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Crazy to me is someone completely out of touch with reality. I have had a mental health episode a few years ago where I really felt like I was “crazy” and absolutely losing my mind, I think this is why it upsets me so much but regardless of that I think she needs to not say this to people. It’s just rude.
This is such a weird consideration for me because I keep a lot of very close friends, all of whom are women, and am usually sharing personal things with them and texting all the time. Meanwhile, I’m in a 10 year long relationship and my partner has never been bothered by it.
I do and ask the exact kind of things OP mentions in this post to them and I’ve never considered it as any kind of affair. I just keep close friends and to be honest if you read the conversations it might seem like i’m giving them a lot of consideration and care but might not ask those same questions as often to my fiancée because Im with her so often that I already have the answers to those kinds of questions.
All I’m saying is this is not as black and white as you’re making it out to be.
Whatever hurts you, it hurts you. Liking provocative pictures of good looking girls can hurt people. And that's where some people draw a line. This relationship is not respectful if he keeps doing this and breaks your trust. You should not care about the people telling you to just swallow it down when it is actually YOU who are hurt. They don't know how it feels for you. They don't know how much you've cried about his actions. Just because He doesn't cheat on you physically, it doesn't mean it is not cheating or a dealbreaker for you when he likes these pictures.
Please breathe in and breathe out.
Answer these questions for yourself: 1. Is this the type of relationship i want? 2. Can I trust my partner? And will i ever trust him again? 3. Can i make a compromise about my boundaries or deal breakers? 4. Will he ever be honest with me? 5. Does he respect me?
You should think about what YOU want in YOUR relationship and not what everyone sees is right or wrong for your relationship.
He’s selling fake gold. Leave him.
You shouldn't feel bad for wanting to give her a second chance. You had those thoughts because you really love her, but she did something that has ruined countless relationships. It sucks you have to go through this, but thankfully it's still early so you can hopefully get it annulled and take time for yourself ❤️
Not to mention how awkward it would be for her if she gushes about her wonderful boyfriend over the holidays and then immediately after that she no longer has one. Family who know will ask about OP afterwards, probably for the rest of the year.
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If you have plans to sleep with one, either let them both know you're not serious about either, or break it off with one. Otherwise go fuck yourself. Btw, answer would be the same if you were a woman.
What, if he was flattered some guy admired his dad-bod and he modeling g-strings on the internet for a few thousand bucks?
You would think he was a fool having a mid life crisis I suspect.
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Stop wringing your hands and just DO what must be done. Find and shine up your spine. You can't control what another adult does, but you can and must control what you do in response. Use a parent communication app. Don't communicate with your ex any other way. She'll pitch a fit and try to punish you for this, of course, but you have to ride that out.
Fair enough. My point was that you seem to be angrier at your wife than your bil – though either way it doesn’t sound warranted.
Taught by who? Is there some class of which I am unaware? Older men and younger women is a dynamic as old as time.
As long as the gap is within reason.
The gap changes with age. 9 years is great at 39 and 30, not so good at 30 and 21. This is not a great situation, we agree on that.
Bit of an update this morning, we talked for a few hours last night unfortunately over the phone because she had to head back to her parents house but anyways it does seem like we are staying together at least at the moment, her biggest concerns currently are my drug use and her not trusting that particular friend around me and she said that she doesn't want me doing drugs around her nor having me and that same friend at the same place at the same time. Which for obvious reasons I totally agreed too. I don't do drugs often it was new years it's really only a once or twice a year gig for me. She's pretty hurt she still had to find out from her friends and not from me or her directly and I explained time and time again why I decided I didn't want to say anything but she says she'll just have to get over it
The sister thought the phone was monitoring her. Ex-fiancée saw OP putting down his phone as him yet again humoring his sister’s delusions. Ex-fiancée is burned out and doesn’t see their situation getting any better—just her (now-ex) fiancé humoring his sister’s delusions. None of them are handling this perfectly, but few 18-23 year-olds are equipped to manage an ongoing crisis of this complexity and severity perfectly. Especially as they were dropped in the middle of it with little warning, support, or end in sight.
I respect this- my first time wasn't what it should have been, and I doubt it was the best it could have been for her. In retrospect, there was a lot wrong with that relationship, but paramount was that we never really talked about it. So I definitely think you're song the right thing, thinking about this and wanting to discuss it with her. That said, you may also be over thinking this, in that she's probably also worried about disappointing you! Ideally, you can sit down with her and discuss your concern with her. Something to the effect of “I want you to enjoy your time with me, and I will do everything I can to make you feel great, but I am not sure that I know enough to be just right the first time with you”. Maybe followed up with “I'd love to learn this with you, and I hope you feel OK teaching me how you like things done”, recognizing that every body is unique, and she will have her own routine that works. Maybe even ask to start with mutual masturbation so you can see what she likes and take it from there.
Being open and honest will go a long way in ensuring that you establish trust, and that you both have a good time (which gets better with practice!) together.
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You might have just met a hobosexual…
Moving in together shouldn't happen until you've known each other more than a year and have had a frank discussion about finances.
Your lease shouldn't be longer than your relationship.
As a mental health professional who has been in an identical situation to this when I was in high school, please listen to me: your Mom is rightfully angry and heartbroken, but this situation with her feelings is ONLY between her and your Dad. Your Dad didn’t abandon your family. He abandoned your Mom. It is wrong for her to try to emotionally blackmail you into choosing a side. You don’t ever have to choose a side. You don’t have to let your Mom brainwash you against your Dad. Your parent’s divorce does not have to negatively impact your relationship with your Dad. Your Dad’s new wife might actually be really cool. Give her a chance to show you. It would mean a lot into your Dad. Things will de-escalate and settle down with your Mom’s emotional reactions someday. And someday she might remarry. Like I said, this happened to me many years ago in high school, and my Dad tried to make my stepdad into the bad guy and poison us against him and my Mom. Tried to say my Mom only married my stepdad for all the wrong reasons. But you know what? Almost 20 years later, my Mom is still married to my stepdad (AP), and I consider him just as much a part of my family as anyone. I mean it when I say I love him a lot for taking such good care of my Mom for so long. He continues to make my Mom really happy. And my bio Dad unfortunately passed a little over a year ago, and my Stepdad walked me down the aisle when I got married last year. I’m sure it would mean the world to your Dad that you are at least supportive of his happiness with his new love. Your Mom is bluffing and being manipulative with her ultimatum. Don’t let her use you as leverage to hurt your Dad. It’s not good for anybody. Tell her, “Mom, I understand why you are extremely hurt and it’s going to take some time to adjust after what’s happened. It’s normal. However, I will not let you use your anger to try to manipulate me into disowning my Dad and his wife. I love you, but I’m not taking a side”. I wish you the best, OP. It’s a tough situation.
If we didn’t have any backstory and all we knew is that mom was giving this ultimatum everyone would be calling it parental alienation. Which is emotional abuse, the fact that he cheated doesn’t change that fact. Unless they’re a danger to be around, there is no reason a parent should try to break their child’s relationship with their parent.
You can tell him But it doesn’t sound like he cares. Until he realizes his attendance is why he will never do more than struggle, you are fighting an uphill battle. You have to decide if you can online with this. I could not.
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Porn – views, feelings and opinions. Sharing or viewing it together. The use of. Purchasing it e.g. Only Friends, camgirls, following on Instagram etc, what sort of interaction (if any) is allowed.
Sex – expected frequency. Masturbation – to do or not to do. Opinions about sex toys. Boundaries – sex acts that will definitely not be tried. Maybe do Mojo Upgrade together to start some conversations.
You just described my first wife. Married 24 months but in marriage counseling for 20 of them. She was surprised when I finally left as she asked and filed for divorce.
Well, actually she would scream and hit me yelling, “why don’t you just GTFO”. Found my soul mate and married a year and a half later, and we will be celebrating our 31 year anniversary this summer. I can’t imagine how bad my life would have been now if I had stuck around.
Depending on how much, and how often you have been drinking, you need to be careful, suddenly stopping can cause DTs (delirium tremens).
They can be mild, and make you have tremors, nausea, and general anxiety, but if they are bad they can cause hallucinations both audio and visual, vomiting, and high blood pressure, if they are severe they can cause seizures, extreme confusion, disorientation, and an extremely high heart rate.
You should absolutely stop drinking, I am just giving you information, because you are caring for 2 small children, and if you have bad DTs you may need someone's help with them.
The fact that you want stop drinking, and work to make your, and your children's lives better shows that you are ready to take these steps. I'm proud of you (even if I am an internet stranger) and I believe you can tackle this mountain, and come out on top.
I'm not sure how AA works, but they should be able to give you the resources you need, and they probably have meetings that you can bring your children to, or have someone there to watch them. Believe me there are many other women in your position.
Good luck, I hope I see updates as your journey progresses. ♡
What a total scumbag move by the “friend”. Apologize profusely to your boyfriend and just own that you messed up.
Hope he ignored this answer
This whole thing sounds like a mess and like you really don’t like your wife. If you don’t trust her then what are you doing with her?
I’m guessing y’all didn’t really discuss the boundaries and rules with the open marriage thing. A miscarriage is a pretty traumatic event and I don’t think opening the marriage after that and a period of uneasiness was the way to go.
I will say that if the agreement to allow this girlfriend into my home and marriage was on the basis we were a throuple/polyam then she switched up and only wants my husband that’d be a hell no from me. An open marriage doesn’t usually include the other person living with you and watching them have a whole relationship with your partner. That’s definitely polyam territory and needs a whole different set of discussions and boundaries.
This is probably messed up beyond repair at this point. Everyone’s trust is likely broken. If you want to remain married then probably ending your side relationship and getting into therapy is the way to go. I think if you want to remains in the open marriage then you really need to have discussions about what that looks like for the both of you.
I don’t really get the vibe you want to stick around and are looking for validation to leave, which you don’t need.
Would you rather he starts beating up guys that say something he doesn't like?
Change is naked but I have no doubt that you will be fine! Just remember to take it day by day, be kind to yourself, and soon you’ll have enough distance to see how bad it was and be determined to never return to that life. Work on loving yourself the most ❤️ This internet stranger is proud of you.
The standard rule applies: in a committed relationship, you each deal with your own family. So has your fiance told them to knock it off yet?
The other thing to discuss with your fiance is why they have this attitude. It may help you two strategize how he should address this with him.
Still sounds like jealousy
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Why does the amount of the ring matter? Ask what her specifications are for the ring- metal, shape etc and then get something that meets those specs and is within your budget. She doesn’t even need to know how much it costs. I have no idea how much my ring cost and I don’t care. Normally the ring is purchased without input, I didn’t choose anything about mine. Seems like she wants a wedding where she can show off more than a marriage.
If she feels disgusted or ashamed after OP tells her the photos hoot was wrong, she would be in her right to charge the “friend” with sexual harassment or assault charges.
It's actually horrifying that people genuinely think this way
The only people who should view their deck and their dick the same are people from New Zealand. Mostly bc they can’t tell which one you’re talking about.
If it's true then she's either cheating or is on her way to cheat. If OP only plays 3 hours per week then it seems that she is trying to set up a ground in case the cheating is exposed, she can then say you played FIFA and I cheated, so we are equal.
So you mean there is NO possibility he intentionally decided to do something dumb for the hell of it out of jumping the gun?
If you want to have a nice bday that meets your expectations, you better communicate your expectations and make sure he knows your bday is important to you. Setting it up as a test will backfire. You can’t be mad about someone not reading your mind.
He asked you for ideas for gifts. Give him some. And tell him what you want to do.
I didn’t read your post history, only this one. But you seem to be setting him up to fail.
It’s also a perspective to think others will have the perspective you cheated on her.
Personally, I wouldn’t overthink this. Your gf gave you the reason why she posted this. And at 34, if she’s using songs lyrics to communicate her feelings about this relationship to you, it’s time to become a little more mature and talk.
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I don’t think that’s unfair to say. But I’m going to propose to her this year. So, I’m just not sure what isn’t my business at this point. If any relationships prior she had prior to us becoming official isn’t for me to know, then I’m not sure I can marry that person. Not that I need to interrogate or judge her past, but my past is an open book, I’d want the person I marry to reciprocate.
This annoyed my friend she said she doesn’t like eating in front of people she doesn’t know
Great idea eating out with her then.
Involuntary commitment and walk away
You could have called them sitting in the car with your BF.
I’d tell her to mind her own goddamn business and tell dad what they’re up to.
You actively participated in an affair. You are just as guilty as Claire is.
But guess what, Claire probably doesn’t love you either
Okay I see a lot of people talking about fwb but..no one is going to talk about her best friend..? (Maybe I didn’t scroll far enough) This is definitely something that you not only need to talk to your fwb about but also your best friend op and find out what is going on. If there is something happening then I’d definitely lose her as a friend. Me personally, I wouldn’t be able to try to do something with a guy who has been with with or is currently with any of my friends, serious or not. And you also need to set more boundaries with people going further in. Especially if you’re going to have sex with them. If it’s something your fwb isn’t interested in doing then end things with him bc it’s clear that you’re catching feelings and things might not end well. Keep us updated if you can and good luck
Yeah, OP did exactly the right thing. Enjoy the feeling of maintaining your dignity, OP. Letting someone know you’re not going to be their backup-plan is intensely satisfying.
Look man, you WILL be vulnerable again. Whether you cry or not. You WILL need someone who accepts you during this vulnerability. It's up to you whether you want to stay with someone who doesn't accept you during these times. Do you want to be with someone who can't accept you when you are in this position? I can tell you from personal experience that it's rough and very lonely when they don't support you through your vulnerable times.
Possibly but not necessarily. If he had a decent job before then the lawyer will use his previous pay. This is common when one person will refuse to work or purposefully becomes underemployed. If there was no major issue that caused him not to work he has no excuses. Source: partner was in family law for 6+ years
I have a question. Why is your boyfriend doing all of these things with her and not with you? The answer to that should explain everything.
The cheaters and enablers just want someone to blame to take away from their horrible choices.
thank you!! such a good point, im just worried were going to hangout and its just going to be awkward and passive aggressive but were laughing over text so ahhh
She sure didn’t expect to get this sort of response. Do you photo op in the US
The contemporary human zoos.
No. It's just that goddam Reddit thingy always adding letters after I am done posting when in browser mode.
Keep him blocked, he is an insecure idiot, and noway I'd want to marry him.
Yes, but if it is also your place of residence it is slightly different than just a landlord evicting a tenent. Also, would you rather wait a year before starting the year long process or start today?
She is still not well if she is acting like this at her age. I wouldn't take her back, so start the process now.
People really take health (mental, physical, etc) for granted once they’re married.
That rendering tho ??
Agree – trying to negotiate all of these events in a new area where you have no support system is a part of the problem. Moving is stressful, but it sounds like you have no one in your current location
First of all YOU HAVE REALLY INSPIRED ME!!!
Invite him to join you for Couples Counseling + the gym.
If he won’t do both, cut off your husband like you cut off your dad. Do it before he sabotages your birth control.
Basically. See a lawyer. We both know he’s an undermining prick that won’t work on himself or his relationship with you.
You may want to delay starting having kids. You and your husband are moving down different life routes now. Try marriage counseling and see whether that can bring the two of you back in sync. Also, try setting up a home gym, the equipment is not difficult to acquire and you can get quality equipment at reasonable prices. Change your gym workouts to workouts at home.
Don’t back down on the class. You are working to set yourself up for more responsibility at work, that typically comes with more money and more authority. You are not being greedy.
Either there is more to the story, or your GF is really immature.
If she broke up just because your checked an IG page, be it an ex or not, she has deep anxiety issues and you should avoid this burden in your life as much as possible.
Be glad
I always wait for my bf to say bless you I’m not entirely sure why but I like when he blesses my sneezes sometimes I’ll even text him if I sneeze just so he’ll say it it’s just something I’ve always found nice ??♀️
First and foremost, the parents acted abominably. They couldn’t try to mask their shock? The homophobia was real and it would take some time to for SIL to ever feel safe around them.
Yes it may have turned out better if she’d prepared them beforehand (but I doubt it!) but she was probably afraid to face them alone with this news. That said, SIL was not in any way wrong here.
As for your husband, their homophobic rant was appropriate? Your gay brother is not “blood”? I guess they don’t care if he burns in hell.
That was a pretty ugly scene and I hope your children are too young to understand what was being said.
I’m very sorry for your SIL & her SO.
Ok first of all, it's often the case that the early part of relationships is filled with frequent sex which then slowly decreases until hitting an equilibrium. So don't read too much into that. Secondly, try to think about all of her past experiences as shaping who she is. And if you love her more than anything, then you almost have to love that she experienced everything she did to turn out this way.
My boyfriend and I are in our 40s and have many sexual experiences each prior to meeting each other (that happens when you get this old). I'm grateful for every single person he f*cked. I'm grateful he was married to someone else for 20 years. He's grateful I've dated many men, including a few high profile ones. The little flicker of jealousy comes out now and again, but we feel so lucky to have found each other that we feel almost indebted to all those who have helped shape who we are as people and lovers.
It's a big twist on how you're feeling now, I understand that. But if you can make the mental leap from jealous/insecure to grateful/lucky when it comes to her past, your relationship will be so much closer. Insecurities don't disappear but they become tiny little bugs you can swat away.
friend , family ,boyfriend or girlfriend never lend money only give what you feel comfortable with to never get back
Seek help
No it means he might be doing it 5-6 times but she wakes up only 2-3 times
Maybe try planning things yourself? Like actually invite him to do something in advance? Leaving things so open ended and last minute doesn’t usually work for busy people.
And if he can’t/won’t do that, then stop seeing him and date someone who is more available and makes time for you.
Before my partner and I lived together, we usually only saw each other one weekend night for dinner and to hang out and one night of the weekend. I have a busy work/volunteer/hobby schedule. But we did plan weekend day time activities for a few hours once or twice a month.
It sounds like he has an undiagnosed heart condition. He needs a doctor, ASAP. This is not normal.
If you're too embarrassed to repeat it anonymously to internet strangers, you done fucked up by saying it to her.
It's out of your hands. What's not is your future behavior.
I’m god you came to the conclusion that you did. If you keep pushing, it’s almost certain that he will see a doctor. This is scary and worrying
To be fair, a dude can have two girlfriends AND be compensating for something. Source: was one of two girlfriends once upon a time.
He doesn't want to be in a relationship with you anymore. He doesn't respect you or your rules.
Lmao. Honestly.
If you want to be with him, you should just be honest and tell him that, however, be prepared for hurt, because it doesn't seem like he feels the same way, as he is prioritizing this other woman over you.
Everyone deserves to be loved and with someone who is willing and ready to give them that. And the hardest thing in a relationship is to accept that no matter what you do, your partner is not emotionally there to give you what you deserve. It’s not always healthy to speculate about what your girlfriend may be feeling or meaning behind what she’s saying because the only person who will know the answer to that is your girlfriend.
Its no secret that the first year is typically the easiest for relationships. Everything is fun, easy going, there are no issues, both of you are just happy to be together.
But, as time goes on, the true nature of your partner gets revealed.
You might connect with someone enough to start a relationship. But sometimes that person is not capable of maintaining the relationship… and that is a critical piece of the puzzle.
This would be it for me:
I can’t ask to talk to him, because unless it’s about what he wants and I’m saying it all with a smile, he’ll just call me deaf, tell me he’s sick of my shit, and insult me until I leave. It feels like I’m being punished with a timeout, essentially, until I give up whatever I want to talk about.
For myself, when someone behaves like that during conflicts, the relationship is not worth saving.
You want someone who still treats you with respect at all times, especially during conflicts. Being with someone who intentionally hurts you out of frustration… not worth it to me.
I am a frim believing that relationships longevity is not determined by how well things are during the highs… its determined how the couples handle their conflicts with proper resolution…. Like the depth of the worst parts, resolved through their communication. Good times are easy, low times are the real challenge.
So, I think that your partner is missing a lot of characteristics that can lead you to something long term and healthy.
I feel like you will be in store for loads of disappointment on one hell of a bumpy ride.
I think you get off this ride and find someone who cares about you more.
For whatever reason I cannot view comments on this post, I can however through email see someone asked if he has a father figure, yes he has one and it is odd because his father is a veteran, a prison guard and a Pastor as well
That what I’m thinking too. He sounds like he’s not trying to hide
Omg what the actual puck whyyyy on earth did you choose that as a user name second of all having that kind of kink IS concerning if your not fully knowledgeable about it! The breeding kink is basically cumming inside of you with the pretence of getting you pregnant if YOU are not on birth control that WILL happen the cream pie is having his cum basically in you and falling out of you it's still dangerous because the sperm is still mixed with your own fluids and vaginal tissue I cannot believe I'm saying this if YOU WANT TO DO THIS look up the female birth control cap it's this thing that covers the entrance to your cervix it's called a diaphragm
And only ONLY go this route if sex is somthing you ACTUALLY want to do
She is never going to shake this, even if she says it’s fine. Cue nose dive of this relationship.
shes just a bit older she can still care about me my sister is 20 and she cares about my well being my dad is old and he cares about me whats the difference people care bout others no matter the age
Let him.
There are two separate issues going on here. The relationship with your partner – apart from what she does for you, what do you love about her? What have the arguments been about? Is there a bit of a communication style issue? Or are there fundamental differences in where you see yourself/ your relationship going? Would you be willing to see a relationship ship counsellor to work on and strengthen your relationship?
On to the online friend. You need to stop talking to her. You are unfairly stringing her along (even though you told her you have a girlfriend) and you are damaging your relationship by holding an imaginary version of this girl in your head. Real life is always harder than the ‘what ifs’ when there are crushes. We all feel things and get crushes, but what you have control over is how you behave. You are currently choosing to build up an imaginary ideal in a friend rather than respect your partner and work on your relationship.
If you decide not to work on your relationship and end it, that needs to be a separate decision from continuing to flirt with the live! friend.
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You must have a guess because that’s a response to something. Does he have a new girlfriend? Someone who said cut her off?
you get it
Sure.
“I'm not OK being with someone who would cheat on me.”
It a rule for you, not them. You didn't say what they can or cannot do, yet you made it clear where your boundary is.
Randy?
Ask yourself if you feel you've lived a life so very, very clean that you can possibly be so lucky as to get the one dude out of the approximately 1 billion dateable dudes who doesn't want to fuck every woman he meets.
I assure you, you have not lived such a clean life. Your boyfriend is telling you that he wants to fuck every woman he sees and is incapable of having an actual friendship with another woman. But it makes him look bad, so he says its “other dudes”.
Literally lol k is great. It’s 3 months. It sucks, but for real. Lol k is great.
Move on/
Hmmm I see so.. his past relationships failed.. and in all of them he’s had threesomes.. now he’s asking for one from you.. girl red flag. Abort mission.
Hmmm I see so.. his past relationships failed.. and in all of them he’s had threesomes.. now he’s asking for one from you.. girl red flag. Abort mission.
Not really. There could be a connection, though. Tough to say. But you let him go. Best for you to heal up and move on. Honestly.
Info: what are you getting from this relationship? Hurt? Why are you investing so much time and energy on a person who’s obviously enjoys causing you discomfort and pain?
Op listen to this one because she ain’t wrong in the slightest
I read enough. Get your own place..break it off.
Do you want kids? Your bf will put his mom first….her opinion on how to raise your kids. He will go with his mom over you …you won't be able to trust him be he will let his mom do what she wants behind your back. His allegiance is to mommy dearest.
It's weird. Move on.
Unless you want a future of fighting and frustration for you and your future kids…
Even without kids….you'll clearly be second forever…
So sorry to hear OP! Stay strong through the tears! Wishing you the best of luck!
Solidifying it was really talking to my mom yesterday too.
When I first told her she asked me if I was joking, after explaining myself she gave me a big hug and told me how much she supports my decision.
Yup I went through a similar thing to your husband where I felt like I was bothering my loved ones all the time. No one was actually doing anything wrong. It was a bunch of dumb dumb anxiety thoughts clouding my brain. Therapy and medication has definitely helped me get to a point where I can catch these thoughts and stop myself from going down a negative thought spiral. My loved ones definitely supported me but I was the one who needed to work on myself.
As a nanny these were also non negotiable things for me. I offered to work part time while raising our children but it's ridiculously expensive to pay for childcare. As a nanny I know you get what you pay for. Why would I pay someone else to watch our kids so I could make extra money when I had 10 years of experience and certification in early childhood education?
Once they got to school age I said I could work for our family business but wanted to homeschool during 6-8 grades. He was down for all of it. The only side step was the Pandemic. So I never ended up working for the family business I became a full time SAHM and homeschool teacher.
Your BF needs to tell you what marriage and family looks like to him in the future. If he's willing to be a SAHD then he should respect covering the cost of your college or degree in the field that would cover both of you.
He also may not understand you'll go back to work once their school age but you're happier not giving 3/4s of either your checks to a nanny or daycare. Neither of you would be making enough for it to be worth it. Lots of men don't get this as most are not as involved in care as mothers are.
She mostly does that to my coworkers, including my boyfriend, because they're slightly newer I guess. She asks us to do things while we're busy or while she's just standing there. Should we just say we're busy even when we're not? There isn't a lot to do there, it's just super annoying
No. The analogy would be she wanked the stripper off.
A lot of people who “have autism” don't so I'm just trying to educate
If you simply keep your surname then you don't need to hyphenate.