So he is 100 procent sure there is no child of him walking around the globe? And he doesn't give you a child, he gives you his semen and he gave that to other girls before.
I wasn’t suggesting you like big dicks, I was more getting at the idea that you might have settled on the average size once you weren’t on molly and had had a decent sample size of partners so you could factor in individual differences in skill
Who would be happy for their ex and best friend to sleep together? Yes, you might not be spiteful or hateful but I wouldn’t say you have to be happy for them, especially if they’re just fucking (most scenarios the ex will just fuck the friend to annoy them too.)
This is always what I find most disgusting about cheating. Nothing else really matters if they're quite content to put your health, maybe even your life at risk.
The thought of always having to explain having an incurable STD to a partner, that you only have because of someone else's unfathomable selfishness is just repulsive.
It's tough but you gotta move on and stay strong my guy. Bullshit for her to pull that and then cop out that it was a joke, she FAFO and I'm sorry that you were hurt in the process.
Well, you need to take a long hard look at the relationship. Do you really want to stay with someone who is thinking about having sex with other men? Can you ever trust her again?
Anyone will tell you this is unhealthy. It is an unreasonable amount of time. Within 3 hours would probably be fine but 1/2 is too small a window.
He has definitely been cheated on or has really strong alpha vibe, either is not good but you need to set boundaries and do it now before he holds it over you as a tool against you. .
Responding in a reasonable time is a show of respect, not responding for hours is disrespectful but this is too much.
These men keep doing stuff like this because you stay with them and don’t hold them accountable so they have 0 motivation to change. Quit being an enabler, give yourself an ounce of self-respect and stop with these minute men. Sorry for the tough love but I really think people need to hear it bluntly.
See him if you want, but don't expect things to be the same or to be able to help him. Maybe it will feel like a goodbye and closure on the friendship.
Alcohol doesn’t make you do something that you don’t want to do. It only removes the barriers.
So your gf wanted to kiss him, probably wanted to do more, but wasn’t drunk enough for the part of her that eventually woke up and realised that she royally screwed up stoped her.
So she cheated.
She has proven herself not worthy of the trust you gave her.
I wouldn’t waste my time, money or energy going to Spain, tell her that she cheated, that she broke her promise to you, and that the relationship is over.
The baby is 7 weeks old and you have custody without the mother some times? I’m very confused about the situation. Is the thursday – sunday thing a one off?
She is having major separation anxiety from her baby, I still feel this way when my husband takes our child to the park without me and our child is almost 2 lol.
Best interest of the child is – she needs to be with her mother most of the time. Baby is still way too young to be away. If she was a puppy she would not even be allowed to be away from her mom yet. Others have already mentioned it seems likely that at best, your ex is hormonal as heck after having a baby. And somewhere in the middle it is likely she has some baby blues whether it is PPD or more.
When you have a moment, sit her down and tell her that you are worried about her coworker. Suggest that you both read “Not just friends” and discuss it after each chapter for example.
Or have a date night and ask her about how she pictures her future. Work, living, travels, hobbies. Do something new. Sign up for a dance class together or pottery.
If you were trying you would’ve understand how he felt about the whole situation but you’re not so ?♀️
Info: do you do anal with your girlfriend? Did you pressure her into doing it? Could it be she is making you realize she doesn't enjoy anal?
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So he is 100 procent sure there is no child of him walking around the globe? And he doesn't give you a child, he gives you his semen and he gave that to other girls before.
I wasn’t suggesting you like big dicks, I was more getting at the idea that you might have settled on the average size once you weren’t on molly and had had a decent sample size of partners so you could factor in individual differences in skill
Who would be happy for their ex and best friend to sleep together? Yes, you might not be spiteful or hateful but I wouldn’t say you have to be happy for them, especially if they’re just fucking (most scenarios the ex will just fuck the friend to annoy them too.)
This is always what I find most disgusting about cheating. Nothing else really matters if they're quite content to put your health, maybe even your life at risk.
The thought of always having to explain having an incurable STD to a partner, that you only have because of someone else's unfathomable selfishness is just repulsive.
I get your advice but 9 is too late for her. I literally tried that last night as soon as we put out kids to bed.
You made the right call. That's some immature, insecure teenage bullshit.
It's tough but you gotta move on and stay strong my guy. Bullshit for her to pull that and then cop out that it was a joke, she FAFO and I'm sorry that you were hurt in the process.
THIS
Well, you need to take a long hard look at the relationship. Do you really want to stay with someone who is thinking about having sex with other men? Can you ever trust her again?
So… Nice tits, where's my sandwich?
Anyone will tell you this is unhealthy. It is an unreasonable amount of time. Within 3 hours would probably be fine but 1/2 is too small a window.
He has definitely been cheated on or has really strong alpha vibe, either is not good but you need to set boundaries and do it now before he holds it over you as a tool against you. .
Responding in a reasonable time is a show of respect, not responding for hours is disrespectful but this is too much.
I’m sorry. CATgender??
He doesn't respect you one bit. You deserve much much better. Get out of this situation asap. It won't get better.
Women prefer men who know how to work with what they have. A big dick is useless and honestly hurts if you don’t know how to do it
These men keep doing stuff like this because you stay with them and don’t hold them accountable so they have 0 motivation to change. Quit being an enabler, give yourself an ounce of self-respect and stop with these minute men. Sorry for the tough love but I really think people need to hear it bluntly.
See him if you want, but don't expect things to be the same or to be able to help him. Maybe it will feel like a goodbye and closure on the friendship.
Alcohol doesn’t make you do something that you don’t want to do. It only removes the barriers.
So your gf wanted to kiss him, probably wanted to do more, but wasn’t drunk enough for the part of her that eventually woke up and realised that she royally screwed up stoped her.
So she cheated.
She has proven herself not worthy of the trust you gave her.
I wouldn’t waste my time, money or energy going to Spain, tell her that she cheated, that she broke her promise to you, and that the relationship is over.
Swear*
If you’re asleep how you know he’s watching porn?
You made the right choice! I am glad you did!
Thank you for this! Anyway I'm moving out of the state in a few months so nothing to lose here!
This ☝️, any minute, day year or second is a perfect time to improve your life.
Also I wanted to avoid an ambulance bc of my health insurance coverage and I didn’t want to throw up in the back of an Uber (ideally)
The baby is 7 weeks old and you have custody without the mother some times? I’m very confused about the situation. Is the thursday – sunday thing a one off?
She is having major separation anxiety from her baby, I still feel this way when my husband takes our child to the park without me and our child is almost 2 lol.
Best interest of the child is – she needs to be with her mother most of the time. Baby is still way too young to be away. If she was a puppy she would not even be allowed to be away from her mom yet. Others have already mentioned it seems likely that at best, your ex is hormonal as heck after having a baby. And somewhere in the middle it is likely she has some baby blues whether it is PPD or more.
She precisely IS that type and she already proved it to you!
Take off your blinders.
What do you hope to achieve our of counseling?
When you have a moment, sit her down and tell her that you are worried about her coworker. Suggest that you both read “Not just friends” and discuss it after each chapter for example.
Or have a date night and ask her about how she pictures her future. Work, living, travels, hobbies. Do something new. Sign up for a dance class together or pottery.