world I would rather be with.” We really do complements each other regardless of the age gap. It hasn’t been easy but it’s been worth it.
Does an age gap make it harder? In some ways. It also makes it easier in some ways as well.
Look deep. Think rationally. Do what makes you two happy. And if it doesn’t work then it doesn’t work. It won’t end the world and marriages within the same age range also have problems.
I think it's brave to see the situation for what it is. It's a silly crush. You don't want to destroy your own marriage for this. Distance yourself most of the time and focus on your marriage. It's going to be alright.
Why are you saying yes to sex you don’t want?
You think SHE was rude to YOU???!! Seriously? Dude, you're fucking delusional and useless. I hope she wises up and leaves your dumb, selfish ass.
This is sexual coercion, please leave him.
If I at any point during sex, stop moving/responding like I am not enjoying having sex, my partner would stop. The fact your boyfriend treated you like this is disgusting.
You two need couples therapy and a nanny if she’s going to ignore the kids all day.
It's an attempt to gain leverage over the other individual before anything gets serious. The person who is perceived to want the relationship the least can use that to their advantage. In other words, yes, stupid games.
Why didn’t you go for a mature lady if you wanted a woman to dress mature. Instead you went for a teenager that Surprise pikachu face dresses like a teenager?
Sounds like you’re in shock.
He’s negging you. Dump him for a younger guy with a full head of hair a flat stomach and who treats you the way you deserve.
Yeah I don’t know.
As far as her mom goes, that woman was extremely toxic. As in, pressuring my dad not to have a relationship with me when they got together because, as she told my mom “he doesn’t have space in his life for her”, suing my dad for more support even when he was paying more than 100% what was ordered. So while I do understand that there are always more than one side to a story, disparaging my dad isnt something I put past that woman.
I’m just upset because I really didn’t do anything, we didn’t have a falling out. The last time I contacted her before this ig message was like 2 years ago when my dad got cancer and years prior to that because I figured she wanted space.
My SO worked 6 days a week when we started dating, and yet we managed to spent 3-4 days a week together.
If your bf wanted to, he would.
Who gives a fuck if he doesn’t buy into it?
If he doesn’t understand you, you need to let him go.
Are you single because you're in love with this guy and have been since you confessed your feelings and he turned you down?
Based, but she didn't need to do any performative fawning. Just tell OP the situation
Your BF is projecting his own identity crisis onto you. This is too big a decision to make if the feeling is not 100% and it needs to come from you, and you alone. Jealousy and someone else’s opinion are never reasons to make huge life choices.
Lmao. This is the lowest effort troll post I've seen.
Hormones
Stop being jealous that your step son is getting some. That would be the first step.
My dad died 2 months ago, he was dead to me 20 years ago. I didn’t care and my wife was upset that I wasn’t upset because I wasn’t showing my son how you actually grieve. Whatever that means.
Men are good at putting people in boxes in their minds, she hurt him I’m guessing and she was dead to him. Finding out she was dead had no more impact than a stranger. I get it.
Just be up front with the next guy porn is a nude line for you. You’re not going to be happy and you’re probably driving him up the wall with this.
Bro… Life sucks.
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Insecure toxic masculinity to a T. What does he want you to do, sit there are reassure him like a toddler? Not worth your time girl
It's already nude where she lives, and it's only April. She can't exactly wear head-to-toe clothing through July. If it's already naked out, she'd likely be putting herself at risk of heat exhaustion or heat stroke.
It means he won’t value her. Hence the cheating. There is a reason you are a former SW
You glossed over your ex’s abuse. Makes him sound like he’s in the right.
Stop paying for her. Just stop. If you don't want the pet and the expense it represents, re-home it. But you'd probably be better off rehoming the girlfriend, once she's out of your life you'll be able to afford it.
He IS NOT INTERESTED he already told you y'all aren't together and so you should expect PDA from someone who is not in a romantic relationship with you. If you continue to have sex with him that is YOUR fault.
If you think your autism is preventing you from making rational decisions and that is why you need to use it as an excuse then you should also recognize that you should seek extra care for that and not just a therapist.
Not looking your age is probably one of the more disgusting reasons I've heard to date so much younger.
I would use this time to get my finances and housing arranged. Get a lawyer and have papers drawn up. Let him go see her, say nothing, he would be coming back to divorce papers and either an empty house or his bags packed depending on your living situation.
He made his choice when he reached out to her. You shouldn't have to stop your husband from cheating. He should just not want to cheat on you.
This is the first time he's been so shallow? Folks have all kinds of skin irregularities. It's strange that he would focus so much on your armpits. It's disappointing someone like this is going to instill these same silly notions into a child. Smh.
Find a local boyfriend.
You just cheated six weeks ago. She’s running around with someone else. Just break up, sheesh
maybe try therapy first as the other comment suggested, because it's way easier to find a monogamous partner and make a monogamous relationship work.
if not, just say it on the first date
You are so strong to be doing this anyway despite how you feel. It does get better!!!!
You need to stay away from this girl. Regardless on if she cheated on you, you’re a toxic pair. You’re jealous and possessive and clearly neither of you value this relationship anymore. I think you’ll never get the true story out of her so no bother fighting the guy. You say he used her but you also say she says she didn’t care enough to stop herself. Just stop bothering to force something that clearly doesn’t work
Youre faking for yourself. Youre playing yourseld
You are not a bad partner for not giving him money. Your parents worked nude and are sharing their wealth for your education so you don't have to work as naked as they did, and you can have an even better life. He chose to buy an expensive laptop that he couldn't afford and is being a bad partner by pressuring you to give him money.
Why should he respect you if you don’t respect yourself? Why are you in this relationship?
I firmly agree, like the ex!
Fair, I’ll repost over there. Lol thanks
I'd be pretty bored by a conversation about bad grapes too.
FWB relationships are supposed to be no-strings attached and based on physical needs, it sounds like you have a lot of emotional needs and are trying to look for companionship in the wrong sort of relationship.
Please explore your feelings on this topic. “Lol” might clear things up for you, but most people need facts and logic.
No.. know better, see better, do better. Set higher standards for yourself abeg